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I met the perfect girl.... or so I thought!!

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XS+

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You did the right thing. Politics is SERIOUS. People treat it as some frivolous pasttime. No. It is a crucial pillar of our society that affects millions. I would not want to date someone that held views so noxious. She's a bigot. A relationship with her would be a compromise that I could never abide. You have to be able to respect those you enter into relationships with, otherwise what's the point? Can you respect a bigot? Can you respect someone who supports George W. Bush, a fascist? Of course not. Her politics will ALWAYS be a point of contention, a division that is irreconcilable. Don't call her anymore. People like her should be ostracized.
 

Willco

Hollywood Square
XS+ said:
Can you respect someone who supports George W. Bush, a fascist?

Oh God. I'm out! There aren't rolleyes big enough for that comment.

/me lays cards on table, takes pile of plastic coints and goes to 7-Eleven with his winnings.
 

Justin Bailey

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XS+ said:
You did the right thing. Politics is SERIOUS. People treat it as some frivolous pasttime. No. It is a crucial pillar of our society that affects millions. I would not want to date someone that held views so noxious. She's a bigot. A relationship with her would be a compromise that I could never abide. You have to be able to respect those you enter into relationships with, otherwise what's the point? Can you respect a bigot? Can you respect someone who supports George W. Bush, a fascist? Of course not. Her politics will ALWAYS be a point of contention, a division that is irreconcilable. Don't call her anymore. People like her should be ostracized.
:lol
 

ChrisReid

Member
JC10001 said:
I went back to her house last night and then IT happened. The news was on and it mentioned how the supreme court had elected to let the states decide on the gay marriage issue. Then she blurts out "I can't believe they aren't going to do something about that. Those liberals are demoralizing the country. Thank God George Bush is the president. He wants to ammend the constitution."

My heart litterally SANK! Now granted, I do live in an upper-middle class neighborhood where the majority of people are republicans so I shouldn't have been too surprised... but hearing those words come out of her mouth was shocking. A short time later I told her I wasn't feeling well and I headed home.

Yeah, I'll back you up. Get out while you still can. More than just a simple political issue, someone taking such an anti-gay stance would resonate with me as having more close-mindedness issues altogether.
 
Hot gamer girls aren't very common. If you dump her because of political BS, you are a fool. If you still want to, I'm sure someone on this forum would be glad to take her off your hands.
 

Baron Aloha

A Shining Example
Willco said:
Again, until JC says this prospective girlfriend actually came out and said, "Damn those liberal fags, I hope they rot in hell!", I think it's quite unfair for people to call her a bigot.

I'm at work so I don't want to type out exactly what she said yet but your quote is pretty close. I'll explain more when I get home. I'm leaving shortly.
 

effzee

Member
i dont feel like making a new topic on this but yes i too am having girl problems. the girl i have a crush on is coming up to see me, at my university, this weekend and to also attend this cultural show. the thing she wants to go to the afterparty while the rest of my friends are going to this diner afterwards.....how do i convince her to come with us? plus i want to stay far away from the club..cant let her see how bad of a dance i am.
 
You guys are really making to rash a judgement on this girl. Maybe JC should actually talk to this girl one more time, and clarify exactly what see meant. It could be deeper than what we know or not.

Secondly, instead of just shunning this girl, maybe JC can try to reason with her. It's no good letting ignorance persist. Maybe this girl just doesn't know any better. He really should persue this girl and find out what is really up.

I could understand this being a problem for someone, but really for me I could careless. The girls seems cool otherwise, JC could pass on this girl and regret it. I say atleast try. It's better to fail at this relationship, then keep wondering what could have been. He is obviously torn

Personally I have no problem with gays marrying. However, marriage doesn't interest me much anyway. I'd be perfectly content with just spending the rest of my life with a girl and never getting married. So I don't have a paper that says we're united, I don't care. Marriage isn't what it used to be. If gays want to deal with the same shit as straight people then let them, it won't make marriage any worse.

PS, no one is perfect, deal with their faults, or stay single for ever.

edit: It's good to see JC is finding out more of the truth.
 
Atomsmasher said:
Hot gamer girls aren't very common. If you dump her because of political BS, you are a fool. If you still want to, I'm sure someone on this forum would be glad to take her off your hands.

