Dirk Benedict
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Mother fucker just needs to be up front with her. That's it. Let the rest take its course.
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me , should i just break up with her ?
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samoilaaa
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shes 25 im 34
Unfortunatecookie
Member
Unless her job title is Chief Flirting Officer, you're not being paranoid.
Assuming everything you said is true, engaged or not, her behavior when you're not around tells you everything. It is the reddest of flags that in the time & space where you are around the least, she is trying to get around the most.
She's not going on lunch breaks alone or booping the office dog or doing squats in-between meetings. Those are harmless behavior traits. She is talking to and feeling up other men. Those are measurably harmful. People have been hurt and killed for starting workplace romances with other people's lovers.
She's being sloppy as well; she knows you have someone 'on the inside' and she's still being publicly touchy feely with men who are not you. Sloppy, uncaring, clueless-person behavior.
What you need to figure out are three things:
1) How to get your ring back
2) What to buy your friend as a thank you for saving your future
3) What to do with the free time that will show up after becoming single again
Good luck!
FalconPunch
Member
I think this comes down to a matter of self respect and respect for your partner. Based on the information I've read in this thread, I already consider the behavior to be cheating. More importantly, it's completely disrespectful to me and I can't have a woman around that doesn't respect me.
I hate to say it but you chose extremely poorly when selecting a potential life partner. She has gems in her teeth, posting scantily clad photos online, shaking her ass tk the whole world? Yea that doesn't sound like wife material at all. That's a pump and dump. Im speaking from experience. A woman has in today's environment has access to every part of society and can choose how she presents herself to the world. She chose under no pressure from anyone to present herself to the world in that way. That is already a giant red flag. Think about the type of person that would do that? What thought process they go through to arrive at the conclusion that presenting themselves in that manner would be good?
She may be very attractive but, attractiveness fades very fast with age. For your peace of mind, I'd strongly suggest planning your exit strategy. When a woman behaves like this, it reflects very poorly on you. In this case, I'd suggest doing what women do and emotionally break up internally with her before you actually do so. Just get started on your grieving process now, so that when you're ready to physically exit, you can move on. You've already spoken to her and she's dismissed and downplayed your concerns. Bringing it up further will only make the situation at home worse.
Finally, in the future, choose better women. You're 34 and interested in getting married. The girl you described is not even wife material and you should know that...
EDIT: To deal with the apartment issue, assuming it's all paid off in cash, you can get a loan to buy her out from the bank.You mentioned it's 70k euro so I hope to God you both didn't take a loan for that paltry amount.
I hate to say it but you chose extremely poorly when selecting a potential life partner. She has gems in her teeth, posting scantily clad photos online, shaking her ass tk the whole world? Yea that doesn't sound like wife material at all. That's a pump and dump. Im speaking from experience. A woman has in today's environment has access to every part of society and can choose how she presents herself to the world. She chose under no pressure from anyone to present herself to the world in that way. That is already a giant red flag. Think about the type of person that would do that? What thought process they go through to arrive at the conclusion that presenting themselves in that manner would be good?
She may be very attractive but, attractiveness fades very fast with age. For your peace of mind, I'd strongly suggest planning your exit strategy. When a woman behaves like this, it reflects very poorly on you. In this case, I'd suggest doing what women do and emotionally break up internally with her before you actually do so. Just get started on your grieving process now, so that when you're ready to physically exit, you can move on. You've already spoken to her and she's dismissed and downplayed your concerns. Bringing it up further will only make the situation at home worse.
Finally, in the future, choose better women. You're 34 and interested in getting married. The girl you described is not even wife material and you should know that...
EDIT: To deal with the apartment issue, assuming it's all paid off in cash, you can get a loan to buy her out from the bank.You mentioned it's 70k euro so I hope to God you both didn't take a loan for that paltry amount.
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IDKFA
I am Become Bilbo Baggins
Before we jump to conclusions, do you trust your friend?
Chances could be slim here, but there is a chance your friend is making it up or making it sound worse than it actually is.
Something to consider before you throw away your relationship.
samoilaaa
Member
she said that she did all those things and its just friendly , i told her that im uncomfortable knowing that some guy grabbed her by the ankle or her asking him " are you trying to dominate me ? " and she said that i have nothing to worry about and that she loves me and would never cheat on me
Avid Reading Horse
Member
Not a great answer from her, but you gotta sort out how you really feel about her, what kind of prospects you have outside of her, and how high on the cuckometer you're willing to go. And anything over 0% cuckery is dangerous.
samoilaaa
Member
yeah , im thinking just gonna leave , i dont care about the apartment , she can keep it , i dont need this in my life right now . I want family , kids , a great home
This fucking sucks , you think everything is going great , you have this loving beautiful woman at home and you find out that she need attention from other guys too , i have 3 women at work and i would never dare to touch them and they never touched me , we make jokes we laugh but nothing sexual or flirty , and they dont flirt with the other guys either
I keep asking myself what more can i do , what is missing in her life that i could add
I know that maybe she didnt fuck anyone but its still on my mind
FalconPunch
Member
Well can't be surprised at the answer from her. She loves attention and he knew that from day 1. The problem for him is that, he looks to be the weaker one in this whole relationship. By that I mean, the balance of power lies with her. That's why she can even dare to try this shit. She knows she can get away with it. If the balance of power was in his side and she was really into him, she wouldn't dare for fear of getting dropped. I don't think she believes that she can be easily replaced.
Imagine giving someone a ring/pre contract and they're behaving like this,... I know for sure that the contract is getting terminated asap.
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IDKFA
I am Become Bilbo Baggins
Not the best response.
I doubt she would be cool with you flirting with another women.
FalconPunch
Member
What part of Europe are you from and what part is she from?
Lambogenie
Member
I will never understand long term engagements.
She sounds sus. Talk with her properly and explain your boundaries. Her actions go beyond most people, not to mention unprofessional, you make it sound like she works in retail vs more profession settings.
If you can't align on boundaries, make a decision. She's likely to not like your thoughts and call you controlling. In that case I'd seriously start preparing to break up, if I were you. There is a chance that she's just not that self aware, but I really doubt it
She sounds sus. Talk with her properly and explain your boundaries. Her actions go beyond most people, not to mention unprofessional, you make it sound like she works in retail vs more profession settings.
If you can't align on boundaries, make a decision. She's likely to not like your thoughts and call you controlling. In that case I'd seriously start preparing to break up, if I were you. There is a chance that she's just not that self aware, but I really doubt it
samoilaaa
Member
we are both from romania
Trilobit
Absolutely Cozy
And those are the things the friend has caught her doing. Who knows if there's more.
TastyPastry
Member
it certainly sounds like she doesn't respect you OP