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Anyone ever been ghosted in a long term relationship before?
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The Hamburglar
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That’s fucking weird. Just turn up and demand an explanation and tell her what a cunt she is for not having to balls for ending it
Mossybrew
Banned
Not really, though I have had the seemingly from out of nowhere dump, many moons ago when I was in college. At least I got a face to face "it's over" though. That's this thing women can do though that often blindsides men, you may be with someone for a long time and think you know them, but there's always a part held back. And in this part they can calculate and decide that they are done with you (for any number of reasons) and during this process they will seem totally normal. Then one day it's like a switch is turned and you're just yesterday's garbage that she needs out of the way to get on with her life. Seems to come out of nowhere but she's been preparing for this moment for weeks or months and is already over you by the time it happens.
Obviously that's a generalization, but it happens.
Obviously that's a generalization, but it happens.
synchronicity
Member
There was a line in Gerald's Game which I just watched last night that cracked me up.
"Do you know what a women is?"
"A life support system for a cunt."
Women are every bit as bad as the reputation of men. They are usually just *far* more, um...discreet. And to be fair, I get it. If you are the weaker sex physically, you have to be more calculating and subtle to get what you want. It's an evolutionary imperative. All (read 99.9%) of women are eager to jump on the next branch if it's perceived to be more advantageous. Men kid themselves, but women can be absolutely ruthless. (red pilled)
Can't decide
Member
I got her to admit in writing that she owes me that money, plus it should only cost a couple hundred to pursue through the small claims court.
triplejjj
Neo Member
I hope you know how insane you sound, this is pure incel bullshit.
Fact is, all people suck. Not just women, or men. Everyone. Has nothing to do with gender, has everything to do with upbringing, family values and our society.
Musky_Cheese
Banned
Blessing good sir.
Go get fucked ASAP.
Even if she contacts you later with a dramatic story, politely say no thanks bye.
Go get fucked ASAP.
Even if she contacts you later with a dramatic story, politely say no thanks bye.
synchronicity
Member
Lol, dude I was married for 20 years. I didn't say that men aren't as bad. I said that women are equally bad, and they go about getting theirs differently. Re-read the post.
triplejjj
Neo Member
You literally qualify that women are as bad as the reputation of men, but not men.
Being married for 20 years doesn't disqualify the incel piece, by the way.
I have no stake in this, I'm a cynical bastard that thinks all people are bad. Your post is just..weird and filled with obvious insecurities.
MaestroMike
Gold Member
Seconded. Whatever you do OP don't go Darth maul on her as$ on Instagram !! Remember ur Jedi training. Grab and eat two or three stacked bean burritos from chipotle and use the force to lay out the biggest dookie of ur life !!
kittoo
Cretinously credulous
That's fucked up.
Best thing to do is reverse ghost her. It always plays with their mind, especially once their honeymoon period with the other guy is over (yeah there is an other guy), as to if you really cared. Let that simmer and move on. The more you try to talk to her, the more power you will give her. Never do that. Go no contact ans stay on that no matter what.
Best thing to do is reverse ghost her. It always plays with their mind, especially once their honeymoon period with the other guy is over (yeah there is an other guy), as to if you really cared. Let that simmer and move on. The more you try to talk to her, the more power you will give her. Never do that. Go no contact ans stay on that no matter what.
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Romulus
Member
If you look back at the actual past of these women(not the one they tell you) you come to realize theres a pattern.
One key thing I tell guys to look for when starting a relationship, is to pay very, very close attention to how they describe all their previous relationships. If they constantly place the blame on the other party you might have a loser on your hands. Most every relationship both parties can claim some responsibility, and if they don't claim anything, ever?? Stay far away.
One key thing I tell guys to look for when starting a relationship, is to pay very, very close attention to how they describe all their previous relationships. If they constantly place the blame on the other party you might have a loser on your hands. Most every relationship both parties can claim some responsibility, and if they don't claim anything, ever?? Stay far away.
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synchronicity
Member
And you imagine that women aren't? I know that women handle their business in a different, less direct manner than men, generally speaking. They are as driven to fuck around just as much as men, but men have the reputation for it. They're just far better at keeping things on the down low.
Yep, best to get out with your pride intact at least.
triplejjj
Neo Member
Uh, I imagine that any one is capable of doing that and while there are general biases towards behaviorial patterns, wouldn't go so far as saying 'all men or women do this' because:
1) it's logically not true
2) it's stupidly ignorant
3) it doesn't help anyone learn anything.
Men have ghosted women, women have ghosted men. The only thing they have in common is that individually they are bad, disrespectful people who value themselves and don't respect their partners.
That's it.
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synchronicity
Member
I don't think you're getting my point at all. Women are just as guilty of what men are known for - just as much. That's what I'm saying.
So many men have the attitude that women are somehow less animal than we are, and that's nonsense. Women do what they want and can get away with just like men.
nush
Gold Member
Reeeee
Stouffers
Banned
OR reverse-reverse-1080 ghost her: Marry her grandmother and give her $5 every year for her birthday.
triplestation
Member
next time you do the ghosting baby
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Goro Majima
Kitty Genovese Member
Yeah cheaters cheat and women move on easier since they almost always have stronger personal social networks to provide emotional support.
I don't think many people cheat because they're just super horny either. But that's a long, long road to go down.
