LOL at the above not a humble brag, im legit shook like I dated girls who have been hit on before but this shit is ridiculous. I kinda believe her too because one day she ordered chinese food on the phone and the delivery guy started hitting on her (i didnt see it). The delivery even used the number she gave to the resturant (FOR DELIVERY PURPOSES) to text her 20 mins after the delivery was over. WTF man im going mental here
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Guys at my girlsfriends workplace hitting on her
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LOL at the above not a humble brag, im legit shook like I dated girls who have been hit on before but this shit is ridiculous. I kinda believe her too because one day she ordered chinese food on the phone and the delivery guy started hitting on her (i didnt see it). The delivery even used the number she gave to the resturant (FOR DELIVERY PURPOSES) to text her 20 mins after the delivery was over. WTF man im going mental here
That's going to be a long day.
Best buy has a regional manager. I'd go up the flag pole with the harassment reports.
ClosingADoor
Member
She reported it to HR already once, so I take it this is beyond the normal flirting from time to time and going into intimidating behavior.
Ninja Scooter
Member
She might be exaggerating to make you feel jealous. Even if the rampant attempts are true, there's nothing you can do in the realm of normal behavior other than shrug it off and trust that nothing escalates. She should continue to report them.
Eh, the story is more about the insecurities of people than anything else.
This might be my favorite joke on the internet.
SwipeLeftHoney
Banned
You didn't see it?? You sure she didn't give the dude her number instead? I have a feeling you're getting played and too naive to admit it.
Count Dookkake
Member
The geeks vs the meek.
Question one, how did every guy at best buy get her phone number?
Two, going to need a citation for the bolded. I thought they were just shooting her a text with a joke or asking her to hang out? What is this sexual abuse stuff?
Glass Shark
Banned
My god, some people just refuse to see reality and make situations so much more complicated than they need to be.
I'm so glad to avoid all aspects of drama in my "boring" life. Glad I never have to worry about shit like this.
I'm so glad to avoid all aspects of drama in my "boring" life. Glad I never have to worry about shit like this.
Goro Majima
Kitty Genovese Member
Yeah I'm kinda confused by all this. These guys are harassing her but she gave her number out? It's also weird to me that literally half the staff at one Best Buy is hitting on her to the point that they're asking her out. If they're just flirting, that's kinda harmless at that age range (I'm assuming y'all are late teens or early 20s?)
My general life advice is to try and not get too stressed about these relationships during this phase of your life.
Ninja Scooter
Member
Because the reasonable thing to do is to embroil yourself into other people's married lives/drama over a 2 month relationship.
Grizzlyjin
Supersonic, idiotic, disconnecting, not respecting, who would really ever wanna go and top that
If you confront them at work, you'll make things worse. It's not your domain, it would be insanely easy for someone to spin that into you being the crazy boyfriend. I'm a huge believer in being direct, but in this instance you're just giving them ammo.
Your relationship isn't going to last if you don't address the trust issues. If your girlfriend is judging you based off guys from her retail job that she met AFTER you started dating, something ain't right. She needs to stay on HR, y'all both need to talk about the trust thing.
Your relationship isn't going to last if you don't address the trust issues. If your girlfriend is judging you based off guys from her retail job that she met AFTER you started dating, something ain't right. She needs to stay on HR, y'all both need to talk about the trust thing.
Vicetrailia
Banned
Damn so both of ya'll have jealousy issues. Daaaaaamn.
She should just keep rejecting them, or play the game by talking to them only about you (good things only, no drama). That's a huge turnoff.
She should just keep rejecting them, or play the game by talking to them only about you (good things only, no drama). That's a huge turnoff.
adamantypants
Member
This. Need answers OP, girlfriend might not be telling the whole story.
always crazy bacon
Banned
That's not fair. They laugh at each other's jokes too.
Sakura
Member
And don't forget most of those guys also happen to be in a relationship already to boot.
While I may not feel the need to do this, I never really like this argument. People tend to have this "mind your own business" attitude about other people's relationships. But let's say don't know person X and Y, but I know that X is cheating on Y (I'm counting failing at picking up other women as cheating). If I am able to easily do so, I would tell Y that X is cheating on Y. Why not? I'd rather Y know than not know and it is perfectly within my own ability to tell Y what I know. It's not like I obtained that information in confidence.
HamsterPackage
Member
Sounds like your getting played bud. I'd get the fuck outta there asap. How the fuck do all these dudes have her number?
