Zoe
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(does the "bitch face" really work for repulsing would-be harassers? xD)
That + being short and fat does the trick for me, I think. It helps being below people's peripherals.
(does the "bitch face" really work for repulsing would-be harassers? xD)
thanks gals :3 will check the stuff out
and I've actually been meaning to get into pratchett so thanks for the reminder!
Because an alarm siren goes off in my head when anyone on GAF asks for book recommendations:
Pratchett/Baxter's Long Earth/Long War/Long Mars
John Darnielle's wolf in white Van (not fantasy, but enthralling)
Jeff VanderMeer's Southern Reach Trilogy (Annihilation, Authority, Acceptance) [Dark fantasy/science fiction, involving identity, loss of such, theft of such, ecology, destruction of, consequences of wrecking, etc.]
Yeah, some might think that Japan, being so 'safe' and 'sterile', with people so polite, would never have cases of harassment.
When I visited, I encountered some weird forms of harassment (though not sexual). Every now and then, I'd run into some weird middle-aged/older guy at a train station who would open up with wanting to "practice their English", and it would slowly turn into a weird, passive-aggressive anti-American rant.
Like there was one guy who seemed like he was nice, saw us as obvious travelers and wanted to chat about places abroad and practice his English. He was jovial as he talked to us about American trivia (he surprisingly knew a lot, more than us), and then he asked us if we could clarify the meaning of some passages on some English text he was reading. The passages seemed innocuous at first, but then it got weirder and weirder, with cryptic excerpts from the Bible and stuff about America being evil colonialists or something.
The whole point was to get us to read these statements out loud and assure him that we "understood what it meant", all the while with his shit-eating grin and attitude of superiority. It was fucking weird, and we had to bail as he kept going on and on with his creepshow.
After that, we learned to just ignore dudes approaching us with "can we practice our English?" approaches. Sorry if you're a legitimate English-learning train passenger, but those nationalist weirdos ruined it for the rest of you.
This is something that gets better over time. At first, he is more concerned with the jokes. It slowly becomes more about the characters, to the point where I can't read some of the books without crying. Pratchett loves his word play, but he has a ton of compassion for his characters.ohh thanks!
I actually started reading "guards! guards!" by pratchett and it's very well-written, witty and entertaining so far but the constant implicit sarcasm kinda keeps you from getting drawn into the fiction completely imo. which is a minor downer cause that's what I wanted in the first place.
will check the other stuff out you mentioned!
Heh, some people live their entire lives here without learning a word of French, so...Well a friend of mine has chronic bitch face and she gets the whole smile thing a lot, so maybe Montreal is onto something! I'm not learning french though.
I'm not short and fat, but I'm rather plain looking. I can't help but wonder if attractiveness does have something to do with it... But meh, I'd rather keep my unattractiveness and not get harassed daily, hah.That + being short and fat does the trick for me, I think. It helps being below people's peripherals.
thanks gals :3 will check the stuff out
and I've actually been meaning to get into pratchett so thanks for the reminder!
I'm not short and fat, but I'm rather plain looking. I can't help but wonder if attractiveness does have something to do with it... But meh, I'd rather keep my unattractiveness and not get harassed daily, hah.
That + being short and fat does the trick for me, I think. It helps being below people's peripherals.
I was really late to the party, but I posted in the street harassment thread too. The most I've had to deal with such stuff is on my trip to Japan, while wandering around alone in Tokyo, a middle-aged (I'm assuming of course) man came up to me, maybe even tapped my arm, to ask if I wanted to go out for coffee. Since I'm not exposed to that sort of thing often, it was mostly amusing. He went on his way after I either told him no pretended I didn't understand (don't remember which I actually did). That was 11 years ago too. Ugh, I feel old saying that.
Yeah, some might think that Japan, being so 'safe' and 'sterile', with people so polite, would never have cases of harassment.
When I visited, I encountered some weird forms of harassment (though not sexual). Every now and then, I'd run into some weird middle-aged/older guy at a train station who would open up with wanting to "practice their English", and it would slowly turn into a weird, passive-aggressive anti-American rant.
Like there was one guy who seemed like he was nice, saw us as obvious travelers and wanted to chat about places abroad and practice his English. He was jovial as he talked to us about American trivia (he surprisingly knew a lot, more than us), and then he asked us if we could clarify the meaning of some passages on some English text he was reading. The passages seemed innocuous at first, but then it got weirder and weirder, with cryptic excerpts from the Bible and stuff about America being evil colonialists or something.
The whole point was to get us to read these statements out loud and assure him that we "understood what it meant", all the while with his shit-eating grin and attitude of superiority. It was fucking weird, and we had to bail as he kept going on and on with his creepshow.
After that, we learned to just ignore dudes approaching us with "can we practice our English?" approaches. Sorry if you're a legitimate English-learning train passenger, but those nationalist weirdos ruined it for the rest of you.
I'm steering well clear of that thread - it'll only make me rage. Kudos to those of you who've been trying to fight our corner, fruitless though it may be.
It's funny in a sad way that every time a thread on street harassment happens, it's the same old shit over and over again. Girl Gaf comes out in force to talk about it, are told they are wrong or ignored, and after repeating myself like four times in that thread I've just given up. Let them think that we are saying that saying hello is exactly like rape now. People like that aren't going to learn anything, mostly because they have their fingers in their ears.
