JasonUresti
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I hear you, but you also casually referred to this guy as a "nutcase". That's very insensitive to the mentally ill, and dismissive.
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Man fed up with nagging wife hides in forest for 10 years
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I hear you, but you also casually referred to this guy as a "nutcase". That's very insensitive to the mentally ill, and dismissive.
AtomskEater
Member
Daaaamn, the lengths some people will go to in order to not have to communicate with their SO. Of course we're missing a lot of details about the marriage, how many hours he worked, etc but I'm thinking someone who just packs up and goes camping for 10 years with no word to friends or family because his wife nagged about his working hours, maybe could have been prone to spending a little too much time away from home.
At one point I did think it read like someone taking the worst joke answer from a GAF relationship thread seriously.
At one point I did think it read like someone taking the worst joke answer from a GAF relationship thread seriously.
Silvergun-Blue
Member
Buddy, if that's what "being a man" is to you, then you should worry. From the description, his wife didn't really sound all that unreasonable, and agreeing to marry somebody means compromise.
The person I really feel for is the sister. Imagine a sibling just disappearing and you spending all that time combing shelters in the hope you'll find them alive.
The Omega Man
Member
Guy needed to cool off for a while, get his head straight, gather his thoughts no biggie
ItWasMeantToBe19
Banned
Wife: "I would like if you worked less."
*Man hides in a forest for ten years*
...What.
These demands do not seem very... unreasonable on the surface if you're willing to hide in the forest for 10 years.
*Man hides in a forest for ten years*
...What.
These demands do not seem very... unreasonable on the surface if you're willing to hide in the forest for 10 years.
Random Painted HIghway
Member
What's the deal with the passive agressive posts around here? If you think a post reflects casual misogyny, have the courage to point it out, the minimum age here is 13, some might not be aware of the connotations of their posts.
Jeronimo Jones
Member
Wife: "You spend too much time away from home."
Him: "Bring me a beer and then hold it for the next ten years."
Maybe talk to your partner instead of dipping for a decade, guy.
Him: "Bring me a beer and then hold it for the next ten years."
Maybe talk to your partner instead of dipping for a decade, guy.
ItWasMeantToBe19
Banned
Uhh, you often get banned if you're aggressive instead of just passive aggressive.
... It's pretty clear which posts she is referring to also.
tonysidaway
Member
This story seems to have been written from an original leaflet or newsletter from the charity, Emmaus. The original intention seems to have been to highlight the work they do to help homeless people. This guy deserted his home and ended up permanently homeless. Now they've helped him to make a start on reconnecting with his relatives who assumed he was dead. Great work.
Edit: now the ads are telling me I can have the garden of my dreams for £55, but I'm not chancing my marriage like that.
Edit: now the ads are telling me I can have the garden of my dreams for £55, but I'm not chancing my marriage like that.
Razorback
Member
How am I the first to quote this?
The_White_Rose
Member
Too bad this didn't qualify for G/A/F. Would have been perfect.
Earthbound64
Banned
Well, it is:
The Daily Mail
You know.
They're probably
Not used to
Writing anything
Which requires
Any
Thought
Seems like more people are finding more fault with the guy here.
ToxicPhantom
Member
No worries on my end. I'm good. Thanks for the concern.
Random Painted HIghway
Member
How hard is it to find a middle productive ground there? And it isn't just this thread I've noticed posts like this in, just find it to be a self congratulatory way of posting without actually engaging in conversation. I say that with self awareness of this post!
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
lol, "courage"
I didn't point them out because I felt they were obvious but maybe not. All the posts about what a hero he is, how his wife was the problem/abusive, etc.
Bigboss242
Banned
Something else was obviously going on. You just dont leave like that over something so small.I can see why he didnt tell family though people can be ass holes and desevrve to be disowned. Not that the sister did anything wring he pribably had nore then ine family member at the time.
What if his wife is a jerk? Two jerks can't make it werk?...
Vermillion
Banned
There's exactly one comment praising the guy before your post. By a Junior. Most of the others are critical of the guy.
