Is refusing to date people of certain races racist?

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Yes. Not every person of race X looks the same or has the same personality. If you don’t like dating black peoples because of skin, I have to start asking which “black” people and from where. Not every black person has the same skin type. Not every white blonde is from a sorority. Not every Asian person has the same bone structure. Not every Hispanic person enjoys the same food. There are so many variations of people within even particular races that yes someone should wonder when you say you don’t date people from race X.
 
I'm my own person

Fuck, I gotta go back and change my answer in that "Best Username on NeoGAF" thread...

Alright fuck it we haven't hit the "post attractive people" part imma do it

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...I think I might be blind, what the fuck color are those eyes?
 
Sure. But if someone tells me "I just don't find Asians attractive" or "I just don't find blacks attractive" I'll hold off on labeling them as racist. Is it suspect? Perhaps. But I don't know what they're thinking about that race so I'll take their word for it rather than assume something simply because i can't apply it to myself.
Curious that they would volunteer that information.

"I've never met a black person I would want to befriend"

"I don't want to hire black people"

Who would say that aside from racists?

And wouldn't you ask them to elaborate?

And if the answer basically just amounted to "it's just a preference, I can't explain or define it", wouldn't that ring any alarm bells for you?

Because hiding behind physical preferences without any sort of ability to elaborate on what those preferences are (aside from 'no X race') is kind of telling.
 
Is the part where Godfrey Gao gets posted?

I'll get considerably more invested in this thread once we hit that point. Until then lets get back to the topic at hand where, by my count at least, the answer to the original question still appears to be a resounding "Yes that's racist stop asking!"
 
No, because you're not saying you would never date your own race. The problem with somebody saying they would never date a certain race is that they are using generalizations and stereotypes to arrive at the conclusion. They are dismissing individuals and instead grouping together an entire people which is what racism is all about. If you can say for certain you would never date such and such race then you have obviously drawn some conclusions about said race.

I take it back. Rereading the thread title I agree that refusing to date a person because of their race is racist. What I wouldn't find racist is someone making a general statement that they are not attracted to a certain race because they have never met someone attractive from that race.
 
What I wouldn't find racist is someone making a general statement that they are not attracted to a certain race because they have never met someone attractive from that race.

Again, considering how varied people can look, as well as the fact that people can also be mixed, this is also highly suspect.
 
Remember, when you ask for specifics that defeats the purpose of generalizations.....err.. sorry, meant cultural analysis. Whoops.

As soon as you start trying to pin down a solid stable defintion of something like a specific culture it breaks apart unless you're accepting that you're totally arbitraryily defining it for the sake of a specific argument

Black is an all encompassing term for a group of people, culture is a broad collection of artistic & intellectual feats from a single group.

This is a specific meaning of culture which is not what I was getting at. I was using the word the way social scientists use it. There are various cultures that are described as black culture. Black culture is a descriptive label, we call specific things black culture, not as a category with meaning in itself. You can't find a series of traits that would define culture, unless you're working at something like the village or family level, that can actually explain what a culture is in its "entirety" because there isn't anything that specific and hard there to get at. What is popular culture? Is it print? Radio? Rock? Rap? Twitter? Handel's Messiah? All of these things can have that label, and yet it's difficult, and actually probably impossible, to actually pin down what connects all of them.

But I don't think you're actually interested in engaging with me on this. I think you took one post of mine in isolation from everything else I've said in the thread, jumped to conclusions about its meaning, and tried to insult me about it. I see why you would do that, but it's incredibly intellectually lazy.

What does black culture describe?

Black culture is the description. That's what a descriptive label is.


All you're saying is essentially black people exist and therefore they define black culture.

Close, I'm actually saying people categorize certain things as black culture and therefore it exists.


Wtf does that mean in the context of the OP?

I was more concerned with the people acting like it is a problematic conception in the abstract. It isn't, or not particularly more problematic than any of the rest of the language we use to describe the social world.
 
Weird question. Physical appearance plays a role in attraction to most people sure.

No.

