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[GymWolf]

My testosterone level got 30% lower just by watching this thing...

 

[Ozzy Onya A2Z]

I’m still trying to figure this shit out. My mindset now is completely different, even from a year ago. Travel, meditation, humility and acts of selflessness contribute (at least for me) to an open and empathetic world view. Getting angry at seemingly innocuous things-it’s easy to project your frustration, something I have been very guilty of in the past. Acknowledge these feelings, they are valid, whatever they may be, because you’re the one “feeling them”. The trick is how you react. If someone is hitting you with a stick, take it away. Know that fucking up can become a beautiful, yet chaotic learning lesson- you’ll start going easier on yourself, you deserve that. And in time, you’ll slowly start to see that you’re applying this skill towards other people. ”Be excellent to each other...” A quote from a silly movie? Or great words of wisdom-part of the fundamental truth of what it means to be human. I’d like to think both.

Not that I wholesale subscribe to his world views but Warren Buffet has a great take on this sort of thing -

“You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing things with magic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.”

I was semi-mentored decades ago which taught me about the "Locus of Control", changed my outlook on life and people TBH.

 

[Scotty W]

This is the only black pill I need

 

[Goro Majima]

There aren't many things that anybody has control over in this life.

You can't control the hand you were dealt but you can control your attitude. If you want to change your life then change your attitude. It all starts there.

 

[triplestation]

he should have worn joker makeup

that vid would have gotten millions of views

 

[Tesseract]

the iron never lies, brudda

 

[West Texas CEO]

Back in the day, ugly guys used to settle for ugly girls and vice versa after they "took the black pill" and realized they couldn't get the hot ones. That doesn't seem to happen anymore in this age of the internet. People's standards are out of whack. I blame the Internet and the age of entitlement.

 

[Dr_Salt]

Back in the day, ugly guys used to settle for ugly girls and vice versa after they "took the black pill" and realized they couldn't get the hot ones. That doesn't seem to happen anymore in this age of the internet. People's standards are out of whack. I blame the Internet and the age of entitlement.

Even the ugly ones feel they deserve a gigachad.
Its over.

 

[West Texas CEO]

The biggest black pill is that life is a burden that most people would not choose. Life is literally a sick joke, and there is nothing better than a documentary about animals to show it.
You have the starving carnivorous predator that has no choice but to eat the herbivorous prey that did not do anything wrong.
That's why I take the reductionist approach and look at us just like a bunch of proteins dissolved in membrane-enclosed water balls.

 

[notseqi]

And yes reporting from that green country in the heart of Europe and yes can confirm.

Why would you want to be in the green zone? It's all averages, why not have a veritable magnum dong in the red zone?

 

[M1chl]

Why would you want to be in the green zone? It's all averages, why not have a veritable magnum dong in the red zone?

Because when I can travel, shit's going to get wild.
Well, it's not accurate since I have GF, but at least in my dreams.

The biggest black pill is that life is a burden that most people would not choose. Life is literally a sick joke, and there is nothing better than a documentary about animals to show it.
You have the starving carnivorous predator that has no choice but to eat the herbivorous prey that did not do anything wrong.
That's why I take the reductionist approach and look at us just like a bunch of proteins dissolved in membrane-enclosed water balls.

Umm...just wanted to ask, are you experiencing some issues, like seriously. I thought that OP was like a joke.

 

[West Texas CEO]

Umm...just wanted to ask, are you experiencing some issues, like seriously. I thought that OP was like a joke.

I could use a hug, if you're offering.

 

[notseqi]

I could use a hug, if you're offering.

Bruh, it's gonna be alright.

 

[M1chl]

I could use a hug, if you're offering.

:hugs: I mean sorry, for misunderstanding, I thought it was a joke OP, since no added context, I would not want to made fun of someone in a bad situation....but at the same time, I cannot support delving into this whole bullshit, because only thing which is going to do is to drag you down the rabbit hole and make you feel like shit. Men are terrible at hurting themselves from some bad situation, even more with this shit. Simply don't loose hope, because it's terrible thing to do.

Also can you elaborate what happened?

 

[West Texas CEO]

Bruh, it's gonna be alright.

:hugs: I mean sorry, for misunderstanding, I thought it was a joke OP, since no added context, I would not want to made fun of someone in a bad situation....but at the same time, I cannot support delving into this whole bullshit, because only thing which is going to do is to drag you down the rabbit hole and make you feel like shit. Men are terrible at hurting themselves from some bad situation, even more with this shit. Simply don't loose hope, because it's terrible thing to do.

Also can you elaborate what happened?

Thanks guys.

I'm alright; I've just been seeing some dark, defeatist postings on the net, here and there. Maybe I should just take a break from the internets..

