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[Tommie Hu$tle]

I'm contemplating making that move in the future however I have something that is going to cause a problem for me and I know there is no compromise when it comes to this issue either you do or you don't.

I don't like jewlery I especially don't like rings. I never have I'm just not a ring kind of dude plus in the industry I work in we are discouraged from wearing rings and the like for our own safety.

That being said if I decide to get married then i have to wear a ring. This sucks to me, I suppose I could do it during public engaements and the like but as soon as I would get home I'd take it off.

Do any of you have this issue and is there any resoultion to it beside suck it up and wear a ring forever?

 

[ToxicAdam]

Tattoo on the ring finger? Kind of an odd idea, but it would definitely show a commitment without being too noticeable.

 

[calder]

I've been married for a couple of years and I don't, and won't, wear a ring. I get teased at work when a female client or coworker from another site firts a bit thinking I'm single, but other than my coworkers bugging me to have an "emergency ring" to throw on like batman's kryptonite ring it's no issue.

I just have never worn a ring, find them uncomfortable and dumb. My wife doesn't care and doesn't like rings either.... so needless to say that's a sizable part of the reason it's an option for me.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

I just have never worn a ring, find them uncomfortable and dumb. My wife doesn't care and doesn't like rings either.... so needless to say that's a sizable part of the reason it's an option for me.

Lucky bastard, I don't think that would work for me.

Tattoo on the ring finger? Kind of an odd idea, but it would definitely show a commitment without being too noticeable.

Interesting since I'm no fan of marking my body but, that would be a good symbol of my love knowing how much I hate rings and tattoos but, know me I'd have the guy write in latin something like "This tattoo fucking sucks but it's better than that god damn ring." The I'd tell her the it is a latin phrase of power that signifies my everlasting love for you and commitment to this marriage.

 

[Umpteen]

Or, if you really love her enough to get your finger tattooed as a permanent symbol of your love, her name or maybe the word fidelity in another language would be good, too.

If you can't/won't wear a ring, its time to talk to your fiancee and ask her what alternatives would be ok with her. If she insists on something visible to show your committment then you'll have to go with the tattoo or some piece of jewellry, most likely.

 

[siamesedreamer]

I was the same way. You get used to it after a month or so. Its really no big deal. The only time you really notice it is when your fingers swell (which you otherwise would have never guessed they did).

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Or, if you really love her enough to get your finger tattooed as a permanent symbol of your love, her name or maybe the word fidelity in another language would be good, too.

Ha, I'd probably add Fidelity at the end of that rant. It would take ALOT for me to get a tattoo. Seeing as I can't stand them (for myself that is) and she knows that I may be the only guy without a tattoo or an earring. I'm just what used to be normal like that.

If you can't/won't wear a ring, its time to talk to your fiancee and ask her what alternatives would be ok with her. If she insists on something visible to show your committment then you'll have to go with the tattoo or some piece of jewellry, most likely.

I haven't even gotten to the fiancee part yet, I'm still weighing my options. I just know that once we go down that route the whole "I'm not wearing a ring" thing is not going to go over well.

 

[Flynn]

My wife and I bought our rings at the street fair for $20 each. We don't like jewelery and don't care about the traditions. I wear my ring, she doesn't. Neither of us really care.

I got lucky meeting a woman who wasn't all stuck on the wedding fantasy -- we went to the courthouse and had a drunken pool party for our reception. Then again, we're not rich, so maybe that had something to do with it.

Truth is, do what you have to do. If the woman you love thinks that rings are absolutely vital to a good marriage, wear it (and shove it someplace safe when you go to work). A key part of relationships is making sacrifices. Putting on a single ring is the least you'll have to put up with if you get hitched.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

I got lucky meeting a woman who wasn't all stuck on the wedding fantasy

She is, not that I have a problem with it, I think that a woman should have the wedding she wants (and can reasonably afford). So that doesn't bother me all that much, I just know I wouldn't be into the wedding planning like she would be. I suspect it's a man thing.

