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[Kabuki Waq]

If you have no interst in playing the game just buy a mail order bride and be done with it.

"playing the Game"?

how old are you like 16?

 

[commish]

Stop and ask the next 30 attractive girls you see if they do online dating.

People who resort to online dating just have no game, meaning poor communication skills. Sure, someone's gonna post an exception, and i'm sure there ARE exceptions. Meeting/picking up girls in person is a lot of fun, but I guess for some, it's easier for them to do it online. Just seems like you are limiting yourself by doing it that way and are missing out. I am engaged, so the fun is over for me, but for those that aren't, fight the good fight.

Plus, a lot of people lie in the online dating stuff. Or, maybe, some people don't really know what an "athletic build" really is

 

[Soybean]

I see absolutely nothing wrong with online dating at all. I've never actually done it, but it sounds cool to me. It's probably a lot easier to find someone that's like you. I love my girlfriend to death, but we have very little in common. Again, that's fine, but sometimes I envy those people who are just like each other.

 

[darscot]

If the objective is accomplished then it is a win. As I have learned it doesn't matter if you send in troops or if you bomb it at the end of the day the target is destroyed and the objective is met.

The play the game was a direct reponse to this and was meant to be a bit of a play on words with "Its not if you win or lose its how you PLAY THE GAME". Man you guys are sensitive. The first thing I said was that online dating is nothing to be ashamed off. Just dont limit yourself cause you'll miss out.

For the record I'm in my 30's married with 2 kids and in no way am I or was I ever a Casanova.

 

[Doth Togo]

Stop and ask the next 30 attractive girls you see if they do online dating.

People who resort to online dating just have no game, meaning poor communication skills. Sure, someone's gonna post an exception, and i'm sure there ARE exceptions. Meeting/picking up girls in person is a lot of fun, but I guess for some, it's easier for them to do it online. Just seems like you are limiting yourself by doing it that way and are missing out. I am engaged, so the fun is over for me, but for those that aren't, fight the good fight.

Plus, a lot of people lie in the online dating stuff. Or, maybe, some people don't really know what an "athletic build" really is

I would love to show you some of the many, many NORMAL, KIND, FUNNY, SMOKIN' HOT girls that I've been out with from Match. There are a shit ton of good looking, cool, smart women from the age of 20 on up all over that site.

Do you know why they're on Match, MySpace or Friendster? Because all of the men that they meet ...at work, in the bars, on the metro, in restaurants...are idiots. These women want to meet someone awesome, have a great time, in some cases...yes...get laid. By in large, they're what you guys are looking for...

You are a fool if you dismiss this form of meeting someone as not normal or worthwhile.

 

[border]

It makes sense to me, since you can filter out people by interests and stuff like that....and you can also filter by their intentions (fling/casual relationship/long-term relationship). You can't really do that at a bar, and by and large you will be making your decisions based on chemistry and physical attraction. In some ways I suppose it can be as much a meat market as any club, but I think online makes more sense if you are looking to start a legit relationship.

That said, I've never really joined an online dating service, but I've met a girl that I knew from online and we had pretty good times together.

Sidenote: People who use the phrase "got game" are the reason why the regular dating scene can be utterly retarded, and a part of what drives even normal people to online dating.

 

[DarienA]

Stop and ask the next 30 attractive girls you see if they do online dating.

People who resort to online dating just have no game, meaning poor communication skills. Sure, someone's gonna post an exception, and i'm sure there ARE exceptions. Meeting/picking up girls in person is a lot of fun, but I guess for some, it's easier for them to do it online. Just seems like you are limiting yourself by doing it that way and are missing out. I am engaged, so the fun is over for me, but for those that aren't, fight the good fight.

Plus, a lot of people lie in the online dating stuff. Or, maybe, some people don't really know what an "athletic build" really is

Sign up for a trial membership at match.com or search through the personals at yahoo.com, to put it politely, you have no idea what you're talking about. You'll find all kinds, just like you can in real life. If you think people you meet on the street don't like(they just lie about different things that people can lie about online), you're a bit naive.

Then again it comes down to what you are dating for... "to see if you've got game" or to genuinely find a companion.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

You are a fool if you dismiss this form of meeting someone as not normal or worthwhile.