 

[M1chl]

Thanks guys.

I'm alright; I've just been seeing some dark, defeatist postings on the net, here and there. Maybe I should just take a break from the internets..

Happens to all of us, but it's all designed to make you feel bad. Biggest blackpill is probably to admit that so called Toxic Masculinity is very really thing and that you are simply too fragile to watch internet without affecting on your mental health. And I know that too...very well.

Spoiler: My strugggle

I cannot search for "does size matters", because I starts to obssesing that I am few inches from some megadong and that cause me absolutely ridiculous thoughts which leads to that I should simply kill myself, that it's over and nobody ever going to love me like this. I guess, biggest part in rape story in my life, which happened when I was 12 years old and I was ridiculed and it simply stuck to me, even though....it simply stucks. And only way how I could relive that story is through searching bullshit on the internet. It does not have any connection to reality. And yes it hurts...a lot

So you are not alone, just take it as learning lesson, that you should not search for everything.

 

[notseqi]

Maybe I should just take a break from the internets.

That's probably it. It's like taking drugs that reinforce your current outlook, great if you're feeling good, horrible if you're in a bad spot.
Whatever you look at, it's aspects will twist in accordance to your disposition and with the wide variety of offerings you will encounter positives as well as negatives - guaranteed.

Take a break, read a book, make a pot of tea, go for a walk without listening to music or a podcast. It'll calm you down.

 

[Redlancet]

be better,you can always be better,there is a lot of ways,just move your butt and brain

 

[eot]

Happens to all of us, but it's all designed to make you feel bad. Biggest blackpill is probably to admit that so called Toxic Masculinity is very really thing and that you are simply too fragile to watch internet without affecting on your mental health. And I know that too...very well.

Spoiler: My strugggle

I cannot search for "does size matters", because I starts to obssesing that I am few inches from some megadong and that cause me absolutely ridiculous thoughts which leads to that I should simply kill myself, that it's over and nobody ever going to love me like this. I guess, biggest part in rape story in my life, which happened when I was 12 years old and I was ridiculed and it simply stuck to me, even though....it simply stucks. And only way how I could relive that story is through searching bullshit on the internet. It does not have any connection to reality. And yes it hurts...a lot

So you are not alone, just take it as learning lesson, that you should not search for everything.

Spoiler

If you're in the normal range, then any insecurity you have about it is a much, much bigger problem than your size, in fact your size isn't a problem. There are so many possible things to be insecure about, and you can be 100% sure that you have some attributes that some other guy feels like shit over not having. There are short guys who make their entire life about that, get into a negative mindset over something they can't change, get angry at other people about it, but do you think tall guys are less likely to be insecure about their bodies? I doubt it, because there's always something. If you're tall it's more likely you're skinny, your dick is gonna look smaller proportionally, you could still be balding, have a funny sounding voice, whatever.

 

[M1chl]

Spoiler

If you're in the normal range, then any insecurity you have about it is a much, much bigger problem than your size, in fact your size isn't a problem. There are so many possible things to be insecure about, and you can be 100% sure that you have some attributes that some other guy feels like shit over not having. There are short guys who make their entire life about that, get into a negative mindset over something they can't change, get angry at other people about it, but do you think tall guys are less likely to be insecure about their bodies? I doubt it, because there's always something. If you're tall it's more likely you're skinny, your dick is gonna look smaller proportionally, you could still be balding, have a funny sounding voice, whatever.

No I know by my personal experience that I am fueling myself with useless bullshit. It has a lot to do, with I would say delayed puberty and that act of violence on me from woman.

Also I am above normal range, which it makes all that more ridiculous, but hey being 191cm, which makes you compare everything for the rest of the body, you are in for a pretty bleak comparison even with that internet dick size™ (that number which signals luck on slot machines in inches), so yeah.

It caused me a serious issue over the years and well liver transplant somewhat wake me up from this. Cruel thing about male rape victims in early age, is that they don't avoid sex in their real life, it's totally opposite. You have some cope mechanism, which manifest itself as bi-polar manic state...which can be sometimes seen with my post here, which are really Tay-sannny, when I am high on my own, from my own brain and all I can think of is either music creation, which I have some of those thing thankfully but in worse cases it's binge playing games (like 20 hours/day) or urge (in a sense urge like drink when you are thirsty or you need to go to a toilet, quickly) to fuck someone. And really get good at that craft of hook-ups, best way to put it is don't give a shit and "eyes on the prize" type of shit. And well then I feel ashamed of myself and that sort of thing. If I would write my number on the internet nobody would believe me, neither I believe that 90%+ of my normal life. But yeah I should have had some Tinder platinum badge already. And no that's not something "good", even tho, I am not going to pretend that it's that bad. However STD exist and I have been really lucky...

