Did I just get dated?

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You know. I might not go on that many dates. But at least... I don't know man. It'd be one thing if you didn't have a good time. I GUESS I can see where you're confusion is coming from. But damn man. Stop thinking so much.

Know what guys? A guy goes on an accidental date, I'd be confused too. But this is what I have female friends for, to interpret the actions of other females. Y'know what they'd probably tell me? If she didn't want to hang out with just you, she would've cancelled.

OP, text her, setup another outing.

Damn man.

I need to start working out.

EDIT: Her friends mostly likely ACTUALLY cancelled. But she still wanted to meet you.
 
OP, are you into this girl? Are you available to date this girl? Have you asked her if she wants to go on another date?

Edit: I see that you've stated you're not really into dating at the moment, but I'm getting mixed signals. I can't tell if you want to hug or wave. Like you still would've gone had you known it was a date, but you're not trying to date?
 
Greddleok said:
I feel a little violated.
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Really OP? You felt violated because a nice girl is "maybe" having an interest in you and had a chat with you over lunch or dinner or whatever? You should at least showed some class and excused yourself nicely if you are not interested instead of escaping inexplicably... Just rude. And now you are reporting this incident to your favourite website thinking that "you have been violated?"

Quit browsing Gaf and call the girl thanking her about the time you spent with her...and please, no mention of the "violated" part.


You are welcome.
 
If you're going to constantly make threads about how you're confused and hurt by basic human interaction, you should probably stop being so defensive about how confident and well-adjusted you are.
 
Sho_Nuff82 said:
If you're going to constantly make threads about how you're confused and hurt by basic human interaction, you should probably stop being so defensive about how confident and well-adjusted you are.
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He's like Batman, as long as he has time to prepare, he can do anything.
 
KaufLive said:
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Lol haha
 
I've never seen anyone use the word dating as a past tense action verb with a negative connotation. Like it's some kind of awful thing.

Does it work like this:

Yeah, I got dated yesterday, it surprised and disgusted me. I don't know what to do now. I thought we were friends.
I sort of liked it.
 
Sho_Nuff82 said:
If you're going to constantly make threads about how you're confused and hurt by basic human interaction, you should probably stop being so defensive about how confident and well-adjusted you are.
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Take it easy on the OP, he's still running Windows 98.
 
Aceofspades said:
Really OP? You felt violated because a nice girl is "maybe" having an interest in you and had a chat with you over lunch or dinner or whatever? You should at least showed some class and excused yourself nicely if you are not interested instead of escaping inexplicably... Just rude. And now you are reporting this incident to your favourite website thinking that "you have been violated?"

Quit browsing Gaf and call the girl thanking her about the time you spent with her...and please, no mention of the "violated" part.

You are welcome.
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Sho_Nuff82 said:
If you're going to constantly make threads about how you're confused and hurt by basic human interaction, you should probably stop being so defensive about how confident and well-adjusted you are.
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Honestly, before things progress any further I would honestly press the issue of whether or not she actually invited her friends in the first place. Relationships are built on trust, and if she is willing to ambush you with a lunch date who knows what she could be capable of.

Or who knows? Maybe you ask to look at her phone and you can see the texts where her friends cancelled and it will turn out to all be a harmless misunderstanding. If she doesn't have anything to hide I honestly don't see what the big whoop is.
 
The Exploder said:
Honestly, before things progress any further I would honestly press the issue of whether or not she actually invited her friends in the first place. Relationships are built on trust, and if she is willing to ambush you with a lunch date who knows what she could be capable of. Or who knows? Maybe you ask to look at her phone and you can see the texts where her friends cancelled and it will turn out to all be a harmless misunderstanding. If she doesn't have anything to hide I honestly don't see what the big whoop is.
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Not sure if witty or serious.
 
"Shocked", "violated", "underhanded"?

Jesus tapdancing fucking Christ, the level of social retardation from some people on here is absolutely insane.

OP, seek professional help.
 
I suggest you find a support group with other people who have been dated. It'll help you get over the pain easier.
 
DJ88 said:
I suggest you find a support group with other people who have been dated. It'll help you get over the pain easier.
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Horrible advice. Serial daters are known to cruise support groups.

They prey on the weakest and most pathetic among us, people like OP. People who have been dated before and are trying to seek help.

OP walks into a support group he's liable to get dated coming and going.
 
The Exploder said:
Horrible advice. Serial daters are known to cruise support groups.

They prey on the weakest and most pathetic among us, people like OP. People who have been dated before and are trying to seek help.