To all of you out there this is the point I am trying to make. Now then if it doesn't appeal to you then fine. It doesn't have to. But, if it works for him then so be it.

 

[darscot]

Why is that people that meet face to face in public places think the people that meet online are idiots? The people that meet online think all the people that meet in public places are idiots?

Some how because I enjoy meeting a girl face to face. Everything is based on physical attraction and chemistry but all I want to do is get laid. The couples that meet online are all about having common intrests and having serious relationships.

What a joke and talk about painting with a broad brush. Do what works for you. I recomend face to face cause I think it's fun. And take it from this old married man, you dont want to have a lot of common interests. Life is a lot more itneresting when your with people that are very different then you.

 

[Matlock]

Just as a re-clarification:

Met girl through iTunes shared
Met girl in line at bank, gave her my email, we bullshitted online for a while, went out for half a semester
Met girl via Facebook Weezer community, bullshitted online, we're going around now

It's kinda easier to work out the initial bullshit online, as you can edit, reedit, and such. It's still awkward on first meeting, mind you, but it helps clear out the bullshit that'd be there normally.

'course, YMMV

 

[Black Deatha]

Wow, when I made this topic I wasnt quite sure what to expect, but I am glad to see I am not the only one who feels it would be a good way to meet someone you like. And I did before forget all about mentioning it does indeed make it easier to meet the kind of girl one is looking for.

hey tommie, i agree, but what i meant was that A GF takes time, but its obviouse that Black deatha does not want to have a seriouse relationship!

but if he meets this girl they will shag, or at least i would!

i never met a girl that i did not shag, i bring them all home on the first date, if i cant get them on the first date i keep going out with them until they put out!

black deatha GO WITH THE INTERNET CHICK

Thanks man, I would like to clarfiy one thing though, I am not sure what I said that implied I wasnt looking for a serious relationship, becuase honestly I as I said want to change my schedual asap so I can have some time for any potentiol girl. Also while I do what a relationship, I am just being realistic, I dont expect one right away, figured that would be somehing that would develop in time.

Define "had it work" :-/

By that I just ment what has already been said on here, where people have met online and had a good experience with it, or better yet are still together with someone they met online. And many have given many examples of that now.

Oh and BTW, the site I found to be pretty good for those intrested is www.nexopia.com , though it does seem to be a Canadian dating site, becuase it has the ability to search for girls by like every city in Canada, but it looks to only narrow down girls from the US by state, but being Canadia, it's cool.

Anyway though, as I said some of these girls are pretty cool, and aslo cute/hot. One thing that kinda concernd me was the girl at one point said she was a busy person too and didnt really have time for a serious relationship, though she still wants to meet, she did say however that basicly if things worked out, she wouldent fight having a b/f. I was at first a little concernd about thing, but than realized that she never said she didnt want to go out, just that it would depend if she connected with the person. And I am happy to say I think I have gotten her likeing me more since she said that. I kinda think if things go well when we meet (though we dont know when that will be yet, hopefully over the next couple week) I might have a shot with her. (yeah she is local BTW, though not quite as close as I would perfer, she's still about a 25 minute drive, but seeing as I have no car )

~Black Deatha

 

[DarienA]

And take it from this old married man, you dont want to have a lot of common interests. Life is a lot more itneresting when your with people that are very different then you.

<buzzer>

Above comment applies to above poster only and doesn't necessarily have any bearing on what type of fulfillment you will get out of following the above advice.

 

[Dilbert]

There is nothing wrong with online dating. The younger the age group, the more likely that it will be seen as commonplace. And yes, there are some DAMN hot women who use online dating services. People are busy, and it's very convenient to be able to screen people for interests, geography, looks, etc. without having to go on 2-3 dates and THEN figure out they are a rabid Republican or hate cats or whatever.

Initial contact is ok. But meet in person within a month and keep it at least 70/30 offline/on afterwards.

Great advice. The online services provide you an "in," but you want to be able to use all your other tools (voice, humor, appearance, etc.) to woo them as soon as you can. With that in mind, be safe -- they are strangers, and despite what you are told, you don't really know anything about them. Make your first dates in public places, and don't invite them to your home until you know them fairly well.