I disagree with this. Hot gamer girls arn't as uncommon as people here think they are. It's just that hot gamer girls that are unnaturally obsessesed with gaming and other ultra geeky stuff are uncommon. There is a difference.

I'd also go as far as to say that political association can be a huge factor as to whether someone compatible or not. Politics may be just a seasonal or once-in-a-while thing for some people but it's the topic of life for others. Subjects like gays, war, economy, etc, can be the topic of conversation all the time so what else are they going to talk about if they can never see eye to eye?

I mean, if gaming is seen as a huge turn on for people here, why not politics? One is just a stupid hobby and the other is a topic that is quite important and based on the way we live, the social norms we value, the laws we follow, etc, etc.

I see one as being far more "valuable" when evaluating someone. Politics and the reasons people follow them are so much more important than whether they play Final Fantasy or not. Talk about fucked up priorities here.

Now, that's not to say JC should just dump the girl and just ignore her. Though I swing toward the libral side of politics, all my friends are republicans except for one. That doesn't mean I have to reject everything about them. It just means we avoid the topic of politics like the plague. All I'm saying is that it's pretty dumb to say one thing, gaming, is a more credible and important hobby than something like politics. That's just stupid.
 

Drensch

Member
Big Green Mat is right. This is more than a slight political difference. Can people get along with differences?, Sure. But people can't have core disagreements, it just can't work. Get over the hot gamer thing, someone's personal beliefs on how the world works and how they relate to it are far more important than if you can FHUTA after a round of Tekken.
 

karasu

Member
Leave her. Since when do people in their twenties change into different people? Sure, you could wait for a midlife crisis, but dude let it go. She's probably a republican for life by now.
 

Celicar

Banned
Damn, liberals are bitter. More than half of my friends are liberals, but you don't see me saying fuck them and their hippie ideals.

My girlfriend is a freakin liberal. Her whole family is full of them. What the hell is the big deal?


She's probably a republican for life by now


OMG!!! NO!!! Anything but that. bitter, bitter, bitter
 

AstroLad

Hail to the KING baby
Celicar said:
Damn, liberals are bitter. More than half of my friends are liberals, but you don't see me saying fuck them and their hippie ideals.

My girlfriend is a freakin liberal. Her whole family is full of them. What the hell is the big deal?





OMG!!! NO!!! Anything but that. bitter, bitter, bitter

Yeah, conservatives never act "bitter" about anything. Just because you're the Conservative Bastion of Ideological Peace on Earth, doesn't mean that most of your buddies share your ideas.

My personal philosophy is that we should follow George W. Bush's example and make the extra effort to "reach out" to "those who share our goals." I know it can be hard sometimes, but if we dig deep down into our hearts, I think it can be accomplished.
 
Celicar said:
Damn, liberals are bitter. More than half of my friends are liberals, but you don't see me saying fuck them and their hippie ideals.

My girlfriend is a freakin liberal. Her whole family is full of them. What the hell is the big deal?





OMG!!! NO!!! Anything but that. bitter, bitter, bitter

Liberals are more easy to deal with than tight rectumed right wingers because they tend to be more centered. :)


I kid I kid.
 

Dilbert

Member
I'll have to keep this short...don't have much time.

The bottom line is that there is a distinction between someone that's you're "just dating," and someone that you are thinking of as a potential long-term relationship or marriage partner. The only restrictions on "just dating" is that they be fun, hot, and convenient...by definition, it's transitory.

However, if you're concerned about someone being compatible over the long term, you have to consider the things which are REALLY important to you. Politics per se don't matter that much to me...as noted, they can and do change over time. Far more important to me is having compatible beliefs on issues that are core: ethics, family, responsibility, financial habits.

If the issue of gay rights is very important to you, and you want to be serious about this girl, then break it off now. Otherwise, you might try dating and avoid deep subjects...because why do you want to get deep in a "fun" relationship?

EDIT: Sorry, but "fag" in a derogatory usage is an instant dealbreaker. Good job on skipping her.
 

Baron Aloha

A Shining Example
I'm finally home. They record everything I type at work.