OP walks into a support group he's liable to get dated coming and going.
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You need a better sarcasm detector.
 
Lorcain said:
I've never seen anyone use the word dating as a past tense action verb with a negative connotation. Like it's some kind of awful thing.

Does it work like this:

Yeah, I got dated yesterday, it surprised and disgusted me. I don't know what to do now. I thought we were friends.
I sort of liked it.
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Agreed, stop trying to make "fetch" happen, OP.

From the subject line I thought it was about you wearing some Air Force Ones and getting giggled at behind your back by some teenagers or something,
 
These threads always make me think there's gonna be very few generations of gaffer's.

Forever alone the thread.

You feel violated because a girl wanted to spend time with you? Good god.
 
Such pureness. Haven't seen this sort of thing since grade school, and no I am not joking around. It's quite refreshing actually. I don't know how old you are OP, and that doesn't really matter, but maybe you should give yourself more value. You shouldn't freak out because a woman potentially thought you would be good company.
 
If this isn't trolling, it might be the most awkward story I've read on the internet about being completely socially inept while thinking there's nothing wrong coming from your side OP.

If 7 pages of GAF mocking your ability to assess situations isn't going to make you doubt a thing about yourself, I hope you can find friends that can make you re-evaluate how you approach social interactions buddy !
 
Don't fuck it up OP.

Remember how to play Whatsapp/Dating Tennis. You initiate convo and then wait for them to initiate next convo etc. Be cool.
 
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
 
My definition of being dated is completely opposite of the OP.

When a younger person, talks about some random culture reference that's too "current" for me to understand. I feel very dated.
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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Install Windows 10 for an upgraded olfactory system
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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Well now just saying bye, waving, and leaving is fine. You're at the gym. But before when it was just you two in what seemed to be a date? Fucking weird.

Stop thinking hugs are weird, guy.
 
Catdaddy said:
OP is George Costanza and this the lost episode of Seinfeld...
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George is a socially inept doofus, but he had multiple girlfriends and even a fiancée -- hell, even Marisa Tomei had interest in him -- while most of the time being unemployed and/or living with his overbearing parents. Compared to the OP (and a lot of other people on here) he's a god.
 
First you don't like hugs, then you don't like girls trying to get alone with you.

I'm gay and even I'm super flattered if someone were to "surprise-date" me.

True story: At my docs office, there was a girl there who was totally a sweetheart. She asked me something about texting or something and I said yeah I text all the time. She had called me before to remind me about appointments and such so she had my # - she started texting me.

She, in essence, told me I was cute and that we should go hang out sometime. I'm like "oh honey, you're barking way up the wrong tree" and told her I was gay. We then became friends (and still are). She got married and first thing I told her about him was he was cute as hell. She laughed. They made babies and now everyone is happy.

I know that what she did was wrong (getting my number for non-work purposes and using it) and if anyone else were to tell me that, I'd be pissed for them, but I'm too easy going - I didn't (and don't) give a shit. She's a nice girl who we chatted friendly with all the time, so it was more an extension of that. Also, I was so stupidly flattered that rules being broken where "Whatever" to me.

OP - be flattered, be nice and make a friend out of it. Or more if you're inclined. But for fucks sake - at least stop being a pansy about giving hugs. Damn.
 
Pray for OP, may God rest his soul. One Like, one pray.

But honestly OP, if you don't feel like dating and she lied to you to get some alone time it is not cool at all. GAF is giving it a pass because it was a hot girl, but if a guy did the same everyone would be calling him a creep (And even then some will justify it if he is hot).

It may seem quirky, but it clearly bothered you and you should have mentioned if that was the case, if deep down you wanted to be dated (Oh boy, that sounds so wrong, sorry), you could have done the suggestion too.

Now the good thing is that getting tricked into a date its not that big of a deal in that, well, you can just have a chat and never go out with her again. And since it already happened, you can consider if it was worth it spending time with her or if you'll rather stay alone, nothing wrong with that.
 
Greddleok said:
So I caught up with her at the gym. Said Hi, and she mumbled hi back, she looked busy with shit so I just let her get on with it.

We started talking after that and she was basically asking me to teach her how to do pull ups in a non-forward way paraphrased you can do them I can't I wish I could, my gym partner is injured etc. So I offered to meet up and train together.

She gave me her number and I waved good bye again.

To be fair, this time I was covered in sweat and a hug would have been more of an assault of the olfactory system than anything else.

Edit: Still no confirmation if it's anything more than platonic or whether she tricked me or not.
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You better not fuck that up OP!
 
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