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I think a girl's hitting on my son but he either doesn't give a fuck or is avoiding. Should I do anything?
- Thread starter GAMETA
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greyshark
Member
At the end of the day it’s his life. You have helped give him the tools he needs to be successful and it’s up to him to decide how to use them.
He’ll make some mistakes along the way but he clearly has more support than you did as a child. Seems set up for success to me - don’t beat yourself up too bad!
He’ll make some mistakes along the way but he clearly has more support than you did as a child. Seems set up for success to me - don’t beat yourself up too bad!
Maiden Voyage
Gold™ Member
Let the kid be a kid.
Batiman
Banned
At 11 I had no balls with chicks that liked me too. People usually pushed on both sides for me to have a girlfriend when I was younger. At 13-14 is when I started to make moves.
As others already said, let him be a kid and worry about girls as late as possible. You don’t want him to deal with heartbreak either.
As others already said, let him be a kid and worry about girls as late as possible. You don’t want him to deal with heartbreak either.
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SlimySnake
Flashless at the Golden Globes
you are projecting. leave him be.
if hes handsome he wont need to have game.
if hes handsome he wont need to have game.
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Potato Chip PRO
Member
He's only 11, plenty of time for him to grow and thrive in the coming years. I'd just let him enjoy his childhood.
Maiden Voyage
Gold™ Member
"I AM GAMETA JR, SON OF GAMETA, DESTROYER OF PUSS"
Every time he walks into a room. Pretty embarrassing while at school & church, but damn is his father proud of him.
GAMETA
Banned
Hopefully as a normal person that doesn't identify as anything because he just is who he is?
Hopefully
Dark Star
Member
11 year olds shouldn't be worried about things like that, or even dating. He should be investing his time in school, making friends, hobbies, sports, etc. Whatever interests him. When I was 11 all I cared about was watching TV, playing video games, riding bikes, skateboarding, etc. I don't think I really cared about talking to girls like that until I was in middleschool, or at least a teenager.
Give him a couple years. If making friends is the real issue, maybe you could give him some honest tips/advice, like replying to texts is actually a good way to become better friends with people lol. But yeah, he's a kid, let him do his thing. It must definitely be hard being a kid these days with smartphones and social media apps being so popular and ubiquitous. I didn't even have a basic Nokia cellphone until I was like 15 haha, much less an iPhone until I was a senior in high school.
Give him a couple years. If making friends is the real issue, maybe you could give him some honest tips/advice, like replying to texts is actually a good way to become better friends with people lol. But yeah, he's a kid, let him do his thing. It must definitely be hard being a kid these days with smartphones and social media apps being so popular and ubiquitous. I didn't even have a basic Nokia cellphone until I was like 15 haha, much less an iPhone until I was a senior in high school.
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ArtemisClydeFrog
Banned
He ain't tryna waste time on these hoes
GAMETA
Banned
lol, I think he has the potential.
Maybe I could've done more damage but I ran on shitty software... the hardware goes only so far.
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The Hamburglar
Banned
Reminds me of when I was 9 and a new girl was starting at our school and in my class. I was thirsty as fuck asking her to be my girlfriend repeatedly.
this is what’s kids do let them be
this is what’s kids do let them be
Stilton Disco
Member
You're his father, explaining things he doesn't know or understand and giving him the advice he doesn't know he needs is your job.
Honestly, everyone saying an 11 year old should be left to work things out by themselves or make their own decisions is going to be a terrible parent or was raised by some. Until your kid leaves home, they're your responsibility to mold into the best person they can be, and that takes a fuckton of work.
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GAMETA
Banned
Well, he's not worried at all, lol.
He has friends and has no difficulty in talking to them live or in online games (like Fortnite, he plays almost daily with his friends), his friends invite him to do stuff, birthday parties, sleep-overs, paintball matches, a friend has a ranch where he's been a couple of times... they're always together as a group... but I don't know... in some situations he seems to be very insecure of himself, stuff like online classes, group chat, talking to girls (at least online)... I worry, but maybe that's just who he is (my wife says she was similar), but yeah, I don't know.
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GAMETA
Banned
And don't you think I know that, man? Of course I advise my son and take action where action is needed.
But it's a different thing here, maybe it's a personal trait of his. That's what I meant by "letting him handle" or "letting him be who he is". Have you even read the whole thing?
I observing and thinking of how I can help him and if help is needed.
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GAMETA
Banned
I'm alright with that if that's the case, but I really don't think that's the case. He's shown interest in girls...
But hey, ultimately, I'm happy if he's happy.
greyshark
Member
OP has made it clear he’s a very involved parent. Pretty sure no one in this thread is advocating to throw the kid to the wolves. I know I’d give different advice if I was talking to a parent that was struggling to engage with their kid in the first place.
