Who gives a honest fuck how "real" their transition is?
If it makes them happy, and they aren't bothering others, I don't care.
Well they are bothering others. If I "deadname" him then I will be in big poo poo.
So ya if he just went about his day as normal without any big announcement and the thought police weren't there to check on my deadname crimes that it isn't bothering others.
But you can bet your buttocks if someone calls him Ellen Page or says I really like Ellen Page in Xmen 3 that person is going to be plenty bothered.
I have no issue with someone being trans, outside of the fact that they need mental help. My issue is that the rest of society is expected to play along with it at the threat of repercussions if they don't.
Don't bother me about your transition and I won't bother you.