Did I just get dated?

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mdubs said:
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The look of consternation and terror on his face in the 5th panel is what makes it.
 
Busty said:
If you were confused as to whether this was a date or not it probably wasn't.

Maybe she just thought you were nice and wanted to increase her circle of friends.
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Have to agree with this.

Friends can flake out on lunch all the time. Just because a woman shows attention to you individually does not always mean she's romantically interested either.

Still, you are way overthinking it. You make the offer for lunch next time, invite her friends to come, and then see what happens.
 
Greddleok said:
So I'm new in this town and a girl at my gym invited me to lunch with her and her colleagues from the university's psychology department. Seemed friendly enough so I accepted.

When I turned up, it was just her. We also ended up talking for way longer than I would if I was eating lunch with other buddies. I started freaking out a little towards to end because I wasn't prepared for that kind of interaction so I decided it was time to go after about an hour of talking.

The worst part was the goodbye. I didn't know whether to hug her (see my previous thread) or what. So I gave an awkward wave and hastily went in another direction.

I'm so confused. Was I tricked into a date? I didn't ask where her friends were because I didn't want to be presumptuous. I feel a little violated.
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What?

You went to lunch with someone.

Nothing about this experience is awkward.
 
Sorry if it was asked already but...

OP... you payed for her lunch?

If the answer is no, it was not a date

Also 1h talk and you have no clue if shes single?

You must been a blast at parties...
 
Tabarin said:
Sorry if it was asked already but...

OP... you payed for her lunch?

If the answer is no, it was not a date

Also 1h talk and you have no clue if shes single?

You must been a blast at parties...
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I don't think paying for someone's meal makes something a date or not. Plenty of people prefer to split the checque nowadays.
 
Tabarin said:
Sorry if it was asked already but...

OP... you payed for her lunch?

If the answer is no, it was not a date

Also 1h talk and you have no clue if shes single?

You must been a blast at parties...
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I don't always pay for a date's food especially when I didn't know it was a date to begin with.

I didn't want to ask if she was single, it seems awfully forward. If you ask if someone's single it's practically saying "I'm interested in you."
 
Greddleok said:
I don't always pay for a date's food especially when I didn't know it was a date to begin with.

I didn't want to ask if she was single, it seems awfully forward. If you ask if someone's single it's practically saying "I'm interested in you."
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In what world? And so what? It's called having a conversation, these things come up. What on earth did you talk about for 60 minutes?
 
Greddleok said:
I don't always pay for a date's food especially when I didn't know it was a date to begin with.

I didn't want to ask if she was single, it seems awfully forward. If you ask if someone's single it's practically saying "I'm interested in you."
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Yeah, would be shocking if two people are interested in each other.
 
Greddleok said:
I don't always pay for a date's food especially when I didn't know it was a date to begin with.

I didn't want to ask if she was single, it seems awfully forward. If you ask if someone's single it's practically saying "I'm interested in you."
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Well are you or aren't you?

If you are, then be forward. No shame in that.

If you aren't, ask if she wants to hang out again if she's cool, if not no worries.

If she asks you again and you aren't interested be honest.
 
Greddleok said:
I don't always pay for a date's food especially when I didn't know it was a date to begin with.

I didn't want to ask if she was single, it seems awfully forward. If you ask if someone's single it's practically saying "I'm interested in you."
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Did she ask if you were single?
 
Beautiful thread backfire.

Greddleok said:
I'm pretty confident normally. I just need to be in the right frame of mind. Having something sprung on me just put me off balance and I didn't really know how to react.

I wish I was making this up, I feel kinda dumb and I feel like I was tricked.

I'm going to the gym tonight, if she's there I'll bring it up. No idea what I'll say. Haven't I left it too late to ask "where were your friends?"




Nah I eat lunch with women from work all the time. However they don't invite me under the pretence it's going to be lots of people. I usually just ask about the office who wants lunch and sometimes only one is up for it.
However this girl brought her own lunch to the cafeteria also. A detail I forgot to mention. Might be insignificant, I can't tell.
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No, you aren't confident at all. We can see through your excuses. A woman invites you to lunch, you get random thoughts about it being a date and you almost shit your pants instead of playing it cool and not making her feel like crap with that awful waving.

Beta GAF-MAN.

Greddleok said:
I told my colleagues this story at coffee break. They did not have the same reaction as gaf. They were a lot more sympathetic and telling me I was right to be confused by the interaction.

I didn't tell them I waved goodbye though.
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What a bunch of...

Oh yeah, skip the worst part that makes your story cringe worthy

Also, lack of confidence by seeking validation of your mess.

Greddleok said:
I didn't say I wasn't able to say goodbye. I said that the goodbye was awkward because I didn't know whether I should hug or whatever, so I chose the hand wave.
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Should have said bye the same way you say bye to her in the gym.

Greddleok said:
I don't always pay for a date's food especially when I didn't know it was a date to begin with.

I didn't want to ask if she was single, it seems awfully forward. If you ask if someone's single it's practically saying "I'm interested in you."
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What the fuck? The lack of confidence seeps through your words. There are ways to ask that, but someone like you will shit their pants no matter how subtle the question is about her being single.

John Kowalski said:
You guys are all making fun of OP but i bet you've never had a girl ask you out for lunch.
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Dinner actually. For me it was a regular going out to eat with a friend, for her it was a date. I realized it after, so I didn't "wave" like an idiot because I treated her as usual.
 
kavanf1 said:
Chapter 2: GAF, I met this girl recently and she kept acting friendly every time we were together. What was even weirder was she always seemed to just want to spend time with me on my own. This happened like five times and it scared the hell out of me, especially as we had loads to talk about and we seemed to have a lot in common. Then last night she invited me back to her house and we were sitting on her bed and she put her hand on my peepee. I got up and got the hell out of there because that made me feel dizzy and confused and honestly pretty violated. What gave her the right to touch my special area like that? Is this rape? I'm not sure if I should call the cops on her.
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This fucking killed me lmao
 
im going to invite a girl to a birthday party, but invite no one else, then we can have a date. that's how it works right
 
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