Long story short I go to school that is kinda of known for having snobby privileged kids who live of their families money and the girls are, for the most part, bratty spoiled kids (of course there are normal girls too). I really dislike these types of people especially because i worked my ass off to get into college. Im also in the CS department so you know, not much opportunity to meet girls so I decided I wouldn't look for a relationship and focus on my school work this semester. But then I was doing well in my class and I just finished a personal project so I wanted to look for a girlfriend. I saw a girl at the bus stop and never saw her before so I struck up a conversion with her, and one thing led to another and we started dating. Shes really cool and she worked hard to get into college like me and also dislikes the types of people I described above. We like the same shows and have the same sense of humor, so I really like her and don't want to lose her.
But then 1 month into the relationship (we have been dating around 2 months today) she started getting angry at me for talking to my housemates. The way my house works is that guys live on the first floor then on the second floor girls live there. Im friends with all the girls on the 2nd floor and with this one girl I would always go out her before I met my girlfriend because I wanted to see the party scene and she always had been invited to a party and knew where to go. I had NO feelings for the girl upstairs and never even tried anything, but my girlfriend DOESNT believe me and gets angry everytime I talk to her.
My girlfriend is taking a semester break from school and working to pay for school. She works at a local best buy, but she this city has shitty public transport and sometimes she has to work early so she usually takes a cab to work or from work if its raining. But in the event that the cabs are busy in the morning guy coworkers of hers offer to give her rides. I understand she needs to work but this makes me feel kinda uncomfortable especially because of the next thing she told me.
She told me that since she started working there (about 3 months before we met) A LOT of guys, (if i count all the names she told me 10+) hit on her and ask her for number. And they text her constantly to tell jokes or ask her to go somewhere. And the REALLY fucked up part is that most of these guys are in relationships (they know my girlfriend knows that) and 3 of the guys are married or engaged. WTF. She tells them shes not interested and even at one point she said she told the HR manager and for a while some of the guys stopped bothering her but now they just started up again.
She also tells them shes in a relationship with me, but it doesn't stop them from hitting on her. Because she sees the majority of the guys in her workplace trying to cheat on their partner she assumes all guys are like that thus she doesn't trust me. And im pissed off that these guys in a relationship are borderline sexually abusing my girlfriend and not leaving her alone. I don't want to get her in trouble and go to where she works and make a scene telling these guys to fuck off and stay away from my girlfriend (or god forbid fight someone, like am i really going to fight 10 best buy employees) but I don't know what to do at this point. Thoughts gaf?
Edit: guys who hit on her got her # from other friends or coworkers who don't hit on her she did not give it to them
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Update: Sorry for the necro bump and late conclusion but here it is...
After my girlfriend got angry at me for eating cake at my housemates birthday party (background:my housemate is a girl who I have no interest in but have been friends with for 1 semester. When I would go out on the weekends I wouldn't know any parties so I would always go with her, but nothing ever happened and I really never even considered doing anything with her) and got angry at me because she thought I was looking at other women on Instragram we broke up and I kept my distance for a while.
Meanwhile at my house, my housemate who I have told numerous times to stop communicating with me because my girlfriend doesn't want me talking to her continues to invite me to go places and come downstairs to the first floor (where I live) and try to talk to me. I need somewhere to place the blame on losing my girlfriend (irrational I know) so I get increasingly angry at this girl and every time she tries to talk to me I am dismissive and I eventually block her on FB messanger because I don't want her in my life. I, however only blocked her on messenger, and did not know that you could had to block someone on the actual Facebook app as well. I try to do that too, but I am prompted for a login and I was angry at the time so I decide to do it later.
Flash -forward 1-2 weeks and I go back to my girlfriends house to get some stuff I left over there. I ask her if we can be friends and then try to date later once she trusts me, she agrees and we proceed to go to an arcade later that week. We had a good time and agree that we should get back to together, but I told her (2 weeks ago) that I had blocked my housemate from Facebook. She says she will only get back together with me with I show her I blocked my housemate. I show her my phone, but forgot I only blocked her on messenger and not the FB app, she proceeds to flip out. I tell her it was a mistake and I swear I thought I had her blocked , she temporarily believes me.
The next day she says she called her sister and her sister thinks that Im a liar and I didn't block her on purpose so she is convinced about that. She also uses the fact that Im a computer science major (wtf) to say that I should know how to use FB 100% so she thinks Im lying. I convince her otherwise again (somehow) and we agree to keep the relationship going and find a couples counselor to talk about this stuff.
