Argumentative techniques which annoy you

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A girl I know is quite argumentative, and when she's sick of arguing or she feels like she's losing she'll say something like "Why are you arguing" or "You're so argumentative" at which point being quiet is the only option because if you say something like "I'm not" or "You're arguing just as much as me" she'll say "See, you're still arguing, you can't stop" and look at other people in the room with a smug "see, he won't stop" look on her face. Online this is sometimes replicated with calling people salty, or saying something like "Why so serious?" ... just because I'm not adding a smiley face or a meme at the end of every sentence doesn't mean I'm enraged.

Another guy I know just never admits he's wrong. Even if an entire room is against him and we look it up on the net. We were playing a rhyming game and I can't remember what he said, but it totally didn't rhyme with the previous word (like not even close) and everyone said "that doesn't rhyme" and we looked it up in several rhyming dictionaries online and he was still saying shit like "I got an A in English A-Level, I think I know when something rhymes". He also has no memory (or chooses to forget) and argues for so long that by the end he's denying he made his initial argument and twisting it to say he always said something closer to the truth.

Why so serious?
 
I would actually argue that following the evidence is far more important than being right.

Let's say a casino has a die that I have strong evidence is heavily weighted to roll a 1. I follow it one hundred times, and it rolls a 1 ninety eight out of one hundred times. Thus, when asked, I place a bet that it will roll a 1 the next time.

Let's say the die rolls a 2 instead. Was a wrong to bet on 1 instead of 2?

I was really getting at where the arguer doesn't have evidence in favour of his view (but could still be right, assuming that there is evidence out there somewhere). I should of course have completed that by adding "provided there isn't any evidence against it".
 
This one makes me laugh not only because it's a prime example of anecdotal evidence, but also because it's wrong: you're advocating beating children, you clearly did not turn out fine.

People who equate Physical Discipline with Beating your child bothers me.
 
I would actually argue that following the evidence is far more important than being right.

Let's say a casino has a die that I have strong evidence is heavily weighted to roll a 1. I follow it one hundred times, and it rolls a 1 ninety eight out of one hundred times. Thus, when asked, I place a bet that it will roll a 1 the next time.

Let's say the die rolls a 2 instead. Was a wrong to bet on 1 instead of 2?

Oh, this same thing framed slightly differently: being right for the wrong reasons, and not recognizing why that doesn't then prove the people wrong who argued the other way (or, likewise, validate your reasoning).

In the dice example, given everything you just said, a person who said it would be a 2 because that number was "due" sees the result and declares that your method was invalid and their reasoning was sound. Unfortunately I feel like arguing against this would be met mostly with the "can't you just let it go" technique described earlier.
 
i'm guilty of avoiding admitting when i word something wrong even when i meant it in the way the person corrected me said. i feel like the admission makes people stop reading sooner because they no longer think what i have to say is valid. unfortunately, it tends to derail the discussion instead of keep them focused on the original point. so reading over posts where i've done this annoys me.


for other discussions, it annoys me when people think the topic is "trivial", therefore the only thing that matters is their own opinion or whether they find it "fun" or not. very common with consumable media, which makes it difficult at times to share and explore critical topics.

Whenever someone says "Um" at the beginning of a rebuttal.

It pretty much exists to add a little emotional spin of shaming into your point.

"Um, the answer is obvious, you halfwit".

I can't believe that people haven't figured out that getting subtly "personal" like that actually undermines their cool demenor and their point.

i've said it in response to posts of the drive by nature. it makes sense when it follows the kind of thing that'd make a room go quiet.

passive aggressive stuff in general can be annoying though, like ending a statement with a question mark or an "oh".
 
Whenever someone says "Um" at the beginning of a rebuttal.

It pretty much exists to add a little emotional spin of shaming into your point.

"Um, the answer is obvious, you halfwit".

I can't believe that people haven't figured out that getting subtly "personal" like that actually undermines their cool demenor and their point.

D:
 
Not necessarily. You could be perfectly right but just not have evidence for it. Happens all the time.



Ah well. There's another one. Just because you learned something in class doesn't make it true.

(In this example, there's plenty in favour of some style of waterfall development when development or production resources are scarce or expensive or slow or all three - like for example when I started programming in a company of several thousand people with millions of customers and one computer between us all.)

I was not really saying that I was right because I learned it in class. My mistake. I learned it in class, yes, but I also noted that the class's position was supported by evidence in favor of agile/iterative development.

