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[AJUMP23]

yes put a bluetooth cam from temu up her anus, see how often it widens up

Kaachan

 

[MrAlwaysRight]

If you feel uncomfortable by her behaviour, end the relationship, you do not have to rationalise it as her cheating/not cheating, respecting/disrespecting, you are entitled to and should always put your boundaries first for your own peace.

If her behavious at work makes you feel uncomfortable, find a lady who shares the same values as you.

Never settle, only Christ comes before you.

 

[The Skull]

She admitted flirting with other guys at work? Boot that bitch to the curb.

 

[j0hnnix]

If she cheats, she belongs to the streets.

If you feel uncomfortable by her behaviour, end the relationship, you do not have to rationalise it as her cheating/not cheating, respecting/disrespecting, you are entitled to and should always put your boundaries first for your own peace.

If her behavious at work makes you feel uncomfortable, find a lady who shares the same values as you.

Never settle, only Christ comes before you.

She admitted flirting with other guys at work? Boot that bitch to the curb.

Yes to all.

 

[MidGenRefresh]

i havnt caught her cheating yet

Flirting is cheating. She has no respect for you. Have some respect for yourself.

 

[demigod]

 

[Jaybe]

Are you living together?

My gut says this isn't shaping up to be a long term relationship, so:

If you are enjoying the ride, just cut out the romance stuff and use her for sex. Tell her to knock off the work flirting. Consider looking into other women (I'm not saying cheat, just build up some options ), when the inevitable comes, you aren't hung out for some time. You might find she gets even more into you this way.

Or punt her. Focus on you and finding someone higher quality that builds you up as a long-term partner.

 

[AJUMP23]

OPs wedding.

 

[lachesis]

Honest conversation with GF would most likely lead to "why are you so insecure" situation, pushing her further away.

Detach your feelings from her. Maybe she is cheating, maybe not.
But trying to find out from the horse's mouth = definitely not a good idea.

Do what you love and have fun with your friends, hobbies, etc - go out and enjoy without her.
Be nice and courteous to your GF, keep a cool head.
Maybe watch a movie that has a cheating partners - and casually mention how you feel about cheating.

If you detach your feelings, even if she leaves - you are 100% better prepared. But sometimes, she would come back - seeing you happy and content.

Having said so....
If you really want to find out, come up with a discreet plan that doesn't expose you - but keep that info to yourself only. Not even family member or friend - unless you trust them with everything you've got. (Or just hire a detective) No good will come out if you tell her you've been snooping on her - that that in itself would become her weapon.

If you are 100% sure with proof that she's cheating - don't bring up about the cheating part and you've been looking into it - just tell her that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer. When she asks why, just make it vague, or best yet - just leave.

 

[Rival]

The stop short move so you bump in to them is 100% a sign she wants this guy to rail her. Also this office sounds completely insane.

 

[Heimdall_Xtreme]

It's already over, you just haven't admitted it to yourself yet.

Her behavior is what I would call "high risk". Sure, she COULD just be flirty and have ZERO intent on going further but what she is doing is getting alllllllll the guys lined up so all it takes is a single moment of weakness, being mad at you, insecurity about her appearance, or drunk at a party and one of these guys is gonna hop in there with vigor. "Playfighting" and that kinda stuff is a MASSIVE red flag IMHO.

If you never knew about how she acts then you could go on in blissful ignorance, but now you know and you are not cocky and arrogant enough to get past it. It's gonna eat at you. You will start to question every time she works late, or goes out to lunch, or has a phone conversation late at night while she is locked in the bathroom. That pit of acid will wear you down and hollow you out.

You COULD institute a lot of controls on her, check ins, track her phone, with or without her consent, but really, it's just over. Ain't no girl you don't have kids with worth that kinda grief, TBH. Time to cut bait and move on. She may yell and scream that "you insecure man how dare you dump me just for being a free woman!" but the reality is that she is browsing the dick aisle and there is a clock ticking away. I work with LOTS of women and ain't none of them doing that kind of shit without wanting attention in return and eventually someone higher than you on the ladder comes into the picture and its cheatsville.

It's not even necessary. I've never done that text-spying thing... It's polite, and men don't do it. If your friend feels bad, leave her... Many women are losing control...

And the important thing is your physical and psychological well-being... No man deserves that kind of abuse. If you feel or experience that kind of toxic behavior, leave her... And if you block her...even better.

And if she calls you names or starts insulting you or calls you insecure... Don't even answer them, IGNORE HER. That's the bad thing about social media: it exposes you to obsessions and compulsive thoughts... That's why I never use Facebook or Instagram.

 

[samoilaaa]

Are you living together?

My gut says this isn't shaping up to be a long term relationship, so:

If you are enjoying the ride, just cut out the romance stuff and use her for sex. Tell her to knock off the work flirting. Consider looking into other women (I'm not saying cheat, just build up some options ), when the inevitable comes, you aren't hung out for some time. You might find she gets even more into you this way.

