Pasta_Soup
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No problem, man. Though I don't think the other profile you're seeing is me - I pay for A-list so I have "invisible browsing" enabled.
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No problem, man. Though I don't think the other profile you're seeing is me - I pay for A-list so I have "invisible browsing" enabled.
Good good! I was worried you might be a little offended by what I said, was only trying to be constructive.
I was logged out earlier, but I just looked at yours again, Im the uk guy
It's constructive crisitisim...I needed the help
Nice profile btw...hope your having success
Ah...must be lurkers in here
Mastermind Vade
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Hey guys! So its been like a month or 2 since I last posted and I have been making improvements because of your guys' help and am really thankful for that. So umm now I like this other girl and have talked to her once before yesterday and am planning on talking to her today. Last time I asked her about hw and stuff and didn't say much because I had a lot of hw and was busy. Her replies were uhh flirty maybe(not sure how to interpret it but two particular things she said that caught me off guard were "oh its no provlem[smiling emoji I think]" for when I texted her out of nowhere in social media and "Nice talking to u, c ya!" when I said I was getting off) but yeah I kind of responded to it by saying "appreciate the help" and "see you tomorrow"(is that a subtle way of flirting?). Well anyways I want to talk to her today but would it be weird to just message her out of the blue and try to having a conversation with her? and once again thanks again for the help you guys gave me before really appreciate it!
oh yeah and an unrelated question: How do you guys usually dress in your workplace and when you're out with others?
oh yeah and an unrelated question: How do you guys usually dress in your workplace and when you're out with others?
ZackieChan
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That's flirting?
Will the Thrill
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I'm not particularly an expert
, but uh Mastermind Vade, those don't seem flirty in the slightest.
my first post in this thread woo
Mastermind Vade
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well whoops then guess its not so... Is it weird for me to strike up a conversation out of the blue? (I thought it was flirting since I don't usually get responses like these from anybody seeing how quiet I usually am but idk getting ahead of myself is not a really healthy way of thinking anyways)
ZackieChan
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Maybe slow down. Serious question - do you have regular conversations with people often? Maybe you need to start there. Just try to be more social and get used to talking with people.
A couple of questions/comments
1.especially on okcupid, a good chunk of the ladies are bi
2. Okcupid girls (a good number of them) are like you must openly support Bernie Sanders and the Donald!!!! It's just so weird...I don't support either of 2, but just wow
3. Are there any other reccomended dating sites besides okcupid and tinder?
My friend can't do a photo shoot till Thursday, so I gotta wait on taking new pictures (don't wanna whole bunch of selfies
I did go through my phone and grabbed some other pics I could temporarily replace the ones that are down voted
Feel free for brutal honesty
1.especially on okcupid, a good chunk of the ladies are bi
2. Okcupid girls (a good number of them) are like you must openly support Bernie Sanders and the Donald!!!! It's just so weird...I don't support either of 2, but just wow
3. Are there any other reccomended dating sites besides okcupid and tinder?
My friend can't do a photo shoot till Thursday, so I gotta wait on taking new pictures (don't wanna whole bunch of selfies
I did go through my phone and grabbed some other pics I could temporarily replace the ones that are down voted
Feel free for brutal honesty
Does anything seem wrong with this pic of mine?
Anything at all. I don't mean if I look ugly, but is there anything...off about it? Particularly the face.
Anything at all. I don't mean if I look ugly, but is there anything...off about it? Particularly the face.
Might want to up the smile just a bit more maybe
There isn't a whole lot wrong I don't think, but it's just one mans opinion
All of them?
Definitely don't use the first one. I think that would give off a weirdo impression.
#1 is too gamey. Don't hide the fact that you like video games, but don't make it a key selling point.
You look grumpy, if not perturbed, in #2 and #3.
#4 is probably the best. If you threw that together yourself and/or still have that ensemble, it'll show some level of fashion sense.
#5 is just boring. And there's a swimsuit calendar in there.
