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How do You cope with being mediocre?
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The Hamburglar
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When you’re king of the garbage pile, you’re still a king.
triplestation
Member
cocaine
Moogle11
Banned
I’ve been pretty fortunate to be pretty successful in my career and make ok money and marry an awesome woman etc. Still probably just average as we don’t make that much money, my wife isn’t super model hot etc.
To me it’s all about being happy with what I have and that I never had crazy lofty dreams or cared about being rich or having crazy expensive things. I just wanted to be stable financially, able to afford a decent house that didn’t have to be in any kind of dream location (or even the nicest part of a city), and able to easily afford hobbies like gaming and some nice (but not extravagant) vacations while still saving plenty for retirement (meaning able to maintain standard of living, not live it up in paradise).
If I didn’t have that, I’d be focused on how to achieve it. Be it getting more education, a career change or moving from a pricey city to a lower cost of living area where money goes further. Again, I never cared about being rich, famous or making any kind of difference. I’ve always been self focused and just wanted to achieve enough to have the money to live a nice, simple life worn relatively low stress. Thus can’t offer advice to competitive, driven people who’ll only be happy if they achieve their lofty goals, impress others, earn recognition etc.
To me it’s all about being happy with what I have and that I never had crazy lofty dreams or cared about being rich or having crazy expensive things. I just wanted to be stable financially, able to afford a decent house that didn’t have to be in any kind of dream location (or even the nicest part of a city), and able to easily afford hobbies like gaming and some nice (but not extravagant) vacations while still saving plenty for retirement (meaning able to maintain standard of living, not live it up in paradise).
If I didn’t have that, I’d be focused on how to achieve it. Be it getting more education, a career change or moving from a pricey city to a lower cost of living area where money goes further. Again, I never cared about being rich, famous or making any kind of difference. I’ve always been self focused and just wanted to achieve enough to have the money to live a nice, simple life worn relatively low stress. Thus can’t offer advice to competitive, driven people who’ll only be happy if they achieve their lofty goals, impress others, earn recognition etc.
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IntentionalPun
Ask me about my wife's perfect butthole
I'm not.
I don't expect you to believe me, but I'm really not.
I don't expect you to believe me, but I'm really not.
MetalAlien
Banned
I embrace it...
ipukespiders
Member
OP do one thing positive today. Start small.
Stiflers Mom
Banned
It's actually not difficult to do crazy shit, if you want it.
There is a lot of protection in being mediocre.
That's why most people prefer to go that route.
There is a lot of protection in being mediocre.
That's why most people prefer to go that route.
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IntentionalPun
Ask me about my wife's perfect butthole
Definitely easier career wise.
jufonuk
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BluRayHiDef
Banned
I live life like a hermit, confronting the world only when I need to acquire food, do laundry, or work.
Stiflers Mom
Banned
I had a bit of a career as an electronic musician in the early 2000s.
Had my own project with which I had a bit of success internationally, but the thing my best friend did back then went through the roof with one of the biggest trance/rave hits of that time.
So we went touring all over the globe. I have been playing music in front of 10000s of people in stadiums in north and south america, europe and asia. I was one of the first people playing a Techno liveact on the sugar loaf in Rio de Janeiro.
I lived in Tokyo with my japanese model girlfriend for a few years, DJing in a local club every two weeks.
For a while I have been in airplanes like two to three times per week.
Sniffed cocaine off the butt of a columbian whore in Cali.
Was driven around in those white limousines in the US. One time when we were on the route 66, we watched a porn movie in the car. Nice story to tell.
Fucked lots girls on aftershow parties.
Met a lot of famous musicians. Even some notorious producers from back in the 80ies that were my idols when I was a little boy.
And a lot of other things....
The problem with all of this is if you are a normal person and not a psycho, the people you like will like you less and less because of your success, and you get a lot of bootlickers telling you how great you are that you don't care about instead.
Normal people will start to behave strange around you.
You will always live in fear, that your success won't hold on (hint: for 99,99% of musicians it doesn't).
You will start to feel like an impostor.
