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19 & 21 said:
Agreed with this, sounds like you need to remove yourself from your current circumstances for awhile. Being single and unemployed is a shitty place to be if those are where you place your priorities/feelings of self worth. Find a friend who doesn't irritate the shit out of you and go for a road trip or something.
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As a Flyers fan, seeing your advice and avatar I can only conclude that this will lead to short term gains for me personally followed by developments that make it obvious that the short term gains were not worth whatever it cost me to take your advice.

/end forsberg rant

Don't see you in the NHL thread very often....
 
Some years ago during my senior year of high school I had a crush on a girl and I'm sure she liked me too. Well I had found out that one of my best friends had a crush on her too, so I backed off. I know I hurt her feelings when I never asked her out, not sure how crushed she was. Honestly back then I didn't have the balls to ask anyone out so I was just looking for excuses. Ends up they never dated, I moved on to college and she was sophomore in HS at the time. We lost all contact.

Fast forward to a little over a week ago. We bump into each other at the store, exchanged numbers and have been chatting all week. She's a senior and home for break. I'm going to ask her out tomorrow. First date advice? It has been awhile since I've dated anyone. I really don't want to do the whole dinner and a movie thing but I'm struggling to find something else to do. I'm not aware of any parties during new years either. She's a sweetheart and I don't want to screw this up.
 
brucewaynegretzky said:
As a Flyers fan, seeing your advice and avatar I can only conclude that this will lead to short term gains for me personally followed by developments that make it obvious that the short term gains were not worth whatever it cost me to take your advice.

/end forsberg rant

Don't see you in the NHL thread very often....
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For what its worth your loss gave me a childhood hero.

Also, I'm not a lady but I play one on tv.
 
Full Recovery said:
Some years ago during my senior year of high school I had a crush on a girl and I'm sure she liked me too. Well I had found out that one of my best friends had a crush on her too, so I backed off. I know I hurt her feelings when I never asked her out, not sure how crushed she was. Honestly back then I didn't have the balls to ask anyone out so I was just looking for excuses. Ends up they never dated, I moved on to college and she was sophomore in HS at the time. We lost all contact.

Fast forward to a little over a week ago. We bump into each other at the store, exchanged numbers and have been chatting all week. She's a senior and home for break. I'm going to ask her out tomorrow. First date advice? It has been awhile since I've dated anyone. I really don't want to do the whole dinner and a movie thing but I'm struggling to find something else to do. I'm not aware of any parties during new years either. She's a sweetheart and I don't want to screw this up.
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Something where you guys will have alot of time to talk and catch up. Personally dinner or drinks would be what I would go for. Possibly a walk in the park?

I'd avoid movies, not enough time to talk.
 
brucewaynegretzky said:
As a Flyers fan, seeing your advice and avatar I can only conclude that this will lead to short term gains for me personally followed by developments that make it obvious that the short term gains were not worth whatever it cost me to take your advice.

/end forsberg rant

Don't see you in the NHL thread very often....
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Fuck you Forsberg is the man. And I think he's the first avs fan I've seen on gaf. Also, avs suck too bad again now so there's probably not much for him to talk about in the NHL thread. :p
 
Full Recovery said:
Some years ago during my senior year of high school I had a crush on a girl and I'm sure she liked me too. Well I had found out that one of my best friends had a crush on her too, so I backed off. I know I hurt her feelings when I never asked her out, not sure how crushed she was. Honestly back then I didn't have the balls to ask anyone out so I was just looking for excuses. Ends up they never dated, I moved on to college and she was sophomore in HS at the time. We lost all contact.

Fast forward to a little over a week ago. We bump into each other at the store, exchanged numbers and have been chatting all week. She's a senior and home for break. I'm going to ask her out tomorrow. First date advice? It has been awhile since I've dated anyone. I really don't want to do the whole dinner and a movie thing but I'm struggling to find something else to do. I'm not aware of any parties during new years either. She's a sweetheart and I don't want to screw this up.
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Is there some kind of a mini arcade in your area? Honestly, the whole movie/dinner thing is so overplayed. If I were single and had to go on a first date, I would rather do something a bit more social like bowling, or playing some air hockey.

cdyhybrid said:
Lady-GAF: boxers or boxer-briefs?
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Can't say this enough, but boxer-briefs all the way. Nothing about boxers are very appealing. They're loose and do nothing to justify any part of your body.
 
Devolution said:
Don't be that guy that's waiting in the wings for your own sanity.
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BladeWorker said:
What the fudge.

Silly woman, pet names are for lovers. Given the age it's probably just that she doesn't know what else to say to you rather than attention-grabbing. But regardless, if you're not interested, be sure to (tactfully) push off any advances.

If you haven't already, make arrangements to get your stuff back or get closure or whatever, and then cease contact.
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She is a good one but she's been ...offbeat for the last couple of months. I had pretty much moved on. Not like I'm crying rivers or writing sonnets to get her back. But its just weird that I'm essentially watching a car accident from the sidewalk like this.