The exact exchange went like this:

News: "Supreme Court says states should decide"
Me: "That's a surprise." (because I thought for sure that they would overturn it for some reason)
Her: "Yeah, I can't believe they aren't doing something about it. That judge (referring to the one from Massachusetts) doesn't know what he's doing. These liberals are demoralizing the country. First Bill Clinton now this!"
Me: "Why does it bother you so much?"
Her: "Because it's sick. I don't think they (gays) should get married. Thank God George Bush is the president. He wants to ammend the constitution. If those fucking fags want to get married they should get out of the country and take the people like that judge and that asshole John Kerry with them."
Me: (shocked) changed topic

And I just called and left a msg on her machine saying to give me a call. I had pretty much already decided to call things off when I posted the original topic but I wanted to make sure I wasn't being too irrational.... which apparently I wasn't judging from the number of people saying to cut her loose.

At this point in my life I am looking for a long-term relationship. I mean, lets just say that I did let this slide and at some point we got married and had kids. I don't want my kids being taught that gay people, or people who otherwise aren't in the mainstream, don't deserve the same rights as everyone else and that they are somehow less human than the rest of us.

Plus I'm sure I'd have a lot more disgreements with her than this down the line. Afterall, she DID thank God that GWB was the president. And to top it all off I don't like it when chicks use the word "fuck". It isn't very lady-like.
 

levious

That throwing stick stunt of yours has boomeranged on us.
yeah, you didn't overreact at all... but hey, if she's cool in every other respect, why not try to get her to see this issue from your perspective... the non-batshitinsane perspective.
 

Celicar

Banned
levious said:
yeah, you didn't overreact at all... but hey, if she's cool in every other respect, why not try to get her to see this issue from your perspective... the non-batshitinsane perspective.


Well why doesn't she just get him to see things in her perspective...the right perspective.
 
The Shadow said:
I'd also go as far as to say that political association can be a huge factor as to whether someone compatible or not. Politics may be just a seasonal or once-in-a-while thing for some people but it's the topic of life for others. Subjects like gays, war, economy, etc, can be the topic of conversation all the time so what else are they going to talk about if they can never see eye to eye?

I mean, if gaming is seen as a huge turn on for people here, why not politics? One is just a stupid hobby and the other is a topic that is quite important and based on the way we live, the social norms we value, the laws we follow, etc, etc.

I see one as being far more "valuable" when evaluating someone. Politics and the reasons people follow them are so much more important than whether they play Final Fantasy or not. Talk about fucked up priorities here.

Now, that's not to say JC should just dump the girl and just ignore her. Though I swing toward the libral side of politics, all my friends are republicans except for one. That doesn't mean I have to reject everything about them. It just means we avoid the topic of politics like the plague. All I'm saying is that it's pretty dumb to say one thing, gaming, is a more credible and important hobby than something like politics. That's just stupid.

Perhaps I was a bit rash with my comments here, because obviously, politics are very important for alot of people. I personally don't care that much about them, even though I should. Every now and again an issue will be brought up that I completely disagree with, but even that isn't enough for me to stop seeing a person over. Are my priorities fucked up? Damn straight they are. Games ARE my life. So obviously, for me, a gamer girl would be the best thing ever. But anyway, do what you feel you should do. If the difference in political opinion is that big a deal for you and would get in the way of a relationship, it's probably best to just end it before it gets serious.

I'd also like to add that there seems to be way too much animosity between liberals and conservatives here. I always see posts that just attack a person of opposing viewpoints with comments like "God the conservatives are such morons" etc... I realize there are large differences in opinions between issues, but honestly, why not just have a calm discussion with people rather than just completely attacking them. Seems like its most often the liberals that are the ones attacking, I don't know if its because theres more liberals than conservatives on the forums or what. But can someone explain why they seem to be more hateful towards the conservatives than vice versa, or prove me wrong and show me that conservatives are just as hateful. And don't try to label me as a conservative attacking liberals here, because I'm not. In the rare cases I do anything involving politics, I fall in between the two based on what I agree or disagree with, I'm just commenting on my observations from reading various topics.

