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[Admiral Woofington]

OP. Break it off. This won't get better. There might be a part of you that might think "hey this might be a one time thing" especially if you talk but it usually isn't. If somebody has cheated before they are very likely to cheat again, or in this case try again. Apparently the brother knows as well. I feel for you after all of the bad luck but staying in the relationship with her is only going to make it worst.

Do it face to face as well in a public setting if you want. Less of a chance either of you will make a scene. Just tell her it's over, don't give her reasons besides "I can't trust you anymore".

As to going all out and ruining her career and his marriage, really consider your options. Be the better man in this case. Unless you have the proof it's you vs them, and unless the wife already suspects him you probably won't do much damage without proof. Keep it as a 'weapon' for later if she ever starts talking shit about you publicly. Once you've had time to heal. But you want to be calm and collected when you do this.

 

[Tabris]

Make her feel really bad about it, and then leave.

It's probably the only way she will learn to not be a cheater in the future.

But it's over for you guys. Forgiveness is for long term marriages.

 

[Pankratous]

What a fucking horrible thing man. I feel bad for you OP. Dump her and move on, you can do better. Also you have this Gaffers blessing to screw that guy over.

 

[royalan]

Yeah, I'd say she cheated cheated on you. Just because they haven't fucked yet, they were planning to.

That's awful.

OP, you need to get out. Get out now.

 

[Mohonky]

Confront her. Just to watch her wriggle a bit then fuck her off.

Send the shit he's been sending to your g/f to his wife about what they were planning etc. fuck him.

 

[Revoh]

Drop her and delete all possible contact avenues. She's dead now.

I already deleted and blocked her on everything. Yeah, I'm going to tell her exactly that when I see her later today. Dead.

Yea I think that's past the point of emotional cheating since they actually planned on getting it in. And videos voice messages? Yea end it. It sucks but clearly she's clicks with this guy more than you( even if he is married)

Next time she comes in the house just sit on the couch waiting for her with a folder of all the messages. And dramatically read the first few lines of each before tossing them at her.

I have the logs on my Google Drive. Yeah, I'm thinking the best way to confront her. I want to make her suffer.

Howd you get access to her skype conversations?

She told me her hotmail password once when I signed up to Netflix with her email address, I need to access her email to verify the Netflix account so, there you go.

Do you have the balls to confront her, break it off, and instantly move on with your life? Ruin the job/marriage and enjoy the freedom.

Or are you gonna make a thread in a week about how you can't leave your room anymore, cry all day, and not even your beloved video games please you. Just keep being a doormat then till she drops you.

I have the balls to do break it.
I just don't enjoy, or better said, I don't enjoy being "free". I enjoy spending time with her. But I'll find something to do.

Destroy them both. Atleast inform his wife.

I already sent her a message on FB but she hasn't read it yet.

 

[Howard Ballou]

Before you dump her ass, say you have a present for her and give her a scarf.

And yes, you should let the other guy's wife know.

 

[Baron Aloha]

Drop her. Break that guy's marriage if it's easily doable. His wife probably deserves better!

This is exactly what you should do OP.

 

[AlexMogil]

From the perspective of the guy's wife though, let me put it this way:

Would you want to know? Would you want to know if someone was cheating on you and knew it? Would you want someone to tell you? Take the revenge out of it (if possible). Would you have wanted someone to tell you?

Then weigh the risks.

 

[kmax]

dump her asap

 

[charsace]

Tell the wife. All is fair in love and war. This dude dropped the first bomb so imo you should nuke him.

 

[FullMetaltech]

OP. Break it off. This won't get better. There might be a part of you that might think "hey this might be a one time thing" especially if you talk but it usually isn't. If somebody has cheated before they are very likely to cheat again, or in this case try again. Apparently the brother knows as well. I feel for you after all of the bad luck but staying in the relationship with her is only going to make it worst.

Do it face to face as well in a public setting if you want. Less of a chance either of you will make a scene. Just tell her it's over, don't give her reasons besides "I can't trust you anymore".

As to going all out and ruining her career and his marriage, really consider your options. Be the better man in this case. Unless you have the proof it's you vs them, and unless the wife already suspects him you probably won't do much damage without proof. Keep it as a 'weapon' for later if she ever starts talking shit about you publicly. Once you've had time to heal. But you want to be calm and collected when you do this.

Great advice here OP. Just end it and be the better man. Surround yourself with friends and family.

 

[Tabris]

I gotta say re-reading the story. This is much worse than if she just hooked up with some random guy after a night of drinking. At least that has some semblance of being a mistake.

This was out-right cheating. This was thought out. If it's been 4 weeks of this, that's all the time where she was thinking "I'm cheating on you" and didn't care.

 

[SDBurton]

OP. Break it off. This won't get better. There might be a part of you that might think "hey this might be a one time thing" especially if you talk but it usually isn't. If somebody has cheated before they are very likely to cheat again, or in this case try again. Apparently the brother knows as well. I feel for you after all of the bad luck but staying in the relationship with her is only going to make it worst.