 

[etiolate]

I've never used an actual dating site, but I have met lots of people over the internet including girls. You just have to be smart and know the warning signs.

 

[Doth Togo]

I've never used an actual dating site, but I have met lots of people over the internet including girls. You just have to be smart and know the warning signs.

Yea. Like, if she wants to move in with you or you with her within 2 months... SHE AIN'T FOR YOU!

 

[Boogie]

darscot is such a contrarian jackass. Sheesh.

 

[B'z-chan]

Blacxk let me level with you and the rest of GAF for a minute. I'm not a pathetic loser... wait I am a pathetic loser, but thats beside the point. I met the best thing thats ever happened to me in my whole life one day on the IGN VESTIBULE.

My name was neo007cypher2 it was a nice june morning. I was being a jackass on the net being stupid having a conversation in this one thread. And i started noticing this one chick she was awsome. Everything i could have wanted and more was right around the corner.

After a few days of AIM logs that went for hours and hours, i finaly got the nerve to call her. We talked for 20 minutes all was well. By the end of august we stepped blindly into a funky relationship.

And that funky relationship still stands after a few years. I still love the girl to death and well she hates my guts, but thats cause i'm a loser. Not cause of her.

Big shout out to my love. Bz is on his knees, saying pretty please, will you love me...

See how pathetic i've become? But i love her. So who gives a shit.

Black you can make it happen.

*note the whole story will be part of my biography which will be out in 2011*

 

[Brofist]

I thinks it's normal to meet someone online, in the right circumstance. I wouldn't, but just because it's not really my style. And by not my style I don't mean beneath me, I just mean I think of myself as outgoing, and find it easy to meet people. Plus I make the effort to be semi social, becuase work and school or whatever shouldn't take one's social aspect away.

At the end of the day, I'm glad I met my gf inperson, but if it can work out I see no problem with meeting someone you've met online.

 

[darscot]

darscot is such a contrarian jackass. Sheesh.

I wasn't sure what you meant at first so I had to look it up to make sure. :lol
I'll take it as a compliment.

 

[Fresh Prince]

No but why would an instresting, intelligent, good looking girl be looking for love on the internet? I don't think the, 'She probably meets assholes in real life' is a good enough excuse

 

[Triumph]

I've met a few girls online, one of which I still talk to and hangout with kind of regularly. We're just friends, but I did meet one freak this way, she seemed all normal online and on the phone, but once we started drinking she started talking about crazy shit. Of course I played along and had some pretty disturbing sex later that night.

 

[Black Deatha]

No but why would an instresting, intelligent, good looking girl be looking for love on the internet? I don't think the, 'She probably meets assholes in real life' is a good enough excuse

I wouldent be so sure about hat man, the girl I have been talkin to has said she's gone out with a lot of assholes and wanted someone better...

And she's not the only one I have talked to who has said that.

~Black Deatha

 

[B'z-chan]

No but why would an instresting, intelligent, good looking girl be looking for love on the internet? I don't think the, 'She probably meets assholes in real life' is a good enough excuse

Beacuse women are so fragile and beautiful. They should be charished for there heart and soul before you put your eyes upon them. Lust in ones eyes is no way to find the woman of your dreams, but a sure fire way to find a slut.

Do you just treat a girl you date in real life as a precious flower or a rock? This is why women seek indirectly i believe love through the internet. It gives them a aninimity that most can not afford in real life. A shelter from ones feelings and rejection. Yes it still happens on the net, but at least you've saved some dignity and are still able to move past it.

Fragile as a Flower, as beatiful as a sea, this women i adore, is the best thing for me.

*coming in 2013 B'z "poetry for a woman made by a crazy man" look for it on book shelves*

 

[Zelda-Bitch]

Don't believe the haters. If done properly, you could meet the perfect person online. First off use the right methods (online dating service/site etc). Don't try to hook up with random AIM chick for example. The great thing about meeting people online is that you can look for the exact qualities you want in a girl before even talking to them. It beats the shit out of meeting some skank at a club or bar. Who knows how that relationship could turn out! Also, don't jump right into meeting them asap. Get to know the person through email or phone conversation( phone preferrably) for awhile before making the actual step to meet in person. That way you can get a feel for this persons real life mannerisms. If after some time everything feels right, go for it. Fuck what anybody thinks. You're out to make yourself happy not to please the masses.

