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Mariah Carey said:
The people who are mentioning ADHD are the ones you need to be listening to. "I'm good at things but can't seem to actually accomplish goals" is exactly how every story for adults who find out they have ADHD starts.
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Do they even test on ADHD if you are an adult? I show the same behaviour but have other issues that were brought up first not a possibility of ADHD.

This because it could very well be an ego issue, finishing things requires exposure of some sort which is hard for some. This means not accomplishing goals that are pretty much already accomplished.

But yeah your GP will guide you through the stuff and you'll see where you end up.
 
Peltz said:
Not fit, but good at sports?

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Yea... okay.
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Not all sports require being physically fit. Like Golf, Chess, Hot Dog eating, or League of Legends.
 
It sounds like you're not above average mortals, you're at best fairly talented and you've taught yourself that if you're not good at something, it's not worth doing.

In the grand scheme of things, you probably even out to the same levels of most people.
 
I get what you mean OP, you worded it weirdly so people react to that. At school I was getting Bs in everything without doing shit, with a little effort I could have gotten straight As, but I was like "why stress myself? this is acceptable enough". I think we simply didn't learn discipline because of the way we "get" things easier.

I don't know if this relates to you, but when I have been doing some creative work and people have been complimenting the things I have done, I have felt a bit of the imposter syndrom, simply because I didn't feel I had done that much work.

Some things you could try to get more disciplined:

- Be passionate about what you do. When the novelty wears off, you lose interest, so it's important to find out what aspect can be fascinating to you and what you can stay passionate about.

- In creative work, I always try to test out something new in each project. Doesn't have to be a big thing, simply something new so that the work doesn't become too repetitive.

- Think about the end goal and that you'll have to suffer to get there, you will then actually feel great when the work is done. Getting something done through perseverance is much more rewarding than just living off talent.
 
OldAsUrSock said:
Not all sports require being physically fit. Like Golf, Chess, Hot Dog eating, or League of Legends.
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Maybe you should actually read the OP and the sports he listed?


And I hope this is a home thread if you fail at simple tasks because they take effort but believe you're cursed with things coming too easy to you. The cognitive dissonance is incredible.
 
What the OPs saying is that he's a jack of all trades master of none. Basically he's good at picking things up and getting to an above average level but lacks the dedication to become a true master at it. I'm kinda like this myself. I work as a creative in many fields like photography, music, design, branding, marketing etc... and in all areas I've had a relative level of success. I would still never consider myself "great" in any of those areas, but I'm good enough make a living with my talent, and I'm usually never out of work because of all the things I do.
 
Mxrz said:
Gonna have to back the football/bb thing up with some details if you expect to be taken seriously.

Otherwise,
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I never really won anything. If that's what you're asking for. I posted things that I have to show on the last page already.
 
OP, you say you almost exclusively gets told you're good at things, would it shock you that many people are also told that?

In fact I can't think of the last time someone outright told me I was bad at something


Love the delusion of self grandeur, the fact you're doing nothing special should be all you need to know, but I don't want to burst your bubble. Millions of people say "I'm so amazing, if only I just wasn't lazy".
 
I notice this about myself as well. I actually started to notice when I began playing online shooters. I would get a game day one and dominate without trying. I just picked it up really quick and didn't put effort into it. A few weeks in I notice that I'm not coming in first any more and i wind up an average or slightly above average player compared to everyone else.

At that point I don't really want to put all the effort that the great players put in, so I just stop. I realized that I did this after a few years and questioned why. Then I realized I had that attitude towards a lot of the things that I do. I pick them up quick, I excel and then I just kinda give up. If I put my all into something, I think I could be great but I've never put my all into anything.
I'm also diagnosed ADHD
 
So you're exceptional at, well, nothing, and yet you're too good at things?

Don't think it works that way.
 
OP might be bad at actively learning due to barely having had to do it in general.

I mean you phrased that like a massive dick but it's a real thing that happens. School typically doesn't teach how to learn until way late in the game if at all so if you struggle you'll have to focus on that early on, to know how your mind works and develop a work ethic, but if you can just pick up things and get by it can take years before something challenges you and makes you realize you need that.
 
Frank Serpico said:
Heard some beats, it's not bad, but it's nothing special from the millions of other beats that posted in soundcloud. Average I would say


But again, define how fit you were, you've been dodging this question in this thread
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I am 6'-0, was 210 or so, benching 310 for 3 reps. The most I've ever gotten up. I played tight end, and defensive end in football. I don't really know what that has to do with anything though.
 
BumRush said:
I came in here to post this. Oh, and also that the OP comes across as SUPER PRETENTIOUS...
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I think he nailed it.

I've ran into this a couple times in my professional career. It's pretty crazy to see how out of touch some people can be with their own skills. The same applies on the other end with the Imposter syndrome.

That's why it's important to get honest feed back on what you do or have a mentor so that you can see where your skills really are.
 
Ray Wonder said:
Quit half way through my senior year in highschool. I didn't say I was amazing at football. It just came really easy compared to others around me.
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So you're like the average guy who played (no cut) football in high school then got out shape when he got older, please tell me more about your excellence
 
So basically, you're just very average at a whole bunch of things and aren't willing to put in the work to actually be good at something.
 
I have a relative like the Op. She only does things she's good at, and will immediately drop anything that gives her a challenge. She thinks she's great at everything, bit the truth is she's created this fantasy about herself by hiding and insulating herself from failure.
 
Ray Wonder said:
This is not a stealth brag thread. This is more of a problem than a good thing. Almost everything that I do has come extremely easy to me. From when I was a child, to an adult. Football, Basketball, Juggling, Drawing, Music, Video Games, too many to list. But, I think this "gift" has been more of a curse.

I've never worked hard for anything during my adult life. I don't know if I could if I wanted to. Any time there is an obstacle that requires hard work to overcome, I give up. I honestly believe I may have an underlying problem that saps me of all motivation. I can't focus on one thing. I'm always flying back and forth between tasks without even realizing I switched. I'll end up on Gaf, with an hour passed and not even think about it. This is something that I need to change.

This may sound stupid to most, but I can't be alone in this.

I was just about to just say fuck it, and delete this. I really want to hear what yinz have to say about it though.
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You are my unfortunate twin. Sucks, doesn't it? My mom always says she regrets not making me do the few things I couldn't do extremely well more often.
 
You need a challenge. Try to get a really demanding job. Work with really smart people at a place that rewards you financially for success.

When you grow up being "naturally smart" and get good grades, do well in extracurricular activites etc without trying, you get lazy. You also become paralyzed by a fear of failure. A fear of maybe not being as good as you think you are. So instead of trying really hard at something you might fail, you just don't try. You can get away with this for a while, but eventually it's going to really hurt you.

Take more risks. Try something you think might be too difficult for you and try to knock it out of the park. Surround yourself with people that are more experienced than you and that work harder than you.
 
Ace Harding said:
You need a challenge. Try to get a really demanding job. Work with really smart people at a place that rewards you financially for success.

When you grow up being "naturally smart" and get good grades, do well in extracurricular activites etc without trying, you get lazy. You also become paralyzed by a fear of failure. A fear of maybe not being as good as you think you are. So instead of trying really hard at something you might fail, you just don't try. You can get away with this for a while, but eventually it's going to really hurt you.

Take more risks. Try something you think might be too difficult for you and try to knock it out of the park. Surround yourself with people that are more experienced than you and that work harder than you.
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I really like this advice. Thanks
 
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