I never said that iterative was better all the time either. There are use cases for both methods - there are just more for iterative right now.

Look: http://scottambler.com/lean-and-agile-software-development-is-more-successful-than-waterfall.html

Edit: I saw your response about an expert in the face of opposing evidence. I generally agree.
 
"[Object X] is shit"

....

aaaannddd that's the whole post/argument.

Always derails the discussion because it gives no contextual basis to agree or disagree. So people just start piling on and no one knows what anyone else is talking about. I call these out when I see them.

Another one is attacking the intelligence of someone you are debating with, as in they post, you post, then they reply with "Don't you know about such-and-such?"; implying that only someone less informed than them would disagree. I HATE those people, even when we're on the same side and they're doing it to someone else. You can still use "such-and-such" in your argument without assuming the other person doesn't know it and is therefore stupid, Is there a name for that annoying technique?
 
When people bring up other shit you did and try to make it about that.

When you show people proof about something they have no proof against and still go, "well I don't believe it. It may not be true."
 
Come to think of it, there is this thing some people do: constantly demand explanations for things they're not interested in having explanations for. I was once acquainted with a guy who expressed vague outrage at everything all the time, usually started the conversation, but wasn't really interested in having a discussion. Just fishing for anyone to agree that X is stupid and annoying and don't we all hate it.

It's that thing that gets to me, people who cannot have an actual discussion and only act as if they want one, because they're seeking validation and don't care about coming to a better understanding.
 

It also kind of goes back to something that I mentioned earlier:

Definitely agree with this.
People's critical thinking and analysis skills seem to be getting lower and lower.

If something states that it does something (argues in favor of/against something, descrobes something, etc.) people seem willing to just accept that it does what it says it's doing and use it as a "source" for that. Regardless of whether it actually does that, or does a good job at that.

Not exactly the same thing, I know... But, it's like, I knew that was the article that the person I originally replied to was thinking of, so I made a point of pointing out that there were a whole host of things that had nothing to do with that which I was taking issue with, not mentioning that at all... And then someone else comes along and posts that article as some sort of "Aha! This article is about Wikipedia being better than something in something! Gotcha!"
 
I forgot one of my favorite ones - "why do you always have to be right."
Eg
"You did X"
"No I didn't"
"yes you did"
"No I didn't, I distinctly remember not doing it, and here is the evidence to prove it"
"why do you always have to be right "

It's always expressed as if being right is a bad thing and the actual truth is unimportant as long as a subjective 'truth' can be agreed upon.
 
People who are obsessed with devil's advocacy. At some point it becomes painfully obvious that they're just contrarian douchebags looking to make things about themselves.

Also, people who say dismissive shit like "calm down" in response to a perfectly level headed statement.
The calm down people are also the ones likely to interrupt you repeatedly so you can't finish a sentence.
 
GAF dogpiles are an easy w/l booster.
I know you two are joking, but the old Bungie forums were terrible for this. Good luck trying to jump into a competitive discussion thread with anything below a 2.0 K/D and 90% W/L. The Optimatch (I believe that was what an old Bungie forum was called) and game specific forums were just an exclusive clubhouse for the kool kids.
 
people who disclaim (usually stupid) stuff with "well thats just my opinion and i'm entitled to it" or something similar about how they can have their opinion on this subject and there's nothing you can do to change it no matter how much evidence you have or whatever. it's just annoying behavior on its own, but it's also just a really childish way of killing discussion.

like they know that their "opinion" is wrong, they'd just rather keep believing what they've believed in all along rather than change anything, and because they know it's wrong they have to disclaim it.
 
As far as pointing out a fallacy, to me once that's done (and assuming it was done correctly) it's up to the person who made that argument to reformulate a justification that isn't a fallacy. Until that happens they've lost.
 
This actually hints at a larger technique I find very annoying: a regression to solipsism. Particularly when someone is losing some grand argument (that is, an argument about the nature of things, or something else similarly significant), I've had people revert to a solipsistic viewpoint that nothing can be proven, so ultimately I cannot "prove" that X or Y is true.

It's a sort of nuclear option to wipe a debate entirely and conclude that no conclusions are possible -- it's all just different opinions.

This is probably the one that anoys me the most. It is so often used too. Some are pretty quick at throwing the different opinions card.

There's also that image of the angel that comes from heaven holding a note that says ok. Why discuss anything?
 