Truth is, do what you have to do. If the woman you love thinks that rings are absolutely vital to a good marriage, wear it (and shove it someplace safe when you go to work). A key part of relationships is making sacrifices. Putting on a single ring is the least you'll have to put up with if you get hitched.

On this you are right, if you are going to be with someone you have to make sacrifices and I suspect that of all the ones that I have to do that would be a light one. I guess I can tell her I'll wear it but I find rings to be uncomfortable.

I don't know there is something about jewelery that just erks the devil out of me. Just thinking of a ring literally makes my ring finger hurt.

 

[darkiguana]

I was the same way. You get used to it after a month or so. Its really no big deal. The only time you really notice it is when your fingers swell (which you otherwise would have never guessed they did).

Me too, I hated wearing rings because I would always play with them on my finger and that annoyed the hell out of me. I told my wife not to get anything fancy and she did. I think I have taken my ring off twice during our 4 years of marriage. I almost don't even notice it is there.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

I hope I can be as mature as you guys when I grow up.

 

[Gek54]

I also hate jewelry, I have a hard time just wearing a watch so I got a simple titanium ring, its so light I barely notice it is there.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

I also hate jewelry, I have a hard time just wearing a watch so I got a simple titanium ring, its so light I barely notice it is there.

Watches are different

 

[gblues]

heh, watches = constant arm hair rape.

I really don't notice my ring that much, although I play with it constantly just because it's there to play with. My ring cost about $50 for a simple 5-6mm white gold band.

My wife's ring is unadorned because a) she's not big on jewelry either and b) I couldn't afford a rock.

You can always wear the ring around your neck on a chain, LOTR-style.

Nathan

 

[ConfusingJazz]

Just tell her the story of my grandfather and the reason he doesn't wear his ring. He used to drive a truck after WW2, and while trying to jump out once, his ring was caught on the handle, and almost took off his finger. Needless to say, he had an understandable phobia after that and never wore it again.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Just tell her the story of my grandfather and the reason he doesn't wear his ring. He used to drive a truck after WW2, and while trying to jump out once, his ring was caught on the handle, and almost took off his finger. Needless to say, he had an understandable phobia after that and never wore it again.

Not shit true story we had a guy down here jump off a 7 ton with is ring on and the ring caught his finger and peel the skin an muscle off of his finget like a chicken. They had pictures of this guy's hand posted all over the camp as to why Marines are not to wear rings in combat.

If I can find some pics of it around I'll see if I can host them somewhere.

 

[ConfusingJazz]

Not shit true story we had a guy down here jump off a 7 ton with is ring on and the ring caught his finger and peel the skin an muscle off of his finget like a chicken. They had pictures of this guy's hand posted all over the camp as to why Marines are not to wear rings in combat.

If I can find some pics of it around I'll see if I can host them somewhere.

I think we will all be in debt to you for posting such a beautiful image.

 

[DarkAngelYuna]

You're going to need to wear the damn ring. Most women will not put up with some shit excuse for not wearing the ring, and your excuse is just childish. It's not going to hurt you.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

You're going to need to wear the damn ring. Most women will not put up with some shit excuse for not wearing the ring, and your excuse is just childish. It's not going to hurt you.

I don't disagree with you that my reasoning is childish but, I've never liked wearing jewelry and it has always been uncomfortable to me.

 

[Agent Icebeezy]

I don't disagree with you that my reasoning is childish but, I've never liked wearing jewelry and it has always been uncomfortable to me.

After a while, you never even notice it, honestly

 

[scissorfight]

I have to agree that after a few weeks I didn't even notice it, but if your job discourages wearing rings for safety reasons, then I'm ure your wife would understand if you only wore it once in a while, like when you two go out and such.

I also hate watches and could never get used to one...still the ring doesn't bother me.

 

[Ill Saint]

Just as an interesting aside with regards to rings and safety, I notice football (soccer) players use a certain kind of adhesive (?) tape around the finger which has the ring on it... maybe it's something to look into.