This life is so tiresome. You will more and more crave to just sit and home with your girlfriend and watch some boring TV show. That, or you become a drug addict.
I am happy I experienced all that stuff, but I am very happy now going back with just being mediocre again for many years.
So, yeah. There is a lot of protection in mediocrity.
Embrace it.
Had my own project with which I had a bit of success internationally, but the thing my best friend did back then went through the roof with one of the biggest trance/rave hits of that time.
So we went touring all over the globe. I have been playing music in front of 10000s of people in stadiums in north and south america, europe and asia. I was one of the first people playing a Techno liveact on the sugar loaf in Rio de Janeiro.
I lived in Tokyo with my japanese model girlfriend for a few years, DJing in a local club every two weeks.
For a while I have been in airplanes like two to three times per week.
Sniffed cocaine off the butt of a columbian whore in Cali.
Was driven around in those white limousines in the US. One time when we were on the route 66, we watched a porn movie in the car. Nice story to tell.
Fucked lots girls on aftershow parties.
Met a lot of famous musicians. Even some notorious producers from back in the 80ies that were my idols when I was a little boy.
And a lot of other things....
The problem with all of this is if you are a normal person and not a psycho, the people you like will like you less and less because of your success, and you get a lot of bootlickers telling you how great you are that you don't care about instead.
Normal people will start to behave strange around you.
You will always live in fear, that your success won't hold on (hint: for 99,99% of musicians it doesn't).
You will start to feel like an impostor.
This life is so tiresome. You will more and more crave to just sit and home with your girlfriend and watch some boring TV show. That, or you become a drug addict.
I am happy I experienced all that stuff, but I am very happy now going back with just being mediocre again for many years.
So, yeah. There is a lot of protection in mediocrity.
Embrace it.
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BluRayHiDef
Banned
GTFO. The OP asked for advice about how to deal with mediocrity and you respond with a braggadocious recount of your glory days under the guise that it serves as a frame of reference by which you can speak on mediocrity and its positive attribute.
Oh, please. No one asked about your model girlfriend or how you sniffed coke off a prostitute's butt or how you banged a lot of chicks after shows. This isn't the first time that you've brought up the long line of women you've been with, braggart.
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LaughingStock
Member
I love it. Mediocre is the sweet spot.
Considering i never even tried to be successful i got pretty far.
Considering i never even tried to be successful i got pretty far.
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SLoWMoTIoN
Unconfirmed Member
At gaf? By not being fudge packer.
Nitty_Grimes
Made a crappy phPBB forum once ... once.
Have it in natural abundance.
Riven326
Banned
Choose not to be mediocre.
Barrage
Member
For anyone who has had someone they love pass young, the general regret is that you wish you had spent more time with them-not that they had spent more of the time they had "pursuing greatness."
Ain't much difference between a great 90 year old and a mediocre one.
At every level of sucess (and I'm someone who could be considered very lucky in a much-loved profession or completely mediocre, depending on how one wants to look at it), you can choose to resent the next man ahead of you, or enjoy the rung you're on.
The more you know somebody and how they feel about themselves, the less likely you want to switch places with them (with exceptions, obviously).
Ain't much difference between a great 90 year old and a mediocre one.
At every level of sucess (and I'm someone who could be considered very lucky in a much-loved profession or completely mediocre, depending on how one wants to look at it), you can choose to resent the next man ahead of you, or enjoy the rung you're on.
The more you know somebody and how they feel about themselves, the less likely you want to switch places with them (with exceptions, obviously).
Virt McPolygon
Banned
Life is kind of a rigged game. Ton of peoples "success" is luck and being at a certain place at a certain time. People like to pretend that it's more than that on social media, so I stopped using it. People aren't as happy and successful as they want others to believe.
Live life at your own pace. Don't feel like you have to do things like get a degree, get married, have kids, buy a house, become a manager, start a business etc. -- by a certain age or even at all! I see others overwork themselves and get burnt out and most of what they accomplished was becoming incredibly stressed out and making whoever they work for richer.
If you get to a point where you can sleep soundly at night, then that's probably the most important personal and private success you can achieve.