Do it face to face as well in a public setting if you want. Less of a chance either of you will make a scene. Just tell her it's over, don't give her reasons besides "I can't trust you anymore".

As to going all out and ruining her career and his marriage, really consider your options. Be the better man in this case. Unless you have the proof it's you vs them, and unless the wife already suspects him you probably won't do much damage without proof. Keep it as a 'weapon' for later if she ever starts talking shit about you publicly. Once you've had time to heal. But you want to be calm and collected when you do this.

Can people stop with this? It's attitudes like this that people continue to cheat. They need to face the consequences of their actions.

 

[FLAguy954]

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This is the only answer.

The real question is..

Will you be like most GAF users who post threads like this and ignore advice, or will you be the smart one who actually listens?

Yup, please don't join the group of GAF users who didn't listen.

 

[chadderbox77]

In my experience, once they start casually mentioning some dude they just met in a very positive manner and talking about how fun/funny they are, some shit's going down and you better be wary. It's never a good sign. Like others have said, break it off.

Amen. It's never a good thing ever when this happens. Run. And you should show that wife some proof and save her from her shitty husband as well.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

Jesus. I'd like to say "wait until the holidays are over, they might have kids" but I guess it's worthless now. OP you went with the full on revenge route. It might come back later to bite you in the ass, but if that's what you went with then go with it the whole way. See it through.

Can people stop with this? It's attitudes like this that people continue to cheat. They need to face the consequences of their actions.

They do and maybe I'm the polar opposite, but ruining all of their lives within a few days is not something I necessarily agree with either. But I'm not in this situation so obviously I have no right to say it, just gave my two cents.

 

[Go_Ly_Dow]

Dump her coldly. And then inform the wife immediately. Maybe send her some print screens or something. She has a right to know.

Make sure you get all your shit back immediately and never look back. Don't give her closure and cut all contact. Never reply.

 

[cm osi]

Burn the bridge behind you, leave no retreat
There's only one way home

 

[Nuklear]

Soon as she started locking her phone it was time to dump her. Thankfully it's only been 10 months and not like 5 years and she's starting to pull this shit.

 

[Instro]

Fuck the guys wife.

 

[Always-honest]

That's a nightmare dude.
She really cheated on you imo.

If it's in your power, try to stay cool, end the relationship. Don't let her emotionally get tomyou by saying you didn't trust her and you shouldn't have looked at her skype messages. She gave you reasons to doubt her.

Try to keep on good terms with her and take care of all the shitty stuff that needs ti happen.

Then find a place to live for you or for her and slowly start your new life. Best to break with all contact after that, at least for a year. Leave it all behind you.

I can't judge your relationship so i have no idea why she did this. But considere the relationship ruined, provided an open relationship is not what you want.

Best of luck. This will take a bite out of your confidence but there are great honest people out there.

 

[Banana Aeon]

I'm petty as hell with things like this. I would try and ruin both girl that cheated on me, and whom she cheated on me with, especially if they knew, lives.

I take this shit seriously.

 

[ThatCrazyGuy]

There's only one thing to do here. Break it off. It will only get worse and there is no going back. Take the advice me and others have stated!

I would tell his wife as well.

 

[Daemul]

Drop a nuke then bounce OP

 

[Sesuadra]

I am not one for revenge usually. but tell his wife and include some proof, break it off with her fast and clean.

no discussion, just a "I know you have done this and that, I told his wife, you are dead to me k thx. bye"

and go. no discussion, give her no chance at all to answer so she can drag you into a fight or discussion

 

[SYNTAX182]

Please tell the wife. She deserves to know. This is better for the kids as well, if there are any. What if they find out later on that their dad was cheating and their mom stayed with the dad? They're gonna think cheating is an OK thing to do and the cycle continues.

 

[Valnen]

I already deleted and blocked her on everything. Yeah, I'm going to tell her exactly that when I see her later today. Dead.


I have the logs on my Google Drive. Yeah, I'm thinking the best way to confront her. I want to make her suffer.


She told me her hotmail password once when I signed up to Netflix with her email address, I need to access her email to verify the Netflix account so, there you go.


I have the balls to do break it.
I just don't enjoy, or better said, I don't enjoy being "free". I enjoy spending time with her. But I'll find something to do.

I already sent her a message on FB but she hasn't read it yet.

Satisfying ending. Good job man. You'll fine someone better.

 

[BitStyle]

I am not one for revenge usually. but tell his wife and include some proof, break it off with her fast and clean.

no discussion, just a "I know you have done this and that, I told his wife, you are dead to me k thx. bye"

and go. no discussion, give her no chance at all to answer so she can drag you into a fight or discussion

This is the important part, because it'll only lead to excuses and blame shifting.

 

[Admiral Woofington]

One thing is for sure OP, as others have stated once you break it off surround yourself with friends and family. They'll be your strength.

Also it should be obvious but keep away from alcohol. It's not going to help. Whatsoever. So many people will resort to it to help cope. But family, friends are what you need.

