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[Black Deatha]

Im sure many will remember my topic a while back about my luck with meeting girls, or should I say lack there of.

Well, I still havent met anyone, but I am trying to change my approch. Problem is last few weeks I have been in training at my new job, and I picked the evening schedual and have owned my own social life. Good work I know...

Anyway, I am more busy now than I was when I made that last topic, and seeing as I get home aroun 11 from work, I don't really have as good of an opportunity to meet girls, but a guy from my training class reccomended to me some dating site, the only one I ever knew of before that was lavalife, I even created an account on it over a year ago, and what a waste of time that site is, the girls seem to be stuck up snobs and what little contact that site allows you to make with the girls on there, the girls ignor.

But again anyway, this guy gave me a link to this site (said he had luck with it, met a couple girls from it about a year ago), and on there some girl had a name of another site in her profile where she said she also had an account. So I checked out that site, and damn, there appears to be quite a few pretty hot girls on there, and unlike lavalife they dont charge you to talk to them. So I created an account and used the site to send a message to a couple of the girls on there, and I added the MSN of a couple others who put there e-mail's in there profile. So the last few days I have been talking to a few of them.

Now I know there's always a chance the 18 year old girl your talking to is actualy a fat 40 year old prick wacking off all day while periodicly faking being a young girl, but I think there's a slightly better chance that many are real girls :lol

And I gotta say, the few I have been talking to seem pretty cool, one in pirticular, who I am now 99% sure she is who she is saying, she gave me her cell number after a couple days of talking and I called her erlier today, but was only able to talk for about a minute because she was busy. Point is after talking to her, I am pretty sure now she's a girl at least, I saw her on MSN, and we talked, said I would call her tommorow on my break, so I'll have to see how that goes.

Anyway the point of this topic is to pose the question, anyone else here do this? One thing I do like about it is I can talk to them easier to begin with over MSN, seeing as I suck at it in person. And do you guys think it's a good means of meeting girls? And lastly, has anyone else who HAS done this had it work?

~Balck Deatha

 

[Amir0x]

Why would you care if it was "pathetic"? A relationship could spring from anywhere, fuck the haters.

 

[Black Deatha]

Why would you care if it was "pathetic"? A relationship could spring from anywhere, fuck the haters.

Well I agree, but it's just I have seen people who act like meeting a girl online is stupic, andnot really talking to them, blah blah blah...

And I admit, from what I have learned about this pirticular girl, I kinda like her, but Ijust feel I should hold off getting my hopes up untill I meet her in person and find out if she's the real deal...

~Black Deatha

 

[ToxicAdam]

If you don't have time to "meet a girl" (which I highly doubt) ..... then you won't have time to KEEP a girl.


Having a relationship takes time and effort. If you don't possess either of these, you are setting yourself up for heartbreak.

 

[Amir0x]

Well I agree, but it's just I have seen people who act like meeting a girl online is stupic, andnot really talking to them, blah blah blah...

And I admit, from what I have learned about this pirticular girl, I kinda like her, but Ijust feel I should hold off getting my hopes up untill I meet her in person and find out if she's the real deal...

~Black Deatha

Well, like ToxicAdam says, you have to be able to put time and effort into any burgeoning relationship. It's important to always keep that in mind, to know whether to take the next step or to just stop it before you go too deeper and hurt someone's (or your own) feelings.

That aside, you're only going to know if she is the real deal if you meet her and hang out with her for a bit. Don't look at it as some huge committment, it's like any other normal date. You simply have talked a bunch before it, which might ease your expectations a bit.

 

[shuri]

It's no different than picking one at the club. Or anywhere else.

 

[Celicar]

It's no different than picking one at the club. Or anywhere else.

Umm...yes it is. Hot girls frequent the clubs. Hot girls do not meet guys online. :lol

 

[Amir0x]

Umm...yes it is. Hot girls frequent the clubs. Hot girls do not meet guys online. :lol

Beauty is subjective, hot girls hang out online, brains over beauty, etc...etc...