There are two ways this is wrong. The first is assuming that preferences can't be racist in origin, they clearly are sometimes, the second is all this does knock the problem down the road. Now the individual in question has defined race, because race is something people are constantly actively creating, based on characteristics he doesn't like. That sounds pretty racist to me.
Weird, I am pretty sure that if I showed random people on the street some pictures and asked them what race the people in the photos were, they would readily answer. They wouldn't go: "Sorry, I have to check their family tree." or "I would have to ask them what they identify as."
If I ask you to picture, say, a white, a black, and an asian person, does your mind go blank? Does your brain get overloaded when you try to picture the endless possibilities? Or do you simply imagine a prototypical person of X race? Because that's the race in the "I (don't) find people of X race attractive."


How would they make that choice of dismissing said people of said race?

Is it facial features? Which facial features that all people of that race have?

Is it skin tone? Which skin tone that every person of that race has?

Or is it simply 'Because they're X race'? In which case it is 100% a racist preference.

But hey, it's just a preference, you can have whichever you want. That doesn't make it any less racist.
Are you able to tell a person's race based on a photo? How can you do that?

We all could show you pictures of dozens of people all belonging to the same race that have a wide wide range of features. Unless your idea of race is largely defined by dark skin light skin you really dont know anything about how a black person looks or an asian person looks because you know their race.
If you can categorize people as the same race based on appearance then they must have a common physical characteristic that people can find more or less attractive.

Let's say I tell you that I know a girl who is into you and I think you would be into her too. I describe her and you're liking what you're hearing. I mention that she is black and you say "Oh I don't date black women. No thanks." Is that racist in your mind? Because that is the situation essentially in the OP.
Dismissing without seeing the photo = racist.
Dismissing after seeing the photo = just as shallow as any other number of physical preferences.

Well, height isn't really race specific. Neither is age.

Eye color and hair color (and skin color) start trending in that direction.

I think pretty much everyone has physical preferences. Some people mistake their racial preferences as being in line with physical preferences, and some people mistake physical preferences as being in line with racial traits. There's also the issue of how much your environment influences either.
They are all factors you can't control (without going into extremes). And different races have different average heights, so by having a preference you are discriminating against a race.
 
Here is the way I see it. I’ll use men since I’m a guy and I can confidently speak about men more than women. Though I suspect that this is pretty much the same for women.


As a heterosexual guy, I find women attractive. Regardless of race, a woman that is well-proportioned is already going to be somewhat attractive to me. Things like symmetry play a big factor and we tend to really dislike asymmetry. And sure, I tend to find some facial features unattractive, like a unibrows or beaky nose. But that likely is fueled by social stigmas as well. Outside of facial features that greatly deviate from the “norm”, you’re likely gonna be considered at least somewhat attractive if you have a well proportioned body/face, good skin, properly cared for hair, etc.


If you feel that race or skin color overrides this for you do much, you almost certainly have some bias against that race that is impacting your view. Guys are pretty much programmed to find attractiveness in women. If race overrides this for you, you’ve got a problem with that race.
 
Never have or never could? Like someone fairly light skinned like a Halle Berry type is still no? What about someone half black? They've never seen a black woman and thought she was hot?

The problem is there's too much variety for the whole race being unattractive to you making sense. That's why it feels racist.

What if the person saw someone that looks white and is attactive to them but then finds out she is half black? Does that change things?

Further investigation would be needed on this person. You know?

This reminds me of something that happened in HS. This girl was super into me. Like, told me she would suck my dick in the elevator. She finds out I'm half Asian and loses all interest. I'm like "what did you think I was?", and she goes "Idk, Hawaiian or something". I'm like "is this bitch fucking serious?"

That shit fucked me up for awhile to be honest.
 
Damn he fine.

And this whole thread reminds me of the last time I went to lettersGAF for the annual "If I put no blacks on my Grindr profile I'm totally not a racist tho right?" discussion.

That hasn't been a problem again in a little while. I wont call anyone out but there was backlash over a POC talking his frustrations about dating as a poc and being apprehensive on dating white guys.

A few jumped on his case without asking or sympathizing with his troubles. Others just kept quiet.

But yeah, gay guys are just as bad at twisting themselves into a pretzel to deny any racism or problematic behavior.
 
Oh I don't care for an answer from the gaf because I already have my own opinion on the matter. I wanted to get meaningful discussion about this topic going but it's just devolved into an echo chamber.

Maybe try picking a debate topic with more merit if you don't want reasonable consensus.
 
I take it back. Rereading the thread title I agree that refusing to date a person because of their race is racist. What I wouldn't find racist is someone making a general statement that they are not attracted to a certain race because they have never met someone attractive from that race.

