Interracial dating GAF. Post your experiences.
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dark_chris
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I'm Mexican.
Have dated African American, Indian, Arabic, Pakistani and Asians. Never once dated a Latina.
Besides the religious difference with the Pakistani, all of them were pretty great. My family was welcoming at the least.
The Pakistani girl I dated was the best though.
Have dated African American, Indian, Arabic, Pakistani and Asians. Never once dated a Latina.
Besides the religious difference with the Pakistani, all of them were pretty great. My family was welcoming at the least.
The Pakistani girl I dated was the best though.
A friend of mine (Indian) dated a white guy in college. Real nice guy, treated her like a queen. However, she broke up with him because her father threatened to disown her and stop paying for college. Now she's divorced from some guy her parents arranged for her (and according to her, everyone in her family is pissed at her because of it), and the white guy she dated in college is now married with a couple of kids, and making bank. She regrets breaking up with him, and really hates that she let her parents control her in that way.
Taco_Human
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I'm Hispanic but white looking. My girlfriend is black. Yep. Love her to death.
Dr_Boris_Goltz
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I live in Southern California, so dating girls of Mexican descent is pretty normal.
Honestly I find everyone on the human gradient attractive and the ONLY thing that might make things awkward is their affinity toward religion.
Honestly I find everyone on the human gradient attractive and the ONLY thing that might make things awkward is their affinity toward religion.
damn, that's fucked up.
block tower
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im curious, besides the financial support in college, why did your friend allow such an obtrusive relationship with her parents when concerning her love life. i get its culture, but it seems like her parents were putting their selfishness above their daughters well being. why did she allow this as an adult?
dark_chris
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Collectivism
block tower
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yeah i get that. just seems odd to foster that type of submissive relationship with your parents as an adult.
My wife is chinese and a first generation immigrant to the united states. we met in graduate school. For me, it's hard, because I never dated any other girl and she was the first girl I kissed, dated, married, and everything. Sometimes we have difficulty with communication and stuff but we make it work. I think there is a difference between 1st gen and 2nd gen when it comes to intercultural/racial dating and relationships.
PaulExcellent
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I'm Hispanic.
My girlfriend is black + Filipino.
Her parents don't seem to hate me too much anymore.
I don't think it's about religion or color, but who knows.
I'm not really religious, so that might mean something to them.
She's not, either.
My parents are fine with it, I think.
They aren't the most accepting people out there, so whatever. (Take that as you will.)
Eh. The one thing I get tired of is the staring when you're walking around here.
Gets on my nerves really quickly. So much for Utah being all about equality.
My girlfriend is black + Filipino.
Her parents don't seem to hate me too much anymore.
I don't think it's about religion or color, but who knows.
I'm not really religious, so that might mean something to them.
She's not, either.
My parents are fine with it, I think.
They aren't the most accepting people out there, so whatever. (Take that as you will.)
Eh. The one thing I get tired of is the staring when you're walking around here.
Gets on my nerves really quickly. So much for Utah being all about equality.
Renoir
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Im Indian, Lived in Florida a good portion of my life, So i dated multitude of races
Iranian (was 3 years)
Indian (was 3 months)
Hispanic (was 7 months)
Caucasian (was 3 months)
Black(mixed) (my oneitis of 6 yrs)
I must say that i dont get people who date within there race ALL the time.
Dating within different culture you see a lot . And you see what they see as well.
Its good times.
Strain on IR relationship from your surrounding really varies on the region..
Dirty stares and people talking shit. I usually read about those things, i never experienced it per say.
Iranian (was 3 years)
Indian (was 3 months)
Hispanic (was 7 months)
Caucasian (was 3 months)
Black(mixed) (my oneitis of 6 yrs)
I must say that i dont get people who date within there race ALL the time.
Dating within different culture you see a lot . And you see what they see as well.
Its good times.
Strain on IR relationship from your surrounding really varies on the region..
Dirty stares and people talking shit. I usually read about those things, i never experienced it per say.
GungHo
Single-handedly caused Exxon-Mobil to sue FOX, start World War 3
"Family" means different things to different people. Some folks are fine going against the grain, others are not. For me, if my parents said "no, we don't like this girl, you cannot marry her, and if you do, we will disown you", I'd probably say, "sorry you feel that way, been nice knowing you." For my wife, I had to ask her parents for permission to marry, and they had to be completely cool with the whole thing... in no way would she be willing to marry someone her parents did not accept. So, I flew overseas twice... once to meet them and establish my identity with them and then another time expressly to ask for her hand, because that's how they do things over there (Taiwan). It's not a matter of "allow" or "disallow" for her. There was no other way to do it in her mind.
I'm a white guy, engaged to a Korean gal. Both Jersey born and raised. About as uncontroversial as you can get.
There's enough similarities in Italian-American and Korean-American culture (as distinct from Italian/Korean culture) so that family relations have been seamless enough.
There's enough similarities in Italian-American and Korean-American culture (as distinct from Italian/Korean culture) so that family relations have been seamless enough.
