Do you want kids? (Parents: how did you decide to have kids?)

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Just curious about this since I'm 26 and this is something my wife and I have ongoing convos about.

Love to hear from Parent-Age as well.

P.S. to my many suitors, like currygan, JC, Freaky Fred, et al.: the question in the thread title is not a proposition.
 
I've never thought of having kids and I don't think I'll ever want to have kids. Just not my thing.

I'm 19 so that could possibly change.
 
Nope. 39.

But my fiance has a 9 year old and we share custody with the father (things obviously didn't work with them but it's amicable). I've been "stepdad" for about 5 years now.

Don't hate it, don't love it. Just like "normal" parenting it has its ups and downs but I think it's completely different if you are actually the parent.

If I had to choose I'd probably go without kids but having him around isn't a bad thing either. It's tough to say though if her and I would have met without children if we would have had one. Most likely. But I'm too old and it costs too much so we aren't having one together.
 
I want kids....and my parents have started to hound me about having kids recently, lol. I'm 28.

My mom: "When you gonna give me some grand babies?"

Honestly, having kids scares me....but I absolutely want them.
 
I don't want kids, but if it comes down to either having one or being lonely for the rest of my life it's going to be a kid I guess.
 
Got enough trouble feeding and sheltering myself. Not having children is the most responsible parenting I'm capable of, right now.
 
Always known I wanted kids.

However due to my age at the arrival of my first (36) and wife's complications post-delivery, we're stopping at 1.
 
27, Ideally I would but I don't believe I could provide for them in any meaningful way at the moment.
There are a number of things I'd like to achieve personally before I feel confident in making an attempt.
 
I do but I don't want to HAVE kids. My Goddaughter and two nieces are the appropriate amount of child interaction for me. I can have lots of fun with them and I don't have to deal with any of the actual child raising.
 
Yes. However, my affections belong to a fella rather than a gal, and one who doesn't like the idea of kids anyway, so that's the end of that~

... Goddamnit, this thread has made me all sad. I shall wile away the hours weeping. And picking daisies.
 
Yes! As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to have kids. My first, a girl, was born when I was 28, and I had twin boys two-and-a-half year later.

If I could do things over again, I would have had kids sooner. My wife and I were married for over 5 years before she got pregnant with our first, and we think back to those years now and wonder what the hell we were doing. They feel like empty years. We had lots of fun, but there are so few memorable moments from that "era."

edit: I do want to emphasize that my wife and I had milestones throughout our relationship. We first lived together, then eventually bought a house, then got nice cars, then decided to have kids. We thought it was important to be stable both financially and in terms of our relationship before starting a family. We were lucky to be able to do it on our terms!
 
I've always thought I wanted to have kids someday, but lately I've found myself thinking about, reconsidering it. I don't longer know for sure.
 
Nope. 28 and I've never even had a pregnancy scare despite going raw in plenty of people. I'm actually starting to think I might be sterile or something. Everyone I know that raw dogs has at least had one scare.
 
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Yes! As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to have kids. My first, a girl, was born when I was 28, and I had twin boys two-and-a-half year later.

If I could do things over again, I would have had kids sooner. My wife and I were married for over 5 years before she got pregnant with our first, and we think back to those years now and wonder what the hell we were doing. They feel like empty years. We had lots of fun, but there are so few memorable moments from that "era."
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Exactly. Listen to this man. The earlier the better. By the time they're old enough to leave you won't be a fossil. You'll still be youngish and can even start a 2nd litter.
 
I'm married and looking forward to having kids. Deciding wasn't hard, since as long as I can remember I expected to get married, buy a house and have children. It wasn't till I was in my late 20s that I ran into couples in our simiar situation but choosing not to have kids.

Honestly my feeling is as much fun as it would be to just say, "screw it, I am not gonna have kids and blow my money on travel, video games, movies and electronics" eventually it would begin to feel hollow for me. I mean, how many video games do I really need, or movies? Will they replace the experiences I will be mission out on? The birth, first steps and other achievements? Or will they replace the sense of pride I would feel seeing my parents who were strict with me gush over my kids and let them get away with murder, (OK maybe more envy then pride, lol)?

I get parenting is not for everyone, I had one who wasn't really cut out for it. But it's a step forward in life I always planned on and it was something I always discussed with any girl I was dating long term because you have to be on the same page to work as a couple.
 
I have three boys and love it. I really feel like I am a natural father, all of it come easy to me.
Besides kids are freaking hilarious. The stupid shit they do and say is way too funny. I can't help but grin like a motherfucker when I am around my boys.

My wife and I decided that now we make good money, own a house, travelled and partied our asses off it was time to have kids. I really feel I live the perfect* life.

*For those who aren't named Hugh Hefner.
 
I have 2 kids, and it is awesome. I always wanted kids though.

Wouldn't mind a 3rd, but wife is pretty much declaring that as impossible.

You are never ready financially or responsibly or in any way for kids. If you want them but are waiting for the right moment, stop that, that moment will never come.
 
gatisimo said:
Yes! As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to have kids. My first, a girl, was born when I was 28, and I had twin boys two-and-a-half year later.

If I could do things over again, I would have had kids sooner. My wife and I were married for over 5 years before she got pregnant with our first, and we think back to those years now and wonder what the hell we were doing. They feel like empty years. We had lots of fun, but there are so few memorable moments from that "era."

edit: I do want to emphasize that my wife and I had milestones throughout our relationship. We first lived together, then eventually bought a house, then got nice cars, then decided to have kids. We thought it was important to be stable both financially and in terms of our relationship before starting a family. We were lucky to be able to do it on our terms!
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This sounds like my situation to a T... twins and all (boy then 2 girls though).
My wife and I have never been a fan of kids in general, but our own are an entirely different story... even when they are a pain in the ass.
 
My daughter was born when I was 23, same age my dad was when I was born.

She wasnt planned...but shes the best thing ever in my life regardless.
 
I was eating a burger today next to a window. I watched two men, each carrying a child, get into their vehicle and leave. What probably takes me 30 seconds tops, took the the 4 of them around 5 minutes. I can't imagine living a life where every action becomes a time consuming, struggle due to an overly emotional, irrational, pant shitting urchin.

33, kid free and cruising. Ya'll can keep em.
 
My wife and I decided to have a kid after I got from my second tour in Iraq. We'd been married almost three years at that point. Neither of us had a burning desire to be a parent, it just seemed like the thing you do when you're married. We quickly discovered after our daughter was born that neither of us are 'kids people'. Oh well, we love our demanding little cretin but we definitely won't be having any more.
 
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