Also, it's much easier to laser point someone with similar tastes as you online then it is in the club

Not that one is inherently better than the other, but they both have their draws.

 

[Black Deatha]

Good points in here so far, and for the record, this girl looks pretty cute in her pics, deffinatly look like they arent some random hot girl the 40 year old found the pic of on another site and slapped on his profile.

And as for the time thing, your right, I have already been thinking about it, and once I get the chance I plan to change my schedual to something like 10 to 6 rather than 3 to 11.

~Black Deatha

 

[Amir0x]

Good points in here so far, and for the record, this girl looks pretty cute in her pics, deffinatly look like they arent some random hot girl the 40 year old found the pic of on another site and slapped on his profile.

And as for the time thing, your right, I have already been thinking about it, and once I get the chance I plan to change my schedual to something like 10 to 6 rather than 3 to 11.

~Black Deatha

POST PICS HERE

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

5 years ago yes, today I don't think so the internet is the new meeting place people of all stripes and colors use the net. The idea that 'hot chicks' don't go online is asshole retarded.

All people go online, what is more important is the connections you make.

I say give it a try, what's the worst that can happen. I get people who send me pics from my blog all the time and some of them I would say are attractive

 

[Porridge]

This is 2005, people use the computer everyday. That includes hot womenz.

 

[Black Deatha]

POST PICS HERE

If she's the real deal and we go out, I'll post a pic of her and I, but I don't think it would be right of me to post them here without her permission or anything, jeez Im not olimario after all.

~Black Deatha

 

[robertsan21]

GF takes time and effort but maybe Black deatha wants to fuck around
nothing wrong with that!

fuck the haters go with a girl over the internet!
i tried it ones and i tell you it was not a misstake!

my motto is" pick up girls at anytime and anywhere!"
i just love trying to pick up girls, if i am out shopping i do it or if i am on my computer at work!
it something that i just have to do

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

What the FUCK does meeting someone online have to do with time and effort? How much fucking time and effort does it take to set up a fucking date? Hell, he's not talking about marrying the broad, hell he's not even talking about fucking the broad. He is just saying he has chatted with her and they vibe so they are going to meet.

If I'm not mistaken that's how 99.9% or all relationships start.

 

[robertsan21]

What the FUCK does meeting someone online have to do with time and effort? How much fucking time and effort does it take to set up a fucking date? Hell, he's not talking about marrying the broad, hell he's not even talking about fucking the broad. He is just saying he has chatted with her and they vibe so they are going to meet.

If I'm not mistaken that's how 99.9% or all relationships start.

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hey tommie, i agree, but what i meant was that A GF takes time, but its obviouse that Black deatha does not want to have a seriouse relationship!

but if he meets this girl they will shag, or at least i would!

i never met a girl that i did not shag, i bring them all home on the first date, if i cant get them on the first date i keep going out with them until they put out!

black deatha GO WITH THE INTERNET CHICK

 

[Tedesco!]

I met my wife online.... there's no shame in looking towards the 'net for love....

 

[ToxicAdam]

What the FUCK does meeting someone online have to do with time and effort? How much fucking time and effort does it take to set up a fucking date? Hell, he's not talking about marrying the broad, hell he's not even talking about fucking the broad. He is just saying he has chatted with her and they vibe so they are going to meet.

If I'm not mistaken that's how 99.9% or all relationships start.

The fact that if you want to KEEP a girl, you need to have time and make an effort. If you are gone away working all the time ... she will just find someone else.

 

[Rahul]

I know a girl who lived in Australia and met a guy online at the FFonline.com community who lived in the Netherlands. Now she lives with him. They're both ~24 or so. So it's definitely a feasible concept if you happen to meet the right person in the right situation. The biggest problem is long distance, which is the random factor when meeting someone online, since online meeting places generally disassociate location from the ability to group with people of similar interests. And then you get into the discussion of maintaining a long distance relationship, which is not only much harder to do than a normal one, but you have to ask yourself whether it's worth the effort.