#6 is meh. You could sell it as playing secret agent or something, i guess?
Are all of them just not usable?
I am going to do a photo shoot on Thursday for new stuff, just wondering if any of those should replace my okcupid stuff nod
This is the profile
https://m.okcupid.com/profile/tylerldr?cf=home_orbits
Any of them can replace these?
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Ditch the gaming ones.
Ditch the "Im in a dressing room"
Ditch the one that looks like your stiff. Look like you up against a dorm room door.
I like the cell phone one and light thing (blue one)
The best photos are usually of you doing something or have some character to them without being too out there. Like here's some i'd use for example -
I kinda figured
#4 little bro's gf needed a model to try on clothes for a bday present, so she took me shopping
#5 yeah I was gonna edit that out
What is a reasonable texting frequency to expect from someone? I've had girls complain about my slow texting in the past, and now a girl I recently met just ended things because she thought the difference between our texting habits was a serious incompatibility.
I do sometimes take a while to respond to a text, maybe 2 hours tops, but usually it's anywhere from half an hour to a couple of minutes depending on what I'm doing. With this last girl, we would squeeze in 30-50 texts a day, which in my mind was pretty decent. Now these recurring complaints have me wondering if I may be unintentionally indicating lack of interest by not being more available for communication.
I do sometimes take a while to respond to a text, maybe 2 hours tops, but usually it's anywhere from half an hour to a couple of minutes depending on what I'm doing. With this last girl, we would squeeze in 30-50 texts a day, which in my mind was pretty decent. Now these recurring complaints have me wondering if I may be unintentionally indicating lack of interest by not being more available for communication.
Yeah I guess the blue one is a little better...I kinda liked the idea of wearing tighter clothes for these
I don't have really any pics with friends like that...ill get more advice for poses for the shoot on Thursday
I wouldn't worry too much about texting habits...as long as you get back to them in a reasonable amount of time, your fine. People are busy
That women who ditched you for differences in texting habits, was just looking for an excuse. That just kinda seems like too high matinence.
Think I'd stick with the ones already in your profile for now. Thursday's only three days away.
What type of hobbies do you have? What kind of adventures do you go on? Pics that answer those questions are good pics to have.
Banjo-Kazooie
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If 30-50 texts a day is too little for her then something is seriously wrong with her not you.
I guess I'm just wondering if there is a generally agreed upon "reasonable" amount of time to get back to someone. It's hard for me to tell the difference between a girl who is high maintenance in that regard and a girl who is justifiably frustrated with the amount of communication between us.
ZackieChan
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You're good. A lot of people have the opposite problem of checking their phones all the time and responding immediately. Your response time is absolutely fine.
Texting incompatibility sounds like either some BS excuse, or just excessive neediness.
I'm the only male in my summer figure drawing class, and there's this one girl who I'm seriously attracted to and been wanting to get her number for a while. However I can never find the right time to ask her for it since well, one the class has naked people for 6 hours straight, and two, once it's over she immediately is out the door before I realize it.
What should I do dating-GAF?
What should I do dating-GAF?
Alpha Centauri
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Man that should be a positive, not a negative! Just do this
On a serious note, have you talked to her ever? Does she know you exist? If not, start by sitting next to her in class and making smalltalk. If you've already done this, level up your tracking skills and make sure to walk out of class with her next time.
Your profile reads like an average profile: there's nothing interesting about it that makes you stand out from the rest of the guys. My advice would be to nix being loyal in the good at section since you already mentioned it in your self-summary and replace it with a talent/something women can relate to as well as "Not filtering my thoughts."
Leave the First things people notice section blank, get rid of seeing movies once every 2 months and video games stuff, and showing instead of telling; you mention going out on adventures but how about showing them through your pictures? Basically, a good chunk of your profile needs to be rewritten including the 6 things you can't live without since it's the same material list of things I've read in many women's profiles and "Being me" since I don't get the sense of what makes you, you.