My fiance wears an old beat up silver ring i made some 10 years ago... she loves it because it has "my history" in it. I'm proud. No ring for myself, yet, but having worn rings before, you do get used to it quickly.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

I have to agree that after a few weeks I didn't even notice it, but if your job discourages wearing rings for safety reasons, then I'm ure your wife would understand if you only wore it once in a while, like when you two go out and such.

I also hate watches and could never get used to one...still the ring doesn't bother me.

You are probably right if I don't make a big issue out of it she probably wouldn't either.

 

[snaildog]

Watches are different

With that lousy explanation, I'm sure that if you can get used to a watch you can get used to a ring. You won't even notice it after a while, grow up.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

With that lousy explanation, I'm sure that if you can get used to a watch you can get used to a ring. You won't even notice it after a while, grow up.

I have a use for a watch, I use it to tell time. I see more so as functional than I do fashion and I if I'm in an ESD area I generally take it off before I get there. Like I said for me rings and all jewelry just do nothing for me.

If I decide to get married then I'll wear it when I have to and won't when I don't have to. I guess it just doesn't mean anything to me. Is it wrongheaded, I suspect if she thinks so then yes but, it's the way I about jewelry.

 

[gigapower]

I hate jewelry, rings, necklaces, watches, etc....when I got married I thought I wouldn't be able to keep the ring on for more then an hour. After a few days I forgot I had it on and its been like that ever since.

 

[GhaleonEB]

I think the key to how big a deal this is lies with your girl. Does she think it's a big deal? It's one think to not be able to wear it at work (I had a job like that, couldn't wear it due to the conditions), but some women view it as a sign that you don't want other women to know you are married and are not proud to be married to her. I still take pride in wearing my ring, because I want people to know I'm married to an awesome woman. (It also prevents advances from other women.)

On a business trip last week, I was talking with two of my partners (both men). I asked if they were married, and both of them were. Neither had a ring, however. One of them was catching hell for not wearing it, the other wasn't. I would ask yourself why you really don't want to wear it - and how your girl will interpret the move. If she thinks you are embarassed to advertise your marriage, it could be a poor choice on your part.

 

[Spruce Moose]

Just put one on, you'll get used to it in a month, then move on with your life. Your marriage is going to give you greater challenges than the comfort level of some piece of jewlery. If you can't handle this, you're screwed.

 

[Gazunta]

Heh, funny this thread pops up on my first wedding anniversary

I never wore any jewellery of any sort before getting married, not even a wristwatch. The idea of wearing it was completely alien to me. Putting the ring on was really weird, and for the first few days it felt so heavy. As someone above pointed out your finger swells a bit after putting it on, but I actually think that's pretty good - it's hard for me to take off accidentally.

Our wedding minister had a similar problem to the original poster - he needed to not wear jewellery at work for safety reasons - he just explained that to the wife and she was fine with it.

And yeah, wearing a ring is seriously the smallest of your concerns.

 

[xexex]

I cannot believe people still take marriage so fucking seriously these days.

 

[PunkBubba]

I say get a ring, put it on a chain and wear it around your neck or something. If you don't like jewelry then tough shit.

 

[homerhendrix]

I never have worn any jewelry, but the wife makes me wear a ring. I'd suggest getting the most plain one you can find. I remember when I finally consented to wearing one, my wife wanted to get me one with diamonds or patterns on it, it was awful!

 

[scorcho]

I say get a ring, put it on a chain and wear it around your neck or something. If you don't like jewelry then tough shit.

afreed, unless your anti-jewelry stance goes towards neck ropes as well.

 

[puck1337]

I wear mine, but I'm a programmer so it doesn't really matter. My mom (nurse) and dad (mechanic) both take theirs off for work.

 

[Flynn]

Another note on rings:

Titanium may sound cool cool because of The Abyss and all that, but it turns out that in case of emergencies, such as injuries and swelling, most EMTs do not have the tools to cut a Titanium ring.

So, go with something malleable. I got plain silver. Nothing fancy.

 

[Truelize]

I'm contemplating making that move in the future however I have something that is going to cause a problem for me and I know there is no compromise when it comes to this issue either you do or you don't.