I don't think arguments are always as binary as we would like them to be.
A discussion will not necessarily end up in one side "winning" the debate, only for the other person not to admit defeat because of stubbornness.

There have been several times where i straight out admitted i was wrong, even after a long discussion, because the arguments presented to me, convinced me of that point, and changed my position.
There have been other times, where i've seen two people argue, siding with one at the start, but ending up on the other side of the fence by the end (even without participating in the actual debate) because of the reason mentioned above.

HOWEVER, there have been also times where i felt like i was simply not able to make my point as well as i wanted, whether because of external conditions (an hostile environment for example) or simply because i lacked the ability and acumen to do so, but at the same time i could not be convinced of the opposing point of view.
In those cases it wouldn't have been honest nor genuine at all, to admit i had changed my mind on the subject, as my "defeat" was mostly of my oratory and debate abilities, not of my core position (that i failed to represent well enough).
I do try, though, not to resort to any bullshit method to just win an argument, as that's pretty shallow and lame.
 
People who are so sarcastic that you genuinely don't know what they actually mean anymore.

When people really go out of their way to try and paint someone as a hypocrite by using wild interpretations of what they've said, because someone being a hypocrite is basically insta-lose.
 
I find it strange when people try to insert elements of postmodernist or solipsist rhetoric into their defence of an incorrect statement. If they say something that is factually wrong and I correct them, for example, they may reply, "That may be true for you, but not for me, as truth is relative."

There is no place for such epistemological quibbles when the necessary premise of argumentation is that there is truth, and this truth can be pursued and found with enough time and logical debate. Obviously, different arguments will have different postulates depending on the topic and the individuals involved; again obviously, the truth is not so easily discovered, as history shows us; it may admittedly not be a very accurate premise. But, if only for methodological purposes, it must be assumed that there is truth, for all argumentation seeks to discover truths and correct untruths, and would cease to be argumentation the moment such concepts are disallowed from existing.

Oh dear.

Exactly what I said above! These statements lead to nowhere, other than the person doing it out of sheer ambiguity or evasion so they'll never have to admit being incorrect about something otherwise factual in the real world. The most annoying part is trying to stretch the definition of a term or making up stuff on-the-fly.

"X, Y, and Z means this to me..."
It's all over once that happens.
 
A lot of these argumentative techniques are used as troll tactics and entirely intentional. Even when a person is engaged in the debate, they don't pass up the opportunity to push somebody's buttons.
 
-Trying to link a topic to another topic, in some sad attempt to shame the other side. "Oh what's that? You don't agree with changing a character who's older than you, that you care tremendously for into something said character isn't? You obviously must be sexist/racist or something like that." I mean I can deal with the people that just run out and say it, but the ones who try to scoot around saying anything, but are still very clearly accusing you of something that's usually quite bigger than the topic it's in will ever be, piss me off.

-It usually ties into the first one, at least occasionally, but the "i'm better than you" stance, that arguments take occasionally.

-and finally, the "this shouldn't matter to you or anyone, it's not a big deal, you're overreacting!" stance, I mean you're not me, you're not a collective hive mind of everyone who isn't me, thus you don't determine what is or isn't a big deal.
 
I have a bunch that I have wanted to get off my chest.

A lot of time, people will put 'big-' in front of something to make it immediately scary. Big-agri, big-oil, big-pharma, big-whatever. They do this to give strength to arguments that sometimes don't need additional help or sometimes do - and I don't know what annoys me more. Sometimes it's like "big-pharma would just love it if you used vaccines!" And the use of big-pharma is annoying, but the core argument against vaccines is dumb anyway. Sometimes it's like "oh we all know about big-pharmas manipulative ways and their constant unethical lobbying, these giant corporations are ruining the world" - and it's frustrating because there is a nugget of a good point (pharmaceutical companies and unethical lobbying practices) but it's mired in all this gunk that is unnecessarily trying to create a boogeyman, that it ends up making me respect the position less. I guess that's better than combining it with nonsense, but it annoys me because it's a missed opportunity.

