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[ChiTownBuffalo]

I just found out a friend died through social media.

Anyone get notification that way?

I get that its the best way to let everyone she is connected to know. But it's a shitty delivery method.

 

[ElectricBlanketFire]

I just found out a friend died through social media.

Anyone get notification that way?

I get that its the best way to let everyone she is connected to know. But it's a shitty delivery method.

This happened to me with someone I went to high school with. Every now and then I look at his profile to see what people have written.

It's very strange.

 

[bucknuticus]

I have already told my buddies if I die, delete all my social media shit. Its creepy.

 

[AkuMifune]

A friend of mine hung himself recently, and his brother told me through an XBL message. Fucking shitty way to find out. Made me feel gross about life in general.

Pick up the phone people, this kind of information needs to be delivered personally, any other way is a huge disrespect to both parties.

 

[ChiTownBuffalo]

I think the only reason for it, in my particular case, was she was back visiting family in LA and she died there this morning. And the rest of us in Chicago may not have found out any other way.

 

[noire]

I just found out a friend died through social media.

Anyone get notification that way?

I get that its the best way to let everyone she is connected to know. But it's a shitty delivery method.

I found out that my dad was diagnosed with cancer through facebook. Not directly, but through a friend of my youngest brother posting a 'so sorry to hear about your dad' message on his wall.

yep.... it's complete shit.

 

[demosthenes]

Haven't had that happen to me yet and I'd feel the same way OP, I wouldn't like it.

A small tangent, facebook keeps telling me to be friends w/ my uncle who died earlier this year

 

[PetriP-TNT]

I just like the statuses and go on with my life.

 

[alphaNoid]

All important messages, like death, weddings or babies should be done over a voice phone call or if possible in person. That is however, to people that matter. When we announced my wife being pregnant, we drove to our families houses and told them in person. Picked up the phone and called all other friends and family we care most about ... THEN posted on Facebook for the masses.

I felt like it was the best course of action and could be applied to a death announcement. I would have no problem finding out about someones death on FB if I wasn't an immediate family member or closest of friend. I don't expect some grieving family member to pick up the phone and call 300+ people on their FB list.

 

[Ignatz Mouse]

A month and a half ago I found out one of my best friends form college had died-- only a fewe hours after it happened.

While it sucked, I'm fairly disjoint from most of his other friends (despite the fact that we were extremely close for a long time) and it might have been a month until I found out otherwise, when I was expecting to see him next.

On the flip side, another friend died a week later and I kept the news out of the social media for a few days. Made a lot of awful phone calls that week.

 

[MarkusRJR]

I had 2 friends die in a 1.5 week time frame last month and I found out through facebook.

 

[IISANDERII]

A friend died and his family set up a tribute page on the facebook. I went to look at it on the 1yr anniversary of his death and it was full of spam. Sad.

 

[dark_chris]

I find out through Facebook. Easier that way.

 

[distantmantra]

I just found out a friend died through social media.

Anyone get notification that way?

I get that its the best way to let everyone she is connected to know. But it's a shitty delivery method.

I found out that a guy I grew up with died on Facebook. I knew he had cancer and wasn't doing well, but then his sister started posting from his account with pictures from the memorial. I guess he had died a couple months ealier but totally missed it.

 

[AkuMifune]

I find out through Facebook. Easier that way.

Just wait until we can attend virtual funerals instead of having to go in person.

Virtual Funeral is now the name of my hipster emo-goth band.

 

[ChiTownBuffalo]

Just wait until we can attend virtual funerals instead of having to go in person.

Virtual Funeral is now the name of my hipster emo-goth band.

That just reminds me of the Warcraft incident.

And I probably needed that smile.

 

[AkuMifune]

Oh god, I spoke too soon.

Several software companies have created easy-to-use programs to help funeral homes cater to bereaved families. FuneralOne a one-stop shop for online memorials that is based in St. Clair, Mich., has seen the number of funeral homes offering Webcasts increase to 1,053 in 2010, from 126 in 2008 (it also sells digital tribute DVDs).

