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AUSTRALIA - 13 11 14https://www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Online-Services/crisis-chat
AUSTRIA - 116 123 / 142 / Youth 147 Online: http://www.onlineberatung-telefonseelsorge.at

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BELGIUM - Dutch: 1813 https://www.zelfmoord1813.be/ French: 0800 32 123 http://www.preventionsuicide.be/fr/lesuicide.html
BRASIL - 141

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CANADA - Canada-wide adult hotlines list Alternatively, 211 works in most of Canada, and they can advise regarding local resources. Nationwide Kids Help Line (Up to age 18): 1-800-668-6868

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DEUTSCHLAND - 0800-1110111 oder 0800-1110222http://www.telefonseelsorge.de/ / Chat: https://chat.telefonseelsorge.org/index.php
DENMARK - 70 20 12 01www.livslinien.dk / www.Skrivdet.dk

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EU - Standard Emotional Support Number 116 123 - Free and available in much of Europe

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FIJI - Lifeline Fiji - 132454
FINLAND - 010 195 202 available 9am-7am weekdays and 3pm-7am weekends / 112, the regular emergency line, may be used at other times
FRANCE - 01 45 39 40 00 / Suicide Écoute - http://www.suicide-ecoute.fr/

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GREECE - 1018 or 801 801 99 99 / Greece - http://www.suicide-help.gr/

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ICELAND - 1717
INDIA - 91-44-2464005 0 / 022-27546669
IRAN - 1480 (6am to 9pm everyday)
IRELAND - ROI - local rate: 1850 60 90 90 / ROI - minicom: 1850 60 90 91
ISRAEL - 1201
ITALIA - 800 86 00 22

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JAPAN - Tokyo - Japanese: 3 5286 9090 befrienders-jap.org / Tokyo - English: 03-5774-0992 telljp.com / Osaka - Japanese: 06-6260-4343 spc-osaka.org / The above sites maintain links to related resources in other cities and other formats like chat and text.

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KOREA - LifeLine 1588-9191 Suicide Prevention Hotline 1577-0199 / http://www.lifeline.or.kr/

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MALTA - 179
MEXICO - (55) 5259-8121 (Daily, 0900-2100h) saptel.org.mx

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NETHERLANDS - 0900 0113 / https://www.113.nl
NEW ZEALAND - 0800 543 354 Outside Auckland / 09 5222 999 Inside Auckland
NORWAY - Kirkens SOS offers phone support and chat: 22 40 00 40 and http://www.kirkens-sos.no/

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PORTUGAL - SOS VOZ AMIGA: 21 354 45 45 or 91 280 26 69 or 96 352 46 60 (Daily, 1600-2400h) http://www.sosvozamiga.org/ / Telefone da Amizade: 22 832 35 35 or 808 22 33 53 (Daily, 1600-2300h) http://www.telefone-amizade.pt/

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ROMANIA - 0800 801 200

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SERBIA - 0800 300 303 or 021 6623 393 / Online chat:http://www.centarsrce.org/index.php/kontakt[2]
SOUTH AFRICA - LifeLine: 0861 322 322 Suicide Crisis Line: 0800 567 567
SPAIN - 1-800-SUICIDA / http://www.telefonodelaesperanza.org/
SWEDEN - 020 22 00 60
SWITZERLAND - 143

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UK
Samaritans (www.samaritans.org) / Voice: 116 123 (24/7 Free to call, will not appear on phone bills, formerly 08457 90 90 90)
Text:- 07725909090 Email - emailjo@samaritans.org
Helplines for Men from thecalmzone.net:
Voice: 0800 58 58 58 (5pm to midnight nationwide, also 0808 802 58 58 London and 0800 58 58 58 Merseyside)
Text 07537 404717 (5pm to midnight, start your text with CALM2)
Online Chat - https://www.thecalmzone.net/help/get-help/
ChildLine (childline.org.uk), for those 19 and under:
Voice: 0800-11-11 (Free to call, does not appear on phone bills)
Online Chat - http://www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Chat/Pages/OnlineChat.aspx
Email - http://www.childline.org.uk/Talk/Pages/Email.aspx
Directory of suicide-related services: http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/suicide.php

UNITED STATES
1 (866)-488-7366 - Trevor Project
1 (866) 488 7386 - Addiction Hotline
844 228 2962- Eating Disorder Hotline
888 640 5174 - Depression Hotline
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) Veterans press 1 to reach specialised support.
(The older number, 1-800-SUICIDE, is no longer published by the lifeline agency and will probably stop working in the near future.)
Online Chat: http://chat.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/GetHelp/LifelineChat.aspx
Crisis Text Line: Text START to 741-741
Youth-Specific services (voice/text/chat/email) from the Boys' Town National Hotline: http://www.yourlifeyourvoice.org/Pages/ways-to-get-help.aspx

URUGUAY - Landlines 0800 84 83 (7pm to 11 pm)
(FREE) 2400 84 83 (24/7) / Cell phone lines 095 738 483 *8483

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[Bill O'Rights]

Please consider that while an online community can provide some moral support and a level of outreach it is not a substitute for professional help.

I do hope you find some level of comfort or uplift to your mood/state of mind in any replies/user storied that follow.

It might be an idea to share your general locale and avenues you've explored to get more specific advice

 

[Heath V]

I've struggled with anxiety and depression a lot over the years. I know medication helps some people but it really did not help me too much, and the side effects were not good either.

To me it comes in waves. Sometimes it passes quick but other times it will stick with me for months and it's absolutely horrible. I just goes to show you that you can be successful have everything you want in life but if you are not right in your mind none of that matters.