Another big one for me isn't an argumentative technique exactly, but I think a problem I see when it comes to social issues in general. People tend to want to blame someone, something, some entity for social issues and they end up doing so so vehemently they alienate some group. I need to preface this example by saying that I think Feminism is -wonderful- and we could do with many more strong, empowered, feminist leaders of all genders. That said, too often I see people in feminism threads miss out on great opportunities to bring 'fence sitters' into the fold by refusing to be diplomatic. A more specific example is I remember a few threads where the topic of male-related issues has come up, and people will say things like "Well it's all the fault of Patriarchy anyway, so what we need is more feminism" - not realizing that this doesn't help make feminism seem more attractive. Some even go so far as to say that because these issues are the fault of patriarchy, that men shouldn't have male-oriented support. I mean... on some level, there are nuggets of truth there (specifically about a lot of issues men have are the result of cultural stigmas that came about from male dominated societies) but for that fence sitter coming in, sometimes with their own issues, they are immediately made to feel as though Feminism is this thing that is out to get them and somehow blame them for their own problems. Often times people do this well meaningly, and other times not so much, but it happens with all sorts of social issues. Rather than discuss and support and even try to subtly change the minds of people who still have minds that can be changed, people push them away SOOO violently, I worry they are creating enemies where there weren't any before.
 
It's a little opposite to what OP intended, but I LOVE using Socratic questioning on other people, and it gets them mad. My ex countered this, though, with the infamous "Whatever..." - that killjoy =/
 
Yes it does. If you do not have sufficient evidence to support your claims - you're wrong. "I'm an expert" is not evidence.

That in itself is a logical fallacy, aka fallacy fallacy, that is because an argument that is faulty the conclusion is not necessarily wrong. Logical fallacies show instead that the argument isn't proof, not that the conclusion is incorrect. For instance:
Person A: My cousin knows math, and he says 1 + 1 = 2.
Person B: BS, your cousin is only barely old enough to talk and knows nothing of math. That's a faulty authority, so clearly you are wrong.
...

A great example of this is proof by authority. Many people interpret proof by authority to mean someone is claiming to be an authority when they really aren't, but actually proof by authority applies even to the most knowledgeable and appropriate authorities that exist. Them simply stating something is true does not proof it is true. All it does is provide evidence of it being true (hence why when an expert witness says X is so in a court, we don't just declare judgement right then, the other side gets to present counter evidence). Nonetheless, proof by authority is evidence that whatever is being claimed is so. How strong that evidence is depends on the credibility of the authority, but never reaches the point of certainty.
 
These are not necessarily logical fallacies -- we might rephrase this as "techniques used by people who are on the losing side of an argument but who really do not want to admit it." My example:

Unrelated criticism of analogies: The point of analogies is to take two otherwise dissimilar things and show how in one particular way they are similar. Obviously, some criticisms of analogies are appropriate, particularly when you criticize that direct point of comparison. The issue arises when people pick at any dissimilarity at all, as if this disproves the analogy itself. A deliberately simplified example:

Person A: The NFL is like MLB in that both are for profit industries which may be less concerned with player misgivings if that player drives significant revenue.

Person B: Yes, but Football is a sport where you throw a ball up and down a field to score touchdowns. This is completely different than baseball, where you throw a ball to a hitter who tries to get on base.

Analogies are never intended to suggest that two things are exactly alike; they are intended to show one specific point of similarity. Many times, people will try and highlight other differences as if this ruins the analogy, which it does not.

What are your examples?
oh god, yes.
 
Anytime someone retorts to "well, that's your opinion" whenever they have no other way to defend their argument.

Just admit you are wrong or that you agree, etc., holy shit.
 
When someone is letting their personal feelings towards a person affect their response to something.
So then they take something that shouldn't be controversial and throw something back that is completely unwarranted.

"I think gay people should be allowed to marry each other. It's about equal rights."

Response:
"Speaking of equal rights, you support baby killing! Who has equal rights there?!"

face_palm
 
Another big one for me isn't an argumentative technique exactly, but I think a problem I see when it comes to social issues in general. People tend to want to blame someone, something, some entity for social issues and they end up doing so so vehemently they alienate some group. I need to preface this example by saying that I think Feminism is -wonderful- and we could do with many more strong, empowered, feminist leaders of all genders. That said, too often I see people in feminism threads miss out on great opportunities to bring 'fence sitters' into the fold by refusing to be diplomatic. A more specific example is I remember a few threads where the topic of male-related issues has come up, and people will say things like "Well it's all the fault of Patriarchy anyway, so what we need is more feminism" - not realizing that this doesn't help make feminism seem more attractive. Some even go so far as to say that because these issues are the fault of patriarchy, that men shouldn't have male-oriented support. I mean... on some level, there are nuggets of truth there (specifically about a lot of issues men have are the result of cultural stigmas that came about from male dominated societies) but for that fence sitter coming in, sometimes with their own issues, they are immediately made to feel as though Feminism is this thing that is out to get them and somehow blame them for their own problems. Often times people do this well meaningly, and other times not so much, but it happens with all sorts of social issues. Rather than discuss and support and even try to subtly change the minds of people who still have minds that can be changed, people push them away SOOO violently, I worry they are creating enemies where there weren't any before.