On top of that, if the roles were reversed, we'd absolutely be talking about perceived abuse from the runaway's perspective.
So where is the misogyny here?
Nah, dude's a piece of shit and a coward. Not somebody to be admired. A man among men, as you so call him, would have manned up and just got a divorce instead of hiding in the woods for 10 years and making the people that loved him think he was dead.
Earthbound64
Banned
There are more posts saying how messed up he is / how messed up what he did is / etc.
Kingpin Rogers
Member
I mean, we've all dreamt of just leaving town one day without saying goodbye or telling anyone where we went. Only difference is this guy was brave enough to do it.
Speak for yourself.
It sounds like the guy was in a miserable marriage because he loved his work more than his wife so instead of being an adult and taking care of the problem, he just ran away.
I can say for certain I have never just wanted to leave without a trace forever. There are people that care about me and I them.
AlexFlame116
Member
I'm a firm believer of trying your best to come up with a solution before choosing divorce, but come on! How did this guy get to that conclusion? Divorce would have been sooo much easier. Confront the problem. Don't just hide in a forest for 10 years!!!
Also I told my sister about this and she said she would have dumped me in the forest with no communication towards her or the family. Ouch. But fair.
Also I told my sister about this and she said she would have dumped me in the forest with no communication towards her or the family. Ouch. But fair.
It really is quite similar. I imagine at some point you're so set on this that it would be weird to stop.
tonysidaway
Member
It's just poor journalism. Emmaus puts out a press release about a guy who ran away from home, journalist decided to make the story about his wife, because Emmaus helping poor feckless sods like this isn't interesting enough.
We know nothing about his wife, and there's no evidence that the journalist bothered to verify that he even had a wife. They were only interested in writing their clickbait story for their awful right wing tabloid rag, the Daily Mail. A Kiwi newspaper ran the story verbatim, and after a session of copy-paste by the original poster here we are all arguing about nothing.
Random Painted HIghway
Member
I was being overly kind by using the word courage there, perhaps even a bit passive agressive. But no, I'm no mind reader, I don't know which posts you consider to be misogynistic. Different people have different sensitivities to these things after all, perhaps this is an opportunity for education and a higher level of discussion for the posters you deem to be engaging in casual misogyny. It is an unsual story.
Earthbound64
Banned
Well, it is sourced from the Daily Fail.
Morrigan Stark
Arrogant Smirk
And? I was not talking about those posts.
Count Dookkake
Member
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Earthbound64
Banned
It seems a strange thread to call out "casual misogyny" when mostly the opposite was happening here.
Maybe best, but not necessarily easiest. Maybe not even best. You ever been through a divorce? Also don't know the intimacies of their relationship.
For better or worse, I gotta hand it to him. Few people just walk away and restart their lives doing what they actually want.
Silvergun-Blue
Member
I can just picture your average Daily Mail reader sitting in his armchair in front of the TV and grunting with approval at the story while his wife bustles around in the kitchen getting his dinner ready.
I see none.
Yeah, I'm seeing a lot more people dismissing out of hand the very possibility that a man could possibly be the victim in an abusive relationship and that shit's no bueno.
That's some uh...dedication.
I hate seeing people on my ignore list popping up in quotes.
I hate seeing people on my ignore list popping up in quotes.
sephiroth7x
Member
This genuinely feels like something that could have only happened in England... before I even clicked into the thread I knew it would be...
Glad I wasn't disappointed... only a mild mannered Englishmen would decide instead of doing the sensible thing and talking to his wife, he would instead walk hundreds of miles and live in a forest.
Glad I wasn't disappointed... only a mild mannered Englishmen would decide instead of doing the sensible thing and talking to his wife, he would instead walk hundreds of miles and live in a forest.
llien
Banned
With his... sister. I think you are reading it wrong.
llien
Banned
You realize that that LITERALLY is what the alleged victim said?
Jason's Ultimatum
Member
Is the wife's name Chi Chi?
Aztechnology
Member
He was just waiting for a good stability update.
johancruijff
Banned
i'm sorry but
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