I haven't tried OK cupid yet... THanks for the reassurance though.
Yes, I've never slept with anyone and my only relationship was with an asexual woman that I loved but she is no longer with us. She suffered from a lot of mental illness like me, had a rough life like me. We really got each other but I felt like the relationship was toxic and I wanted on a level inside myself to move on even though it was incredibly painful, and the circumstances surrounding their death was truly tragic. Its affected me deeply.
I have PTSD, MDD, Bipolar I, OCD, Schizophrenia, Fibromyalgia, Systemic Rheumatoid Arthritis, as well as autism(Aspergers). I am also a survivor of attempted rape so I don't know how I will respond in a sexual situation... My therapist thinks I will be fine but I don't know. Then again he has been helping me a lot lately and even congratulated me on enter revisions phase for my book, finally completing that first rough draft. It's been a long time coming, at least 7 years of on and off work, life and confusion getting in the way.
I have to smoke weed to due my conditions, and weed is the only thing that seems to help both my physical and mental problems so my SO has to be okay with me smoking it because I can't ingest it.
I also live with my parents but my mom says she doesn't care who I bring home and my dad is kind of a puritan, racist ass with a "nice guy" attitude veneer. but he isn't around enough due to his job anyway that it wouldn't be a problem.
I'm also completely broke, so like I can't afford to go on dates really, I mean I recently sold my last firearm to help cover bills, entertainment, new clothes, and necessities.
As for how I'm still a virgin at 26, it seems like while I'm not ugly or anything there is something about me that people seem to find offputting or I don't know. I've asked directly if there was anything wrong with me, but no one could ever tell me, they just "didn't think of me in that way" or "Wasn't really interested" or they were already seeing someone.
I also get nervous around people I like like a big dumb idiot. >.> and I don't know how to broach the topic of sex either... And I worry about what will happen when it finally does happen, I hope I'm not too nervous you know... Also I have body conscious issues too, like I worry if my dick is big enough, even though I know I am above average my OCD won't let it alone sometimes. Or if I will ever be able to date anyone attractive because I'm still overweight despite losing almost 200lbs, and I am probably going to be that way until I die which given my SRA's severity could be in the next five years so I don't really blame people not wanting to get to know me.
I also have a bad habit of apparently asking out lesbians.
I guess it's because I love short hair on women. Drives me wild, especially if they look kind of like Joan Jett or Emma Stone.
I don't really have a preference for hairstyles on men, although the whole emo/alternative look is really, really cute. <3