I don't like jewlery I especially don't like rings. I never have I'm just not a ring kind of dude plus in the industry I work in we are discouraged from wearing rings and the like for our own safety.

That being said if I decide to get married then i have to wear a ring. This sucks to me, I suppose I could do it during public engaements and the like but as soon as I would get home I'd take it off.

Do any of you have this issue and is there any resoultion to it beside suck it up and wear a ring forever?

I'm married and I rarely wear my ring. Just gets annoying sometimes. My wife has a brother that has pretty much never wore his ring. The ring is supposed to be a big thing for the wife not the husband.

 

[Squirrel Killer]

I believed all those stories about how you get used to the feeling of a ring. Had my wife spend a little more coin to get a ring that nicely matched hers instead of a nice simple, low profile, silver/titanium one. They lied. Enough so that had I gone the low profile way, it still would've bothered the hell out of me. Then again, I'm so anti-jewlery, I don't even wear a watch.

Simply put, if it matters to you, you're going to have to discuss it with whoever you choose to take that step with. If you can't get past the "I can't wear a ring, let's discuss other options to symbolize our love" discussion, you sure as hell won't get past the "WHO THE GODDAMN FUCK SPENT $7SHITTY50 ON UGLY ASS SHOES!?" discussion. For me, it turns out the 50 cent anklet she got me on my birthday while we were still dating has turned out to be my constant reminder of our love. I daresay it means more to me than a ring that causes a rash despite getting some $50 plating to prevent rashes.

As for the guys saying "grow up"... I'm speechless. Would you walk around with a dildo up your ass just because tradition told you to? It's your marriage, make it your own. You lockstep idiots probably had the "Bridal Chorus" played at your wedding too.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

afreed, unless your anti-jewelry stance goes towards neck ropes as well.

Yes it goes againg neck ropes as well. It isn't a ring thing or a love thing it's a I don't like jewelry thing.

As for being married I don't have an issue with it at all, it's the pomp of getting married that I don't care about all that much. Like I said she can have the wedding of her dreams for all I care I'll just show up do the vows and be out. It's only one day, I'm a pragamtist and that's how I see things.

 

[GhaleonEB]

Yes it goes againg neck ropes as well. It isn't a ring thing or a love thing it's a I don't like jewelry thing.

Just a heads up - marriage requires a lot of comprimises to make it work. If you can't budge on wearing a little piece of metal, then you may have bigger issues here.

Also, flip the situation. Let's say you propose to your girl. She accepts, and you present the ring. She says, "I'll marry you, but there's no way in hell that's going on my finger." How would you feel?

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Just a heads up - marriage requires a lot of comprimises to make it work. If you can't budge on wearing a little piece of metal, then you may have bigger issues here.

I do have bigger issues and it isn't about marriage. It is about the jewlery industry and the exploitation of people basically.

Also, flip the situation. Let's say you propose to your girl. She accepts, and you present the ring. She says, "I'll marry you, but there's no way in hell that's going on my finger." How would you feel?

I would would be sage enough to know in advance that she doesn't like jewlery. She knows that I don't like jewelry but, I don't think that she knows that it extends to wedding rins. But, let's say that I was dunderheaded enough to not know that she doesn't like jewelry, then to anwser your question I'd be morbidly devistated that she didn't accept the phyiscal representation of all my love for her and that would effectively end any relationship that we could ever have.

I wouldn't force it on her if she didn't want to wear it. To me love is how you treat one another and how you work with one another for the greater good, I'm simple like that. However in my case that's not reality she has already picked out the ring and the stone and all that jazz all I have to do is pick it up.

 

[Fuzzy]

My brother and my cousin were each married last year and I'll tell you what they do. My brother feels comfortable wearing rings but he never wears his real wedding ring because he works at the airport and doesn't want anything to happen to it. So he wears a silver ring before and after work (not during) and only wears his real wedding ring when he goes out with his wife or for special occasions. My cousin is an auto-mechanic and doesn't wear his ring at all during the week for obvious reasons. He only wears his ring for the same reasons my brother wears his ring. Both my sister-in-law and my cousin's wife understood from the very beginning when they would wear their rings and when they wouldn't wear them because they were both up front and honest about it.