Really they should just make "He's Just Not That Into You" required reading at a high school level because nearly all of the advice in the book cuts both ways.
synchronicity
Member
You know I originally made the comment to commiserate with both the op and the guy I quoted. Sometimes it's just nice to hear "Bitches be crazy." in such circumstances. But dude was having none of it, lol!
Tesseract
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ExpandKong
Banned
triplejjj
Neo Member
You sound like a bitch.
Rather be a bitch than so insecure I blame all women for all my issues.
ExpandKong
Banned
Rather be a bitch than so insecure I blame all women for all my issues.
Then I’ve got good news for you pal
triplejjj
Neo Member
Watch out, you're being way too objective about this. You need to add some socio-bullshit about how all women are predestined to cheat or something.
Potato Chip PRO
Member
OP, let me tell you something.. YOU'RE A FREE MAN!
Drake
Member
I had something similar with a gf of about 6 months. It was for the best. I met my wife 2 weeks later
Funny story though, the old gf called me two years later the day before I got married, absolutely shit faced drunk and sobbing about how she made a horrible mistake and asked me to cancel my wedding so we could be together
That had to be satisfying. But I guess when you are with someone new you don't really care about your previous girlfriends, or what they are doing.
Jack Peterson
Banned
Speak of the devil, I've slowly been getting attached again to someone recently and I think it was a mistake. It's the first time I opened up to someone in years and honestly they just seem like another snake taking advantage of me. I'm so tired of this. All my relationships seem to crumble eventually no matter how I approach them. Being alone is hell but maybe it's preferable to being betrayed...
bitbydeath
Gold Member
Get an answer or you’ll be forever wondering, that shit leaves scars.
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Tesseract
Banned
scars are good for the soul
SpartanN92
Banned
I’m more pissed that
TrainedRage
ghosted all of us about nailing his hot boss.
I’m still pissed about that thread.
TrainedRage
ghosted all of us about nailing his hot boss.I’m still pissed about that thread.
TrainedRage
Banned
I’m more pissed that
I’m still pissed about that thread.
autoduelist
Member
Girl I loved, and lived with, and saw everyday for like 2 years disappeared for 3 days or so. Came back out of the blue. We had a huge talk, I still don't understand to this day why she left. Suffice it to say, relationship never recovered. I tried, but realized I no longer could trust her and at that point...
Anyway, move on. You will find someone new. I know that is easier said than done but if there is one thing i've learned in life, every breakup is better off happening sooner as opposed to later. Find someone who wouldn't ghost you. Spend that hurt exercising or doing something else positive instead of drinking or going recluse.
Anyway, move on. You will find someone new. I know that is easier said than done but if there is one thing i've learned in life, every breakup is better off happening sooner as opposed to later. Find someone who wouldn't ghost you. Spend that hurt exercising or doing something else positive instead of drinking or going recluse.
G-Bus
Banned
Reminds me of this friend I had through work. Bit if a player, good looking. Had this tiny little blonde for a girlfriend, early twenties. Smoking hot. They had been dating for a year or two.
She just ghosts him one day. He doesn't hear from her for a week. He almost filed a missing persons report if it weren't for friends telling him not to.
Turns out she had met this guy and she literally spent an entire week getting plowed by him and his friends. The best part? She called her bf back at the end of the week, explains everything and just assumed she's cool to go back to his place like nothing happened
She just ghosts him one day. He doesn't hear from her for a week. He almost filed a missing persons report if it weren't for friends telling him not to.
Turns out she had met this guy and she literally spent an entire week getting plowed by him and his friends. The best part? She called her bf back at the end of the week, explains everything and just assumed she's cool to go back to his place like nothing happened
Kamina
Golden Boy
No kind of answer will make him feel better.
and 3 others
Banned
To be fair, I've ghosted plenty of women, and have never had it done to me.
mr.dilya
Banned
separate bedrooms? That was never your woman. She’s been fucking other dudes from the beginning.
DrJohnGalt
Banned
Naw, it's mostly because she is one of those people that needs 8+ hours of sleep a night and I'm around 4 or 5. She likes it pitch dark, I like accent lights or xmas lights, she likes it silent or just a fan, I like a low radio. I'd also stay up during the week to read or watch a few sitcoms before bed or be playing video games on the weekend, talking on chat, and that didn't work with her sitting next to me. I think most couples would get along better if they each had their own room!
nush
Gold Member
To be fair I lived in a studio flat with a girlfriend for a year and she would sleep earlier and wake up earlier than I did. It was a pain in the ass if you wanted to use the TV and had to navigate around the room with the light from a phone screen.
BluRayHiDef
Banned
No, I've never experienced being ghosted in a long-term relationship.
BluRayHiDef
Banned
Now that I've thought about the OP a bit more, I wonder if his (ex-)girlfriend has gone missing? What if she's been abducted?
Nikana
Go Go Neo Rangers!
Been there sadly. Dated a girl for a good 6 months didn't hear from here for 4-5 days and then out of no where I got the "let just be friends."
Found out the next day she had been seeing someone else for a month.
It's super shitty but the thing you have to remember is that whatever the situation is this is her choice and her doing.
Easier said then done. But knowing you did nothing wrong is extremely important.
Found out the next day she had been seeing someone else for a month.
It's super shitty but the thing you have to remember is that whatever the situation is this is her choice and her doing.
Easier said then done. But knowing you did nothing wrong is extremely important.
BluRayHiDef
Banned
So, she basically cheated on you for a month and suffered no consequences? Wow.
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