Edit: Just went back and read JC's latest post. That completely changes the perspective about everything going on. He sugar coated what she said way too much originally. The fact that she said something like that in front of a person she hasn't known very long makes me think that perhaps she would react like that in other situations too. So yeah, I apologise for the rash comment originally, but maybe you should give her another chance or have a talk with her and let her know how you feel about things.
 

AstroLad

Hail to the KING baby
Any girl that said "fag" or "nigger" or any number of hateful terms for a group of people anything like that in such a mean-spirited way I would literally be repulsed by. I don't even think it would be a big "choice," I would just see her as trash.
 

Dan

No longer boycotting the Wolfenstein franchise
I would have to go with JC1000 on this one. I couldn't be in a dating situation with someone who thinks like that. I'd probably even have a difficult time being friends with someone with such strong disgusting convictions.

Just as importantly, she doesn't sound like someone who would take kindly to your differing views, regardless of whether you thought it could be worked on. I would be highly surprised to learn that there was much understanding or tolerance of other points of view from her, and that's the minimum I would need. There's hatred there, and that's a world of difference from some simple disagreement.

For better or worse, I'm also not really into the concept of dating for "fun" or any of that stuff. I'm always looking long-term, and I'm not talking about having expectations or anything, but if I think a relationship is doomed, I end it. I'm not going to plod around knowing that it'll never work out but that I should have fun with it for a bit and then ditch her. I've been played like that, and it's not fucking cool.

I see this as a girl to let go, at least when it comes to a relationship.

I don't even know what I would do if I heard someone I hung out with say something like what she said. I'd be disgusted. Being around people like that can ruin a day for me.
 
D

Deleted member 1235

Unconfirmed Member
you should bang her.

Then tell her you slept with a guy once. Guilt free getaway!
 

Mason

Member
I say tell her you're gay and you used to suck her dad's cock for money. Then leave.

Seriously though, I was going to tell you to just try to talk about it and that personality flaws/differing opinions are what make relationships interesting until you posted what she actually said. I'd tell you to hit it first but I think she's obviously a bit too conservative to go for that, so just take my advice above.
 

XS+

Banned
The Shadow said:
I disagree with this. Hot gamer girls arn't as uncommon as people here think they are. It's just that hot gamer girls that are unnaturally obsessesed with gaming and other ultra geeky stuff are uncommon. There is a difference.

I'd also go as far as to say that political association can be a huge factor as to whether someone compatible or not. Politics may be just a seasonal or once-in-a-while thing for some people but it's the topic of life for others. Subjects like gays, war, economy, etc, can be the topic of conversation all the time so what else are they going to talk about if they can never see eye to eye?

Great points. Additionally, one's politics speaks to their character, revealing a host of possible character flaws that make an intimate relationship untenable. For instance, I believe anyone that supports Bush is likely a greedy, self-absorbed, magisterial, homophobic, and self-righteous individual. I could never be with someone cut from that cloth. I don't even befriend those who support Republicans/conservatives. There's just something decidedly off about anyone who, knowing the state of our society, would subscribe to that ideology. I've actually grown cold to those who belatedly made their conservative politics known.

With all of that said, perhaps this girl can be re-educated. It's very possible that you could have a positive and progressive influence on her bigoted politics.
 
XS+ said:
I believe anyone that supports Bush is likely a greedy, self-absorbed, magisterial, homophobic, and self-righteous individual. I could never be with someone cut from that cloth. I don't even befriend those who support Republicans/conservatives. There's just something decidedly off about anyone who, knowing the state of our society, would subscribe to that ideology. I've actually grown cold to those who belatedly made their conservative politics known.


Perfect example of the point I brought up earlier...
 

XS+

Banned
I'd also like to add that there seems to be way too much animosity between liberals and conservatives here. I always see posts that just attack a person of opposing viewpoints with comments like "God the conservatives are such morons" etc... I realize there are large differences in opinions between issues, but honestly, why not just have a calm discussion with people rather than just completely attacking them.

I'm always baffled whenever anyone suggests what you've written above. I'm similarly perplexed whenever people charge Michael Moore with being "biased." I think there's a connection there. Why should I be cordial towards those who subscribe to a belief that thinks the poor should be relegated to fending for their own crumbs; an ideology that believes pre-emptive war is justified, despite the absence of any indicting evidence; a set of ideas that, more often than not, finds itself in perfect concert with Christian zealots; beliefs held up by men who have ties to racists. Why should I smile in the face of that? All you're doing is putting a mask on what conservatism really is -- hate.
 

