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CornBurrito
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royalan said:
This is why I hate psychoanalysists.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
Huh, I think it'd be a lot less rude or off-putting for someone's profile to say "I'm not interested/attracted to _____." rather than flat out ignoring people of those groups/races/whatever. To simply delete or block messages from someone who doesn't appeal to you seems very aloof and tacky to me; better to be honest and forthcoming about your intentions right out the gate.
It's all in the wording, of course. "NO BLACKS OR FEMS, UGH" would obviously be an ugly and borderline offensive way of getting to the same point.
It's all in the wording, of course. "NO BLACKS OR FEMS, UGH" would obviously be an ugly and borderline offensive way of getting to the same point.
badcrumble
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People could also say 'into muscular whites and latinos' instead of 'no [groups x, y, and z]' and it'd express exactly the same preference without, you know, coming across as a total dickhead.
So....I have a date with a doctor in an hour. I have the strange, happy butterflies-in-my-tummy feeling with this guy that I haven't felt in ages. For anyone following my story, this was 'Mike' in my previous post, lol.
He's a chiropractor -- pretty much a guarantee he's good with his hands, right? lol -- and could pass for 19 or 30 depending on his photo (has this phenomenal way of looking boyish and manly at the same time, lol).
Wish me luck GAF. Especially that 'John' doesn't interfere.
He's a chiropractor -- pretty much a guarantee he's good with his hands, right? lol -- and could pass for 19 or 30 depending on his photo (has this phenomenal way of looking boyish and manly at the same time, lol).
Wish me luck GAF. Especially that 'John' doesn't interfere.
runlikehell
Banned
I've been watching QAF US and when Michael turned down the chiropractor I wanted to slap his cute face.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Anyone watch the UK QAF? It's pretty good, although I don't know how it compares to the US version.
Cosmic Bus
pristine morning snow
RatskyWatsky said:
I've only seen the first season of the US version versus the full run of UK, but the British version was absolutely my preference. Loved the characters (Stuart and Vince at the wedding in series 2 = ;__
and, um, Charlie Hunnam being naked was a very very positive thing.RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
Cosmic Bus said:I've only seen the first season of the US version versus the full run of UK, but the British version was absolutely my preference. Loved the characters (Stuart and Vince at the wedding in series 2 = ;__
I LOVED Stewart. Such a beautiful, confident bastard. <3 I enjoyed watching all of his...exploits. haha
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
B-Ri said:
What happened?Hecatonchires Custom said:
you probably know already but that was the worst decision ever but I guess living through it and having the experience is the only way to learn.
Still, I feel like I will give less experienced people some tips regarding dates.
DO NOT suggest the following for a first, non sex-only related date:
Movies (You can´t talk and get to know the other guy, it's just plain stupid)
Dinner at a Restaurant (You'll be eating so you can't talk, bad idea)
Your place (You are showing your place to a guy you are meeting for the first time? unsafe and stupid)
His Place (Great, now you are trapped)
Gym and/or jogging (You'll sweat and breathe like crazy, bad idea)
Crowded, loud places (some bars, pubs and "babylons", drinking and watching other men while not being able to talk to your date sucks)
Basically any place where attention can get deviated/derailed and please don't bring any friends to dates, grow a pair and live through it.
You can suggest the following:
1.- A Walk in the Park , for best results, pretend you already now a path and if you feel uncomfortable, just reach the starting point after 30 or 40 minutes and be done. Make it clear you don't want sex before actually having the date, you just want to get to know him better. You can always change your mind
midway through the date.2.- Coffee in a peaceful place, but here is complicated cause you just can't say "o.k I am done, bye!" so it will drag and get annoying. Besides you kisses will taste like coffee, not as bad for me but some people do hate it.
runlikehell
Banned
Sphinx, I think you're kinda right. On my first date with my boyfriend we met in a city that was neutral to the both of us. We explored a bit and then we sat in a coffee shop for two hours; after that we ended up going to a restaurant and seeing a movie, all in the same day.
It depends entirely on the people.