I've stayed friends with almost all of my exs, but I don't know if I can do it this time. I can't tell if she just likes the attention (because I was and still am a little crazy about her) from a younger guy who makes her feel all special and whatnot or if she's trying to come back around and doesn't know where to start. Is this not strange at all? I know I'm out of my age group but I'd really hate to throw her off like some freshmen when its just her not knowing what to say or something trivial like that.
 
DY_nasty said:
She is a good one but she's been ...offbeat for the last couple of months. I had pretty much moved on. Not like I'm crying rivers or writing sonnets to get her back. But its just weird that I'm essentially watching a car accident from the sidewalk like this.

I've stayed friends with almost all of my exs, but I don't know if I can do it this time. I can't tell if she just likes the attention (because I was and still am a little crazy about her) from a younger guy who makes her feel all special and whatnot or if she's trying to come back around and doesn't know where to start. Is this not strange at all? I know I'm out of my age group but I'd really hate to throw her off like some freshmen when its just her not knowing what to say or something trivial like that.
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It's good of you to try to be considerate but I'd advise against thinking that if you don't do everything *exactly right* that you'll ruin young(er) guys for her forever.

Being friends with an ex takes time, particularly if there's some kind of emotion involved on either or both sides. Put simply, it sounds like you both just need more time. And, as I said before, if you're not interested in anything with her right now, be tactful, but clear.
 
I'm feeling a bit shitty right now.

So a girl I started seeing almost a month ago, well things are starting to get serious with her - and I really want them to, so I decided to tell the girl I had been seeing occasionally that we probably shouldn't see each other any more.

I send her a text that essentially says "I know I've been sort of avoiding talking to you these last couple of weeks, and I should apologize for that. The reason is a bit hard for me to explain but I'll try - do you remember that date I went on, the one I mentioned to you the last time I saw you? Well I'm starting to feel like me and that girl are going somewhere, and I think that means that you and I should cool it."

I figured this might sting a bit, while we both constantly talked about the lack of seriousness in our relationship - and how we both were seeing other people casually, I had started to notice that she maybe started becoming attached a few weeks ago, and that's when I started to reduce contact. Still, considering the state of our relationship, I figured she'd still take it okay.

Anyway, I get a text back and she was very upset. She acknowledges that we weren't serious, and that dating around was something that was happening on both sides of the spectrum - however she felt as though she had an opportunity to eventually make something out of our relationship, and because I seemed to genuinely care about her and not just want her for sex, she felt as though I had lead her on (I still don't quite understand that point). She went on to say that I should have told her in person, and that 'breaking up' over text was a shitty way to do it.

I put breaking up in quotes because I didn't realize that's what I was doing. Obviously she felt differently, and now I feel pretty crappy about it - I kind of feel like I should have came and asked GAF about how to go about with the process first now. Regardless, I fucked up it looks like, and I feel crappy.
 
On the scale of shitty things you could have done this isn't very high up there. It sucks to be the other girl, and you probably could have handled it a little better, but it was gonna sting either way. Don't dwell on this. Not worth it.
 
brucewaynegretzky said:
On the scale of shitty things you could have done this isn't very high up there. It sucks to be the other girl, and you probably could have handled it a little better, but it was gonna sting either way. Don't dwell on this. Not worth it.
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I guess the best I can do is try to learn something from it :/. What could/should I have done to deal with the situation better?
 
Maybe I can get some advice from LadyGAF on this, but I've been having horrific luck on the dating front, especially online dating. I don't know if it's just my messages aren't doing the trick anymore and I need to work on those, or if it's my profile. I do have to get more photos up there still ... but it seems like the girls I message check out my profile and never get back to me.

I already got advice from GuyGAF on this, but any suggestions, LadyGAF? Is it just too boring?
 
Devolution said:
Boxer briefs also make your guy's asses look best.
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The only problem I have with boxer briefs is that they ride up on my thighs. I have heard of different brands doing different things however I have muscular thighs and they always seem to bunch up. If someone could clue me into a good brand, that would be lovely.
 
NihonTiger90 said:
Maybe I can get some advice from LadyGAF on this, but I've been having horrific luck on the dating front, especially online dating. I don't know if it's just my messages aren't doing the trick anymore and I need to work on those, or if it's my profile. I do have to get more photos up there still ... but it seems like the girls I message check out my profile and never get back to me.