 

[Boogie]

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hey tommie, i agree, but what i meant was that A GF takes time, but its obviouse that Black deatha does not want to have a seriouse relationship!

How the hell do you know what Black Deatha wants?

And lastly, has anyone else who HAS done this had it work?

~Balck Deatha

Define "had it work" :-/

 

[psycho_snake]

Theres nothing wrong at all with what you're doing, but I do suggest you gte to know her p-retty well online before you arrange any dates.

You do have to realise that GF's can be a fucking pain because you need to have a lot of commitment and to do that you need to have the time. This doesnt mean that you shouldnt try it though, anything can happen.

Ignore anyone that says you shouldnt do it. If you feel comfortable with what you are doing, then go ahead.

 

[speedpop]

I've met my partner online and it's still going strong with us living together and such.

 

[DarienA]

Umm...yes it is. Hot girls frequent the clubs. Hot girls do not meet guys online. :lol

You are an ass.

BD: Don't sweat it, I've met some really great women online... some hot, some not(clue time: Hot women do go online just like other folks, because for them it can also be easier to weed out the undesirables) Hell I met my baby's mama online man(we now live together with our 3 month old daughter(4 mos in 2 days!!!), and we're Soooo in love.(all isn't that sweet...)

 

[Kuro Madoushi]

well, several girls seemed interesting from some dating website I saw...but most of them are only looking for non-Asian guys

Still, I wouldn't say what you're doing is pathetic, now, if the girl you met online was actually a guy pretending to be a girl, now THAT'S pathetic

 

[missAran]

Relax, true love can blossom anywhere. Just be careful.

 

[Lambtron]

I met my honey online. We've been a couple for just over a year now, but we've been friends for seven or so. It can work, it can happen.

I don't think going out with the express purpose of "finding a girlfriend" online is going to be the best idea. Hell, I don't think that's the best idea period, no matter where you're looking. Let things happen, find out about people. The dating ideals of society are fucked. Really, really fucked.

 

[aoi tsuki]

i don't think there's anything wrong with online dating. i think there's a problem when you choose online dating because you can't get a date in real life, at which point you need to decide whether the problem is with your or the women you're trying to attract. i'm not accusing you of this, i'm just stating how i feel about the situation.

When i was working two jobs and going to school, i contemplated jumping on a dating site to find someone to hang out with. A little while after that, i realized how stupid it was of me, when i had women around me who were obviously interested, but i was focused on work and school at the time. It didn't help that my dad got sick and died around that time, but a lot of it was just complete tunnel vision on my part.

And yeah, i know about the late shift killing your love life. i usually work 4p-12a, occasionally working during the day as well. It sucks to see couples having fun while you're at work, but sometimes that's how it is. It also sucks to not see any women you'd be remotely interested in who aren't attached, but that's another matter.

 

[xsarien]

10-12 years ago, yeah, it would've been a little on the creepy side. Now it's pretty much normal, if a little unique.

 

[Boogie]

i don't think there's anything wrong with online dating. i think there's a problem when you choose online dating because you can't get a date in real life, at which point you need to decide whether the problem is with your or the women you're trying to attract. i'm not accusing you of this, i'm just stating how i feel about the situation.

Okay, "pathetic" it is then :-/

 

[bjork]

I say go for it. You never know unless you try.

 

[Kabuki Waq]

hoy girls do not frequent clubs , hot sluts frequent clubs. I am talking about girls who got to clubs regularly and let themselves be picked up at clubs.

 

[LakeEarth]

My first major relationship was with a girl I met at a chatroom that just so happened to live in my city. I'm all for it.

 

[karasu]

Umm...yes it is. Hot girls frequent the clubs. Hot girls do not meet guys online. :lol

http://www.myspace.com

 

[Matlock]

Feh, if you like her and she likes you--what makes the fucking difference?

 

[Kabuki Waq]

Feh, if you like her and she likes you--what makes the fucking difference?

err has seraflatio thought you nothing?

 

[Matlock]

:lol good point.