As someone who majored in Studio Art in undergrad, been there, done that. Best thing to do is talk to her like a regular human being whether it means you sit next to her before the class starts and introduce yourself so that you can make small talk between sets or during a break and comment on her drawings.Kindekuma said:
There's a couple on GAF that met through an art class because the guy was the only dude in the class and he asked her out because he was interested in her. They've been together for several years. If he did it, then so can you and sooner rather than later because if you procrastinate on it, the weeks will fly by and before you know it, you'll be regretting not having spoken to the girl/asked her out because you admired her from far.
I appreciate the input, guys. I thought my texting habits seemed fine too, but I try to consider things from other people's points of view. That last girl who cut things off was really talkative so maybe she just needed a more constant stream of communication than what is typical.
Benzychenz
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So, the flakey girl at work that said she'd feel weird dating a coworker..
I catch her looking at me constantly now, and every time we walk past one another she smiles at me.
I'm not going to pursue anything myself anymore, but I do wonder if she's having second thoughts...
I catch her looking at me constantly now, and every time we walk past one another she smiles at me.
I'm not going to pursue anything myself anymore, but I do wonder if she's having second thoughts...
When my friend asked his now girlfriend out the first time she rejected him because she thought it'd be a little weird since they worked together. After that she started paying closer attention to him. Now they're two years strong and counting. Maybe it's a similar situation?
stn
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Here's what is likely happening. She feels weird because you work together and she knows you like her, so she's trying to keep things as normal as possible. Avoiding you would make things more awkward. Also, "feeling weird dating a co-worker" is also a typical excuse. I have one girl at my firm who hits on me nonstop, that'll be my bullshit excuse if she ever asks me out (I'm not physically attracted to her, nothing I can do about it). It might be legit but I doubt it. Just move on.
That's called being clingy/needy. 50 texts a day (with the expectation that they are responded to RIGHT NOW) is not normal.
Miles Quaritch
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So I noticed my girlfriend started wearing a ring on her marriage finger...
I asked her about it and she says it's easier to wear a ring to stop people hitting on her and that sounds like a legit excuse, but she's also coming to the end of her training and we did talk about revisiting our talk about taking the next step after she was done...
Where the fuck does the time go...
I asked her about it and she says it's easier to wear a ring to stop people hitting on her and that sounds like a legit excuse, but she's also coming to the end of her training and we did talk about revisiting our talk about taking the next step after she was done...
Where the fuck does the time go...
Thaaaaaaaaaat's pretty weird. I wouldn't be comfortable with that sort of situation--but more power to you if it doesn't weird you the fuck out.
Good luck with that conversation, though!
Miles Quaritch
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It does weird me out a little, but I just can't seem to bring myself to stress about it too much.
And just another month left until she's done and then we'll see what happens...things are going well though so I'm not totally against the idea of taking the next step...
Banjo-Kazooie
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I know some girls who do that, I don't think it's THAT weird, but then again these girls are NOT in relationships and don't want to be so that's why they wear it .
As for me, I'm getting kinda close to one of the girls I've been seeing. I still don't necessarily want to be exclusive, but I do find myself entertaining the possibility.
.As for me, I'm getting kinda close to one of the girls I've been seeing. I still don't necessarily want to be exclusive, but I do find myself entertaining the possibility.
Thanks. But alas, I have a confession to make. That pic I posted it not 100% accurate. This is my true form.
It looks like you're posing, like trying too hard to actually come up with a decent profile pic. Candid shots are king, usually.
You need to get rid of her ASAP
Definitely agree!
I doubt anything would happen, but I don't see any harm in at least chatting to her a bit (assuming it's not too busy).
Thanks for the prep talk, got her number today. Let's see how things play out!
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Yeah, I always felt I was too stiff. Will try to get a better picture sometime soon.
Did nobody see any differences between the two pics?
Maybe he meant RSVP?
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