I already got advice from GuyGAF on this, but any suggestions, LadyGAF? Is it just too boring?
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i'm a total stranger to the online-dating-websites-world, and because of that i don't want to try and give you a whole lot of in-depth advice. one thing that did stick out to me, though, is that you tend to elaborate quite a bit in your profile where it's not needed... here's just one example:

I'm not a fan of some kinds of surprises (specifically, of the really bad ones, but who is a fan of those?)
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i would scrap that line entirely, it makes it sound like you are easily overwhelmed, and doesn't seem like a necessary or important point to defining your character. plus, you follow up immediately after with the fact that you love to do new and exciting things, which seems to contradict it. i'd just axe it and go right into the "new and exciting" part.

i also think your list of things you're really good at is way too long and therefore seems very generalized. i'd focus on just a handful of things that are most important to defining you... when you have a huge list like that it may seem like you broaden your chances of a connection with someone, but in reality it has the opposite effect.

hope this helps a bit!
 
Y'know, I think I should really take Devo's advice to heart and figure out what I really want from a girl instead of dating a girl on a vague hint of compatibility.
 
BladeWorker said:
It's good of you to try to be considerate but I'd advise against thinking that if you don't do everything *exactly right* that you'll ruin young(er) guys for her forever.

Being friends with an ex takes time, particularly if there's some kind of emotion involved on either or both sides. Put simply, it sounds like you both just need more time. And, as I said before, if you're not interested in anything with her right now, be tactful, but clear.
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As a prominent member of the society of grown ups, I know when I'm acting like a little punk. And I am.

I can earnestly say that I'm not looking for anything serious with anyone right now - unless she decides to come around with issues straightened out. Other than her? Not interested. Simply because she's the only person I've been with that's matched her brand of crazy up with my mine.

As I type this, she's baiting me again. It'd be a lot easier to be just friends with her if she was straight up about being just friends with me. There's only a 7 year age gap but damn its like she's speaking in code and she expects me to decipher everything.
 
DY_nasty said:
As a prominent member of the society of grown ups, I know when I'm acting like a little punk. And I am.

I can earnestly say that I'm not looking for anything serious with anyone right now - unless she decides to come around with issues straightened out. Other than her? Not interested. Simply because she's the only person I've been with that's matched her brand of crazy up with my mine.

As I type this, she's baiting me again. It'd be a lot easier to be just friends with her if she was straight up about being just friends with me. There's only a 7 year age gap but damn its like she's speaking in code and she expects me to decipher everything.
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Fuck that. If she can't be direct about what she wants from you just don't bother with her. I know easier said then done but games, why play them.
 
Boxer briefs are the absolute best, especially when running or doing anything physical. I'm actually kind of disgusted with the enjoyment I just got out of replacing my random collection of underwear with new, better fitting boxer briefs
 
OG Kush said:
Do girls actually like men who wear skinny jeans?
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As long as they don't look like spandex or mooseknuckled yes

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don't be this guy.. you don't want to see the front lol

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This has probably been asked on here before, but what's the best way to have sex with someone the first time?

Do I take the lead? Do I let her do most of the work? How much foreplay is good?
Do I just leave in the morning?
 
Do girls really like short hair more than long hair on guys, generally speaking?
I loathe short hair and overthink my hair too much, does that mean I'm gay?
 
DKnight said:
Do girls really like short hair more than long hair on guys, generally speaking?
I loathe short hair and overthink my hair too much, does that mean I'm gay?
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My ex loved my hair when it was shorter. On the other hand, I think I look better (and less generic) with longer hair.
 
Mr.Swag said:
This has probably been asked on here before, but what's the best way to have sex with someone the first time?

Do I take the lead? Do I let her do most of the work? How much foreplay is good?
Do I just leave in the morning?
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I'm a man, but as Joe Rogan says, for most women you should gorilla fuck them. Be dominant in the bed. Dont be a pussy. Atleast for 90% of the women out there.
Maybe ladygaf disagrees with me though...
 
leadbelly said:
Interesting hypothesis, but I believe there is a lot more going on with homosexuals than whether they like their hair short or long.
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Well, everyone makes gay jokes if I keep my hair long. I must admit I live in a place where having it longer than 2 inches is considered weird.
 
Devolution said:
Fuck that. If she can't be direct about what she wants from you just don't bother with her. I know easier said then done but games, why play them.
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Thats the thing. I can't tell if she's on some bullshit or she's (here's where I make excuses for her) suffering from mid-life unmarried mormon woman crisis where she doesn't know how to say "yes, i want a relationship with you - what now?". That's the only reason I'm giving her the benefit of doubt.

Either way I'm gonna live it up on new years though.
 
Kitsunebaby said:
Boxers, imo. You have to have a very specific build to look great in boxer briefs but boxers are always flattering. Do whatever feels comfiest, though.
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Agreed.

OG Kush said:
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The first to are fine on anyone but THIS one:

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requires a certain body type to pull off (as on girls I guess). These kind of jeans suit my boyfriend who is tall and skinny, partly because anything else looks like its falling off him. They look pretty good on the guy in the picture too (though if I picture him in hipster glasses and a keffiyeh then the look is ruined). On other people it can make you look kinda chubby, even if you aren't. Its kind of case by case I guess.
 
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