We spend like 2 weeks together and have a great time playing video games, going out, etc... Everything seemed great. I help her move into her new place and later she tells me that she is still worried that I lied about sleeping with my housemate. She tells me about a dude at her workplace who is married to a co-worker but cheats on her with another co-worker. She imposes this situation on me, and declares that Im dating my housemate and cheating on my housemate with her, or that my housemate is cool with me sleeping with both of them. (Wtf) I tell her that shes crazy, and thats not the case. Keep in mind it is summer break and everyone (all my housemates) has left back to their respective homes so no one I know is still in this town.
She is a huge activist (for anything feminism, BLM, fair-trade anything basically) and participates in local events and has a tight knit group of activists that she regularly talks to on a group chat. There is a guy in her activist group that she has been friends with for years and they hang out/go drinking all the time. She says how much I had in common with my housemates as a reason for why I would have slept with her, I say the same thing about this guy in her activist group and she says while he is interested in her they are just friends. She also told me 1 week before I am not allowed to have any female friends anymore, I don't have that much in the first place so I thought, "okay I'll cross that bridge when I come to it". But the fucked up part in my mind is that she still has guys friends, including this guy in the activist group and the dudes at her work. Im getting angry, but I never say anything I am saving it for therapy for which we had an appointment which was a week away.
We blow over it again and go back to hanging out and playing games, like normal. I had sex with the night before (not bragging its part of the story read on), and she goes home to get ready for work later. I text her the next day if she wants to do something, she says she'll hang out with a girlfriend. I reluctantly say okay, because if Im not hanging out with her I have nothing to do (all my friends left and I am staying her just for her, I also want to go home for the summer). She then says she did not want to have sex with me last night but did anyway. I tell her she could have just told me, shes told me before and I respect her decision. She says "it doesn't matter now anyway". I ask her what she meant and she doesn't respond to me for 3 days.
After 3 days she said she just wanted some space, (understandable we spent the whole previous week together) I say okay you could have just told me. She says she still not over me and what she thinks I did with my housemate. She then says she doesn't want to date me because I am too young (she is 27 and I am 22 even though we are both college seniors) and claims I am immature. I argue my case, and she doesn't text back for another 5 days.
So here I am 5 days after, I think its over, but I want closure (Are we broken up? Why are we braking up? etc). She will not answer any of my calls or read my messages, so I am considering going to her house (or where she works) but I don't want to seem crazy, what should I do?
But then 1 month into the relationship (we have been dating around 2 months today) she started getting angry at me for talking to my housemates. The way my house works is that guys live on the first floor then on the second floor girls live there. Im friends with all the girls on the 2nd floor and with this one girl I would always go out her before I met my girlfriend because I wanted to see the party scene and she always had been invited to a party and knew where to go. I had NO feelings for the girl upstairs and never even tried anything, but my girlfriend DOESNT believe me and gets angry everytime I talk to her.
My girlfriend is taking a semester break from school and working to pay for school. She works at a local best buy, but she this city has shitty public transport and sometimes she has to work early so she usually takes a cab to work or from work if its raining. But in the event that the cabs are busy in the morning guy coworkers of hers offer to give her rides. I understand she needs to work but this makes me feel kinda uncomfortable especially because of the next thing she told me.
She told me that since she started working there (about 3 months before we met) A LOT of guys, (if i count all the names she told me 10+) hit on her and ask her for number. And they text her constantly to tell jokes or ask her to go somewhere. And the REALLY fucked up part is that most of these guys are in relationships (they know my girlfriend knows that) and 3 of the guys are married or engaged. WTF. She tells them shes not interested and even at one point she said she told the HR manager and for a while some of the guys stopped bothering her but now they just started up again.
She also tells them shes in a relationship with me, but it doesn't stop them from hitting on her. Because she sees the majority of the guys in her workplace trying to cheat on their partner she assumes all guys are like that thus she doesn't trust me. And im pissed off that these guys in a relationship are borderline sexually abusing my girlfriend and not leaving her alone. I don't want to get her in trouble and go to where she works and make a scene telling these guys to fuck off and stay away from my girlfriend (or god forbid fight someone, like am i really going to fight 10 best buy employees) but I don't know what to do at this point. Thoughts gaf?