Wish I knew. I always told her that its her life, and she needs to do what's best for her. However, she was extremely scared of her father. Acted like a completely different person when he was around. I remember when he would come visit the dorm or her house off-campus, she would remove room decorations, pretend like she didn't know some of her friends, and even changed what was in her CD player (lol!).
I'm happy to say that she's doing better now though. She's dating who she wants, and living how she wants (she's bisexual). However, she does consider that guy "the one that got away".
evilromero
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Married to a Chinese native. I would never want to indoctrinate my child with religious beliefs, which are entirely an invention of man and very unfair to force upon a young mind. I will however tell my child that there are things that we simply do not know or possibly cannot know. Such things, in that case, are not important anyway so it stands to reason we focus on things we can know about. My wife agrees with me on this which of course makes things very simple.
And for us, we both agree that our child should grow up understanding that there are millions of species in our world, not just humans. And that as such we must treat all creatures with respect when possible and not favor our own kind over the others we share our planet with. I suppose that's why I've always harbored a bit of resentment towards my own kind because of our tireless greed and unwillingness to see beyond our local issues.
Thankfully, we agree on this broader perspective of the world we live, so it's something we'll afford to our own spawn (to be critical thinkers).
And for us, we both agree that our child should grow up understanding that there are millions of species in our world, not just humans. And that as such we must treat all creatures with respect when possible and not favor our own kind over the others we share our planet with. I suppose that's why I've always harbored a bit of resentment towards my own kind because of our tireless greed and unwillingness to see beyond our local issues.
Thankfully, we agree on this broader perspective of the world we live, so it's something we'll afford to our own spawn (to be critical thinkers).
block tower
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that's a shame she had to learn that way, regret isn't a good feeling. but thats good to hear she grew out of feeling obligated to please her father, good for her!
Honestly, I have never ever seen anyone have a problem with an interracial relationship. Part of it might be where I live(pacific northwest), and part of it might be the fact that I am mixed myself. As are many of my cousins.
I have heard one story, that my mother's grandmother was upset about it. But when my parents had their first kid she got over it, and loved the baby completely. So really, at least in my family, any concerns about it have been gone since before I was born.
In my wife's family. My wife seemed to be scared of what her parents would think of me, but they always seemed really nice to me. They treat my wife like crap, but that's really another story.
I have heard one story, that my mother's grandmother was upset about it. But when my parents had their first kid she got over it, and loved the baby completely. So really, at least in my family, any concerns about it have been gone since before I was born.
In my wife's family. My wife seemed to be scared of what her parents would think of me, but they always seemed really nice to me. They treat my wife like crap, but that's really another story.
Hyperactivity
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I feel as there is a certain balance to be struck. As an Indian, I've heard my fair share of similar cases, but at the same time, I believe parents should have a role when it comes to these things
For example, my parents couldn't give two craps about ethnicity, but it would cause them a great deal of stress if they couldn't be sure of their children's various partners and they would likely want to be sure about the reliability, the ability of this person to care for the other, etc.
Collete
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Dated a white guy for quite some years (as an Indian American female).
First my family was against it when I was a teenager (mainly because he was white), but over the years, they stopped caring.
The reasons we broke up were unrelated to race however. We're all human beings at the end of the day so it's just another experience of dating another person.
First my family was against it when I was a teenager (mainly because he was white), but over the years, they stopped caring.
The reasons we broke up were unrelated to race however. We're all human beings at the end of the day so it's just another experience of dating another person.
Certinty
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I'm half Indian and Portuguese, and tanned.
Engaged to a Swedish girl and not once in our 7 years since we first met have we cared about being of different races. Her parents have adored me like their son for years now too so all is great. Admittedly though we despite being from different places we were both brought up in a similar way and are of the same religion so that helps a bit.
Engaged to a Swedish girl and not once in our 7 years since we first met have we cared about being of different races. Her parents have adored me like their son for years now too so all is great. Admittedly though we despite being from different places we were both brought up in a similar way and are of the same religion so that helps a bit.
block tower
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i think it's perfectly reasonable for parents to want the best for their kids, but imo it's a personal decision between you and who you choose to love. sacrificing your own happiness in favor of your parents happiness when it comes to your personal relationships is a bad idea. you have to live your life, after all they are living theirs. but hey, if people care more about parental approval and cultural tradition i understand that too, that's important . i guess its a choice someone has to make regarding their happiness.
There is no balance to be struck. I'm brown and I've heard many cases like that.
Brown parents tend to be too intrusive, too conservative with unrealistic expectations. I love my folks but I learned a long time ago to be OK disappointing the shit out of them. Thankfully, they love my white fiancée and have never even said a word about race concerning us but I was prepared to cut ties with them if it came to that.
Eighty Deuce
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I'm Hispanic and never had an issue dating outside my ethnicity. I'm the most red blooded American you will ever meet, it surprizes folks when they meet me. I've actually turned things around with a few ex's families, I'm happy to change perspectives on what it means to be American. I can dance to salsa and skin a buck.
