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I think if I ever have kids I'm just going to let them cuss.
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Doom85
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a multicultural team of v
Member
May as well let them drink and smoke too.
Ah yes, because using naughty words is the same as destroying bodily growth and brain cells.
What's the fucking problem, though?
IDKFA
I am Become Bilbo Baggins
The problem is that you'll teach your children that using bad language is acceptable.
Do you want you kids to be saying 'fuck', 'shit', 'cunt' to other kids when they start school? Do you want them to grow up thinking this is acceptable language? Maybe walk into a meeting at work and greet they're manager with a 'how you doing, you fucking silly cunt'.
01011001
Banned
holy shit! those are extremely fucking realistic fucking scenarios right there! fuck me! shit man, you really thought about that shit didn't you?
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LegendOfKage
Member
It's less about them using bad language, and more about the social unacceptability of them using bad language. No matter how you feel, a LOT of parents aren't going to want their kids hearing that, which could end up harming their social life a lot more than any possible benefit there could be for allowing it. You'd likely have a price to pay regarding that sort of thing as well.
Besides, nearly all kids cuss. It's just a matter of what words, when, and how often. And adults place limits on themselves as well. I never swear at work, or when I'm around people that I don't know, for example.
Con_Z_ǝdʇ
Live from NeoGAF, it's Friday Night!
That here is your misconception.
Might be like that where you live, but to generalize because of that and raise your kid without sensitising it for this kind of behaviour is ultimately just ignorance on your end.
You should take care of your child and raise it to be better than you and to surpass yourself.
IDKFA
I am Become Bilbo Baggins
Lol. I see your parents allowed you to swear when you were a child.
killatopak
Member
So they can use the same swear words on me and think it’s normal?
Swear all the fuck you want. Just not in my presence.
I’m pretty old now yet I still don’t swear in front of my parents or older relatives. It’s called respect.
Swear all the fuck you want. Just not in my presence.
I’m pretty old now yet I still don’t swear in front of my parents or older relatives. It’s called respect.
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bitbydeath
Gold Member
Swearing in itself is fine, but they should still learn to not be disrespectful to others with it.
I tell my kids not to swear in public too, although they probably still would anyway if the situation arrived.
I tell my kids not to swear in public too, although they probably still would anyway if the situation arrived.
Dreamin
Member
IIntention is everything, so I wouldn't be too bothered to hear kids curse. If they'd grow up to use it in a shitty way to intentionally disrespect people then the problem is something else and they'd still do it.
Someone being rude under the guise of polite words probably rubs me the wrong way more than hearing someone let out a curse. I suppose there's a lot of passive aggressiveness in the world, not that I need to point that out to anyone using on a forum ;o
Someone being rude under the guise of polite words probably rubs me the wrong way more than hearing someone let out a curse. I suppose there's a lot of passive aggressiveness in the world, not that I need to point that out to anyone using on a forum ;o
FunkMiller
Member
And let the little cunts have one of the only true delights of being an adult that they can’t do?
Fuck that shit.
No swearing, no coffee, no R rated movies, you little shits.
Fuck that shit.
No swearing, no coffee, no R rated movies, you little shits.
SirTerry-T
Member
ZywyPL
Banned
Lol I was thinking about the same very recently. Everyone has been through this phase as a kid, because you know, forbidden fruit tastes the best, but looking at my nephew now from an adult perspective I can't fight the feeling that, like all psychologists say - it's all for attention, if you ignore it they'll stop, because saying "don't use this word!" is exactly giving the attention kids want. So that generally says the kid doesn't get enough attention from the parents and is desperately seeking for it, whatever means possible.
01011001
Banned
and I see yours didn't teach you what a joke it
also yes they did, that's not really a big deal over here you know.
p_xavier
Authorized Fister
Clever people are more likely to swear, finds study
Is this the news every foul-mouthed person has been waiting for?
www.netdoctor.co.uk
Clear
CliffyB's Cock Holster
Kids are going to rebel eventually, so I think its kinda pointless to try and impose too many strict rules on them at an early age.
Main thing is getting them to understand that they need to treat people the way they would want to be treated in return; dishonesty, lazyness, unreliability, rudeness, aggression etc. Are not things that most (if anyone!) looks for in their friends and relationships, so if that's what you give out...
Main thing is getting them to understand that they need to treat people the way they would want to be treated in return; dishonesty, lazyness, unreliability, rudeness, aggression etc. Are not things that most (if anyone!) looks for in their friends and relationships, so if that's what you give out...
MudoSkills
Volcano High Alumnus (Cum Laude)
I think the best way to get Americans to stop being so bothered by the word cunt is to actively encourage its children to say it frequently.
Bless the little cunts.
Bless the little cunts.
V1LÆM
Gold Member
my parents didn't care if i swore as long as i showed respect. i mean, i could swear with my friends and other kids but if i swore at them, family, teachers, etc then i'd have got my cunt kicked in. i'm in my 30's now and my mum has only heard me swear once (as far as i know). i just would never swear in front of my parents but when i am with friends i can swear like fuck.
cunt here (scotland) really isn't a swear word. every cunt says it. if you're a cunt then you'll get called a cunt but even if you're an awesome person you'll still be called a cunt ("that awesome cunt!"). you could be talking about any cunt. a total stranger perhaps and they are always a cunt. everybody is a cunt here and if you're called a cunt then you should think nothing of it....unless you're a cunt cunt.