Hey I have my own preferences when it comes to dating, but I try and keep an open mind. Attraction isn't just physical, it's also mental. If you can challenge your thought process on why it is you may not be attracted to a certain race then it's always possible a new found attraction could occur.
 
Curious that they would volunteer that information.

"I've never met a black person I would want to befriend"

"I don't want to hire black people"

Who would say that aside from racists?

And wouldn't you ask them to elaborate?

And if the answer basically just amounted to "it's just a preference, I can't explain or define it", wouldn't that ring any alarm bells for you?

Because hiding behind physical preferences without any sort of ability to elaborate on what those preferences are (aside from 'no X race') is kind of telling.

The examples you gave are far different, because physical features are completely irrelevant to hiring someone or befriending them. At least, I hope they would be in most cases. Physical attraction is inherently determined by, you guessed it, physical properties. Last Asian girl I was with told me she didn't like Asian guys. She doesn't find them attractive. I didn't ask because I frankly didn't give a shit. I assume its because of her preferences, as she claimed, and moved on.
 
I would hope that “woman” implies human for you...

I've lost all understanding of nuance in this thread.

This is a specific meaning of culture which is not what I was getting at. I was using the word the way social scientists use it. There are various cultures that are described as black culture. Black culture is a descriptive label, we call specific things black culture, not as a category with meaning in itself. You can't find a series of traits that would define culture, unless you're working at something like the village or family level, that can actually explain what a culture is in its "entirety" because there isn't anything that specific and hard there to get at. What is popular culture? Is it print? Radio? Rock? Rap? Twitter? Handel's Messiah? All of these things can have that label, and yet it's difficult, and actually probably impossible, to actually pin down what connects all of them.

Let me rephrase the question then.

What is "black culture", in respects to this thread about blanket judgements of people?
 
The examples you gave are far different, because physical features are completely irrelevant to hiring someone or befriending them. At least, I hope they would be in most cases. Physical attraction is inherently determined by, you guessed it, physical properties. Last Asian girl I was with told me she didn't like Asian guys. She doesn't find them attractive. I didn't ask because I frankly didn't give a shit. I assume its because of her preferences, as she claimed, and move on.
The Asian girl you've dated is internalizing her own self-hatred. There's absolutely no fucking way that someone can make a blanket statement like that without an insidious motive behind it. Further, disqualifying someone based on their race for the purpose of dating is absolutely, 100% racist.
 
The Asian girl you've dated is internalizing her own self-hatred. There's absolutely no fucking way that someone can make a blanket statement like that without an insidious motive behind it. Further, disqualifying someone based on their race for the purpose of dating is absolutely, 100% racist.

As I said, she did not say she would refuse someone because they're Asian. Simply that she's never liked an Asian guy because she's never been attracted to one.
 
Weird, I am pretty sure that if I showed random people on the street some pictures and asked them what race the people in the photos were, they would readily answer. They wouldn't go: "Sorry, I have to check their family tree." or "I would have to ask them what they identify as."

I've addressed this throughout the thread. People associate specific looks with specific social groupings. This does not mean black people look a certain way, it means people are more likely to put people that look a certain way in the group black. You're not understanding what's actually going on with race. Being black doesn't make anyone look like anything phenotypically. Just like being lower gentry in 18th century England didn't make anyone look like anything phenotypically.

If I ask you to picture, say, a white, a black, and an asian person, does your mind go blank?

No, because we have specific associations with those words, it's not that white people platonically look a certain way. Of course this runs into some internal errors almost immediately. If we take a facial aggregate of the people that identify as Irish, and one of the people that identify as Iranian they will not look the same, yet both are placed in the white category. Clearly something else is going on here.

Does your brain get overloaded when you try to picture the endless possibilities? Or do you simply imagine a prototypical person of X race? Because that's the race in the "I (don't) find people of X race attractive."

Yes, people essentiallize traits to a label and then distribute the trait to everything that has that label. This doesn't work well in analyzing things, it's a shortcut that works for quick generalization, not for deep understanding. It's also racist when the labels in question are racial labels.

If you can categorize people as the same race based on appearance then they must have a common physical characteristic that people can find more or less attractive.

That's both not logical true, you're assuming there's only one understanding of the category, and missing the fact that identifying people as specific racial groups is a more complex process than sticking their features into the race giving equation and finding their race. What do you think passing is?

