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Mineshaft_Gap
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computers putin' said:
I'm sure there's some subconscious instinctual aspect to it. Even if the guy isn't really good at dancing. Not afraid to make a bit of a fool of himself in the name of good natured fun. Confident. Secure. It's cute and/or endearing. When a guy is good at dancing it's still all of those things, except now it's also sexy.
Nothing more boring to me than a guy who sits around while other people are up having fun. If you want to just hang out by yourself cool. Just don't expect to drag a girl who's there to have fun down with you.
Prax
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Ducky_McGee said:
Ha. That does sound adorable.
I like quirky/witty though.. but not a lot of people can pull it off right.
Some guys try and it's just.. ... sad. Calls for an "aaaaw".
computers putin' said:
You know in nature how some birds have to perform in a courtship dance to win a female over? Maybe it's ingrained from that. Shows you are healthy, can move your body parts right, are coordinated, and are confident.
In human dudes, just seems like someone that can dance has self-confidence, or at least is not so self-conscious about embarrassing himself in public. Being able to have body-music coordination shows some kind of ability for attention and control over one's body parts. And yeah, being able to move your body well implies you can probably do the same in bed.
And.. dancing is generally fun. Dancing and looking like you're enjoying yourself is pretty hot. Mega plus points for actually being able to dance. Super plus points if you are witty.
Mineshaft_Gap
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Prax said:
When he asked if I wanted a bag I said no. He said good, because he wasn't going to give me one anyway. He was flirting in his way, and it worked for him. I found him interesting and if I didn't have a boyfriend I probably would have flirted back some more and talked.
Mineshaft_Gap
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cluto said:
You're thinking of dinosaurs.
I presume it's because most of the people who go to dance classes are either female, or have been brought there by a female. It's like finding a girl who plays video games.computers putin' said:
For a lot of dancing, you also need a partner. So I suppose that if you enjoyed dancing, it would be convenient if you were with someone who also enjoyed dancing.
Live Free or Die
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I don't like to dance nor do I want to learn how. So I guess I'm screwed.
Mineshaft_Gap
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You guys want tips on how to break the ice. I gave you one of the best ones. Learn to dance. Make her swoon with your moves if you got the skill or make her laugh at your dance floor pratfalls. You got an in!
If I saw a guy doing the Carlton (tongue in cheek) I would giggle and possibly talk to them.
If I saw a guy doing the Carlton (tongue in cheek) I would giggle and possibly talk to them.
Herpes Reasons
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a guy that knows how to dance has a direct correlation on how good he is in bed.
im a fantastic dancer. i move my hips like there's no tomorrow.
hit me up ladies.
im a fantastic dancer. i move my hips like there's no tomorrow.
hit me up ladies.
arglebargle
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i feel like the "advisors" in this thread should give some indication of their ages. if you are 19 you care about whether a guy can dance. if you are 28 you care if he is employable.
though i guess its fun to talk about flirting, so i guess you can go back to that vacuous conversation.
though i guess its fun to talk about flirting, so i guess you can go back to that vacuous conversation.
Mineshaft_Gap
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arglebargle said:
I'm 20.
I care about a lot of things.
computers putin'
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arglebargle said:
good ass point.
BanditKing
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Most Nerds can't dance or go to a bar or nightclub.
Prax
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arglebargle said:
I am older than 20.
But no guarantees/warantees on my awful/awesome advice/opinions. YMMV. HAHAHA~!
The dancing was ice-breaking and making a good first impression.
It's not like you can slink up to a lady and be like "hey, approaching 30 babe, I am employable~!"
I think you're just bitter you can't dance. >_>
shanshan310
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I think the dancing is probably more due to the fact that there are so many guys who just won't do it because they're embarrassed or their mates are bagging on them or whatever. It shows a really confident man to go out and actually start dancing. Also it depends on the style of dancing, but it gives you an excuse to get a little bit closer.
That being said, there is a line. I went dancing with a couple of girlfriends a while back, and this guy who was there alone just wiggled in and started thrust dancing with us. We were just there to socialise with each other, and this guy would not go away. Pick your battles wisely. If a girl is looking busy with friends, chances are she's probably not looking to pick up. Knowing how to back off when your fighting a losing battle is important and will (hopefully) help you succeed in the end.
I'd say asking a girl to go and dance probably works better than going up to a girl on the dance floor. You can hear what her name is, for one thing. Shouting-while-dancing-under-loud-music conversations don't work well, in my experience.
That being said, there is a line. I went dancing with a couple of girlfriends a while back, and this guy who was there alone just wiggled in and started thrust dancing with us. We were just there to socialise with each other, and this guy would not go away. Pick your battles wisely. If a girl is looking busy with friends, chances are she's probably not looking to pick up. Knowing how to back off when your fighting a losing battle is important and will (hopefully) help you succeed in the end.
I'd say asking a girl to go and dance probably works better than going up to a girl on the dance floor. You can hear what her name is, for one thing. Shouting-while-dancing-under-loud-music conversations don't work well, in my experience.
shanshan310
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Being able to dance isn't really important. I guess it shows off physical ability, but I think its more about having the confidence than anything else.
shanshan310
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kisaya said:I'm 18 and I really don't care that much. Maybe it's cause I can't dance too but it would be nice to have a guy to teach me
ha ha. Me too. I'd love a guy to teach me how to tango :3
I'm not sure that bars and clubs are the best places to pick up, tbh.