 

[Fresh Prince]

hahaha

But surely not all of the men she has met are arseholes. I mean when it comes to relationships women tend to pull the strings- not men.

 

[Zelda-Bitch]

btw- many extremely attractive girls use the internet to date. Some people are just sick of meeting the wrong guy/girl over and over again at clubs/bars. Also, some people want to meet others not associated or known by people they know. Some people want to cut through the bullshit and find people that have similar interests as them right off the bat. There are many reasons people use the internet. Anyway, I'm gonna try to find a pic of my friends girl he met from a dating site. Quite possibly one of the hottest girls I've ever seen. They've been married for 4 years now. Everyone picked on this kid for picking up a chick on the internet. You should of seen their faces when they met her. Needless to say, not one will ever make fun of internet dating again. lol

 

[B'z-chan]

hahaha

But surely not all of the men she has met are arseholes. I mean when it comes to relationships women tend to pull the strings- not men.

They are the superior being, i mean hell if evolution has its way in a few million years men will be nothing but sperm sacks. I mean really women have been picking up the slack these past few thousand years.

Women have pulled the strings cause us men (not all of us) are concentrated on our primortial urges for sex. Women have learned how to use it over time and now they have the control.

As men were preprogramed to spread seed where ever we can. Its hard to get away from those primortal urges. Unless your gay, then ah i dont know where you fit into this picture.

 

[Fresh Prince]

I still find it hard to believe.

But meh.

 

[Ristamar]

Make your first dates in public places, and don't invite them to your home until you know them fairly well.

I agree.

There's nothing wrong with meeting people online, as long as you play things intelligently and exercise a modicum of caution.

 

[Boogie]

I still find it hard to believe.

But meh.

How is it hard to believe. Go to lavalife (or any such site), do a search, and you'll find attractive women there. SHOCK AND AWE.

 

[darscot]

Don't you guys find you waste a lot of time with the online thing? I trust my instincts too much. In about two minutes of face to face I know if I should bail out. But you can chat online for frickin hours before that bail out light comes on. I can break up with a girl over the smallest things. Why waste a month online only to find out the girl is a noisy eater.

 

[Fresh Prince]

How is it hard to believe. Go to lavalife (or any such site), do a search, and you'll find attractive women there. SHOCK AND AWE.

No it's mostly the why.

 

[Dilbert]

Don't you guys find you waste a lot of time with the online thing?

If you're constantly at work, or on travel, it can be far easier to "meet" someone in a few minutes online during a lunch break or in your hotel room and arrange for plans in that precious at-home time. Otherwise, you're never in town long enough to meet anyone.

 

[border]

No it's mostly the why.

If you can't imagine a reasonable "why" then you lack.....well, imagination.

In about two minutes of face to face I know if I should bail out.

Maybe if you are shallow enough to dump someone over being a "noisy eater" or something. Online just lets you learn more about people than face-to-face, and people are more likely to mention/reveal things that you wouldn't bring up in a first conversation. Religion is a big dealbreaker for a lot of people, but you can't really go around asking everyone what their faith is. With online it's probably on every dating service's questionaire.

 

[SuperPac]

I moved from SF to Houston, Texas and basically knew no one outside of work. Everyone I worked with was married or hooked up and such, so I used match to meet women and find people to go out and about with. It worked out very well, though the one girl I felt everything clicked with decided to tell me via e-mail that she'd met someone else. (Not even the guts to call me...wtf?)

I'd hate to spend a friggin' *month* e-mailing back and forth only to have it not work out, so I usually go a week of e-mails, a phone call or two, then a meeting at a Starbucks or similar public place where you (or they) can walk away if it's not "happening."

I met my last serious girlfriend on craigslist and that turned out just great, until I moved.

 

[Boogie]

It worked out very well, though the one girl I felt everything clicked with decided to tell me via e-mail that she'd met someone else. (Not even the guts to call me...wtf?)

At least she let you know

 

[Celicar]

Beauty is subjective, hot girls hang out online, brains over beauty, etc...etc...

Also, it's much easier to laser point someone with similar tastes as you online then it is in the club

Not that one is inherently better than the other, but they both have their draws.