Current girl I got, tho, I met online. Of course, she lives just down the street. :lol

 

[EdLuva]

I've met my lady online. I've been with her for almost 2 years and enjoying it.

 

[darscot]

Meeting girls online is depriving yourself of the best part. No need to be ashamed but your really missing out. Meeting a girl face to face is just so much more dangerous and thrilling. That's half the fun of dating. Why give that up?

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Meeting girls online is depriving yourself of the best part. No need to be ashamed but your really missing out. Meeting a girl face to face is just so much more dangerous and thrilling. That's half the fun of dating. Why give that up?

Uh news, flash he IS meeting the girl in person. This is a success as far as I'm concerned.

The fact that if you want to KEEP a girl, you need to have time and make an effort. If you are gone away working all the time ... she will just find someone else.

BD didn't even indicate that he was going that far. Maybe we should start over these are the main points I got from his post.

1. He has had trouble sparking up relationships* in the past.

*: relationships != sexual but, just having regular communication with someone he is interested in and them feeling the same way.

2. The man has a new career that takes up a lot of his time. He is a busy man this is not an unatural situation.

3. He has met someone he likes chatting with and he indicates that she enjoys chatting with him

4. SHE indicated that she would be interested in chatting with him more.


While your point taken to the extreme is somewhat valid the fact is this.

1. BD has found a method of communicating that works for him.
2. The woman that he is talking with is also comfortable with talking to him in the same environment.

To me if the man can express himself clearly then this is a win. Now then who can say how the winds blow. But for now I say good job and good luck.

 

[Lakitu]

It's not pathetic at all. I met my girlfriend (unexpectedly) on the internet, and now we've been together for 1 year 7 months, I consider her to be the best thing that's ever happened to me. When we're together I feel the biggest connection we ever, and I've never been happier. I'm just saying that you might meet someone on there, someone you thought you'd never find, I mean, I did.

 

[cubicle47b]

It's only pathetic if you're just trying to meet them for sex. If that's your intention, go to a fucking club.

If, however, you are searching for a particular type of person to date and you never meet this type of person because you live in a (primarily) redneck state, it's okay.

 

[SKluck]

Initial contact is ok. But meet in person within a month and keep it at least 70/30 offline/on afterwards.

 

[FortNinety]

In five years time, the whole debate regarding internet dating's validity won't even be a question.

 

[SKluck]

Kinda like how phone chat lines are accepted as normal... oh wait.

 

[darscot]

I hate to break it to you guys but meeting a girl after you've chatted her up for a month online is not the same of rolling up to someone and going to work. It's not even the same damn sport. Your complete protected online. Rolling up to a girl you dont know, live and in the flesh is a thrill and is half the fun. Why would anyone give that up is beyond me?

You guys are comparing boxing online and stepping into the ring.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

I hate to break it to you guys but meeting a girl after you've chatted her up for a month online is not the same of rolling up to someone and going to work. It's not even the same damn sport. Your complete protected online. Rolling up to a girl you dont know, live and in the flesh is a thrill and is half the fun. Why would anyone give that up is beyond me?

You guys are comparing boxing online and stepping into the ring.

If the objective is accomplished then it is a win. As I have learned it doesn't matter if you send in troops or if you bomb it at the end of the day the target is destroyed and the objective is met.

 

[darscot]

If you have no interst in playing the game just buy a mail order bride and be done with it.

 

[Doth Togo]

I've used www.match.com and it's been very successful for me. My ex-girlfriend and I met on Match. We dated for a year and a half. She's a fantastic, beautiful girl. It's a shame we broke up.

As for Match, I'm back there now and have had quite a few dates (a few good ones...) with various women. I have several friends who use it and all have great things to say.

 

[cubicle47b]

If you have no interst in playing the game just buy a mail order bride and be done with it.

Just a guess but most people who consider online dating don't consider meeting people and dating a game and they don't just want *anyone*.

 

[DarienA]

If you have no interst in playing the game just buy a mail order bride and be done with it.

We've got the f'n point already... you're the man and those of us who have been dating via online services are weak-willed ninnies... STFU already.