• Hey, guest user. Hope you're enjoying NeoGAF! Have you considered registering for an account? Come join us and add your take to the daily discourse.

How do You cope with being mediocre?

West Texas CEO

GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief and Nosiest Dildo Archeologist
When I was younger I had a lot of dreams. As I grew older, and I failed to accomplish almost all of them, I found myself racked with sorrow. I hated my own inability and weakness. I hated that I'd failed. Ultimately, I had to give up on even trying to " succeed", which admittedly falls within my own metric, in order to keep on living. Whether I was average or below average from the start I don't know. The fact of the matter is, I am a failure now. I realize as long as I have time that it's possible to create change, but I'm not sure the struggle is worth it. Thus my question on how to cope with knowledge I am mediocre... Also, is it bad to believe yourself to be mediocre? Not everyone can be outstanding so some people have to be. Do you believe it's objectively possible to deem some people mediocre and others a success? Is there a basic criteria?
 

jufonuk

not tag worthy
It’s great because who says you have to achieve something ? Just be the best you that you can be.

improve yourself and stop trying to compare yourself to others.

sounds like it isn’t a question of being outstanding etc. It’s a question of happiness.

I bet a lot of the achievements you had are related to making loads of money and power ?

don’t fall into that trap. Oh you tried and failed. Then learn from it. Try again. Also at least you tried. Others don’t even bother.
 
Last edited:

jufonuk

not tag worthy
I play games all day.
backstreet boys 90s GIF

I just want ton use the gif feature
 
Last edited:

West Texas CEO

GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief and Nosiest Dildo Archeologist
Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with being mediocre. If you are happy, you are not a criminal, you are not a drag on society, you don't cause problems, and you are content being mediocre, there is nothing wrong with that. Join the club. Most of us are in that big group. Everyone lied to us growing up. We're not special, just a number.
 
Last edited:

notseqi

Member
We're not special, just a number.
Somewhere inbetween. Nobody is special but you're far from 'just a number'. You are you, I wouldn't focus on where you fit in on the scale either you or your surroundings have imposed.

Get good at 1 or 2 outwardly beneficial skills, something that can help other people, and you're already above most others.
 

M1chl

Currently Gif and Meme Champion
Being mediocre is quite a bit achievement, because that probably means average and average person is pretty successful on their own rights. You just simply don't compare yourself to the 1% of society. Many average people have done amazing things. You just have to ensure that you are not being bad. Also you "failed" in what exactly, not being some CEO or Celebrity? Such a shitty mindset.

No one likes whiners and by that I mean people who live normal life and still bitching about everything, you know made very visible how unhappy and unsatisfied they are. Nobody likes that.

I know that you post about "blackpill" and seems like you since there were drowning in depressive thoughts. So maybe...what if it's some depression?

Also what are you missing in life, my dude?
 

Hudo

Gold Member
It’s great because who says you have to achieve something ? Just be the best you that you can be.

improve yourself and stop trying to compare yourself to others.

sounds like it isn’t a question of being outstanding etc. It’s a question of happiness.

I bet a lot of the achievements you had are related to making loads of money and power ?

don’t fall into that trap. Oh you tried and failed. Then learn from it. Try again. Also at least you tried. Others don’t even bother.
Love this answer and I fully concur with it. Don't compare yourself to others because you can't see everything other have/haven't got going on in their lives. It's a fallacy, where you'll always end up unfavorably.

It really is a question of happiness. "Achieving" something can even be that you grew a tree in your garden or written a 4-line poem or to make your Mom smile.
Achievements; the question rather should be: For whom? For what?

Just the other day, there was a thread about an interview with Kazunori Yamauchi (Director of the Gran Turismo games), who recited a Japanese proverb (although variations of it exist in other languages as well), that the divine resides in the details. And I do think that also applies to the small things that you do, which can count as an achievement as well.
 