She has all these dudes numbers and that's supposed to be cool, but you can't even talk to your housemates without her freaking out?
She has all these dudes numbers and that's supposed to be cool, but you can't even talk to your housemates without her freaking out?
esmith08734
Member
Can't she block the numbers? Once she stops feeding into it, they'll leave her alone. Also, might have been mentioned but can you drive her to work? Does she have a car?
Ninja Scooter
Member
It's not about minding your own business, it's about saving myself the drama/headaches of getting involved in other people's business. Not worth it, especially if I have nothing invested in their lives (they aren't friends/family).
Come on. You were young once.. the age filter needs to be applied here. Most importantly, all advice will be ignored..and someone will find a world star video of a dude getting worked @ a best buy in the next few days.
Initial op. Laden with red flags. All following posts... more red flags. If it's bad, authorities and best buy need to be involved. But there's so many questions with the lack of detail here. 10 numbers on a phone..and Chinese food delivery guy.. I mean...
SwipeLeftHoney
Banned
HR won't do squat. Girl has only been there less than 2 months. They'll find some excuse to let her go and move on. I personally don't think she got HR involved to begin with. I honestly feel the girl just said that to shut OP up for a few days, weeks whatever. OP is failing to see the obvious here. Hope she's worth it OP... Things don't look good for you man..
panama chief
Member
OP...
Why she giving her number to the same guys she complaining about?
Think about it.
Why she giving her number to the same guys she complaining about?
Think about it.
always crazy bacon
Banned
You've got that wrong, she's been working there 3 months BEFORE she met OP. So 5 months, and yet he's only hearing about it now. Coincidentally after the girlfriend got jealous about his female housemate.
Glass Shark
Banned
If she hasn't blocked the numbers already herself, she doesn't want to. She shouldn't have to be encouraged or forced to do it by her boyfriend. That's problematic on multiple levels. So the fact that she hasn't done it means she wants the attention and wants to keep her options open. Yet another reason OP should just drop her and find a stress- and drama-free relationship.
esmith08734
Member
And this is only two months? This period is suppose to be the easiest. Bail, OP.
Reckheim
Member
How about you? Do you have trust issues?
Ninja Scooter
Member
In my opinion, yeah that would be wrong of you.
Three possible cases:
1. She would prefer to take care of it herself and is faithful -- getting involved is a mistake.
2. She would prefer to take care of itself because she's actually cheating or wants to cheat -- the sooner you find this out, the better, but actually going to Best Buy and confronting seems a bit much. Just move on unless you're into non-exclusive relationships (though even that would / should be a conversation).
3. She is actually looking for you to "stand up" to show you "care" -- this also demonstrates that she's not really ready for a healthy relationship. Trust issues aren't like a simple disagreement "Oh I love avocado but she Hates it". They can seriously impair a healthy relationship. If she's looking for this sort of response from you, you are enabling her by going down and talking to them. I get different cultures look at this differently, but you'll be better off in the long run by addressing the root insecurity than by being the big bad wolf.
Other notes:
A. Regarding her being unfaithful, just keep your eyes and ears open. Eventually something won't add up (she keeps taking rides on days that aren't rainy / you saw her work schedule and it's different from what she told you / she's suddenly very distant from you and ignoring texts, etc.) and then you can dig deeper if needed.
B. I'm surprised she's actually taking cabs to work at Best Buy. How close does she live? Because a cab can be like $10 easily, which is probably like an hour's work?
C. Have more value in yourself. You're a hard working guy who is faithful. If she leaves you for a cheating married / girlfriend guy, you're just freeing up your life for new encounters.
D. Remember, at the end of the day, you were happy alone. You seemed capable of talking to people of the opposite sex and are focusing on studies -- you probably can find other people.
She very well could be beautiful. Most women are harassed on a daily. But if it's bothering her so much, she's gotta not be so liberal with the friends to bed type dudes, that,.well, most of us are/were at that age..
hydrophilic attack
Member
Judging by the replies ITT, so do most gaf posters
Sakura
Member
I feel like
a) She's exaggerating or just straight up lying. Maybe to make you feel jealous or something I don't know.
Or
b) You're getting played
I have a hard time believing that in just a few months of working at Best Buy half the male staff, most of which are in relationships, have her number, are giving her rides to work, and just can't stop themselves from hitting on your girlfriend. Even going to HR didn't stop them too long.
Like, have you actually seen all these texts from all these dudes? I have a hard time buying it.
a) She's exaggerating or just straight up lying. Maybe to make you feel jealous or something I don't know.