If you keep solving your kids’ problems you’re not giving them a chance to gain independence and confidence. OP if you’ve got a boy that you trust and you’re proud of, you know you’re doing a fantastic job. It’s ok to trust the job that you’ve done and let him figure things out, and if he falls you’ll be there to support him as needed.
FreedomOfSpeech
Banned
Redpill your son.
Astral Dog
Member
You are projecting and you should let him be.
However, if you are really worried you can talk to him and ask what he thinks about this girl, he is your son and has only 11 hears, whatever it is should not be a big deal.
However, if you are really worried you can talk to him and ask what he thinks about this girl, he is your son and has only 11 hears, whatever it is should not be a big deal.
King of Foxes
Banned
You are the dad, tell him what you would do. Dont seek the ideas of others.
A father needs to be a strong stone, not someone who second guesses
A father needs to be a strong stone, not someone who second guesses
Dr.Guru of Peru
played the long game
Do what you think is best. I wouldn't expect good advice from this forum, TBH.
nush
Gold Member
Exactly, the switch has not flipped yet where girls get boobs and become interesting. Let him play Fortnite with his bros for now.
bitbydeath
Gold Member
Girls mature much faster than boys. Often boys just aren’t ready and that’s all there is too it.
Cockles & Whelks
Banned
At age 11 I imagine his mind is on finishing his Fortnite battlepass and not poonani. He's got the rest of his life for girls to fuck his life up.
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Holgren
Member
Puberty hits around 8-14 years old, girls normally go through puberty first so it would be normal if the girl is interested in him but not the other way around. The only thing I would worry about is if he is socializing succesfully: making friends and not getting bullied.
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Elpidio Valdés
Member
I don't have kids but I can tell you what my dad taught me while I was growing up. Please note that things are different in Cuba.
I was even younger than 11 when my dad started teaching me and encouraging me to have a girlfriend/s. If there was a group of girls playing in the neighborhood he used to ask me which one I found cute, once I answered he used to make me go over and ask her out (in front of the other girls). And believe me there was hell to pay if I chickened out. He also had my older brother take me to parties with him and my brother did the same thing to me. I had to ask the girls I found pretty to be my girlfriend for that night until I found one that said yes. Those are only 2 things, there were many other lessons on how to express myself, what to say, what to do once they said yes.
What I just said might sound crazy to many but I'm insanely grateful to my dad for that. He did his job as a father and taught both of his sons how to get girls, how to be confident, out to be outgoing, how to stand up for ourselves, how to fight and many other things. My brother and I are both very good with women. This isn't me bragging, this is me actually thanking my dad from the bottom of my heart for all he did.
I think one of the biggest reasons for the decline in our culture is that fathers have completely failed their sons. Look at all the incels and soft men that we see on the news every day. Behind all of them is a father that failed at their job. If I ever have a son I'm going to teach him what my father taught me from childhood. It might not be the right way but it's the one I know and the one I feel works best. Obviously the USA is not Cuba, things are different but the underline lessons remain the same.
I was even younger than 11 when my dad started teaching me and encouraging me to have a girlfriend/s. If there was a group of girls playing in the neighborhood he used to ask me which one I found cute, once I answered he used to make me go over and ask her out (in front of the other girls). And believe me there was hell to pay if I chickened out. He also had my older brother take me to parties with him and my brother did the same thing to me. I had to ask the girls I found pretty to be my girlfriend for that night until I found one that said yes. Those are only 2 things, there were many other lessons on how to express myself, what to say, what to do once they said yes.
What I just said might sound crazy to many but I'm insanely grateful to my dad for that. He did his job as a father and taught both of his sons how to get girls, how to be confident, out to be outgoing, how to stand up for ourselves, how to fight and many other things. My brother and I are both very good with women. This isn't me bragging, this is me actually thanking my dad from the bottom of my heart for all he did.
I think one of the biggest reasons for the decline in our culture is that fathers have completely failed their sons. Look at all the incels and soft men that we see on the news every day. Behind all of them is a father that failed at their job. If I ever have a son I'm going to teach him what my father taught me from childhood. It might not be the right way but it's the one I know and the one I feel works best. Obviously the USA is not Cuba, things are different but the underline lessons remain the same.
eot
Banned
Fuck that, bring it up. Some people need some directions.
nush
Gold Member
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eot
Banned
You're a good bro
belmarduk
Member
This a thousand times or fugly in some other way. Would you like it if your dad pushed you into dating an uggo?
Soltype
Member
Maybe, but I don't think this is the case I work in the school system, and nowadays kids are showing they're homosexuality a lot earlier, even in elementary school. I've seen a lot of younger gays more comfortable in their skin than young straight men.
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