 

[Tabris]

Oh wow. You did it. This may sound morbid but if you aren't too emotional about it, would love to see what the wife said in response and how your conversation goes with your ex.

 

[Tertullian]

The most important thing is to keep us updated, so that we can wallow in schadenfreude.

 

[Josh with a J]

Sorry bud. Just move on to the next

 

[Bboy AJ]

OP, record the confrontation with your gf.

 

[neorej]

She cheated on you. He cheated on his wife. Drop a screenshot of that conversation to the wife.
Next you get her down on all fours, fuck her hard and right before you cum, you whisper the guys name in her ear. Right after you cum, tell her she has an hour to grab her stuff and GTFO forever.

 

[Tabris]

OP, record the confrontation with your gf.

This would be glorious. Morbid of course, but glorious.

 

[SeanR1221]

OP, record the confrontation with your gf.

Hire someone to yell World STAAAAR

film it vertically.

 

[RichyMtl]

Break up with her but don't bring up the messages things, she'll make a scene out of it and make you feel like the bad guy!

And don't ruin anybody's life, karmr will take care if it!

 

[MoodyFog]

She cheated on you. He cheated on his wife. Drop a screenshot of that conversation to the wife.
Next you get her down on all fours, fuck her hard and right before you cum, you whisper the guys name in her ear. Right after you cum, tell her she has an hour to grab her stuff and GTFO forever.

Then she claims you raped her

 

[Mechanized]

I already deleted and blocked her on everything. Yeah, I'm going to tell her exactly that when I see her later today. Dead.


I have the logs on my Google Drive. Yeah, I'm thinking the best way to confront her. I want to make her suffer.


She told me her hotmail password once when I signed up to Netflix with her email address, I need to access her email to verify the Netflix account so, there you go.


I have the balls to do break it.
I just don't enjoy, or better said, I don't enjoy being "free". I enjoy spending time with her. But I'll find something to do.

I already sent her a message on FB but she hasn't read it yet.

Proud of you dude! No sarcasm. It takes balls to do this kinda thing and not wuss out and be all like "muh muh muh maybe she'll change for me, maybe it was all my fault" which is a trap that a lot of people get caught up in. Cut the cord and move on. It's kinda cold comfort, but you stood up for yourself right here and now- you put the stake in the ground saying you will not tolerate this kinda BS. You are a strong person and I wish you all the best in your future relationships. But like others have said, don't get paranoid with the next one just because this one was a dud. Use your gut just the same as you did here if you have a reason to suspect something but don't carry her shitty baggage forward.

 

[ohlawd]

good job telling the wife. your entire post pretty much. that's the way to do it.

smh at some of these posts tho. The wife has the right to know. "she'll find out sooner or later" is a horrid mindset.

 

[Schrade]

Stop giving advice already. Read the whole thread. OP already said what he is going to do.

 

[ZeroX03]

I already sent her a message on FB but she hasn't read it yet.

She won't see the message if you aren't FB friends, it goes to a junk inbox nobody ever checks. Add her as a friend or use another social media outlet.

That's my enabling vengeful behavior deed of the day

 

[Mammoth Jones]

Drop her. Break that guy's marriage if it's easily doable. His wife probably deserves better!

This is how I feel.

 

[Lakitu]

I'd tell the wife for sure. It feels like it's the right thing to do. She may be a bit more ignorant towards the situation unlike you and may not know a single thing. You should just tell her, give her proof and give her the heads up, it's what I'd want if the roles were reversed.

Then what happens next is up to them, they can work through it or they can separate. At least she will know and that guy will no longer be a cheating scumbag.

Sorry to hear though. I hate cheats. But what's worst than a cheat? Cheaters who don't have the guts to tell the truth and use you in the process.

 

[Dominator]

Wrap up the scarf he gave her and pretend you're giving her a new present. She'll open it, be confused, and then thats when you tell her to fuck off.

 

[Go_Ly_Dow]

OP since you're not friends with his wife on FB the message may go to her "others" box and she may receive no notification.

So you may need to add her as a friend and resend the message.

 

[SeanR1221]

Put the videos she sent him on your iPad. Then, at night, "forget" to plug your headphones in and play the videos.

 

[Cow Mengde]

I already deleted and blocked her on everything. Yeah, I'm going to tell her exactly that when I see her later today. Dead.


I have the logs on my Google Drive. Yeah, I'm thinking the best way to confront her. I want to make her suffer.


She told me her hotmail password once when I signed up to Netflix with her email address, I need to access her email to verify the Netflix account so, there you go.


I have the balls to do break it.
I just don't enjoy, or better said, I don't enjoy being "free". I enjoy spending time with her. But I'll find something to do.

I already sent her a message on FB but she hasn't read it yet.

Good job! Also, don't buy the karma baloney. Tell the guy's wife. She's a victim, too. I also believe in all's fair in love and war.

 

[OverBlood 3]

Messed up.