Or
b) You're getting played
I have a hard time believing that in just a few months of working at Best Buy half the male staff, most of which are in relationships, have her number, are giving her rides to work, and just can't stop themselves from hitting on your girlfriend. Even going to HR didn't stop them too long.
Like, have you actually seen all these texts from all these dudes? I have a hard time buying it.
Sho_Nuff82
Member
"Borderline sexually abused" is factually incorrect. Repeated unwanted sexual advances in the workplace are harassment, and the HR department has to take corrective action against the offending parties. If she meets with them multiple times, documents it, and they do nothing, they are potentially liable. All you can really tell her to do is go to HR every time it happens. I'd recommend also going to a manager, but if he's part of the group doing the propositioning, it may not help.
Your gf isn't jealous of you because of her coworkers, she's jealous because you're kids and you've never had to trust anyone in a real sense before. If you're both attractive young people, you can either become shut-ins who never interact with other people, or you're going to have to deal with a reality where people have friends of the opposite sex, and randoms will approach and proposition your significant other.
All you can do is not put yourself in situations where you're likely to cheat (ie, don't do a Netflix and chill session with the girl next door), and if she can't deal with you being casual friends with other girls, she's not ready for a serious relationship yet.
Edit: I didn't realize that everyone had her phone number. Fucking what?
Your gf isn't jealous of you because of her coworkers, she's jealous because you're kids and you've never had to trust anyone in a real sense before. If you're both attractive young people, you can either become shut-ins who never interact with other people, or you're going to have to deal with a reality where people have friends of the opposite sex, and randoms will approach and proposition your significant other.
All you can do is not put yourself in situations where you're likely to cheat (ie, don't do a Netflix and chill session with the girl next door), and if she can't deal with you being casual friends with other girls, she's not ready for a serious relationship yet.
Edit: I didn't realize that everyone had her phone number. Fucking what?
-OP thinks everyone at school and in town sucks. Also, he's Rudy
-OP meets GF
-OP + GF have been in a relationship for like a minute
-GF is super jealous, insecure, needy - basically tells OP he shouldn't talk to girls and have friends.
-Likewise, GF is always talking about how she gets hit on from everyone. Any male with a pulse and a phone sends her texts seconds after they meet. Ignore the hows (how they got the number) and the whys (why does literally every male do this), and instead just know she is a magnet for male attention.
That's basically the story. Without knowing more, GF sounds like the classic insecure person looking from attention everywhere. She probably enjoys/encourages texts from others. Likewise, this type of personality leads to controlling jealously when she feels like boy's attention is on a different girl. OP is just head over heels and can't see straight.
other signs:
-Does your GF have a lot of friends that are girls? Or does she typically hang out with dudes?
-Does she have plenty of stories about daily drama, but simultaneously say how she "hates drama"?
-Does she have a bunch of Disney Princess stuff?
-OP meets GF
-OP + GF have been in a relationship for like a minute
-GF is super jealous, insecure, needy - basically tells OP he shouldn't talk to girls and have friends.
-Likewise, GF is always talking about how she gets hit on from everyone. Any male with a pulse and a phone sends her texts seconds after they meet. Ignore the hows (how they got the number) and the whys (why does literally every male do this), and instead just know she is a magnet for male attention.
That's basically the story. Without knowing more, GF sounds like the classic insecure person looking from attention everywhere. She probably enjoys/encourages texts from others. Likewise, this type of personality leads to controlling jealously when she feels like boy's attention is on a different girl. OP is just head over heels and can't see straight.
other signs:
-Does your GF have a lot of friends that are girls? Or does she typically hang out with dudes?
-Does she have plenty of stories about daily drama, but simultaneously say how she "hates drama"?
-Does she have a bunch of Disney Princess stuff?
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I mean, more red flags than China.
OP doesn't have enough self-awareness to realize that no ideal, healthy partner would be trying to restrict his access to a purely platonic friend. The work issues, while sad and inappropriate, are hers to handle. His only role is to support and encourage her, really. Not show up and "save" her.
I've said this before, when counseling clients...
It's not sexual harassment if they like it.
Bustanen
Member
Just some anonymous tips. Maybe spice them up a little with cheating or something for lolz.
A literal Chinese food delivery guy texted her after the delivery too.
OG Shaka Zulu
Member
Bail bail bail. She will cheat on you because shes insecure as hell.
panama chief
Member
It just seems like she's giving OP something to be jealous about, which is a bad sign all around.