Man sends woman 28 angry Tinder messages after she cancels their first date

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I see a lot of posts and sentiment along the lines of "ugh, guys like this make the rest of us men look bad."

No. Stop that.

Only you can make YOU look bad. What some other dude does, good or bad, doesn't affect how I present myself to the world.

A few bad apples can change the way women view the whole dating pool, so yes, they do make us look bad.
 
Go to 5:13 of this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCLi6vSIuPE

This is actually much worse. It's also worth it to watch the entire thing because it's amazing.

That was hilarious. And ridiculous. Some of those guys just went off like a bomb at the slightest hitch, or jumped straight in the deep end for no damn reason.

I'm so glad I never had to use internet dating sites, it just wasn't a thing years ago when I could have. Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against people who do. I'm sure there are loads and loads of happy couples who met that way, but dating just seems much more complicated when you could have to wade through an insane amount of crazy (like the guy who's actions caused the creation of this thread) to find someone.

Hooking up at a party or a bar just seems so much simpler.
 
I don't subscribe to that line of thinking.
Doesn't matter what you subscribe to because you're objectively wrong. Yes you can present yourself as you choose. No you can not control the preconceptions and past experiences of other people which will directly affect their perception of others, including you.
 
Jesus christ. I don't understand people like that at all. Like, what goes through your mind when you keep going like that?
 
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Doesn't matter what you subscribe to because you're objectively wrong. Yes you can present yourself as you choose. No you can not control the preconceptions and past experiences of other people which will directly affect their perception of others, including you.
I don't think that's what he's getting at. Of course past experiences will mirror your view of a gender. But you should not be worried about your gender's PR image. You should be more worried about how you present yourself.
 
It's weird how in real life most everyone I meet seems pretty normal and pleasant but then you go online and realise there are a shit load of strange and unstable assholes out there.
 
It's weird how in real life most everyone I meet seems pretty normal and pleasant but then you go online and realise there are a shit load of strange and unstable assholes out there.
That's your image of real life people? Sure, people are generally less open about their opinion in real life if they don't know you, but boy, a lot of people have a tiny threshold to burying you with their deviant opinions that are also expressed online.
 
It's weird how in real life most everyone I meet seems pretty normal and pleasant but then you go online and realise there are a shit load of strange and unstable assholes out there.

Happens frequently. I think the impersonal nature of online communication emboldens many people, and allows them to air what is on the back of their mind.

So many friends, would never bother telling other friends what is pissing them off about them, but texting and emailing makes this possible and frequent. Normally, one would just ignore a person that annoys or angers them, but contemporary communication makes it such that people tend to be more open or honest, perhaps too open many times.

Also, it ain't only guys who freak out like this. I didn't respond to a girl I was dating, took a nap for 1.5 hrs, and I had 54 texts from her. Granted, she wasn't being an asshole like this guy, but still loony.
 
That's your image of real life people? Sure, people are generally less open about their opinion in real life if they don't know you, but boy, a lot of people have a tiny threshold to burying you with their deviant opinions that are also expressed online.

I think what happens is people let their crazy out a bit slower in real life, face to face situations. Online some folk just go off like a volcano erupting, in an instant.
 
The best part was when he said all that stuff to show her how annoying some men could be and he wasn't like that...
 
Some guys are so crazy and weird.

Before I came along, my SO tried out OKCupid. She has some great stories.

Once while trying to plan a date some guy actually told her.

"Just so you know, I'm really good at eating pussy"

She said he sounded like the most normal guy prior to that.
 
Insecure beta males who can't handle rejection and go off like a grenade when a woman shoots them down(usually because they're assholes).

Then they go off and complain somewhere how women don't like "nice guys"

(hint: you ain't nice)
 
Reading these messages.... a rollercoaster of emotions for me.
At first I got angry, then I felt sad for this dude, then I got angry again and now I'm simply pissed. "Duuuuuuude" just shut the fuck up and let it go. You fucked up. Don't be a fucking weirdo. What's wrong with you?
 
I don't think that's what he's getting at. Of course past experiences will mirror your view of a gender. But you should not be worried about your gender's PR image. You should be more worried about how you present yourself.

being conscious of how women are generally treated by men is sensible and helpful to guys, especially if they're looking for a date
 
I sometimes call women dudes. But only friends, and definitely not someone I just met that I'm planning to date.

But like others said, it's completely irrelevant compared to the other shit that guy said.
 
Oh my god.

With every subsequent message, he digs himself deeper.

He just KEEPS digging.

I have to wonder how much hesitation was between each message, or if it was a rapid fire flurry of shame.
 
Jokes! - Ineffective

Negging! - Ineffective

Flash cash! - Ineffective

Foster jealousy - Ineffective

Please respond? - Suicide by gawker.
 
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