West Texas CEO

GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief and Nosiest Dildo Archeologist
Being mediocre is quite a bit achievement, because that probably means average and average person is pretty successful on their own rights. You just simply don't compare yourself to the 1% of society. Many average people have done amazing things. You just have to ensure that you are not being bad. Also you "failed" in what exactly, not being some CEO or Celebrity? Such a shitty mindset.

No one likes whiners and by that I mean people who live normal life and still bitching about everything, you know made very visible how unhappy and unsatisfied they are. Nobody likes that.

I know that you post about "blackpill" and seems like you since there were drowning in depressive thoughts. So maybe...what if it's some depression?

Also what are you missing in life, my dude?
I had a bad and devastating breakup 2 years ago, but I'm sure it can't just be that. It's been a few years now but I feel like if my 12-years-old-self would see me right now he would be more than disappointed. I've become lazy (except of working out- Still doing lots of sports/workouts), I've become demotivated, I can't focus on anything, I don't even know anymore what my goals in life are and what I want.
 
Last edited:

OmegaSupreme

advanced basic bitch
“I see in the fight club the strongest and smartest men who've ever lived. I see all this potential and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables, slaves with white collars, advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of the history man, no purpose or place, we have no Great war, no Great depression, our great war is a spiritual war, our great depression is our lives, we've been all raised by television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires and movie gods and rock stars, but we won't and we're slowly learning that fact. and we're very very pissed off.”
 

ManofOne

Plus Member
I had a bad and devastating breakup 2 years ago, but I'm sure it can't just be that. It's been a few years now but I feel like if my 12-years-old-self would see me right now he would be more than disappointed. I've become lazy (except of working out- Still doing lots of sports/workouts), I've become demotivated, I can't focus on anything, I don't even know anymore what my goals in life are and what I want.

OP .......how old are you.?
 

Patrick S.

Banned
Hey OP, in what things would you say you are not mediocre, but really good? Even if it's something that may seem small or silly (making angels in the snow doesn't count, tho :p).
 

v_iHuGi

Banned
When I was younger I was terrible with girls & felt down many times... So I build myself a Physique, went to DeadLift >200kgs & my confidence is sky high these days, also got some pretty hot gfs along the way.

I took a Master Degree but currently I'm studying again online etc, learning to Code & many other things.

You can always be a improving.

Now if you born ugly, that's tough... But I've seen ugly guys with pretty hot girls.
 

West Texas CEO

GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief and Nosiest Dildo Archeologist
So maybe...what if it's some depression?
I've read it could be depression, but I don't think I'm depressed. Despite everything, I'm still positive most of the time, and I'm almost never too lazy to work out or to meet a friend for dinner or a beer. I've struggled with anxiety in the past, but it has never controlled my life, and I have less anxiety these days than I had a few years ago. I don't do drugs. I drink, but maybe twice a week, almost never get drunk. I eat quite healthy. Sometimes I feel super motivated and make a list of things I wanna achieve, just to give up right away. I don't know what's wrong with me.
 

Patrick S.

Banned
I've read it could be depression, but I don't think I'm depressed. Despite everything, I'm still positive most of the time, and I'm almost never too lazy to work out or to meet a friend for dinner or a beer. I've struggled with anxiety in the past, but it has never controlled my life, and I have less anxiety these days than I had a few years ago. I don't do drugs. I drink, but maybe twice a week, almost never get drunk. I eat quite healthy. Sometimes I feel super motivated and make a list of things I wanna achieve, just to give up right away. I don't know what's wrong with me.

Are you happy?
 

Patrick S.

Banned
Also, that doing a list of things to do and then dropping them? You're just a lazy cunt. Trust me, I know because I'm just like you in that regard :p
 
Last edited:
First you have recognized that you're mediocre -- however you define that word -- which is good. It's the first step to better yourself. Imagine being mediocre and yet thinking you're hot shit. People like that are the most cringe and least deserving of respect imo.

Second, you don't need to become the best achiever or top-of-society-tier, you just have to become better than you were in the past. If you improve year after year, you may become outstanding before you know it.