Professor Beef
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I'd like to learn how to dance, but I have no business being in a club/bar/etc since I don't drink or smoke or anything. Kind of an odd predicament.
I have a friend named Joe Chin who is interested in that one chick you know, what's her name...Sunny? Be a bro and help him out.soultron said:
shanshan310
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Professor Beef said:
You can go to a class. Or like, my university has a dancing club. They meet every wednesday and learn a dance and then just freestyle. You don't even need to be a student to join. Check out your local unis?
arglebargle
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that may have gotten a little creepy. i dont want 18 and 20 year olds identifying themselves to me. my point was that the dancing hegemony that had prevailed in this thread was silly. beyond that, saying "girls like..." anything is stupid because, believe it or not, females are individuals. guys do not like college football or video games or blondes. different girls look for different things, just like different strategies (dancing, being nerdishly cute, being an asshole) will work for different guys.
while we are putting our cards on the table, im 29 and engaged. before getting engaged, i did fine for myself, despite hardly ever dancing.
while we are putting our cards on the table, im 29 and engaged. before getting engaged, i did fine for myself, despite hardly ever dancing.
BanditKing
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Just do what most of the eastern world does.
Get an arranged marriage. At least you will get some before someone breaks it off.
Get an arranged marriage. At least you will get some before someone breaks it off.
Thunder Monkey
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Dancing is the easy part.
Karaoke is what screws me.
Karaoke is what screws me.
dreamcastmaster
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Advice from women like this is useless. Women don't know what they want, when they get what they think they want then they are not interested anymore.
(only joking, couldn't find the comic image that said this)
(only joking, couldn't find the comic image that said this)
Professor Beef
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Oddly enough, I have no qualms about busting out "Kiss By A Rose" if I get roped into karaoke.Thunder Monkey said:
I'll check that out, hopefully something comes out of it.shanshan310 said:
arglebargle said:
In the end there's usually an universal thing that girls all together can identify with and relate to. Of course we're not all the same but we can try to understand why most girls might feel a certain way towards a certain topic. It's kinda like how you identified how most people at a young age care about dancing and how older people care about employment, but then again there are people in all ages that think differently about both.
Thunder Monkey
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I only know two songs well enough to not come off like a nervous spazz.
Painted Black and Behind Blue Eyes.
I'm 28...
Painted Black and Behind Blue Eyes.
I'm 28...
Prax
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arglebargle said:
I dunno where it was said that it was the only thing girls cared about, it's just a good and fun avenue for those willing to try.
Seems like most people asking are into more concrete advice or tips than vague "every girl is different, it depends" statements, even if it's true. That's why this thread was set up. So guys could ask ladyGAF questions and get some kind of concrete answer instead of wandering into the girl thread.
Still sounds like you are defensive about not being into dancing to me... xD
arglebargle
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Prax said:
understood. i mostly thought it was stupid that an advice thread was dominated by the advice to dance. treating people like individual humans does seem like decent advice to me though.
and you are right to an extent. i do hate dancing. im glad i will probably only have to do that one more time in my life.
incidentally, there are ways to signal employability without outright stating it. dressing well and wearing a watch basically serve that purpose, for example.
Thunder Monkey
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And their breasts feel like the finest bags of sand.i_am_ben said:
KittenMaster
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If I stumble around on purpose in a dance like Squall did in FF8 will girls find that adorable?
thetechkid
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bud said:man, all i know is the two-step.
Just learn six step to air swipes and you'll have ALL the numbers.
J Tourettes
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I have the good looking and witty thing locked down, the dancing is what used to let me down unless I'd had some pills. I'm glad I don't have to go out clubbing anymore, being on the wrong side of thirty and in s long term relationship.
PumpkinPie
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Thunder Monkey said:
"Your boobies are soft and warm like a poopy diaper"
Serious comment: I've always loved the look of jive dancing, I'd love to find a partner for that kind of thing, doubt I'd ever meet a girl who was into it though.
ashmountains said:
I really don´t understand people complaining that nobody strikes up and conversation with them. You do the first step, then.
On the other hand, I don´t like that girls often think I should make first contact and risk getting shot down.
Good thing that I´m not afraid to make a fool out of myself on the dancefloor, btw, plus working out gave me good control over myself (plus dat body). I´ve been told I dance well, despite feeling like I only spazz around. So guys, just have fun, it´ll show and make you more interesting to be with, I guess?
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Ducky_McGee said:
So all women are old? This seems like bad advice. :/
HellKarnassus
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There is this girl I like who loves to dance hip hop/break dance, but man I am so fucking clumsy. Also, I cannot practice alone at my house, why? because actually I'm never alone at my house! there's always my grandparents, or mother, or bother, or some uncle; too many people live here. D':
victreeb3l
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dancing is awesome. only thing i cant really dance to is house/electronica but i feel like thats more about just chilling out too
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