I don't type this to be a good thing, because it's shameful for me as a personality, you obviously pretend a lot when you are manic (I don't lie, but I also adjust my truth a lot when I am aiming on hook-ups, which gave me burden afterwards to prove it, which is not always easy) and that cause me a lot of trouble. Fortunately it's not being seen otherwise, like on the internet, because I only does this, when I am talking to some random woman, who I don't expect to know for a long time. In here when I am in this state, I appear extremely naive and I don't know how to put it, but I always cringe to go on the internet after this state passes.

Thankfully I have a GF right now, so this shit is thankfully past me.

I don't mind typing this shit on the internet, because I know for a fact I am not alone and we really don't talk about this, because....fucking men when will they learn.

I payed almost ultimate price for it, I drank myself to death (that contains everything written in this post, it's terribly taxing on mind), so I know I have to fight it in different manner.

And no, I don't hate women, I don't think about them as they would be object or that I am better. None of that shit, so if any lurker have that thing in mind, go fuck yourself. Thanks in advance. I too would want to be more chill person, but it's ultimately me who suffers, not them or you.

fuck

 

[notseqi]

 

[Stiflers Mom]

This is amazing..

And on the topic of the thread, if this shit wasn't that difficult, there were not whole aisles of self help books in book stores.

I'd say that giving less about other people's or society's opinion about you is a good start.
Create your little inner empire, shield yourself from stupid useless ideas and toxic people, think about what makes you feel happy (and not for the sake to make others envious), and try to create a life that accommodates that as much as possible.

If you follow those simple rules, you will probably already be happier than 80% of earth population.

Most people already fail there.

 

[M1chl]

This is amazing..

And on the topic of the thread, if this shit wasn't that difficult, there were not whole aisles of self help books in book stores.

I'd say that giving less about other people's or society's opinion about you is a good start.
Create your little inner empire, shield yourself from stupid useless ideas and toxic people, think about what makes you feel happy (and not for the sake to make others envious), and try to create a life that accommodates that as much as possible.

If you follow those simple rules, you will probably already be happier than 80% of earth population.

Most people already fail there.

This sounds way more in a sense shield yourself from your stupid ideas and don't watch or search on the internet for a hurtful content, there already it's going to be like a huge improvement. Sadly most people fail on that, because it creates weird thirst for more information. Obviously your rules are good ones, I am just saying, that this is the type of stuff I've been hearing in therapist and they most often are way harder to achieve from initial point of view then just simply stay out of display and people getting horribly in those situations when they heard "do better". Also women....do not really care that much about certain stuff which can be seen on the internet, small subset yes, but those ones most likely ask pretty soon about your properties... Also the height thing is totaly Internet/USA/UK thing, so don't live there. : D

 

[Stiflers Mom]

This sounds way more in a sense shield yourself from your stupid ideas and don't watch or search on the internet for a hurtful content, there already it's going to be like a huge improvement. Sadly most people fail on that, because it creates weird thirst for more information. Obviously your rules are good ones, I am just saying, that this is the type of stuff I've been hearing in therapist and they most often are way harder to achieve from initial point of view then just simply stay out of display and people getting horribly in those situations when they heard "do better". Also women....do not really care that much about certain stuff which can be seen on the internet, small subset yes, but those ones most likely ask pretty soon about your properties... Also the height thing is totaly Internet/USA/UK thing, so don't live there. : D

I guess I am talking a bit from the perspective of an old dude who moved a bit beyond a couple of things. I was also very anxious about certain things my whole life which I could not change. I am lot less tall than you, and that irked me off course.
Maybe that pushed me into having success on other fronts, though, so, I don't know.

All in all I'd say I had a charmed life. Travelled around the world to many countries, experienced some really interesting and weird stuff as an electronic musician playing in clubs and on big festival stages around the world, had many long term relationships with quite nice and pretty women, fucked enough women and types of women that I can say I had a good "overview" ( : D ), have two beautiful sons that are amazing, I live exactly where I want to live in a nice flat on my own, have many very good friends, and I am healthy. And from time to time I am fucking some MILF on Tinder. And that's fun as well, but I don't plan to have a "serious relationship" anymore. These older women cannot give me enough in trade for what I would have to give up. Sorry, girls.


I have to admit though, and that's going with the topic of this thread, that I relaxed quite a bit when women were suddenly not such a focal thing for me anymore. You do a lot of stupid stuff in your life just because you want to be loved and thought as sexy by them. If you give that up, life is suddenly just what YOU want it to be, and that gives you freedom.