Or punt her. Focus on you and finding someone higher quality that builds you up as a long-term partner.

yes we are , we bought an apartment together

 

[MrAlwaysRight]

Honest conversation with GF would most likely lead to "why are you so insecure" situation, pushing her further away.

Detach your feelings from her. Maybe she is cheating, maybe not.
But trying to find out from the horse's mouth = definitely not a good idea.

Do what you love and have fun with your friends, hobbies, etc - go out and enjoy without her.
Be nice and courteous to your GF, keep a cool head.
Maybe watch a movie that has a cheating partners - and casually mention how you feel about cheating.

If you detach your feelings, even if she leaves - you are 100% better prepared. But sometimes, she would come back - seeing you happy and content.

Having said so....
If you really want to find out, come up with a discreet plan that doesn't expose you - but keep that info to yourself only. Not even family member or friend - unless you trust them with everything you've got. (Or just hire a detective) No good will come out if you tell her you've been snooping on her - that that in itself would become her weapon.

If you are 100% sure with proof that she's cheating - don't bring up about the cheating part and you've been looking into it - just tell her that you don't want to be in this relationship any longer. When she asks why, just make it vague, or best yet - just leave.

Detaching your feelings hurts both people in the long run, it helps her justify her poor behaviour, it hurts OP because he's not being true to himself.

Being discrete and sneaky to validate your feelings isn't worth the effort, the alpha move is being one with Christ, having an honest conversation that just says 'I'm sorry, I don't see this relationship going any further, i hope you find somebody who shares your values in the future, goodbye'

As a man you always need to keep your emotions in control, but in order to do this, you have to validate your emotions and understand what they mean, confirming his girlfriend is for the streets adds nothing of value to his life, infact it emasculates him, it makes him insecure in future relationships and breeds a culture of paranoia.

Simply accept that you are incompatible because she chose to act in a way that you do not value in a future wife/mother of your children.

Just move on.

 

[nush]

she has alot of bikini posts showing her ass ,

I'm betting every man on her team has checked her socials and seen those pics. It's over, you had a good time and now it's time to move on and not try to save something that cant be saved.

 

[Z O N E]

"and she admitted and she said that it was just friendly stuff and i shouldnt worry"

That's how it always starts and then boom, feelings are caught.

If she had any respect for you and the relationship, she wouldn't be doing that.

 

[winjer]

Flirting that outrageously, is just a couple of steps before having sex with another guy.
For her to do that, it's because she has little respect for your relationship and you.

 

[Cyberpunkd]

Clearly you haven't read a lot of experiences on r/relationship_advice or r/infidelity lol.

I don't read loser subs, only r/RunningCircleJerk chad ones.

 

[rm082e]

yes we are , we bought an apartment together

Reading all this, I just want to get across: Breaking up is not a big deal unless you have kids. Even if you bought a home together, have pets together, etc. It might seem like a big deal to end a relationship and deal with figuring out all the finances, but it's honestly nothing compared to breaking up after you have a kid.

If you're mostly happy and a little annoyed, I wouldn't leave yet. I would see how this goes. But I would also be very careful and don't get her pregnant. See how things develop over time.

 

[mitch1971]

What the fuck kind of job is this?

A blow job?

 

[clarky]

I'd try to go through her phone without her knowing personally.

Absolutely do not do this. What terrible advice.

 

[nush]

A blow job?

 

[Bojji]

Absolutely do not do this. What terrible advice.

Maybe, maybe not.

This could give him the answer. I woudn't trust someone that does this in her workplace.

Trust isn't blind. But he has to be able to say I trust you, and if something makes him uncomfortable, he needs to tell her that. He has to Trust that she will understand. And say it so he isn't accusing her, but about how great she is and try to say if you heard women were rubbing and bumping me at work, would you appreciate that?

She does all those things on purpose. I think there is more than 50% chance that she will cheat OP or she is already doing that.

 

[clarky]

Maybe, maybe not.

This could give him the answer. I woudn't trust someone that does this in her workplace.



She does all those things on purpose. I think there is more than 50% chance that she will cheat OP or she is already doing that.

As soon as you do this trust is broken and you'll never get it back.

If you think you need to snoop on your partner then you already have the answer.

I've made this mistake.

 

[DeVeAn]

Been through this myself. Your gut is probably right my friend. Decide if you want to keep going or exit. Personally, I felt betrayed and know I would never trust anything they ever said again.

 

[Bojji]

As soon as you do this trust is broken and you'll never get it back.

If you think you need to snoop on your partner then you already have the answer.

I've made this mistake.

My woman have done this on me, she found nothing (and I wasn't cheating of course). She admitted to it, I was angry at first but not for long.

I don't trust her 100% and she doesn't trust me 100% (I think I trust her 80% and she trusts me 70%, haha), and that's the way to go - we are only humans. "Trust, but verify".