I just learned that there's a subreddit called r/amiugly

Power Pro

Power Pro

Member
Feeling kinda depressed again tonight. Somedays I accept my fate of just being an ugly loser, but sometimes I wonder if I can ever really turn it around. Well doing internet shit, I come across a subreddit called r/amiugly and it's full of people posting pictures asking the question "be honest, am i ugly" and it's full of people who aren't ugly. Some of the girls are actually really cute or pretty, but apparently struggle with thinking they're ugly? It's like jesus christ...i dunno, it puts into perspective why I am so horribly treated by the opposite sex sometimes. It's not just about attitude, because I've had people who were supposed to meet me for dates, and walked away as soon as they saw me. On this subreddit, all these people who aren't even close to being ugly think they somehow must be unattractive. No wonder I am treated so inhumanely sometimes. I'm someone who is actually ugly, it's no wonder why I'm treated like the most hideous creature to have been born. Most people don't know what real ugliness is until they see me.
 
That reddit site is used by people who just want followers.

It's like dating sites. Anytime you see a good looking person posting their Instagram link in their profile, same thing.
 
Majima Everywhere System said:
Cheer up! Don't go on dates with people who don't have context on why you are great, even if it's slow. Also, fix up what you got and get passionate about something while you wait.
Click to expand...
Thanks, but I don't even really go on those dates anymore. Those experiences were when I was still at least "young", and could maybe get some chick from pof to sleep with me if I was lucky. Now I'm over 40, and I no longer have that benefit, and just fall into the creepy ugly old man category. It was always hard to meet people, but now it's impossible, because every dating site that i had minor success on, are just hook up apps now.
 
Don't take social media environments like that at face value. Most people who post are not actually posting earnestly or in good faith. They know they are of average or above average attractiveness. They want attention, gratification, and follows.

In general, always maintain a robust and healthy skepticism about everything on the Internet. The Internet is full of hyperbole, trolling, and every possible kind of fraud.

On a more positive note, I bet you're not as bad off as you feel you are. When you are depressed everything feels much worse than it actually is or has to be. Mentality makes all the difference in the world. Getting to a more grateful and optimistic headspace has major positive ripple effects for the rest of your wellbeing and will put upward pressure on many facets of your attractiveness, from your social approachability, to your sense of humor, to your predilection for making healthier life choices. I know it's much easier said than done, but know that it is within your power to get there.
 
lazyheaven said:
Don't take social media environments like that at face value. Most people who post are not actually posting earnestly or in good faith. They know they are of average or above average attractiveness. They want attention, gratification, and follows.

In general, always maintain a robust and healthy skepticism about everything on the Internet. The Internet is full of hyperbole, trolling, and every possible kind of fraud.

On a more positive note, I bet you're not as bad off as you feel you are. When you are depressed everything feels much worse than it actually is or has to be. Mentality makes all the difference in the world. Getting to a more grateful and optimistic headspace has major positive ripple effects for the rest of your wellbeing and will put upward pressure on many facets of your attractiveness, from your social approachability, to your sense of humor, to your predilection for making healthier life choices. I know it's much easier said than done, but know that it is within your power to get there.
Click to expand...
Big part of my problem is the damn teeth. The top front teeth stick out terribly, and have terrible gaps in them. STUPID dentists when i was a kid did not fix them properly, and as an adult, I've never been able to properly afford to get them fixed. Even when I have gone to places saying "please, just help me get these fixed" they always talk like... "well we cant do it because of this severe overbite" because my lower jaw is so far back, they make it sound impossible to fix my teeth. As if it's physically impossible to fix my upper teeth because my lower jaw needs to be broken to fix. That's just ignoring the multiple thousands of dollars they always want up front that i never have to get it done.


I bring this up, because i feel like if i did not suffer from these bad teeth, i could at least smile and feel a little better about myself, but it's just something i can't do. Then I've put on weight as ive gotten older...dont have the energy for the gym, don't have a good diet, dont have the money to buy healthier foods because groceries are so expensive...then i also go back to comfort foods cuz of how depressed i am...it's a vicious cycle. no support to help me get through it also.
 
I've been off my medication for too many days, and I feel like my posting behavior and comments have been erratic and stupid all night. I guess I don't always realize how much it stabilizes me until I go without them for a while. I just felt like this would be a good thread to apologize in.
 
Stay strong brother. Im #uglygang too

full
 
That subreddit is mostly ugly or slightly below average guys who know the score... and cute young women fishing for attention. Way of the world.
 
Last edited:
I see ugly dudes with hot women all the time.
You good.

As long as you have a good personality and money.
 