It depends entirely on the people.
runlikehell
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Yeah, you're probably right. In most respects at least, obviously the finer details got ironed out on the following date.sphinx said:yeah but by that time, both of you already knew it was going to work
that happens as well so the restaurant and movie afterwards was o.k.
the critical part is the first .. 20 minutes, more or less. After that, "you can kiss the bride!" hehehe.
We didn't have sex until we'd been together for a month.
runlikehell said:Yeah, you're probably right. In most respects at least, obviously the finer details got ironed out on the following date.
We didn't have sex until we'd been together for a month.
I had to wait three months for that.
I met my boyfriend in an European dating site ( www. gayromeo. com, I can only recommend thay place) but I was in living in Mexico and he was living in Germany. After being cyber-boyfriends for like 2 months, the feelings were just too strong and getting out of hand so I decided to figure out for myself and bought a ticket to Europe just to meet him. Long story short and 2 years later, we are living together in Germany now ^_^
Though combining stuff is nice.
I mean a "date" that consists of: walking (park, beach, trees), watching a (good) movie and dinner (in a good place) ...is nice.
[NOTE: I haven't been on dates or relationships; so I'm no expert onjapanese culture dating. 
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Though, from what 'Hecatonchires Custom' post; that's a reason I insist (online) that "I'm ugly" and "I never photograph well" (well not really like that since I don't want to sound like a creep, but kinda). So, after meeting in person the guys end saying that "I'm not ugly and look way better in person (and taller).
Yay "lowered expectations"!!! XD
Well, that's if the guys actually show up since I've been left waiting a few times; so I guess even with all the damage control; some couldn't take my ugliness!! XD!
Oh! and get Skylanders!!!
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I mean a "date" that consists of: walking (park, beach, trees), watching a (good) movie and dinner (in a good place) ...is nice.
[NOTE: I haven't been on dates or relationships; so I'm no expert on
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Though, from what 'Hecatonchires Custom' post; that's a reason I insist (online) that "I'm ugly" and "I never photograph well" (well not really like that since I don't want to sound like a creep, but kinda
). So, after meeting in person the guys end saying that "I'm not ugly and look way better in person (and taller). Yay "lowered expectations"!!! XD
Well, that's if the guys actually show up since I've been left waiting a few times; so I guess even with all the damage control; some couldn't take my ugliness!! XD!
Oh! and get Skylanders!!!
!!fernoca said:
Dude, give it more time before arranging dates, some people are just not serious.
I mean, people can leave someone waiting only if they haven't set a real human being behind the online profile. Talk more and suggest a date only when there is the feeling that both seem to care for each other, to some degree at least.
and I believe there are no ugly people in this world, just unlucky people
Oh..I'm unluckysphinx said:Dude, give it more time before arranging dates, some people are just not serious.
I mean, people can leave someone waiting only if they haven't set a real human being behind the online profile. Talk more and suggest a date only when there is the feeling that both seem to care for each other, to some degree at least.
and I believe there are no ugly people in this world, just unlucky people
and ugly too. *puts flamesuit
lordfroakie
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Hmm. Looks like the gays ditched grindr for scruff. Grindr got a buggy update with delayed messages, ads and video spamming ads. Scruff: samething but free and can view more people local or global
I heard about Grindr getting annoying ads. That sucks!vectorman06 said:Hmm. Looks like the gays ditched grindr for scruff. Grindr got a buggy update with delayed messages, ads and video spamming ads. Scruff: samething but free and can view more people local or global
your avatar is amazing
dragonlife
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I'll have one of these.Sagitario said:
Masked Man
I said wow
sphinx said:
That's so wonderful to hear.
RatskyWatsky said:
3 years. We have broken up on and off (most of them due to having to move to a different country and then a different state), but now we live an hour away from each other.
The last time we broke up, this guy who used to be OBSESSED with him, and wrote him a 3 page letter on myspace when we were official, about how he cant talk to him anymore, and deleted his myspace.
"coincidentally" this guy reappears after our last break up, and calls him and invites him to everything, EVERYTHING. I didnt like him, or trust his intentions, but my bf convinced me he was no one, and had to do so quite a few times.
He broke up with me, a few days later came up and I cooked dinner and he stayed over with me, two days later came back and we went to a concert together, he stayed over with me.