Edit: guys who hit on her got her # from other friends or coworkers who don't hit on her she did not give it to them
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Update: Sorry for the necro bump and late conclusion but here it is...
After my girlfriend got angry at me for eating cake at my housemates birthday party (background:my housemate is a girl who I have no interest in but have been friends with for 1 semester. When I would go out on the weekends I wouldn't know any parties so I would always go with her, but nothing ever happened and I really never even considered doing anything with her) and got angry at me because she thought I was looking at other women on Instragram we broke up and I kept my distance for a while.
Meanwhile at my house, my housemate who I have told numerous times to stop communicating with me because my girlfriend doesn't want me talking to her continues to invite me to go places and come downstairs to the first floor (where I live) and try to talk to me. I need somewhere to place the blame on losing my girlfriend (irrational I know) so I get increasingly angry at this girl and every time she tries to talk to me I am dismissive and I eventually block her on FB messanger because I don't want her in my life. I, however only blocked her on messenger, and did not know that you could had to block someone on the actual Facebook app as well. I try to do that too, but I am prompted for a login and I was angry at the time so I decide to do it later.
Flash -forward 1-2 weeks and I go back to my girlfriends house to get some stuff I left over there. I ask her if we can be friends and then try to date later once she trusts me, she agrees and we proceed to go to an arcade later that week. We had a good time and agree that we should get back to together, but I told her (2 weeks ago) that I had blocked my housemate from Facebook. She says she will only get back together with me with I show her I blocked my housemate. I show her my phone, but forgot I only blocked her on messenger and not the FB app, she proceeds to flip out. I tell her it was a mistake and I swear I thought I had her blocked , she temporarily believes me.
The next day she says she called her sister and her sister thinks that Im a liar and I didn't block her on purpose so she is convinced about that. She also uses the fact that Im a computer science major (wtf) to say that I should know how to use FB 100% so she thinks Im lying. I convince her otherwise again (somehow) and we agree to keep the relationship going and find a couples counselor to talk about this stuff.
We spend like 2 weeks together and have a great time playing video games, going out, etc... Everything seemed great. I help her move into her new place and later she tells me that she is still worried that I lied about sleeping with my housemate. She tells me about a dude at her workplace who is married to a co-worker but cheats on her with another co-worker. She imposes this situation on me, and declares that Im dating my housemate and cheating on my housemate with her, or that my housemate is cool with me sleeping with both of them. (Wtf) I tell her that shes crazy, and thats not the case. Keep in mind it is summer break and everyone (all my housemates) has left back to their respective homes so no one I know is still in this town.
She is a huge activist (for anything feminism, BLM, fair-trade anything basically) and participates in local events and has a tight knit group of activists that she regularly talks to on a group chat. There is a guy in her activist group that she has been friends with for years and they hang out/go drinking all the time. She says how much I had in common with my housemates as a reason for why I would have slept with her, I say the same thing about this guy in her activist group and she says while he is interested in her they are just friends. She also told me 1 week before I am not allowed to have any female friends anymore, I don't have that much in the first place so I thought, "okay I'll cross that bridge when I come to it". But the fucked up part in my mind is that she still has guys friends, including this guy in the activist group and the dudes at her work. Im getting angry, but I never say anything I am saving it for therapy for which we had an appointment which was a week away.
We blow over it again and go back to hanging out and playing games, like normal. I had sex with the night before (not bragging its part of the story read on), and she goes home to get ready for work later. I text her the next day if she wants to do something, she says she'll hang out with a girlfriend. I reluctantly say okay, because if Im not hanging out with her I have nothing to do (all my friends left and I am staying her just for her, I also want to go home for the summer). She then says she did not want to have sex with me last night but did anyway. I tell her she could have just told me, shes told me before and I respect her decision. She says "it doesn't matter now anyway". I ask her what she meant and she doesn't respond to me for 3 days.
After 3 days she said she just wanted some space, (understandable we spent the whole previous week together) I say okay you could have just told me. She says she still not over me and what she thinks I did with my housemate. She then says she doesn't want to date me because I am too young (she is 27 and I am 22 even though we are both college seniors) and claims I am immature. I argue my case, and she doesn't text back for another 5 days.
So here I am 5 days after, I think its over, but I want closure (Are we broken up? Why are we braking up? etc). She will not answer any of my calls or read my messages, so I am considering going to her house (or where she works) but I don't want to seem crazy, what should I do?