FuneralOne! Holy shit I give up on our society.

We have officially entered into the parody of life that was in the early GTA games.

 

[Newline]

Someone from my year in secondary school died like 2 years ago, we finished school around 4 years ago so were all around 20 now. It's really weird seeing his facebook page still live and in the state it was just before he died with his last messages and everything. But it's nice that on his birthday everyone can post messages, albeit some kinda creepy.

 

[Wolf Akela]

I have this odd habit of sometimes checking the Facebook account of people who just died according to the news on TV.

 

[Pai Pai Master]

It's obviously the best way to inform every person in the deceased's social circle, but I wouldn't be too happy if my family just left it at that when it came to informing my close friends.

What's creepy to me are the families that keep someone's Facebook profile active after their death. I had a classmate who died in a car accident in high school, and his parents kept updating his status for years after (I think they still do). Stuff like "hanging out with God and missing everyone!" randomly. I had to de-friend him after a while because it creeped me out (and he was a dead person, not a Facebook friend). I can't comprehend what they're going through and how they would cope with losing a son, but that just seems strange to me and not something that could really happen outside of social media.

 

[krae_man]

I just like the statuses and go on with my life.

"Mom has Cancer"

"son likes this"

Anyway, on topic I guess it can be good and bad. On the one hand it is a great way to let everyone know quickly. But on the other hand it's terrible for informing people in order of importance. Joe schmo who had one class together in grade 9 could find out before a sibling for example.

Oh god, I spoke too soon.

FuneralOne! Holy shit I give up on our society.

We have officially entered into the parody of life that was in the early GTA games.

There's a company selling QR codes for tombstones and help you set up the tribute website for the deceased the QR code links to.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

I just found out a friend died through social media.

Anyone get notification that way?

I get that its the best way to let everyone she is connected to know. But it's a shitty delivery method.

Could you like it?

Yeah, I think it's a pretty weird thing to do, but I guess we just don't understand the minds of the future generation.

 

[InvincibleAgent]

There was a delay before I learned a friend I went to high school with died. The delay was caused by me not having a facebook.



So I got one.

 

[CyclopsRock]

A friend of mine hung himself recently, and his brother told me through an XBL message. Fucking shitty way to find out. Made me feel gross about life in general.

Pick up the phone people, this kind of information needs to be delivered personally, any other way is a huge disrespect to both parties.

I think a lot of people a generation or two older than me might find this idea somewhat amusing...

 

[ChiTownBuffalo]

Could you like it?

Yeah, I think it's a pretty weird thing to do, but I guess we just don't understand the minds of the future generation.

I think the only awkwardness, was one friend didn't reference who had actually, and another replaied with a rant about Morgan Freeman hoaxes.

 

[Panthalassic]

One of my Mum's friends died on Friday and she let me know through Facebook. I ended up calling her and my godmother and speaking to them though. It was tough.

 

[Dabanton]

I have had this before when someone died. But it was in a personal group FB message not plastered all over someones wall obviously that happened as the news spread 8 hours later, but it gives time for family and close friends to know first.

Telephoning everyone in most cases would be just silly.

 

[squidyj]

I think a lot of people a generation or two older than me might find this idea somewhat amusing...

I prefer to send a telegram IMOTBH.

I think it should go out there though because there are probably people who you aren't necessarily that close to you who might want to know that your dead. People on your favorite message board perhaps. People who might not know what happened any other way.

 

[AkuMifune]

I think a lot of people a generation or two older than me might find this idea somewhat amusing...

In a few years, "Holy crap people, at least let us know through facebook instead of sending out a cyber-mind-text! It's so impersonal!"

 

[Zoe]

Potentially devastating--I've heard stories of immediate family members finding out from second and third hand sources spreading it on FB.

 

[Philia]

A friend of our small forum had died recently, and naturally facebook was pretty much the way to go for communication for everyone involved across the world really.