My girlfriend of nearly 5 years is Latina. I honestly don't think much about the racial thing, though differences between growing up in the U.S. versus growing up in Argentina comes up from time to time.
I've slept with and dated several white women. Can't say I ever noticed people staring at us or anything like that. I get stared at often, so if someone was staring because the girl I was with wasn't black, I wouldn't automatically register it that way.
I've slept with and dated several white women. Can't say I ever noticed people staring at us or anything like that. I get stared at often, so if someone was staring because the girl I was with wasn't black, I wouldn't automatically register it that way.
Lizard with a ladder
learnin' with the blacks!
I'm Cuban and have always dated outside my ethnicity. Never had any issues except for food.
Sometimes they just don't like Latin food and I need my rice and beans fix at least once a week.
Sometimes they just don't like Latin food and I need my rice and beans fix at least once a week.
GravityMan
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I agree with you when it comes to the OP. Sooner or later, the shit's gonna hit the fan.
When it comes to future plans involving kids, it's pretty damn important that both the OP and his girl be on the same page.
David Incorporated Esq.
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I'm a white dude and dated a Mexican girl for a while. Her family loved me but her friends were always asking her what the hell she was doing with me, even though I was actually friends with many of them myself.
It was strange, but ended up not working for other reasons.
It was strange, but ended up not working for other reasons.
bobbychalkers
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They can't be trusted,
My ex is Puerto Rican, don't remember the name of any dish I had but man.....
killertofu
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Filipino guy, my three long term serious gfs were white, white and white/Chinese
Didn't really have any problems with that. The mixed race girl was easier to try out foreign cusine tho
Didn't really have any problems with that. The mixed race girl was easier to try out foreign cusine tho
For me and the girls I've been dating with our time has always been joyful and pleasant. But there is a bad side to the story, there always is. I'm talking about the parents.
There hasn't been one parent who hasn't asked their daughter (after I left their house for the (first) time) things like "soooo, you're dating with a foreigner now?" or "where does he come from? I hope he's not an *fill in what you want*. One couple even disapproved it.
Hearing things like that from the girls I were dating were always off putting but that's how it goes when you live in an area where there aren't many "colored" people.
There hasn't been one parent who hasn't asked their daughter (after I left their house for the (first) time) things like "soooo, you're dating with a foreigner now?" or "where does he come from? I hope he's not an *fill in what you want*. One couple even disapproved it.
Hearing things like that from the girls I were dating were always off putting but that's how it goes when you live in an area where there aren't many "colored" people.
Like the hat?
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I'm white. In the past I dated a Chilean girl, a black girl, and a Korean girl. All experiences were great.
mullet2000
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I'm white, 22, and have been dating a Chinese woman for 3 years now. Previous to her I've only dating white girls.
There's not much to say, really. It's pretty much the most "accepted" interracial couple at this point, nearly to the point of being a stereotype in itself. Our different ethnicities don't play much of a role in day to day life, though we do make fun of each other when we live up to our own stereotypes and stuff like that. I will admit I found it pretty exciting when we first started dating, though!
One thing though: Her parents. Her parents are the negative stereotype of Chinese parents pretty much to a T. They don't like me, they don't even want to meet me. I've been dating her for three years, they know I exist, but to this day we haven't met. Partly because I'm not also Chinese, and partly because...I'm a guy dating their daughter at all. Pretty dumb! You're not suppose to date in your teens and 20s, of course, you're suppose to hit 25 and magically be married.
There's not much to say, really. It's pretty much the most "accepted" interracial couple at this point, nearly to the point of being a stereotype in itself. Our different ethnicities don't play much of a role in day to day life, though we do make fun of each other when we live up to our own stereotypes and stuff like that. I will admit I found it pretty exciting when we first started dating, though!
One thing though: Her parents. Her parents are the negative stereotype of Chinese parents pretty much to a T. They don't like me, they don't even want to meet me. I've been dating her for three years, they know I exist, but to this day we haven't met. Partly because I'm not also Chinese, and partly because...I'm a guy dating their daughter at all. Pretty dumb! You're not suppose to date in your teens and 20s, of course, you're suppose to hit 25 and magically be married.
My Indian friend basically broke up with his girlfriend for the same reasons.
NinjaMouse
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I dated a Filipino girl once. It went pretty smooth, I suppose. I mean, I've been married to her for 7 years now 
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.I would agree about the op bot naming his children after Islamic figures but Americans do it all the time for Christian figures. Names like: Micheal, Mark, John, Joshua, etc. come from Christian figures and they are perfectly in our society.
Stopmotionkai
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My first and only serious relationship was with a cute small black girl, and race was never really an issue in any sense, though i am prone to saying a racist joke once in while. It was good for a year lol.
To be fair, those are all King James-ian versions of Greek or Hebrew-Aramaic names, right?
UnluckyKate
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Pretty much my experience
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