AstroLad

Hail to the KING baby
Atomsmasher said:
Perfect example of the point I brought up earlier...

Haha you are nuts or totally imperceptive if you think "conservatives" and "liberals" don't dish it out in equal, heaping portions.
 
Without hitting it I can't see why you would let this bother you so early. No then if she is a bad fuck and you can't stand her politics then get out. Other than that I'm all in.
 

firex

Member
JC10001 said:
I'm finally home. They record everything I type at work.

The exact exchange went like this:

News: "Supreme Court says states should decide"
Me: "That's a surprise." (because I thought for sure that they would overturn it for some reason)
Her: "Yeah, I can't believe they aren't doing something about it. That judge (referring to the one from Massachusetts) doesn't know what he's doing. These liberals are demoralizing the country. First Bill Clinton now this!"
Me: "Why does it bother you so much?"
Her: "Because it's sick. I don't think they (gays) should get married. Thank God George Bush is the president. He wants to ammend the constitution. If those fucking fags want to get married they should get out of the country and take the people like that judge and that asshole John Kerry with them."
Me: (shocked) changed topic

And I just called and left a msg on her machine saying to give me a call. I had pretty much already decided to call things off when I posted the original topic but I wanted to make sure I wasn't being too irrational.... which apparently I wasn't judging from the number of people saying to cut her loose.

At this point in my life I am looking for a long-term relationship. I mean, lets just say that I did let this slide and at some point we got married and had kids. I don't want my kids being taught that gay people, or people who otherwise aren't in the mainstream, don't deserve the same rights as everyone else and that they are somehow less human than the rest of us.

Plus I'm sure I'd have a lot more disgreements with her than this down the line. Afterall, she DID thank God that GWB was the president. And to top it all off I don't like it when chicks use the word "fuck". It isn't very lady-like.
george2.gif

"All right, I have an idea. Are you ready for a hate relationship? You go out with her, make long term plans, and get her to go with you on some romantic getaway to Paris. Then you leave her there halfway through the trip so she has to deal with all the French people all by herself. This could be BEAUTIFUL!"
 
And you aren't hating yourself? Everything you said in that post is hate. I said that I was looking at GAF in terms of the conserv/liberal hate ratio, and I did learn from someone that it is because most people here are liberal. But seriously XS, you resort to name calling to fight off what you don't agree with. That isn't very mature. Do you even try to understand why people support the things you listed? Maybe you'll find that not all conservatives support those specific things, but they prefer other aspects of the administration over the liberal alternative.
 

AstroLad

Hail to the KING baby
Atomsmasher said:
I said that I was looking at GAF in terms of the conserv/liberal hate ratio, and I did learn from someone that it is because most people here are liberal.

Oh now I see. Why the fuck do you care about this anyway? I usually don't approach places worrying about what the "conserv/liberal" ratio is.
 

XS+

Banned
Atomsmasher said:
And you aren't hating yourself? Everything you said in that post is hate. I said that I was looking at GAF in terms of the conserv/liberal hate ratio, and I did learn from someone that it is because most people here are liberal. But seriously XS, you resort to name calling to fight off what you don't agree with. That isn't very mature. Do you even try to understand why people support the things you listed? Maybe you'll find that not all conservatives support those specific things, but they prefer other aspects of the administration over the liberal alternative.

I didn't call anyone a name. Nor do I need to be educated on the reasoning behind their views. I know why they hold those views: It's convenient to hate others when you're in a position of power.

Atomsmasher, do I really need to reconcile my views with one who believes the carnage being wrought in Iraq is just? Do I need to hold hands with people who believe homosexuals should not have a right to marry? Do I need to sit down and have a cup of java with people who'd rather see their taxes cut to fund a slaughter in Iraq than see that same money funneled into programs that benefit our neediest? Spare me, dude.
 

Loki

Count of Concision
AstroLad said:
Any girl that said "fag" or "nigger" or any number of hateful terms for a group of people anything like that in such a mean-spirited way I would literally be repulsed by. I don't even think it would be a big "choice," I would just see her as trash.