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Lady Jane
Banned
Just because you don't care doesn't mean you should encourage it. If my daughter starts saying "fuck", will I freak out and be scared of my daughter's future? Absolutely not. Though will I act freaked out and punish her fairly? You bet. As a parent, you have to act like you're a better person than you really are to set an example.
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a multicultural team of v
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Obviously I was joking, otherwise I would have added cocaine and hookers.
*Nightwing
Banned
Kids don’t need boundaries… I’m pretty sure that was the whole moral point behind the lord of the flies… those chaps did alright in bringing out humanities worst type of civilization… just send your kid to a deserted island to keep to the rest civilization safe if you do
The Cockatrice
I'm retarded?
I hope you dont have kids.
chromhound
Member
They're going to curse around their friends
Yes. Have you never cussed in your life? it is an acceptable form of language. In fact every single language has curse words. It should be normalized.
I hope he surpasses me in his creative use of cursing.
///PATRIOT
Banned
OP is Ricky bobby
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I never said I'd teach them to be disrespectful with it. But as long as it's not directed at someone I'm fine with it.
Don't call your brother a fat fuck, but I'd be fine with my kids saying "that's some good fucking food, dad." In fact I think I'd be more proud.
EverydayBeast
ChatGPT 0.1
AJUMP23
Parody of actual AJUMP23
I don't curse and never have. My mother didn't either. Cursing is a form of expression, but usually a result of people not having self control, if you can tame your tongue you can tame anything. It would be good for you to expect self control from your children. You are not teaching them not to curse, it can be effective at times. You are teaching your children to control themselves and have respect for others.
The way you communicate says something about you.
Soapbox Killer
Grand Nagus
ResilientBanana
Member
Teach them how to use words intelligently. The world contains a majority of idiots, why would you want them to blend in? That would be your failure as a parent.
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nemiroff
Gold Member
My son swore from early age, I guess because I kind of let him.. But the thing is I also taught him right from wrong and when it's "appropriate" to swear (mostly occasionally for fun) and when it's not. Thus we've never had a single complaint from school about it. I also taught him a clear line between reality and fiction very early on. So while he's been well aware that Santa isn't real and monsters doesn't exist he could/can dynamically switch them on (or off) in his fantasies and pretend they are. So he's still one of the happiest kids I know at Christmas, and he likes to be scared of monsters.
I think there's great value in teaching kids "how and why" instead of only saying "no! bad!". I'd rather have a dynamic kid than actually understands how the world works and with some room to maneuver instead of a kid that perhaps mostly reacts to the thought of punishment.
I think there's great value in teaching kids "how and why" instead of only saying "no! bad!". I'd rather have a dynamic kid than actually understands how the world works and with some room to maneuver instead of a kid that perhaps mostly reacts to the thought of punishment.
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OmegaSupreme
advanced basic bitch
You want to raise little assholes? Noted. Where do you live so I can keep my kid away from yours?
Cursing doesn't mean you're an asshole. Being respectful doesn't preclude cursing.
Yes. I'm going to teach them how to curse intelligently.
InfiniteCombo
Banned
Modern America (well, one particular side):
This is why you see so much disrespect, especially to figures of authority. But even regular people don't have a huge amount of respect for each other.
I tend to side with
IDKFA
on this one, but I'm also not ready to dismiss the OP. You may not want to cuss for the sake of cussing and potentially harvest disrespect; but at the same time you don't want your kids to grow up so stifled in their expression that when they get the first taste of freedom, they'll WAY overcompensate for it. (Just think of how many kids grew up in strictly disciplinary/"repressed" households, only to flip out when they go to college...)
ResilientBanana
Member
Then enjoy your delinquents. If they can get away with swearing, they'll test the waters on what other stuff they can also get away with. You'll be categorized with all the trashy, used up shot girl moms on tiktok.
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Con_Z_ǝdʇ
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I'm sure you gonna be a great teacher!
Dark Star
Member
If I had kids I’d try my hardest to only use proper / polite language around them. Teach them respect for themselves and to use manners around others. I’d try really hard to shield their eyes and ears them from foul language and inappropriate stuff on TV/internet too. I know my power wouldn’t last long, even if I sent them to a private school or whatever, kids pick up all kinds of bad behavior from their peers and even teachers.
My parents would smack me even to this day if I said fuk or shit or whatever around them. Meanwhile I had friends who would cuss around their parents and their parents wouldn’t do anything and that just enabled them to say and do whatever they want. It’s awful. Same thing with parents who yell and got angry and are always on edge, it creates a bad environment for young kids, and that also leads to developmental issues and bad behavior. They mimic you so be a good influence and chill out.
My parents would smack me even to this day if I said fuk or shit or whatever around them. Meanwhile I had friends who would cuss around their parents and their parents wouldn’t do anything and that just enabled them to say and do whatever they want. It’s awful. Same thing with parents who yell and got angry and are always on edge, it creates a bad environment for young kids, and that also leads to developmental issues and bad behavior. They mimic you so be a good influence and chill out.
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cursing is chill. best conversations use chill levels of cursing.
Men_in_Boxes
Snake Oil Salesman
There's no advantage to cussing...only disadvantage.
InfiniteCombo
Banned
I've read in various places that cussing can help people deal with sudden physical pain -- the traditional example is when someone stubs their toe and yells "FUCK" at the top of their lungs.
Cussing -- in measured doses -- also helps enhance some forms of comedy. I think Bill Burr is a hilarious guy, but he wouldn't be half as funny if he didn't cuss as much as he does...