I think if I ever have kids I'm just going to let them cuss.
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Men_in_Boxes
Snake Oil Salesman
Swearing. The vegetables of words.
NeoIkaruGAF
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Being a child is all about boundaries. And boundaries are inevitably going to be set before a child can learn and understand why they exist in the first place.
Of course it's hypocritical to not let your child cuss when you do it "all the time". But in this case, that's part of the lesson. The fact that children aren't allowed to do it is the point: there's things you just don't do as a kid, and cussing is one of them. It's much more hypocritical when your own kid uses a bad word and you're all, "Now where did you hear that?!" Because 99% of the time the kid heard it from you, dumbass.
Kids must also learn that there's a time and place for everything. Letting them do everything freely is a recipe for disaster. If they learn that something mustn't be done, they'll learn to question if something is proper and acceptable before they do it. Don't put up clear boundaries for your kid, and what you get is Twitter.
Of course it's hypocritical to not let your child cuss when you do it "all the time". But in this case, that's part of the lesson. The fact that children aren't allowed to do it is the point: there's things you just don't do as a kid, and cussing is one of them. It's much more hypocritical when your own kid uses a bad word and you're all, "Now where did you hear that?!" Because 99% of the time the kid heard it from you, dumbass.
Kids must also learn that there's a time and place for everything. Letting them do everything freely is a recipe for disaster. If they learn that something mustn't be done, they'll learn to question if something is proper and acceptable before they do it. Don't put up clear boundaries for your kid, and what you get is Twitter.
InfiniteCombo
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poppabk
Cheeks Spread for Digital Only Future
They aren't getting away with it, if you let them do it.
Swearing appropriately is an important life skill, you need to know when and with who you can't drop a 'fuck' into the conversation, and when you have to let fly the odd 'fuck' to be taken seriously.
Men_in_Boxes
Snake Oil Salesman
Think of all the child rearing literature out there.
"Get your baby swearing as soon as possible as it will help them deal with pain better and it will aid in their development of humor. Swearing makes people better."
I just don't buy those studies. I think it's something more youthful people engage in as well as people from lower classes. From my perspective swearing has never ingratiated someone towards me, while the opposite has occurred hundreds of times. IE: Swearing in inappropriate settings.
Vegetables are good for you
The problem is the inappropriate times part, not the swearing aspect of it. Many of you are conflating the two.
Also, my manager drops more f bombs than me.
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haxan7
Banned
It's wrong to teach young kids to curse. I think you should re-evaluate your strategy in the event you do have kids.
Most of your opinion seems to boil down to "it's normal to curse, so we should normalize the curse words for children".
Guess what! Kids will just start using different words once the existing ones lose their impact.
Most of your opinion seems to boil down to "it's normal to curse, so we should normalize the curse words for children".
Guess what! Kids will just start using different words once the existing ones lose their impact.
John_Ryder
Member
Not saying that swearing kids looks nice but for some reason I tend to distrust people who don't cuss and make a big deal out of it.
poppabk
Cheeks Spread for Digital Only Future
Yeah when someone shoots daggers at you for saying something that is obviously a piece of shit, is indeed a piece of shit, you know that they can't be trusted.
ResilientBanana
Member
Sure, bud.
jshackles
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Once your kids get to school age, they're going to learn all the cuss and swear words anyway. But if you just let them swear around you, it'll definitely lose a lot of it's appeal to them. It's no longer forbidden. And, therefore, no longer fun or exciting.
My kids weren't allowed to swear around my wife and I. It was really fucking weird when after my son turned 21, and he would occasionally let an F-bomb slip.
My kids weren't allowed to swear around my wife and I. It was really fucking weird when after my son turned 21, and he would occasionally let an F-bomb slip.
Northeastmonk
Gold Member
It's difficult because we raise kids around other kids who bully them and kids take that stuff way too seriously. My step daughter already talks about eating disorders because kids called her fat years ago. She talks about death when she's embarrassed by something. None of which is written off by us. She just talks that way. As a parent, you can't just stick them in therapy, not when it's every single sporadic moment of their life. They need to deal with things and learn how to cope. I don't mind her venting her frustration, but I don't want her cursing at her boss. That's trashy if you ask me.
There comes a point where your speech impacts how others view you. I think people assume that big wigs do it and they sound witty. The people saying it's ok to curse in a professional setting aren't the new employee either. They had to work their way to the top with a boss who would fire them for cursing or talking that way.
There comes a point where your speech impacts how others view you. I think people assume that big wigs do it and they sound witty. The people saying it's ok to curse in a professional setting aren't the new employee either. They had to work their way to the top with a boss who would fire them for cursing or talking that way.
only if the boss doesn't deserve it.
anthony2690
Member
Kids are genuinely so unpleasant now days, especially when youtube and fortnite are pretty much parenting them.
fran.fernandez
Member
Me and my wife don't curse at all.
I think is more an American/English issue as cursing is incorporated in the phrase a lot more than others languages.
I also speak 4 languages and my wife 3.
She speak Chinese and she told me that cursing is similar to English.
My 2 years son speak (words) in Japanese , English. Chinese and Spanish, mostly Japanese and in 10 years living here I barely hear people cursing.
I think is more an American/English issue as cursing is incorporated in the phrase a lot more than others languages.
I also speak 4 languages and my wife 3.
She speak Chinese and she told me that cursing is similar to English.
My 2 years son speak (words) in Japanese , English. Chinese and Spanish, mostly Japanese and in 10 years living here I barely hear people cursing.