Agreed. True story:


Things were going splendidly with this girl I was dating for a couple of months back when I was 19. She had a slight temper at times, which was somewhat off-putting, but eh, we all have our faults. So one day we're in the local mall, which is in a primarily black neighborhood (Kings Plaza for those in Bklyn.); we were in some girly store that I got reluctantly dragged into-- I think it was Express or some such. Anyway, to make a long story short, we're waiting on line to purchase some clothes, and some black woman-- I'm almost certain in ignorance, but perhaps purposely-- decides to try to cut into the line a couple of people ahead of us. Now, it was near the holidays, and we had been shopping a while, so there was obviously some tension there about just wanting to get the heck out of the mall and go home to relax.


All of a sudden, she just flips the hell out, talking loudly into the air, "f'ing nigger this" and "f'ing nigger that", going on and on (loudly, in a store where there were dozens of black people, mind you, though obviously it's wrong anywhere) about how "these niggers think they can do whatever they want". Needless to say, I was appalled, and pretty much grabbed her by the arm and ushered her out of the store after trying to calm her down verbally. So we get outside the store, and I try to tell her how I felt that those comments were indefensible, though I sorta candy-coated it because she was visibly pissed, and I'm not one for confrontation in public places, and besides, I knew I'd have to be with her for at least another half hour until I dropped her off home. So later that night, when I dropped her off, I told her flat-out that I didn't want to be with someone who harbored such virulent racist sentiment (I didn't use those words, obviously-- she wasn't the brightest bulb :D). She started apologizing, saying how she just got caught up in the moment, and how she realizes that not all black people are "like that" etc., but I would have none of it.


Much like the "fag" comments above, it was more the intense nature of the sentiment the specific epithets conveyed than merely fact that she may not like black people. If she had phrased it differently, or had been less insistent/aggressive about vocalizing it in a crowded store (which is just unbecoming, regardless), perhaps I would have had to think about it for more than a split-second. But, to my mind, when "f'ing nigger" flows so readily from someone's mouth-- even when they're angry-- it really betrays a deep hatred and wickedness. Hell, I don't think I'd say that word if I were held up at gunpoint or beaten up by a group of blacks-- it's just not in my nature to do so; being so close to someone who DID do so was unsettling. It never would have worked out.


I imagine I'd have done the same had someone used the word "fag" in such a manner (or in any context, really). Though I personally disagree with homosexuality, I really can't see insulting someone so harshly, and I wouldn't want to be with someone who felt that it was their place to call people "dirty fags" either. It's just a disgusting sentiment; these sorts of comments and intense hatreds spring from a terribly warped mentality.


Crazy world.
 

AstroLad

Hail to the KING baby
Loki said:
Agreed. True story:


All of a sudden, she just flips the hell out, talking loudly into the air, "f'ing nigger this" and "f'ing nigger that", going on and on (loudly, in a store where there were dozens of black people, mind you, though obviously it's wrong anywhere) about how "these niggers think they can do whatever they want". Needless to say, I was appalled, and pretty much grabbed her by the arm and ushered her out of the store after trying to calm her down verbally. So we get outside the store, and I try to tell her how I felt that those comments were indefensible, though I sorta candy-coated it because she was visibly pissed, and I'm not one for confrontation in public places, and besides, I knew I'd have to be with for at least another half hour until I dropped her off home. So later that night, when I dropped her off, I told her flat-out that I didn't want to be with someone who harbored such virulent racist sentiment (I didn't use those words, obviously-- she wasn't the brightest bulb :D). She started apologizing, saying how she just got caught up in the moment, and how she realizes that not all black people are "like that" etc., but I would have none of it.

Crazy world.

Geez, good thing you got as far away from that girl as possible. What a nutcase.
 

Socreges

Banned
I've only read the first few posts, but some of you seem mostly defensive, and unwilling to understand his position

1) Breaking up with a girl over political differences

2) Breaking up with a girl because her political beliefs make you feel contempt towards her

You're treating it simply as 1), but it seems more like 2). It's not just the notion of her being so right wing, but that it invariably affects her nature and likely makes her less attractive.