I'm happy that at least one or two people quoted me and said they hadn't thought of it that way, and might have a different perspective from now on. Progress. Tiny, tiny, progress, but progress none the less.
Now that girl Gaf has mostly abandoned the thread out of exhaustion, they can debate what the word harassment means to their hearts content.
/rant
And I thought that thread couldn't get any worse. Holy shit.
That was before someone compared women to pitbulls. Also, it can always get worse. This is what it's like with a moderation team known far and wide as Feminazi SJW-shills.
Just imagine what the same conversation looks like on IGN or 8chan
I feel like it became "white men aren't the bad ones, it's the coloreds."
....... . . . . . . . . .
/headdesk
*edit: Nevermind, just saw the newest banned guy.
WOMEN ARE EVIL LIKE PITBULLS. NOT ALL OF THEM BUT YOU NEVER KNOW.
............
Why are you doing this to meJust imagine what the same conversation looks like on IGN or 8chan
Yeah, same here. It ended up happening pretty much any time I went out somewhere that wasn't university. It was one of the things that made me thankful for the women's carriages and put off living there again, unfortunately There was one night I was out in Osaka with a couple of friends and over the course of half an hour we got hassled by three groups of men (the last of whom were in their 50s and kept asking each other in Japanese all kinds of creepy shit like did the other hear where we were getting off and how old were we).
man what the hell, that's awful. If it makes you feel any better a got to make a lot of people look sad when I told them I wasn't American (or Russian :s). One of the reasons I was thinking about learning a European language, since a lot of my friends were able to make the "no English" comment and walk away.
It's funny in a sad way that every time a thread on street harassment happens, it's the same old shit over and over again. Girl Gaf comes out in force to talk about it, are told they are wrong or ignored, and after repeating myself like four times in that thread I've just given up. Let them think that we are saying that saying hello is exactly like rape now. People like that aren't going to learn anything, mostly because they have their fingers in their ears.
I'm happy that at least one or two people quoted me and said they hadn't thought of it that way, and might have a different perspective from now on. Progress. Tiny, tiny, progress, but progress none the less.
Now that girl Gaf has mostly abandoned the thread out of exhaustion, they can debate what the word harassment means to their hearts content.
/rant
Ehhh, yes, and no. I use "the culture," but for example-- guns in supermarkets? "The culture." But for a lot of people that use "the culture," they should really be using "the socio-econ class," but they don't because they mistake what it's like to grow up without hope of a future, with having to do with skin color.
I don't remember any of this, but I was a shut-in that played videogames until college (and I chose happily to have sex at 15 with my 16 year old bf), so honestly I don't remember any of this happening until college.
That isn't to say that most of it happens way too early, or too frequently (at all).
does any of you girls know if there's a princess leia bikini? not talking the slave costume but something that resembles it and is actually waterproof. I've seen all kinds of stuff, like wonder woman inspired bikinis but not the leia thing :l
Between the harassment thread, the "females masterbating" thread, the "how do I give my girlfriend an orgasm" thread, and the "does this girl want to have sex with me???" thread....
I'm beginning to think maybe we are really mysterious creatures.
halloween is not really celebrated here :< so im dressing up as... pyjama-wearing person :x
I spent Halloween dressed as myself.
Everyone was terrified.
I don't like to comment on guys pics here ever. I just don't feel like it will lead anywhere productive.
But there's a particular person on the last page of that thread before it got locked who is oh my god.
Thanks for posting this. I hadn't been following that thread (I tend to avoid because I've learned it just takes up a lot of time and makes me angry) but . . . I can appreciate those last couple of pages.I don't like to comment on guys pics here ever. I just don't feel like it will lead anywhere productive.
But there's a particular person on the last page of that thread before it got locked who is oh my god.
Honestly, you know what you did wasn't cool. I don't know exactly what went down, but from what I saw, you sounded like the kind of guys who harass my sister and me on the street, assuming a bunch of shit because we don't accept the sexual advances of a stranger.Girl GAF am I a creep? I drunk. No get banned please. I good guy. Ask Pau and Karkador please. I get D drunk at party. Please mods.
What was it?I feel like I just took a punch in the stomach. I just read something that fucked my mind completely up and I feel like I have absolutely nobody I can talk to about it.
I'm freaking the fuck out.
You're never really alone. There are always people there for you.I feel like I just took a punch in the stomach. I just read something that fucked my mind completely up and I feel like I have absolutely nobody I can talk to about it.
I'm freaking the fuck out.
This website you can design your own swimwear, so maybe they can make it for you, unless there'd be some problem with copywrite
http://www.splish.com
I spent Halloween dressed as myself.
Everyone was terrified.
lol, she just said she isn't comfortable talking about it...What was it?
lol, she just said she isn't comfortable talking about it...
That said, yeah, what Amalthea said. Perhaps you could PM someone here? It does feel like you want to talk about it, and just are scared to...
this might be a good idea. I'm always happy to provide an open ear if someone here needs it. just putting it out there for Mineshaft_Gap, happy to help if you wanna pm someone. but I think this probably goes for a lot of girls here so don't be hesitant.
lol, she just said she isn't comfortable talking about it...