I just don't think you should go into that mode if you didn't even try yet and lived your love life to the fullest potential (which is different for everyone else).

 

[M1chl]

I guess I am talking a bit from the perspective of an old dude who moved a bit beyond a couple of things. I was also very anxious about certain things my whole life which I could not change. I am lot less tall than you, and that irked me off course.
Maybe that pushed me into having success on other fronts, though, so, I don't know.

All in all I'd say I had a charmed life. Travelled around the world to many countries, experienced some really interesting and weird stuff as an electronic musician playing in clubs and on big festival stages around the world, had many long term relationships with quite nice and pretty women, fucked enough women and types of women that I can say I had a good "overview" ( : D ), have two beautiful sons that are amazing, I live exactly where I want to live in a nice flat on my own, have many very good friends, and I am healthy. And from time to time I am fucking some MILF on Tinder. And that's fun as well, but I don't plan to have a "serious relationship" anymore. These older women cannot give me enough in trade for what I would have to give up. Sorry, girls.


I have to admit though, and that's going with the topic of this thread, that I relaxed quite a bit when women were suddenly not such a focal thing for me anymore. You do a lot of stupid stuff in your life just because you want to be loved and thought as sexy by them. If you give that up, life is suddenly just what YOU want it to be, and that gives you freedom.

I just don't think you should go into that mode if you didn't even try yet and lived your love life to the fullest potential (which is different for everyone else).

Oh I thought we are in a same age approximately, so I guess not. Well I cannot bitch that much either on surface, I am quiet successful with my life, just certain things can make life a total hell. But I guess I was not in right path, with not enough support before that and I am fairing far better now. Let's say that probably what help the most is having a partner. Which is strangely thing I was really avoiding. Not exactly know why, but then many times I suffered from being alone and ethanol certainly helped and when I got a partner I was so down on that drinking rabbit hole, that there was only one way out.

And O got that mindset, you are having. So I wish you luck to keep at this vibe and don't have some severe situation when you hit 60 for example.

 

[Stiflers Mom]

Oh I thought we are in a same age approximately, so I guess not.

46 years old I am now, my friend... ; )

Well I cannot bitch that much either on surface, I am quiet successful with my life, just certain things can make life a total hell. But I guess I was not in right path, with not enough support before that and I am fairing far better now. Let's say that probably what help the most is having a partner. Which is strangely thing I was really avoiding. Not exactly know why, but then many times I suffered from being alone and ethanol certainly helped and when I got a partner I was so down on that drinking rabbit hole, that there was only one way out.

Then this seems to be a great thing for you and you should keep it that way.

And O got that mindset, you are having. So I wish you luck to keep at this vibe and don't have some severe situation when you hit 60 for example.

I thought about these things off course.

But..
1) I don't see myself being in a very different situation then.
2) if you rely on only one person instead of many like I do, you are much more prone to be alone one day.
3) I know enough people of my age that are in marriage hell right now, so having a wife and kids is definitely not your happy-life-card as some people want it to be.

In the end, find a way in life that makes you happy. If that's with a partner, that's great. But if you notice it doesn't, then find something that works for you and don't judge yourself on it.

 

[M1chl]

46 years old I am now, my friend... ; )


Then this seems to be a great thing for you and you should keep it that way.


I thought about these things off course.

But..
1) I don't see myself being in a very different situation then.
2) if you rely on only one person instead of many like I do, you are much more prone to be alone one day.
3) I know enough people of my age that are in marriage hell right now, so having a wife and kids is definitely not your happy-life-card as some people want it to be.

In the end, find a way in life that makes you happy. If that's with a partner, that's great. But if you notice it doesn't, then find something that works for you and don't judge yourself on it.

1) Well then it's okay : )

2) Well I get that, but thankfully I kind of balanced that with my music community, so I think I am pretty set. It's weird how much shit kind of comes together when I got my 2nd chance.

3) Yeah i can believe it. My perspective at 15 less years of age are obviously not like with you, people around just getting married and shit, having first kids, etc. So i don't see it. And my parents stayed together, so I did not live through that when I was younger.

 

[Stiflers Mom]

1) Well then it's okay : )

2) Well I get that, but thankfully I kind of balanced that with my music community, so I think I am pretty set. It's weird how much shit kind of comes together when I got my 2nd chance.

3) Yeah i can believe it. My perspective at 15 less years of age are obviously not like with you, people around just getting married and shit, having first kids, etc. So i don't see it. And my parents stayed together, so I did not live through that when I was younger.

Seems you are on a good way, mate.

I wish you all the best. You already went through some crazy shit, and from my point of view you have the strength to live a happy and amazing life...