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I try not to swear but I slip things out sometime. People get emotionally unstable and find it hard to control themselves when they're incredibly frustrated.

I don't let an old n-word slip out if I'm angry. I simply don't say it ever, so it just never occurs to me to say it no matter how emotional I am.
 
I don't let an old n-word slip out if I'm angry. I simply don't say it ever, so it just never occurs to me to say it no matter how emotional I am.
I have never in my life said the n word while in a moment of blind anger. Although I have let faggot slip in my worst moments. Always while playing a game, never in any other instance. I have both gay and black family members and friends so they are equally as offensive to me. N word definitely holds more weight for me I suppose.

No matter how color blind or un-homophobic person you are, sometime shit just slips when your brain checks out. I feel for Ryan in this.
 
I always find people who say that funny. If you don't ever say it, it's not going to just slip out accidentally.

That's not really true. I mean, Ryan probably was a piece of shit teenager like the rest of us, and that word might've been part of his vernacular. In the intervening years, he's learned that that word isn't okay, so he makes sure he doesn't use it in any context. But it still lurks there in some part of his brain. This doesn't make okay, of course, and he should try and get rid of that word, but that's easier said than done.

That word was never part of my own vernacular, nor were most charged swear-words but when I get upset I pull out other swearwords that I never really use, so I can identify so some degree.

to the game, or a person?

Either to some tentacle monster or to himself (he was cursing himself earlier in the show), as an expletive. I think it was to himself, but that doesn't really matter -- as he said, context isn't really the issue.
 
I don't let an old n-word slip out if I'm angry. I simply don't say it ever, so it just never occurs to me to say it no matter how emotional I am.

I wasn't saying that he didn't say it ever, and he didn't say that he never said the word before. He might have at one time in his life, almost everyone was a little shithead at one point in their life. He obviously doesn't think it's alright to say it now at this stage of his life, but when you're angry bad and hidden habits bubble up to the surface.
 
Man. I appreciate the post and I want to say that this is overblown, but there are probably many giantbomb users that could do with the lesson being imparted here.
 
That was a good post by Ryan, he seems genuinely regretful about the whole thing. We're all human and we all say stupid shit sometimes.
 
"I don't use it in my personal life, no place for it professionally."

I always find people who say that funny. If you don't ever say it, it's not going to just slip out accidentally.
When it's put in your vocabulary it's there forever. It happens. Plus we were all stupid kids back then that thought the word was funny or whatever.
 
When it's put in your vocabulary it's there forever. It happens. Plus we were all stupid kids back then that thought the word was funny or whatever.

Dude probably went through high school using that word all the time, because different times and also kids are fuckwits. He knows better now but that shit will be branded in his vocab further, just waiting for stressful moments to bubble back up like the gold old times and embarrass him to hell and back

God know it's all going to happen to us in good time once "retard" becomes equally taboo
 
This reminds me of a weird moment I had a few years ago, where a gay friend of mine had his skateboard stolen, and I wanted to help him get it back from the guy since he knew where he might be. I got really angry when we couldn't come up with him or the board, and just let out a 'That fucking faggot!' Instantly wondered where that came from since I never even use the word, incredibly awkward since my gay friend was the one that had to hear it. Even typing it out today makes me feel weird about it.

So I can attest to stuff like that manifesting out of some weird brain garbage and not really knowing where it came from. Too bad he did it on camera, I guess...
 
"I don't use it in my personal life, no place for it professionally."

I always find people who say that funny. If you don't ever say it, it's not going to just slip out accidentally.

I'm not going to get up in arms about it or insist someone get fired or something, but I'm definitely not going to defend someone using the word "Faggot," frustration or not, or try to imply there's an acceptable, non-explanatory context with which to use it.

It speaks poorly of Ryan and poorly of anyone who defends it as no big deal, and an apology does nothing to curb my diminished opinion (which isn't really one of anger, just disappointment), and that's the last I'll say about the subject.
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But whatever, moving on.
 
In watching these old Lantern Runs, it's obvious that Brad grabs ALL the health and gets hit the most. Where the other three rarely get it and survive, Brad grabs the health/armor over and over and loses it. They need a better game plan.

Edit: Also, when everyone else always grabs the furthest away lanterns, assuring that the last guy to grab one has to travel the least distance, Brad doesn't. He'll get there first and grab the closest one. What a dick. :)
 
I'm not going to get up in arms about it or insist someone get fired or something, but I'm definitely not going to defend someone using the word "Faggot," frustration or not, or try to imply there's an acceptable, non-explanatory context with which to use it.

It speaks poorly of Ryan and poorly of anyone who defends it as no big deal, and an apology does nothing to curb my diminished opinion (which isn't really one of anger, just disappointment), and that's the last I'll say about the subject.

well said.
 
Glad he caught himself immediately and addressed the issue quickly. Unbecoming in general, but his awareness of it is encouraging and a sign of good faith.

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It's not "manufactured outrage" for people to be offended (or even just taken aback) by a word like that. If it was a non-issue, Ryan wouldn't have apologized as emphatically as he did.

Look, I didn't get to watch it live, but it sounds like he was immediately apologetic. It should have ended there, everyone to move on. The fact that people are still talking about it at all is exactly manufactured outrage.
 
Obviously certain slurs were much more common years ago, and while never acceptable, they were considerably less socially faux-pas. When you're a product of this age, old habits can die hard, however much one might try to purge such terms from the vocabulary.

It's similar to an atheist who frequently exclaims "oh God!" because of his upbringing -- in context, it's nothing but a meaningless exclamation. But in the case of the slur, it can and will be misinterpreted in a negative light.

What I'm getting at is that obviously Ryan holds himself entirely accountable, so it would be a shame if anyone thought less of him as a result of this incident. Words only have power when you assign it to them, and he did not, nor should we. The fact that he's fully and sincerely owning up to the mistake is more than enough for me.

We cool.
 
Look, I didn't get to watch it live, but it sounds like he was immediately apologetic. It should have ended there, everyone to move on. The fact that people are still talking about it at all is exactly manufactured outrage.

That's not what manufactured outrage means at all.
 
Look, I didn't get to watch it live, but it sounds like he was immediately apologetic. It should have ended there, everyone to move on. The fact that people are still talking about it at all is exactly manufactured outrage.

Again, I don't see how manufactured outrage is an applicable term. I don't see much "outrage" in either this thread or the thread accompanying Ryan's apology post, as pretty much everyone knows that Ryan didn't intend to hurt anyone. That doesn't mean that the word didn't still hit some people hard, and calling the responses of anyone that was hurt "manufactured" is uncalled for. Taken from his apology:

I was shocked myself when it came tumbling out, and instantly felt like the worst piece of shit in the world. Context is meaningless, because that word comes with too much of its own hurtful baggage to ever possibly justify...That shit is just indefensible.

So, yeah, this situation will eventually blow over, and it was cool for Ryan to own up to his mistake, but it's not surprising that it sparked discussion.
 
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