Girlfriend emotionally cheated on me

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Revoh

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Hi, I'll try to make this quick. Sorry if my english isn't very good, it's not my first language.
I'm in a 10 month relationship with this girl who is incredible in several ways but at the same time poisons me a lot.

She started working at a new job 4 months ago in a new field for her, so she is always excited talking about the things she learns every day and so on, but something clicked when she started talking about a guy she works with (The guy has one brother who also works with him). The dude is on another country, is married and have a kid. He and her brother travels to my country for work related things a few times a year. Anyway, I made the mistake of looking at their Skype conversation once when she first started the job and they talked all day non-stop. That made me paranoid because they had conversations about a lot of things which I don't talk with her on that level, you know? They just clicked.
So no biggie I say. But a few weeks later I notice they started talking on FB, Twitter, Whatsapp, pretty much everywhere. I never said anything to her but I noticed she was more possesive of her cellphone, she even changed her lock pattern (which I didn't knew) to a pin code and obviously that triggered something in me. What is she hiding? She knows I don't fuck around with other girls, I've told her several times my iPhone code and she can look at it whenever she wants.
I could sense she was hiding something.
At this point I let things be. That was 3 months ago.

Yesterday I had such a bad day, a lady crashed my car, my friend's dad passed away, I had several hardware issues on my servers. I was feeling so fucking down and thinking about her and that dude talking non-stop while I'm going through all of this and it was like I was trying to find something that could send me over the edge.
And I did.
I know it's fucked up but when you "sense" it, is it wrong to do what I did?
I looked at her Skype conversation with that guy of the entire month of December, which was probably our best month together, several trips, awesome moments, and so on.
To sum it up: I couldn't believe what I read. It was like watching the most fucked up porno movie in text form for an entire month. And I saw videos, pictures, voice messages, too.
The guy had to come for work 2 weeks ago and they were planning to fuck, in the end, the guy didn't come but her brother did, and he brought her a present from the guy. It was so fucking hurtful to read how a fucking scarf made her feel and when I planned a trip for her, made dinner reservations under the fucking full moon on the Iguazu Falls she didn't have that reaction.
I'm just torn to pieces, I want to confront her today and end this shit. I'm fueled with rage. I could destroy that guy's marriage. I could make her lose her fucking job, too. Fuck
I just needed to vent, GAF.
I don't know what to do.
I could never trust her again.
 
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MNC

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That sounds horrible. Confront her and break it up; the sooner you let her go the better. Let the rest go their merry way. Don't fuck up his marriage. Not your problem. Your girlfriend is your problem.
 
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PetriP-TNT

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You both seem to have some issues and would be much better separate so you could try that
 
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Captcha

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I'm sorry, that sounds rough, but you're right to drop her ass. Also, you wouldn't be destroying anyones marriage by exposing that dude; he already was planning on doing that himself. I'd tell his wife in a heart beat if you are able to somehow.
 
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stn

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Just break up with her, dude. Don't do stuff to spite her or anything like that, as tempting as it may seem. Let her know she's a shitty human being and end it. Cut contact. Then, go play some games, jerk off, hit the gym, and do anything that keeps you busy. Sorry to hear. Good luck. :)
 
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blakep267

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Yea I think that's past the point of emotional cheating since they actually planned on getting it in. And videos voice messages? Yea end it. It sucks but clearly she's clicks with this guy more than you( even if he is married)

Next time she comes in the house just sit on the couch waiting for her with a folder of all the messages. And dramatically read the first few lines of each before tossing them at her.
 
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Skiesofwonder

Walruses, camels, bears, rabbits, tigers and badgers.
End it.

The quicker you do it the better. And I'm sure temptations are strong to wreck havoc on these people, but the best route to take is to be as civil as possible when breaking it off. All the baggage that would come with getting even is just going to make it harder for you to move on.
 
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Gemüsepizza

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MNC said:
That sounds horrible. Confront her and break it up; the sooner you let her go the better. Let the rest go their merry way. Don't fuck up his marriage. Not your problem. Your girlfriend is your problem.
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Why? The guy probably cheated on his wife, and who knows if he got STDs or something like that. Of course he should tell her. The marriage is already fucked up by this loser.
 
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Brazil

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Leave her. Let her be miserable as that guy's mistress or something. She clearly doesn't deserve you.
 
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Dwalls

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You shouldn't take my advice but you should. Dump her pronto. Like don't even bother talking it out, just straight up end it.
 
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OrbitalBeard

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Ten months? Man.....break up with her and move on. You'll get through this and find someone better. Fortunately, you haven't even been dating a year, so, while it will be hard for awhile, you'll definitely be able to heal and journey onward in life.
 
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Currygan

at last, for christ's sake
seems like the game's over man. Drop her and never look back. Be strong, it aint' gonna be easy
 
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Rad-

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End it but I wouldn't tell his wife because they got a kid and all. He might be a cheating scumbag but still a decent father.
 
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Discusguy

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Courage said:
Break up with her and stop invading other people's privacy.
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I was lead to believe there was no privacy between couples?




OP it's over. Move on since you can't trust her. Other good girls out there that would appreciate you. Don't let this one event in your life ruin your outlook towards girls. Move on with confidence.
 
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I'm an expert

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Do you have the balls to confront her, break it off, and instantly move on with your life? Ruin the job/marriage and enjoy the freedom.

Or are you gonna make a thread in a week about how you can't leave your room anymore, cry all day, and not even your beloved video games please you. Just keep being a doormat then till she drops you.
 
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MNC said:
That sounds horrible. Confront her and break it up; the sooner you let her go the better. Let the rest go their merry way. Don't fuck up his marriage. Not your problem. Your girlfriend is your problem.
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Are you fucking serious? This asshole ruined OPs relationship, no one should get away scot free with this kind of shit. No one.
 
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panty

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Gaf will shit on you because you checked her message history but yeah, dumb that girl. Also inform the wife of the dude, if possible.

Do it. The trust is gone.
 
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rtcn63

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Honestly, you probably should have ended it three months ago. And collateral damage is unpredictable, best to just walk away. Be glad you're not married or have kids together.
 
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Piers

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That's awful. As others have suggested, drop it quickly and move on.
Also, if you can, get the majority of your self-confidence and esteem from other sources as it makes break ups easier to cope with.
 
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Gamerloid

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A significant other with no loyalty is worthless, drop her. That part is a no brainer, but exposing the guy to his wife is up for debate. I'd expose him just because I'd want someone to do the same for me instead of leaving me in the dark being cheated on. Tell her, show proof if you can, then leave it up to her and move on with your life.
 
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Valnen

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Rad- said:
End it but I wouldn't tell his wife because they got a kid and all. He might be a cheating scumbag but still a decent father.
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And risk letting the wife get infected with an STD? Yeah, no. Some things are more important than keeping parents together, and this is one of them.
 
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Blair

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10 months? Man put yourself in that dudes wifes shoes, that is her life fucked up when she finds out (even if you don't tell her she will eventually)

Move on and let these pair of idiots have shit love lifes.
 
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Jawbreaker

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In my experience, once they start casually mentioning some dude they just met in a very positive manner and talking about how fun/funny they are, some shit's going down and you better be wary. It's never a good sign. Like others have said, break it off.
 
Jaffaboy

Jaffaboy

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At this point I let things be. That was 3 months ago.
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That was your downfall right there. You won't be making that mistake again. If you think there's something up in a relationship, sort that out asap.

Leave her and move on, and also don't be tempted to enact revenge or anything on the married dude, let him fuck it up himself and keep your conscience clear.
 
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