Last edited:
Power Pro said:
Feeling kinda depressed again tonight. Somedays I accept my fate of just being an ugly loser, but sometimes I wonder if I can ever really turn it around. Well doing internet shit, I come across a subreddit called r/amiugly and it's full of people posting pictures asking the question "be honest, am i ugly" and it's full of people who aren't ugly. Some of the girls are actually really cute or pretty, but apparently struggle with thinking they're ugly? It's like jesus christ...i dunno, it puts into perspective why I am so horribly treated by the opposite sex sometimes. It's not just about attitude, because I've had people who were supposed to meet me for dates, and walked away as soon as they saw me. On this subreddit, all these people who aren't even close to being ugly think they somehow must be unattractive. No wonder I am treated so inhumanely sometimes. I'm someone who is actually ugly, it's no wonder why I'm treated like the most hideous creature to have been born. Most people don't know what real ugliness is until they see me.
Click to expand...
I remember the last thread we had about guy complaining about how he was short and ugly and was impossible for him to get a girl ended with the guy sympathizing with mass shooters. Shut her down boys or we can go live 🤣
 
Last edited:
Power Pro said:
Feeling kinda depressed again tonight. Somedays I accept my fate of just being an ugly loser, but sometimes I wonder if I can ever really turn it around. Well doing internet shit, I come across a subreddit called r/amiugly and it's full of people posting pictures asking the question "be honest, am i ugly" and it's full of people who aren't ugly. Some of the girls are actually really cute or pretty, but apparently struggle with thinking they're ugly? It's like jesus christ...i dunno, it puts into perspective why I am so horribly treated by the opposite sex sometimes. It's not just about attitude, because I've had people who were supposed to meet me for dates, and walked away as soon as they saw me. On this subreddit, all these people who aren't even close to being ugly think they somehow must be unattractive. No wonder I am treated so inhumanely sometimes. I'm someone who is actually ugly, it's no wonder why I'm treated like the most hideous creature to have been born. Most people don't know what real ugliness is until they see me.
Click to expand...
What are you interested in? I suppose it's video games and posting on neogaf and stuff like that. Most likely there is someone who has no idea about that kind of thing but wants to meet someone who does, that's where you enter the equation. As long as you're open minded and willing to expose your inner-most weaknesses, you're outer-most weaknesses don't matter as much. Be brave, you only go around once on this spinning rock so make the most of it. If you're in a bind shoot me a message, I got your back 😎👍 we all like you here PowerP, and that's got to count for something.
 
Ugliness isn't that big of a deal to be honest.
I look like Sloth from the Goonies and I eventually found a cute girl who can put up with me.
Looks aren't as important to women as they are to men, in general.
 
You seem like you have good character and maybe that can overcome your personal ugliness. You probably aren't ugly. Stay groomed and clean and try not to smell bad.
 
Parts of the internet like that have just been infected by thots who are trying to sucker guys in. They'll be acting like a genuine person but trying to invite people to their onlyfans.

So you could say they are ugly on the inside.
 
Power Pro said:
Big part of my problem is the damn teeth. The top front teeth stick out terribly, and have terrible gaps in them. STUPID dentists when i was a kid did not fix them properly, and as an adult, I've never been able to properly afford to get them fixed. Even when I have gone to places saying "please, just help me get these fixed" they always talk like... "well we cant do it because of this severe overbite" because my lower jaw is so far back, they make it sound impossible to fix my teeth. As if it's physically impossible to fix my upper teeth because my lower jaw needs to be broken to fix. That's just ignoring the multiple thousands of dollars they always want up front that i never have to get it done.


I bring this up, because i feel like if i did not suffer from these bad teeth, i could at least smile and feel a little better about myself, but it's just something i can't do. Then I've put on weight as ive gotten older...dont have the energy for the gym, don't have a good diet, dont have the money to buy healthier foods because groceries are so expensive...then i also go back to comfort foods cuz of how depressed i am...it's a vicious cycle. no support to help me get through it also.
Click to expand...

The thing is, no matter how janky your teeth are or w/e other problem you have, people can and do become beautiful when they become familiar. There are so few opportunities to meet our peers after about age 25 that nobody really gets the chance to show off their personality and the things that make them irreplaceable.

Idk if it gives you any comfort because I know talking about it doesn't change anything.. but it's more this shitty modern life we're living in and less about your teeth :\
 
Eirin said:
The thing is, no matter how janky your teeth are or w/e other problem you have, people can and do become beautiful when they become familiar. There are so few opportunities to meet our peers after about age 25 that nobody really gets the chance to show off their personality and the things that make them irreplaceable.

Idk if it gives you any comfort because I know talking about it doesn't change anything.. but it's more this shitty modern life we're living in and less about your teeth :\
Click to expand...
No no, you're absolutely right. Ya know, as down I am about myself, I know that if people just knew me, they'd like me. I think I have a dry wit that a lot of people find very charming. All the old ladies at my work love me, but sadly they need to be their daughter's ages for me to have any interest in them really lol My mom and I work in the same office, and most of them are her age.


I totally agree though that it's just the society we live in that also makes it so difficult. Even if I wasn't autistic, the opportunities for meeting people past a certain point in your life feel damn near impossible. Even 20 years ago when I was done with high school, it started to feel that way. People already have their cemented relationships, and you can never break into someone's life it feels like. Some people say they're lonely, but very few are actually completely alone like I am where I have zero friends.
 