Had lunch with him on wednesday while I was in town, he asked me if I was dating anyone, I said no, why? He said he hasnt gone on any dates yet, but he plans to. He echoed what I said once that sometimes I wonder if his lack of dating experience makes him not appreciate me, and that he feels that he needs to date other people right now, and that hes not closing the door on us forever, its for now. I almost didnt recognize him, It seemed to me like he wanted to go out and date for the sake of it, or like he had been told it was the thing to do, i dont know, it seemed out of character.
I had told him that I didnt think that we warranted a break up, but we did need to fix things, work on ourselves, and i told him at worst we are better people, and at best, we are better people for each other.
Im torn on what to do, I was fully prepared to marry this guy. I cant stand sitting back and not fighting for what I would like, but I guess it is what only I would like. I love him, we have chemistry, and trust which is huge.
So im torn, do i see him still "as a friend"?
Do i see him still, with the intention and hopes that we can reconcile?
Do I not see him again, and come back after a few months and attempt to reconcile? What if hes met someone?
Do i not see him again.
I have a chance of going up to santa barbara to see him for the weekend, and see his family again, do i do it?
What do i do? I lived and breathed him.
Souldriver
Member
Since no one has done it yet, I call dibs on the guy with the jeans vest!
At first I thought it were just a bunch of flickr/tumblr/youtube attention whores though, which would make their hotness take an nosedive. But then I saw it's from a Breast Cancer Awareness video. A video that's pretty damn funny, I might add.
At first I thought it were just a bunch of flickr/tumblr/youtube attention whores though, which would make their hotness take an nosedive. But then I saw it's from a Breast Cancer Awareness video. A video that's pretty damn funny, I might add.
i_am_ben
running_here_and_there
Souldriver said:Since no one has done it yet, I call dibs on the guy with the jeans vest!
At first I thought it were just a bunch of flickr/tumblr/youtube attention whores though, which would make their hotness take an nosedive. But then I saw it's from a Breast Cancer Awareness video. A video that's pretty damn funny, I might add.
but he has bad hair.
Souldriver
Member
Nope, it's sexy.i_am_ben said:
B-Ri said:
Might sound silly but don't do anything. Tell him you are there in case he wants t talk but let life lead you to your destiny, have your daily rutine and give everything a chance.
If he wants to go for a coffee and talk to you, say yes but if if he disappears for a while, give him some time and space. You can always write him a message or even call after a while if you feel like you want to keep close to him.
why I mean is that both of you really need time to think things over and in such a phase, I wouldn't recommend to actively avoid him or obssessivly seek him. Take it easy and just communicate, communication tends to set everything in place most of the time.
Boy it's so heartwarming to read some of the stories in here. I live in NYC and the gay culture is one where everyone lasts 24 hours or less (i.e. the new gay scene). So damn tough to find people worth of your time and efforts, when you're not into clubbing/dancing/getting wasted/hookingup instantly... Any advice on what to do or where to go to meet nice guys beyond the gay scene? Tried so much...
sphinx said:
Thanks, I think you're right. I am just so scared, call me naive, but i still think hes the one
I've had quite a month:
http://tumblr.brianmoreno.com/post/11746552225/lapses-and-failures
FoneBone said:
Why do that when I can be a douche and say "No" to them upfront? Saves me time doing the blocking and ignoring.
Except this is a sex-hookup site in general. Why should I be nice when going for sex? I'm not interested in your body type/mannerisms/race, why shouldn't I be upfront and say "Sorry, not interested" to it?
Except people take "NO" easier than "I'm looking for white guys, only." Half the time people skip over that and think "Oh, I have a chance." Compared to "No black guys, no latinos, no white dudes, etc. etc. etc." listings, I feel.
Marius_ said:
dude.... I can lay in bed with 2 other guys and kiss and exchange caresses but I sure CAN NOT take cock in mouth, ass and get sucked all at the same time. If you do, and already have, then you are like the superior gay from them all.
besides the 3way as I see it requires 4 people, 3some only 3
beje said:
Marius_ said:
but that's boring, that's why I didn't consider it.
besides, 69s aren't very comfortable regarding position, many of those porn movies lie.
and I hope if this guy is getting a 3way instead of a 3some, that he gets to do 3 guys, more fun that way..
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