But, it DOES bother me that his profile is still up there for "friending". I'd just block it.

 

[teruterubozu]

My dad's FB page is still up and he died 2 years ago

 

[btkadams]

...what a pointless thing to get worked up over. death is hard, but getting pissed at someone for communicating to friends/family on facebook seems a bit like trying to turn your sadness into anger.

 

[Divius]

SuicidalFriend added an event to his timeline: Death.

 

[Nevasleep]

Somebody who I talked during first few weeks of university, he later left due to illness. Found out about 6 months later that he had died, after looking at his Facebook page.
He was a nice person, it really hit me for a few days.

 

[Magni]

That just reminds me of the Warcraft incident.

And I probably needed that smile.

.

So bad, yet so good.

 

[Ignatz Mouse]

I had 2 friends die in a 1.5 week time frame last month and I found out through facebook.

Was this in Michigan?

 

[noah111]

Wait, really? Is it some sort of systematic FB message? What does it look like? Boy that sucks..

 

[Buddha Beam]

I have already told my buddies if I die, delete all my social media shit. Its creepy.

This is how I want it too. I wrote up a will (and felt weird and morbid doing it) specifying a lot of this stuff.

 

[Lambtron]

I've been lucky that I haven't had to deal with much death in my life. Last Friday I found out via text message that a coworker had died. That was rough. Though I would've preferred to hear it that way than wait until I got into work today.

 

[RandomDancing]

I found out my friend who lived two floors above me in my dorm died through facebook. My roommate and I had talked to him as he was leaving the dining hall that night. He spoke with us for a minute, left, got in his car to go help a friend move and was T-boned by a guy who ran a red light and died instantly. Next morning my roommate asked me (in a voice I'll never forget) - "Oh god......why are all these people writing RIP on Ryan's facebook? Something didn't happen to Ryan did it?" We went up stairs to his room to find a roomful of people crying.

It was an extremely sucky way to find out someone you saw barely more than 12 hours ago was dead and you were one of the last people he spoke to.

 

[Curtisaur]

I don't think there isn't a sucky way to find out someone died.

 

[RotBot]

People are saying it's a weird way to find out, but unless they're family or a friend you still hang out with regularly, I don't know why anyone would expect a phone call. Why would anyone bother calling up every high school friend of the deceased to notify them? Before social media, you would never even know some distant friend was dead until months or years later when someone you both knew happens to mention it.

 

[krae_man]

People are saying it's a weird way to find out, but unless they're family or a friend you still hang out with regularly, I don't know why anyone would expect a phone call. Why would anyone bother calling up every high school friend of the deceased to notify them? Before social media, you would never even know some distant friend was dead until months or years later when someone you both knew happens to mention it.

Actually, you'd find out by reading the obituary, you know back when people still read the newspaper.

 

[vidcons]

Some girl used to sign every one of her status with ΘRIPΘ ≈NAME≈

One of the few times I've lol'd at a death.

 

[Bleepey]

I found out a former teacher died from status updates. I saw a friend of a group of friends died from RIP status updates. I looked at her fb profile and shit was heartbreaking.

 

[Johnny Cage In The Shower]

Here's something strange, a childhood friend that I was never a "friend" of on facebook.

recently added me on facebook, I tred to contact him, only to soon find out that he had died of cancer and now his kids were using his facebook account, and just randomly adding people that "he may know"

very strange indeed.

 

[Persona7]

When I die, I want my brain to be downloaded into the internet.

 

[Willkiller]

I've found out about a couple of deaths and serious accidents through Facebook.

 

[blainethemono]

Found out about one of my best friends getting hit and killed by a tractor trailer while walking on the side of the highway on the way home for thanksgiving last year. He ran out of gas and called his dad and I guess he decided to walk to a gas station instead of waiting for triple A. Saw one of our other friend's RIP post about it and looked at his page and it was full of hundreds of similar messages. There were articles about it and they talked to his parents on the news, but I didn't see those until well after finding out about it on facebook.