TheMan
Member
I've technically accomplished my dream (more or less), and I find that I'm probably mediocre compared to most of my colleagues. I just keep my head down and keep chuggin best I can, and I try to find fulfillment in things outside of work. That works some of the time, although admittedly I've purchased a lot of things that I wanted- new house, cool car, ps5- and that need for more, the insecurity, is still there. Next step is probably therapy.
Stiflers Mom
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teezzy
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GAMETA
Banned
Right?
My 12 year old self would be amazed by how far I've come in terms of work and by the fact that I banged some girls... we thought it was impossible.
Lupingosei
Banned
I am not, I reached most of my dreams, maybe even too early.
Maybe I am too lazy for what I could achieve, but I wonder if I would be happier as a professor or something like that.
Maybe I am too lazy for what I could achieve, but I wonder if I would be happier as a professor or something like that.
MaestroMike
Gold Member
My only goal in life is to live 200 years like a tortoise. 168 years to go. Wish me luck OP.
Bartski
Gold Member
Same boat pretty much, never made it internationally but lived a life of a local "rockstar" most of my youth... it's a 15 years-long story of turning into a petty egomaniac raging drug addict alcoholic and it's a miracle I'm still alive.
So now over 5 years after quitting, I'm 100% retired, live a super mediocre boring life with a totally mediocre corporate IT job, killed all my social media when going sober, I'm mr nobody, and believe it or not I absolutely love it.
It'll sound horribly cliche but the whole trick is to learn to appreciate small things in life and subtract everything that tries to fuck with it, it's so much better than all the bombast shit you ever thought will make you happy.
Blond
Banned
The best advice I can give you even if you personally may not like "What you're good at" is to play to your strengths. It might take a few years to pay off, hell, you might even have to take a pay cut like I did, but once you're "on the path" and you start setting goals for yourself suddenly your outlook will be different.
Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself gets you nowhere even spending a hour a day working on anything be it bettering yourself mentally or your body will make you more satisfied in the long run. Spend a hour a day learning to code or UX Design, in 100 days you've spent 100 hours learning a program language, algorithms, designing interfaces and possibly contributed to an open source project and or other things and you've prepared yourself for a junior dev role making 65-70k, of which there are many and it only gets better from there.
I'm not saying you HAVE to go this route, but I will say that exploring your options than sulking in "Blackpill" non-sense from losers on the internet (and trust me, I know a lot of so called "blackpillers" IRL who aren't shit.) who are of low value to everyone around them isn't the solution. Just saying.
Werewolf Jones
Member
I'm not successful but I'm real and in 2020 that's beyond valuable with the clout chasers and attention seekers who walk this earth.
Patrick S.
Banned
Are you e-phonk from PlanetCrap?
Tesseract
Banned
getting good at stuff keeps me honest, out of the shadows
pushing past mediocrity in one thing leads to another, builds confidence and momentum to better opportunities
i'd love to jetset the world or hop around dive bars all night but it's not very dutiful or productive
pushing past mediocrity in one thing leads to another, builds confidence and momentum to better opportunities
i'd love to jetset the world or hop around dive bars all night but it's not very dutiful or productive
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Stiflers Mom
Banned
This.
Goro Majima
Kitty Genovese Member
Just gonna casually mention my favorite genre and era of early 2000s trance and not even hint at which track it was?
Mr Nash
square pies = communism
I think you owe Packer an apology.
BlackOlivesMatter
Banned
I'm a below mediocre rapper, so there's that.
Dthomp
Member
Depression isn't a one size fits all glove. It can be something that hits for stretches or bothers you all the time. Honestly, as an old man, you just sound like you are way to far in your own head worrying about nonsense. What's wrong with being mediocre in the grand scheme? Most of us are fucking mediocre or really don't matter in the big picture, that's life. Make the most of each day that you have. Bad breakup? Grieve for whatever you need and seek out a new companion. Some people just need to stay out of their heads with this stuff, you get 1 life to live, don't spend it worrying about nonsense my friend. If you are happy, it really doesn't matter how much you make, how cool your car is, how hot your girl is. Talk to a doctor, or maybe a therapist if you feel that deeply of life regret.