Just don't fall into the pitfall of comparing yourself to others, as they most likely have their own issues you don't know of. Maybe that thriving CEO is suffering from an illness or aditiciton, or his son has just died. My point is, no one lives a life free of hangups and misfortune. I assure you not that many people have their shit together.

The thing is, struggle is inevitable in life, so you might as well struggle towards something that's worth it, like getting a better job, making more money, getting physically fit, approaching women, or just creating something of value. I know this is all cliché advice but it wouldn't be if it weren't true.

You said you drop the things you started, well that happens to many. I too have projects I failed at or haven't even started and it makes me disappointed with myself. We are bombarded with distractions all the time and society doesn't encourage us to pursue our dreams. You need a stronger sense of commitment and discpline to actually do what you want to do whether it's building a business, landing your dream job, or working on passion project. Time management is crucial for that -- you have to set "time blocks" either daily or several times a week where you work on whatever you want to work on and keep at it consistently for as long as it takes. The more progress you make the more you will feel encouraged to continue. Starting is the hardest part.

You say you're healthy and have time -- these are the most important things you can have in life so be thankful for it. Someone out there has it worse than you.

To answer your question, it's not that bad to consider yourself mediocre, just don't show that to other people as they will look down on you which will makes you feel even worse about yourself. So it's critical to have something that makes you confident around others, whether it's a good physique or a good job. I know these are materials things but sadly in today's world people don't really value values and morals so being a "good man" isn't enough to earn respect and may even have the opposite effect. People are more likely to respect you when you have something tangible to show, not like a car or a house, but appearance goes a long way, it's a reflection of who you are inside.

Lastly, criteria for success or mediocrity are subjective if you want to quantify them (like an annual income might be mediocre in one country but outstanding in another), but yes people are not the same.
 

Papa

Banned
I had a bad and devastating breakup 2 years ago, but I'm sure it can't just be that. It's been a few years now but I feel like if my 12-years-old-self would see me right now he would be more than disappointed. I've become lazy (except of working out- Still doing lots of sports/workouts), I've become demotivated, I can't focus on anything, I don't even know anymore what my goals in life are and what I want.

Sheet GIF
 

NeoIkaruGAF

Gold Member
I find solace in the fact that there’s so many people even less mediocre than me.

Problem is, they expect me to do something for them because they know I know better than them.
 

Kimahri

Banned
I've dealt with enough drama created by highly attractive women fighting each other because of me to know that of all the things I am, mediocre is not one of them.

I'd frankly take a solid portion of mediocrity instead if it would have spared me some of these crazy bitches. The insanely evil things girls will do to each other can be quite baffling.

Great sex though.
 
It's been a few years now but I feel like if my 12-years-old-self would see me right now he would be more than disappointed.
Really?
What did your 12 year old self thought you'd achieve and become at your current age?
Batman?

My self hating 12 year old acne riddled computer nerd self would constantly high five me for all the cool stuff I did in my life later on.
 
Last edited:

GeorgPrime

Banned
When I was younger I had a lot of dreams. As I grew older, and I failed to accomplish almost all of them, I found myself racked with sorrow. I hated my own inability and weakness. I hated that I'd failed. Ultimately, I had to give up on even trying to " succeed", which admittedly falls within my own metric, in order to keep on living. Whether I was average or below average from the start I don't know. The fact of the matter is, I am a failure now. I realize as long as I have time that it's possible to create change, but I'm not sure the struggle is worth it. Thus my question on how to cope with knowledge I am mediocre... Also, is it bad to believe yourself to be mediocre? Not everyone can be outstanding so some people have to be. Do you believe it's objectively possible to deem some people mediocre and others a success? Is there a basic criteria?

With confidence and positivity. ;)

The most important thing is "Trying". So you dont tell yourself later "What if..." if you never tried it. Then you know you did everything you could.
 
Last edited:
Top Bottom