 

[GhaleonEB]

I do have bigger issues and it isn't about marriage. It is about the jewlery industry and the exploitation of people basically.

mmmmkay. If your girl is cool with that, then go for it. The only jewlery I've ever worn is my wedding ring, and I'm proud to do so. I enjoy letting others know I'm married. To each their own. Hope it works out well with the girl - and such a small issue does not get in the way.

 

[Gek54]

Another note on rings:

Titanium may sound cool cool because of The Abyss and all that, but it turns out that in case of emergencies, such as injuries and swelling, most EMTs do not have the tools to cut a Titanium ring.

So, go with something malleable. I got plain silver. Nothing fancy.

Fuck, I got titanium becuase it was cheap and light as hell so I wouldnt notice it much. I have never had swelling but now I am a little scared. I also just found two fiddleback spiders in my house. IM FREAKIN OUT MAN!!!

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

If she thinks you are embarassed to advertise your marriage, it could be a poor choice on your part.

I agree with you and this is the most likely response when if she ever saw me with out a ring on knowing what I know about her. She is big on apperances and I'm not. I understand what you are saying that a wedding ring is more than apperances it is the ultimate expression to the world around you that you have chosen this one person to match your soul for the rest of your days on the planet Earth and beyond.

To me, I find rings uncomfortable as well as the fact that jewerly industy (IMO) are crooks that exploit people (this is more towards the diamond industry than any other industry). That being said if it is such an issue to her I'd take one for the team and wear it when I needed to and wouldn't when I don't. Would I like it probably not, but as others have stated I may not even notice it after a while. I was really trying to see what the circumstances were for those who don't wear them. For them it appears that their wives don't see it as a big issue.

 

[Limedust]

Marine? How about keeping the ring on your dog-tag chain? If you work around a lot of moving machinery then ignore that.

I'm not married... yet... though I do work with a lot of open electronic hardware, so I make it a point to not to wear a watch with a metal band or any other hand jewelry. Actually, I don't wear any jewelry at all since I just check my cell phone for the time.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Marine? How about keeping the ring on your dog-tag chain? If you work around a lot of moving machinery then ignore that.

I'm not a Marine I'm what you would call a technical advisor for the Marines. I'm a civilian contracted by Marine Corps Systems Command to train and provide in the field support for their C2 systems.

I'm not married... yet... though I do work with a lot of open electronic hardware, so I make it a point to not to wear a watch with a metal band or any other hand jewelry. Actually, I don't wear any jewelry at all since I just check my cell phone for the time.

I came up in the days where we didn't have cell phones to tell time.

 

[Outcast2004]

I'm a married fellow and not huge on any jewelry but I do wear my wedding ring. I may find it uncomfortable, but it's a token of the commitment I have to my wife. Smalle burden I guess.

Although I do tend to take it off when I'm typing of workking on the computer.

If wearing a ring is a big deal try either a tat of the ring or even wearing it on a chain around your neck. Either of those would work.

Maybe your future wife will come to an undestanding that a ring isn't needed... who knows? But if you both have harder jobs, DO NOT spend alot of money on a ring set. It's pretty much a waste.

My wife is a retail manager for one of the big home inprovment chains and is rough on jewelry. I'm always asking her to take her ring off while she works.

 

[Ignatz Mouse]

I got a 14K narron, thin band. Barely noticable,a nd probably not an issue for your work situation, either.

I'd go get a $5 cheap thing, and try wearing it for a week, see if you still notice it.

I like the ring, although I am not into jewelry. A nice little reminder. And I didn't spend much on it, so I didn't feel exploited in any way.

 

[Limedust]

If you can get away with not having a cell phone with your job, then you are luckier than I. I didn't get one until it became a job requirement.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

If you can get away with not having a cell phone with your job, then you are luckier than I. I didn't get one until it became a job requirement.

It all depends having a cell phone at my job is grounds for use of leathal force.