Maybe this has already been acknowledged/disregarded, but that's what I think.
 
Well I am in no position to get into debates on the issues. I will say that I don't support the war, or the anti gay marriage stuff, my main point is, the hate between the liberals and conservatives is excessive and unnecessary. What it boils down to is, talking trash about the "other side" no matter which side you happen to be on, won't help.
 

Baron Aloha

A Shining Example
I just got off the phone with her.

Things started off sweet and nice but got ugly really quick.

I was just as honest as I could be with her. After exchanging pleasantries I told her that I wanted to talk about something she said last night. I laid everything out...what she said that bothered me, how I didn't agree, how I was looking for something long term, and how I thought it was best if we didn't see each other in a bf/gf sort of way anymore.

Then she told me that she said all that stuff because she liked me and she thought it's what I wanted to hear. I asked her what made her think that and she said that it was my reaction to the news (where I said I was surprised). I told her that I didn't mean it that way and that my surprise was more "relief" than "disbelief". I told her that I didn't buy that she was saying those things just because she thought I wanted to hear them because I don't think anyone could say something like that without meaning it.

Then it got ugly. "Why do you even care?", she replied. *insert curse words and derogatory remarks here* She didn't even sound like the same person.

I told her that was enough. I told her I wouldn't call her anymore since it's obvious that there was no way to salvage some kind of friendship out of this and its obvious that she doesn't have any class. I hung the phone up on her. The end.
 

AstroLad

Hail to the KING baby
JC10001 said:
I just got off the phone with her.

Things started off sweet and nice but got ugly really quick.

I was just as honest as I could be with her. After exchanging pleasantries I told her that I wanted to talk about something she said last night. I laid everything out...what she said that bothered me, how I didn't agree, how I was looking for something long term, and how I thought it was best if we didn't see each other in a bf/gf sort of way anymore.

Then she told me that she said all that stuff because she liked me and she thought it's what I wanted to hear. I asked her what made her think that and she said that it was my reaction to the news (where I said I was surprised). I told her that I didn't mean it that way and that my surprise was more "relief" than "disbelief". I told her that I didn't buy that she was saying those things just because she thought I wanted to hear them because I don't think anyone could say something like that without meaning it.

Then it got ugly. "Why do you even care?", she replied. *insert curse words and derogatory remakers here* She didn't even sound like the same person.

I told her that was enough. I told her I wouldn't call her anymore since it's obvious that there was no way to salvage some kind of friendship out of this and its obvious that she doesn't have any class. I hung the phone up on her. The end.

You got rid of a prejudiced and psychotic person.

Double bonus!
 

Boogie9IGN

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XS+ said:
Can you respect someone who supports George W. Bush, a fascist?

Woo, for me to show how much I laughed at that (not in a good way), my post would have to be all :lol

Anyways, agree to disagree. Don't discuss politics anyways (That, along with religion = Worst subjects for dinner discussion evar). If you need to complain about something, go ahead and come on GAF like so many others.

In the end, go for it
 
XS+ said:
I know why they hold those views: It's convenient to hate others when you're in a position of power.
What a bloody absurd generalisation.

XS+ said:
Atomsmasher, do I really need to reconcile my views with one who believes the carnage being wrought in Iraq is just? Do I need to hold hands with people who believe homosexuals should not have a right to marry? Do I need to sit down and have a cup of java with people who'd rather see their taxes cut to fund a slaughter in Iraq than see that same money funneled into programs that benefit our neediest? Spare me, dude.

You've simplified some of the most complex dilemmas of our time into black and white options; a couple of punchlines that don't even come close to adequately addressing any of the issues.

If there's one constant you can be assured of, it's that everyone will disagree on these issues. Where do you draw the line? Unless you're looking forward to living an unpleasant, cloistered, antisocial life away from everyone who remotely disagrees with your beliefs, I'd suggest that you'd be mad not to reconcile yourself with the people you disagree with.
 

Socreges

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Incognito said:
LOL

I know who XS+ is. All I needed was to read a post in the gaming forum, then the dandy above.

:lol :lol
Really? Who? Because Good GOD can he be stupid at times.

pm me, if necessary
 
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