This sums up my feelings about this particular kind of feminist exactly. It makes no sense.
 
Usually when people lose the debate/their point backfires but still don't acknowledge that by saying "I was just joking".
 
Sorry, but could you please explain this to me, or perhaps provide somewhere I can read into this? I have never heard of these terms.
It's just an analogy that is intentionally a bit obscure because I quite desperately wanted to sound intelligent to Opiate. I felt like if I posted what I did, I might get crowned as king of the mods and Evilore would give me a million dollars to travel around the world with him. I'm still holding out hope.

If you are familiar with trigonometry, think about a periodic waveform like a wine wave. If you reverse/invert it's polarity (that is, multiply it by -1) and then add the original waveform to the polarity reversed/inverted waveform, they cancel each other out perfectly and you get zero. One way to check whether or not two waveforms are perfect duplicates of each other is to invert polarity on one and check that the sum of both waveforms is zero. I was comparing the source and target in an analogy to two waveforms, which under the argumentative technique in question would be required to sum to 0, for the analogy to be worthwhile.

Balanced audio cables use this to cancel out line noise picked up along the length of the cable. There are two wires both transmitting the exact same signal, but one cable is polarity inverted before transmission. Any noise is picked up on both wires. Then polarity is switched on one of the 2 wires at the receiving end. This effectively cancels out noise between the two wires.

Edit: "phase cancel" may or may not be incorrect terminology, depending on how you are thinking about it.
 
I really dislike, and I'm only saying this because I've seen it on this forum, people who present a factual statement as an opinion. This seems like something the person is usually unaware of, it's more of a subconscious reaction to being proven factually wrong a lot and reading arguments where someone "gets away" by saying something is a matter of unchangable opinion, leading to statements like "weapon X deals less damage than weapon Y per strike IMO".
 
Strawman arguments are the worst. It really zaps my energy and patience when I have to argue an essential non-factor issue because otherwise some fool wants to render my opinion invalid. I used to refer to this as selective reading but I sometimes think it's done purposely just to save face.

Passive Aggressiveness is another. If you have a problem with someone/thing, please speak up or just shut up. Don't pretend you don't care.

Accusations of ulterior motives aka accusing people of baiting. Jfc, if someone outs themself as something undesirable, that's no one's fault. It's who they are. No one can make anyone do anything they don't want to.

Tone policing. The moment you start accusing people of giving off a tone (over the internet. I mean really, wtf how can you tell lol) and claiming that invalidates them, you've already made the debate into a waste of time. This also goes along with trying to get emotional responses out of others. That's pretty scary tbh. Anyone who gets a kick out of stressing people out and "winning" really needs to reevaluate themselves. That's alarming behavior.

Arguing to win is very pitiful. People are people, and if they make blunders, big deal. I don't understand why so many are eager to grasp at straws for the sake of a victory. If you so much as get two people debating that come to an agreement or understanding of one another's argument, that's a victory too.

"Aren't there more important issues to worry about?" If you're talking about something petty like debating which tv show has better entertainment, sure, that makes sense, but anything about Racism, Sexism, Homophobia, etc is always relevant and important. Don't ever think otherwise.
 
Among many things mentioned in this thread, straw men get my goat. They are used either as a trolling tactic or otherwise for derailing and complicating the discussion. Completely unproductive.
 
"My parents did it to me and I turned out fine." -Physically disciplining children

This is actually true for me. My parents physically disciplined me and I turned out fine.

That said, I do not condone physical discipline because of the millions of people who remain fucked up because of it for the rest of their lives. And what my parents did was wrong. I turned out fine, but my older siblings are FUCKED UP
 
"My parents did it to me and I turned out fine." -Physically disciplining children

This type of argument drives me crazy. Anyone that works in IT or troubleshooting has encountered this as well. Well no one else I know is having this issue so obviously my device is broken. Template matching arguements are the worst. As if one example with tons of miscellaneous contributing variables will apply to every other person.
 
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