Sure, hot girls hang out online, but they don't look for a boyfriend online, or none that I've ever heard of or met. If the girls looking for a guy online are anything like the guys looking for a girl online, then they're fat, ugly, zit faced, etc.

 

[Boogie]

Sure, hot girls hang out online, but they don't look for a boyfriend online, or none that I've ever heard of or met. If the girls looking for a guy online are anything like the guys looking for a girl online, then they're fat, ugly, zit faced, etc.

Except that, ummm, you're wrong. You can keep insisting that your own little theory is right, but that doesn't change the fact that there are attractive women on online dating sites.

Once again people, for the 573913th time:

YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE != THE ABSOLUTE FACTS OF THE UNIVERSE

 

[Celicar]

Except that, ummm, you're wrong. You can keep insisting that your own little theory is right, but that doesn't change the fact that there are attractive women on online dating sites.

Once again people, for the 573913th time:

YOUR PERSONAL EXPERIENCE != THE ABSOLUTE FACTS OF THE UNIVERSE

PM me pics of your hot girlfriend you met online. thx

 

[Littleberu]

PM me pics of your hot girlfriend you met online. thx

I know a bunch of very cute girls that use Internet. Why couldn't they use a dating site too?

 

[Boogie]

PM me pics of your hot girlfriend you met online. thx

I deleted them when she stopped seeing me

But you may ask Cubsfan or Socreges to confirm the existence of her pic.

 

[SuperPac]

A couple years ago I would've agreed that dating online would net you nothing but fugly sea hags. But it's not that way anymore. Keep believing it if you want.

 

[etiolate]

1. There's good looking girls online, there's good looking girls at clubs. You have to be careful online, you have to be careful at clubs.
2. Girls are not the superior half or whatever. Men aren't either. They're both limited by the dumbass gender mindset. If men are right to fix things then you have an empty kitchen with a working sink that doesn't leak anymore. If women are right to discuss things then you have a bunch of drowned bodies in a flooded house.
3. The reason people try online is because girls and people in general are fucking shallow in public meeting places. You find some girl at a dance club, get her number and the next thing you know you are on a date where all you can wish for is that she will just shut the hell up. With online I am better able to determine if I can stand being around the person before having to be around them.

 

[fart]

SO LONELY

 

[aoi tsuki]

My friend is one of those "loser" types who got out of a seriously broken relationship with a needy girl. Neither one of them were happy. He started chatting with a girl he had been chatting with previously, but just as friends. He was talking to me one day about how she kept dropping him hints about how they should meet, and i told him to go for it. Aside from some initial awkwardness, the two of them clicked just as well offline as on. A couple years later, they're married.

And to those who denounce online dating in lieu of "the real thing", face it, if you suck at talking to women in real life, it's not fun. i've been there, as most of us have or still are. i don't see online dating as a replacement for meeting women in real life, just an alternative. i'd jump on the bandwagon myself, but i'd rather focus on improving myself (with a better job for one thing) and seeing what's available outside of my local area before resorting to online. i still talk to women online as friends, some with the possibility of more, because i like them as people. If a more serious relationship develops out of those friendships naturally and mutually, i'm all for meeting in real life to see if it can prosper outside of the internet.

 

[border]

Sure, hot girls hang out online, but they don't look for a boyfriend online, or none that I've ever heard of or met. If the girls looking for a guy online are anything like the guys looking for a girl online, then they're fat, ugly, zit faced, etc.

You can browse through the listings at pretty much every personals site and see that's not true....

 

[Father_Brain]

You can browse through the listings at pretty much every personals site and see that's not true....

Not that Celicar isn't full of shit, but that may not be the best argument.

 

[Cubsfan23]

I met a girl from online today, just make sure you get an updated pic of her, and talk to her on the phone beforehand. Also, make her meet you somewhere near your house

edit: Just read the whole thread, what's with the "time and effort relationship" crap, why would you even start thinking about a relationship when you havent even met the girl? You guys make it sound wrong to have a life and other interests going on

 

[Cubsfan23]

At least she let you know

:lol :lol

 

[Boogie]

:lol :lol

I am becoming increasingly aggravated by the amount of entertainment I provide you with, Cubsfan