Damn 20 k makes for large thread. Someone make a new one so i can be miserable in there.haha
It became a giant blog/social help group. with Soultron becoming the new stepdad in the leather lazyboy telling you whats wrong with the youth.
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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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It became a giant blog/social help group. with Soultron becoming the new stepdad in the leather lazyboy telling you whats wrong with the youth.
manipulate
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I would probably prefer this thread stayed in here but I don't think it'll be THAT big of a deal in any case.
The Technomancer
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...I haven't been paying attention, when did you get back?
Attackthebase
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How about Pear's success story? I think TK had a success story too, but I cannot remember his exact story.
Sorry that I can't give you any success story about myself. I still have problems just dating a girl then dropping her to move onto the next one. Hard time to remain interested, and when I do, the vice-versa occurs. Not a big deal, since I have lots of friends, work, and activities to fill my time (plus I love being by myself doing other shit).
Not quite a success story, well, the first month was anyway, now it's up and down. I'm saving up an overall update to the entire saga for the next thread. I'm relatively new to the thread compared to everyone else, but this thread is definitely a help, mostly because you can ask for advice, but also see that others have the same issues you're having, and not feel so totally hopeless about things.
I'm gonna write it all out and post it to my blog (privately for now), but I'll copy/paste it here.
I'm not sure how much help it'll be, but it might be a cautionary tale in some things to do or not to do in the early stages of a relationship.
TurboLibre
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I wouldn't really recommend me. I was successful in the sense that I worked through a pretty rough patch but I still don't have any women in my life and that's sorta what this thread is about. I did find some hope though, and that's something I've been missing most of my life.
I'd recommend CF_Fighter. I think I remember him finding someone for a little while.
Attackthebase
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To my current knowledge, CF_Fighter hasn't found anything stable as of yet.
I feel this thread is also built on liking yourself, gaining confidence, self improvement and acquiring a happy outlook on life.
CherryWoodFuton
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I suggest adding David Shade - Masterful Lover Foundations on the OP as required reading.
OT3 is up.
If you guys want to post some success stories and some inspiration stuff, I'd be more than happy to have that as the first few posts.
If you guys want to post some success stories and some inspiration stuff, I'd be more than happy to have that as the first few posts.
CF_Fighter
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Yea, for about a month, but she turned out all kinds of crazy so I dropped her. I realize now I MIGHT have been using her to bang-out as she was always up for something. I came to see that we really weren't compatible for a relationship so I ended it. Haven't talked to her since and that was almost a year ago.
Lots of single dates since then, but nothing has stuck. Even for a second date.
So, a more practical question for those who are in or have been in relationships:
I've been with my GF for a year now. A friend of hers is getting married in April in Mexico, and she wants me to go with her. Now, this will cost me $1000-1500 (not sure exactly, but that's the range). I've met this friend of hers twice for a couple of hours each time. I want to know what the accepted etiquette is here - am I expected to go? Is it okay if I say I can't (or, more accurately, don't want to) swing it financially? Should I say that I'm not comfortable spending that sort of dough to attend the wedding of people I barely know?
The only reason I ask this, really, is because we are also going on vacation in March, which itself will run me $1500-2000+. Now, if it were one or the other I wouldn't even be asking this question, but while I can afford it and make good money, I'm not comfortable with spending $3K+ in two months' time, especially when I barely know her friend to begin with.
Any of you been a similar situation? How did you handle it? What is the commonly accepted behavior in such a circumstance?
I've been with my GF for a year now. A friend of hers is getting married in April in Mexico, and she wants me to go with her. Now, this will cost me $1000-1500 (not sure exactly, but that's the range). I've met this friend of hers twice for a couple of hours each time. I want to know what the accepted etiquette is here - am I expected to go? Is it okay if I say I can't (or, more accurately, don't want to) swing it financially? Should I say that I'm not comfortable spending that sort of dough to attend the wedding of people I barely know?
The only reason I ask this, really, is because we are also going on vacation in March, which itself will run me $1500-2000+. Now, if it were one or the other I wouldn't even be asking this question, but while I can afford it and make good money, I'm not comfortable with spending $3K+ in two months' time, especially when I barely know her friend to begin with.
Any of you been a similar situation? How did you handle it? What is the commonly accepted behavior in such a circumstance?
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