Dismissing without seeing the photo = racist.
Dismissing after seeing the photo = just as shallow as any other number of physical preferences.

You've collapsed a lot of things into the bolded. The former is clearly worse than the latter, but your missing quite a bit here that makes the latter a poor level of analysis. Of course in practice this is impossible to actually do directly, but there are ways to approximate what goes on when people make decisions like this.

If they are rejecting based on appearance 51% of black women and 50% of white women, there's probably a slight problem. If they are rejecting 99.5% of black women and 50% of white women then there's clearly a pretty significant problem. And since we live in a society that has a history we can pretty easily point to what could be the origin of that problem.

You can do this qualitatively too. Most obviously, if people just outright dislike dark skin tones you don't have to dig very far to figure out what's behind that.

They are all factors you can't control (without going into extremes). And different races have different average heights, so by having a preference you are discriminating against a race.

Fine, if this is literally the only thing going on, i.e. controlling for high ones racial preference is the exact same, and in that situation alone, I'm willing to admit problematic cultural understandings of gender are in play here instead of problematic cultural understandings of race.

Let me rephrase the question then.

What is "black culture", in respects to this thread about blanket judgements of people?

The OP used the word in a shitty way, sure. I've never said otherwise. Had I known that I probably wouldn't have called out people bemoaning the word more generally. Though in that case it'd be not because it's bad to do so, but because people would jump to that being a point in support of the OP. It turns out we don't have discussions in isolation. So when I see people completely dismiss black culture as a meaningful phrase that's going to raise my eyebrows.

So the way it came up in this thread was bad, people retorted in ways that suggest that the word is always bad. I saw the latter and responded to it. Much like you saw my most recent post and decided I was saying something I wasn't.

Let me point this another way, what the OP did or didn't do doesn't have anything to do with the truth value of my claim. He's wrong. It's stupid to even consider for a second that hating what one thinks of as black culture could be anything other than racist.

That doesn't say anything at all about the phrase in the abstract.
 
I wouldn't not date someone because of their race BUT there are definitely certain races of women that I'm more sexually attracted to than others. I wouldn't call that racist because I can't control who I'm sexually attracted to but I CAN control how I treat them. And as long as I treat all races equally I don't see myself as racist.
 
1) Average height doesn’t mean everyone from that group will be that height

2) No, races do not have different average heights, ethnic groups do. Indonesian men average around 5’2”. The Khampa of the Tibetan Plateau average 6 feet.
 
That's horseshit and you know it.

I don't, which is why I give people the benefit of the doubt. But hey, maybe I am wrong. I just don't assume. I have preferences myself. I'm much more attracted to Indian/Desi looking girls than any other ethnicity. And while I've found at least a few girls attractive from every race/ethnicity, I can see how preferences in certain physical features would lead to a heavy bias towards certain ethnicities.
 
Okay, but we really have people up in here using racial caricatures as an excuse to label person of x race as unattractive?

Of course people were going to do that, because the thread is essentially about whether or not that's racist and some people are saying it isn't. So of course they don't think it's racist to do the thing they are saying is not racist.

2) No, races do not have different average heights, ethnic groups do. Indonesian men average around 5'2". The Khampa of the Tibetan Plateau average 6 feet.

The distinction between ethnic group and race is pretty fuzzy. The most solid thing there is that if comparing the two race will be the broader category.
 
Yes.

We have this thread a few times a year.
People get defensive and say having a preference isn't racist. People respond that institutionalized racism informs preferences. People get more defensive. 2 pages in people start posting pictures of hot black women. Thread closes.

Come on! Already on page six and no pics of hot females. You are now responsible for scaring people away from posting those. Maaaan oh maan. What did you do?
 
Lmao at people saying its racist... we all have our sexual preferences how the fuck does that make you racist.
Let me stop you there:
It's not a sexual preference, that's the wrong term you're using.

1. You're talking about sexual attraction and not sexual preference. Do not confuse the two. You'll fall into the same trappings of people in here actually arguing that being LGBT makes you a misogynist or a misandryist (not sure how to spell this but it's not real anyway).

2. Sexual attraction is informed by society's standards. Society's standards are set by the dominant class of peoples. In this case, I'll use White people, since Hollywood's soft power reaches the international community as well. Representation and institutional racism thus informs sexual attraction.

3. If a person's melanin is stopping you from dating them, then you're racist. If that is literally the point where you deny someone, then you are racist.
 
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