You're not ugly OP, I guarantee it, and you need to stop talking so negatively about yourself. You have to learn to love yourself before you attempt to love anyone else man, and it sounds like you just don't love yourself at all. I've got jacked up teeth too man, just don't smile with your teeth, do the sly grin, problem solved. I've been married for fifteen years to a woman that's stratospherically out of my league, and I think the primary reason for her not realizing how much better she can do than me, (other than her terrible eye sight), is that I make her laugh often, and that goes a long way with women. Stop thinking abour your negatives and start thinking about the stuff that you're great at, your positive traits. I guarantee there's far more positives for you than negatives, but you need to want to find them and you need to be proud of those traits both outwardly and inwardly.

For example, I'm not in anywhere near the shape that an Adonis piece of ass like DavidGzz DavidGzz is, but I'm still proud of my general health and physique, as I climbed out of the hole of morbid obesity and committed to a healthier life style, dropping over 90 pounds, and nowadays I try to keep things relatively lean, and though I don't train as much as I used to, (gonna go back to it when I finish this latest degree), I'm still very proud of what I can do and what I've done. Granted, I don't have many skills, but I'm proud of the few I possess. You need to examine what it is about yourself that you're proud of and build on that, and just stop focusing on negativity. I promise there's many traits that you possess that literally millions of people would envy; figure out what those are and build on them.

You got this man, you just need to realize you're a fucking catch, and stop letting people convince you otherwise. If they don't appreciate you, fuck em, their loss, move on to those who deserve your presence, and allow yourself the happiness that you deserve.
 
Some people are born ugly. That's just like. Maybe they have other ways to attract, and some don't. Also just life. I do think confidence and effort go a long way. Sometimes your confidence might take a knock, but keep the effort for yourself to at least feel good, by being healthy. That will surely go a long way.

Trial and error different looks. Grow a beard, change your hair.

Freddie Mercury had jacked up teeth. But you wouldn't have really known how much because of his mustache.

Loads of dudes out there with no chin or multiple chins, but a solid beard disguises it.

Speak to a woman for tips. They're masters of deception themselves, after all.
 
Too many people still trying to rationalize attraction into formulae and equations.

Guys, there's no logic, no rhyme, no reason. Sure, you can make generalizations, but…

there's ridiculously good-looking people who are partnerless
there's rich people who are partnerless
there's war criminals swimming in pussy
there's people who are ugly as sin and have had multiple spouses
there's people who can barely figure out their everyday life and still got married

Etc, etc, etc.

If there's one aspect of life where we can clearly see that we have much less conscious control over ourselves than we delusionally think we have, it's everything concerning mating. If you think your significant other got with you because of a specific reason, chances are very high that if you ask them, they'll say it's because of something else. Probably something you always thought was THE reason why you couldn't find anyone.
 
Power Pro said:
Big part of my problem is the damn teeth. The top front teeth stick out terribly, and have terrible gaps in them. STUPID dentists when i was a kid did not fix them properly, and as an adult, I've never been able to properly afford to get them fixed. Even when I have gone to places saying "please, just help me get these fixed" they always talk like... "well we cant do it because of this severe overbite" because my lower jaw is so far back, they make it sound impossible to fix my teeth. As if it's physically impossible to fix my upper teeth because my lower jaw needs to be broken to fix. That's just ignoring the multiple thousands of dollars they always want up front that i never have to get it done.


I bring this up, because i feel like if i did not suffer from these bad teeth, i could at least smile and feel a little better about myself, but it's just something i can't do. Then I've put on weight as ive gotten older...dont have the energy for the gym, don't have a good diet, dont have the money to buy healthier foods because groceries are so expensive...then i also go back to comfort foods cuz of how depressed i am...it's a vicious cycle. no support to help me get through it also.
Click to expand...
It may be worth looking into nearby dental colleges as a treatment option if your teeth bother you that much and cost is an issue. You can get dental work done at them for cheap.
 
Sort by "new" for the real experience.

Reddit will, by default, push the most upvoted posts to the top. The subreddit is mostly ugly guys who upvote (and simp for) pretty girls, so that's exactly what you'll see when you load up that subreddit.

I also feel like it's just part of the human condition to feel ugly or unattractive, especially people in, or coming out of, toxic relationships or depression. The pretty girls just use this subreddit as an outlet to get validation. I wouldn't put too much thought or stock into it, personally.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

Good Subreddits
38
2K
AJUMP23 replied
Shaolin Soccer 2 is currently filming, but there's a twist
25
2K
Hawk The Slayer replied
  • Locked
I just want to thank you, Americans
1
830
Digital-Aftertaste replied
I just realized that you can't have it all.
2
53
3K
Winter John replied
And the number one movie in the country was called Ass
8
308
CGNoire replied
Top Bottom