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[Power Pro]

Feeling kinda depressed again tonight. Somedays I accept my fate of just being an ugly loser, but sometimes I wonder if I can ever really turn it around. Well doing internet shit, I come across a subreddit called r/amiugly and it's full of people posting pictures asking the question "be honest, am i ugly" and it's full of people who aren't ugly. Some of the girls are actually really cute or pretty, but apparently struggle with thinking they're ugly? It's like jesus christ...i dunno, it puts into perspective why I am so horribly treated by the opposite sex sometimes. It's not just about attitude, because I've had people who were supposed to meet me for dates, and walked away as soon as they saw me. On this subreddit, all these people who aren't even close to being ugly think they somehow must be unattractive. No wonder I am treated so inhumanely sometimes. I'm someone who is actually ugly, it's no wonder why I'm treated like the most hideous creature to have been born. Most people don't know what real ugliness is until they see me.

 

[StreetsofBeige]

That reddit site is used by people who just want followers.

It's like dating sites. Anytime you see a good looking person posting their Instagram link in their profile, same thing.

 

[HRK69]

That reddit site is used by people who just want followers.

It's like dating sites. Anytime you see a good looking person posting their Instagram link in their profile, same thing.

Jup.

And lets not forget Only Fans

 

[Majima Everywhere System]

Cheer up! Don't go on dates with people who don't have context on why you are great, even if it's slow. Also, fix up what you got and get passionate about something while you wait.

 

[Power Pro]

Cheer up! Don't go on dates with people who don't have context on why you are great, even if it's slow. Also, fix up what you got and get passionate about something while you wait.

Thanks, but I don't even really go on those dates anymore. Those experiences were when I was still at least "young", and could maybe get some chick from pof to sleep with me if I was lucky. Now I'm over 40, and I no longer have that benefit, and just fall into the creepy ugly old man category. It was always hard to meet people, but now it's impossible, because every dating site that i had minor success on, are just hook up apps now.

 

[lazyheaven]

Don't take social media environments like that at face value. Most people who post are not actually posting earnestly or in good faith. They know they are of average or above average attractiveness. They want attention, gratification, and follows.

In general, always maintain a robust and healthy skepticism about everything on the Internet. The Internet is full of hyperbole, trolling, and every possible kind of fraud.

On a more positive note, I bet you're not as bad off as you feel you are. When you are depressed everything feels much worse than it actually is or has to be. Mentality makes all the difference in the world. Getting to a more grateful and optimistic headspace has major positive ripple effects for the rest of your wellbeing and will put upward pressure on many facets of your attractiveness, from your social approachability, to your sense of humor, to your predilection for making healthier life choices. I know it's much easier said than done, but know that it is within your power to get there.

 

[Power Pro]

Don't take social media environments like that at face value. Most people who post are not actually posting earnestly or in good faith. They know they are of average or above average attractiveness. They want attention, gratification, and follows.

In general, always maintain a robust and healthy skepticism about everything on the Internet. The Internet is full of hyperbole, trolling, and every possible kind of fraud.

On a more positive note, I bet you're not as bad off as you feel you are. When you are depressed everything feels much worse than it actually is or has to be. Mentality makes all the difference in the world. Getting to a more grateful and optimistic headspace has major positive ripple effects for the rest of your wellbeing and will put upward pressure on many facets of your attractiveness, from your social approachability, to your sense of humor, to your predilection for making healthier life choices. I know it's much easier said than done, but know that it is within your power to get there.

Big part of my problem is the damn teeth. The top front teeth stick out terribly, and have terrible gaps in them. STUPID dentists when i was a kid did not fix them properly, and as an adult, I've never been able to properly afford to get them fixed. Even when I have gone to places saying "please, just help me get these fixed" they always talk like... "well we cant do it because of this severe overbite" because my lower jaw is so far back, they make it sound impossible to fix my teeth. As if it's physically impossible to fix my upper teeth because my lower jaw needs to be broken to fix. That's just ignoring the multiple thousands of dollars they always want up front that i never have to get it done.


I bring this up, because i feel like if i did not suffer from these bad teeth, i could at least smile and feel a little better about myself, but it's just something i can't do. Then I've put on weight as ive gotten older...dont have the energy for the gym, don't have a good diet, dont have the money to buy healthier foods because groceries are so expensive...then i also go back to comfort foods cuz of how depressed i am...it's a vicious cycle. no support to help me get through it also.

 

[March Climber]

On this subreddit, all these people who aren't even close to being ugly think they somehow must be unattractive.

If you actually want to see more average-looking people be rated and given real advice on how to improve their looks, go to r/howtolooksmax.