Well, I am a man. So, that makes sense that my view comes from there. But your tone seems to suggest that because of that, my view is either bad or generic. Admittedly a lot of my comments probably are those things anyway, but hey.
The hypothetical on if Wonder Woman was bad, I think we're kinda on the same page. If it was bad because all it did was make it seem like women are intrinsically less capable, then that would've been outrageously terrible for the reasons we all agree shouldn't happen. If it was just a bad movie because the story sucked or the editing was bad, then it wouldn't have been because it was a female lead. It's just better for everyone that everything ended up being good. It moves things forward, and we got a kickass movie to watch out of the deal. Yay!
Not the entire industry is currently run by men. There are plenty of professional women that do their jobs admirably already. Making blanket statements like that feels like doing them a disservice. That said, I would submit to you that basically all industries' momentum (including video games) was forged by men, from a male perspective, and drove those industries to where they stand today. That sorta thing leaves a lot of legacy "well this is just how it's always been" sort of behavior. That sorta thing needs to keep breaking. It is happening, for sure, and every time we get a female director, female lead that gets it 'right', we get one step closer to it not being an eye-opening moment or a surprise. I've worked in a few environments where this was already the norm. We want it to just be the norm, everywhere.