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[MaestroMike]

I'm not married just curious whats a good amount of savings to have before getting married and did your wifey know how much you had? I mean you had to let them know somehow that you weren't a scrub, right? But at the same time you don't want them thinking you're loaded or anything probably. Did you know how much savings they had before getting hitched?

 

[Stilton Disco]

I had about 10 grand, but we'd been together for almost 15 years by the time we actually got hitched, and so also had joint savings and what have you. In total we've got over 50 thousand in savings.

Don't go big on the wedding itself, and make sure you're budgeting properly to at least be able to save a bit each month, and I don't think any sane chick should be able to fault you for fiscal responsibility, even if you're not flush with cash.

 

[Nealand Liquor]

Ya no, I had nothing and had little desire to do anything but drink my face off, get high, play video games and fuck. I was content being the rent a dick arm candy type boyfriend until I met my wife and she brought out the best in me.

 

[joe_zazen]

negative $80k.

 

[Maiden Voyage]

Total net worth was negative due to our student loans & auto loans. Went in the black within 2 years though.

 

[Cunth]

0 and then i took all my wifes money lawllll

 

[Mossybrew]

I mean you had to let them know somehow that you weren't a scrub, right?

Hah we were both scrubs, two broke kids just living paycheck to paycheck, we didn't really care about money.

 

[Jooxed]

0 and then i took all my wifes money lawllll

this guy did it right

 

[Threeshotgamer]

I had just launched my first business and my wife was still in entry level management so we had pretty much nothing. We put about 2k on a credit card for the wedding and went camping/white water rafting for our honeymoon.

 

[Later Alligator]

we had already owned a house which we sold right before the wedding, and were lucky enough to make a nice profit. put us at >100k. otherwise, it would have been 10 - 30k

 

[sonomamashine]

0 and then i took all my wifes money lawllll

Make seminars about this subject, i'll buy your courses.

 

[bigsnack]

I was absolutely on a path to financial ruin, mimicking my folks, before I met my wife. She pulled me from the depths of hell, and I'll be forever grateful for it.

 

[Elektro Demon]

I'm gonna give you the best advice ever. Please listen to it.
Don't get married. Ever.

 

[Stilton Disco]

I'm gonna give you the best advice ever. Please listen to it.
Don't get married. Ever.

Better advice: find and marry a big titted tomboy, with traditional values, that hates 'partying' and loves outdoor activities.

 

[MaestroMike]

I'm gonna give you the best advice ever. Please listen to it.
Don't get married. Ever.

What if u have kids ?? doesn't she automatically get ur stuff anyways cuz of the kids wouldn't it then make sense to just get married to save money on taxes and get other benefits??

 

[Super Mario]

Not married. Focusing on net worth more than marriage. So far, I love this choice.

 

[highrider]

I was absolutely on a path to financial ruin, mimicking my folks, before I met my wife. She pulled me from the depths of hell, and I'll be forever grateful for it.

Definitely marriage is a good idea for guys like this. Marriage is a bad deal for most men unfortunately. Half of them fail, 80% of divorces are initiated by women, there’s very little you can do to protect yourself from the family court machine. If you’re dead set on having a family like I was you have to get married, or at least you probably should. Everyone else not so much.

 

[highrider]

Not married. Focusing on net worth more than marriage. So far, I love this choice.

It’s by far the best path imo. I never became a truly realized person until I was able to extricate myself from the need for women/companionship.

 

[TaySan]

Not married, but i currently have 15k in savings.

 

[bigsnack]

Definitely marriage is a good idea for guys like this. Marriage is a bad deal for most men unfortunately. Half of them fail, 80% of divorces are initiated by women, there’s very little you can do to protect yourself from the family court machine. If you’re dead set on having a family like I was you have to get married, or at least you probably should. Everyone else not so much.

I didn't realize that 80% of marriages are initiated by women, but I have anecdotal evidence to back this. I have 5 different friends / acquaintances who were blindsided by a sudden "I'm not happy anymore" by their wives. All 5 dudes wanted to go to counseling and work on the marriage to try and save it. All 5 were met with a hard no, and had to go through a divorce. 3 out of the five ex wives were dating someone else within two months, which likely means they were cheating beforehand.

 

[highrider]

I didn't realize that 80% of marriages are initiated by women, but I have anecdotal evidence to back this. I have 5 different friends / acquaintances who were blindsided by a sudden "I'm not happy anymore" by their wives. All 5 dudes wanted to go to counseling and work on the marriage to try and save it. All 5 were met with a hard no, and had to go through a divorce. 3 out of the five ex wives were dating someone else within two months, which likely means they were cheating beforehand.

Best to remember, she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.

 

[Mossybrew]

Best to remember, she’s not yours, it’s just your turn.

Yep, very true most of the time. Whether your turn lasts a year or twenty, I think this is actually a healthy idea to internalize for when the inevitable happens it will help you better accept it. Happily ever after is for Disney movies, not reality. Enjoy what you get and then move on with dignity.

 

[poppabk]

Both in grad school at the time so.......

$0.

 

[isual]

not married. the strategy is to not be married and just save money and be a pharaoh with all my assets.

 

[fran.fernandez]

Got married at 35, she was 26.

wont say money or assets, but she is asian and they ask me 500 k in advance for marriage (they give u the same amount back), also the amount should not be even.
Asiansss

 

[Super Mario]

It’s by far the best path imo. I never became a truly realized person until I was able to extricate myself from the need for women/companionship.

Not that I am against marriage. However, too many people don't make the right decisions on either.