What has helped me is working out, trying my best to stay healthy. Trying to do things that I like although sometimes I get so depressed that I don't feel like doing anything but I still try my best to at least have some fun. Whether it be video games, movies, hanging out with friends going somewhere nice and Hiking that is up to you. Just try to do things that make you happy and get your mind off the current situation and realize that things you get better.

 

[pramod]

I've always wondered why NeoGAF has so many depressed members, or is it just depressed people tend to join Video Game forums?

 

[JP]

Can I recommend this thread to you, although it doesn't "fix" things sometimes it can make a difference just to talk to others who may share some or all of what you're facing.

Mental Health |OT2| - Light in the Darkness

Absolutely nothing wrong with making your own thread but I'm just thinking that you may find it useful to post in there too. I know it's different for everybody but there are also parts of it that are shared. 🙂

 

[Kimawolf]

Nothing wrong with just talking things out. Remember things eventually improve and every day gives you a chance. That's how i deal with it.

 

[Sickness702]

Mary.... my girl mary

 

[Joyful]

sleep

 

[shpankey]

This time of year can be depressing for many people. Just know you are NOT alone and it will pass. If you have friends or family, surround yourself with them and get out and do things, even if it's small things like walking to the mailbox. I always found the more I got out and about the better I would feel. In a depressive state, one tends to isolate themselves. Fight this urge. You are in control of your destiny. If it's too much, there is always professional counseling centers and outreach as well. Do not hesitate to do this if you are not coping well. It WILL help!

Stay positive, listen to upbeat music and try to take some walks outside. Talk to people you like/love and try to find something to laugh about if you can.

 

[Gamegeneral]

Mine is probably neither the healthiest nor most helpful answer, but

DISTRACTIONS AS MUCH AS I CAN.

 

[ThatStupidLion]

Wrong post

 

[Breakage]

These days I try to escape into a book if I feel low. Games and other hobbies require too much effort.

 

[RiccochetJ]

I would recommend going to go see a doctor to find out if what you have is clinical in nature. Then depending on the results of that, a therapist or counselor. They aren't expensive like the movies make them out to be.

Also exercise helps. Just pop on a podcast and go for a walk.

 

[Deleted member 713885]

Exercise. Just do some basic stuff.

Whats your height/weight currently? Are you under or over weight?

 

[jimmyd]

I'm 30 and I've had depression since before my teenage years, as well as anxiety and suicidal moments. At the moment I work a really shit night-shift job but I think I'm handling it.
I'll work up to 12 hours a night then go straight to the gym after work for a couple of hours, then home and sleep. I feel incredibly lonely but keeping busy really helps with everything else.
I think what I've learned through all these years is that the depression will always be there, so keeping busy and distracted gets you through day to day.

 

[dagZ]

Ah sorry, This is all over a recent break up, and I just can't swing it, or get her out of my mind.. She is toxic and manipulative but I have my rose tinted glasses on, and only see the good side of her.

 

[Pasedo]

I don’t have depression but anxiety. Three things help me. Aerobic exercise at least 30 mins a day, meditation first thing in morning 20-30 mins and at night before bed 20-30 mins and finally eating less fried and fatty food. If you can look after your body and soul the mind follows.

 

[Autoignition]

Ah sorry, This is all over a recent break up, and I just can't swing it, or get her out of my mind.. She is toxic and manipulative but I have my rose tinted glasses on, and only see the good side of her.

Heartbreak and depression are two very different things, my dude.

 

[dagZ]

Heartbreak and depression are two very different things, my dude.

oh I know, but I feel like i've been depressed before it, and it's just amplified with this. I know this is different, but I feel like I want to talk to someone about it.

 

[caffeware]

Diet and exercise are always the cure.

 

[Dacon]

I don't that's why I'm a mess lol.

 

[highrider]

Cannabis, exercise, trying not to indulge the behaviors and thoughts that lead to it.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

Try and recognise what triggers it - if anything. I know girls get me down a lot more than they make me feel good haha. But I promised myself I wouldn't let a girl depress me anymore so I shan't be falling down that hole anymore

*lesigh*

Anyway, the gym and building my physique is what gives me the most happiness. And gaming. And having a clean house :/

Also try to help others if you can which is hard when you are depressed, but you figure out there are a lot people worse off than you are which puts things nicely into perspective

 

[Used-ID]

As a pysch RN (and someone with it):
You need support from those around you.
Eat (the better you eat, the better).
Stay hydrated. Water. You know what you need to stay away from.
Sleep 6-10 hours a day (it affects you more than you may realize).
Try to stay away from depressants: alcohol, people, situations. (You know what I'm talking about)
Anti anxiety meds. They can help more than you think.
Anti depressants. It can take years to find something that works. Worth it.
Patience. There is no quick fix.
Make changes. (Job, friends, girlfriend, neighborhood, etc)
Take/make small steps. Don't look too far into the future - it can be discouraging.
Realize this: No one is going to care for you as well as you can for yourself.
Screw other's expectations of you.

That's what has helped me over the past 20+ years.

 

[Anung]

Can I recommend this thread to you, although it doesn't "fix" things sometimes it can make a difference just to talk to others who may share some or all of what you're facing.

Mental Health |OT2| - Light in the Darkness

Absolutely nothing wrong with making your own thread but I'm just thinking that you may find it useful to post in there too. I know it's different for everybody but there are also parts of it that are shared. 🙂

I'm not sure how linking him to a thread which is essentially dead will help him all that much. Nobody has posted there in nearly 2 months and the community that formed around that thread moved on.

Him venting here means at least a few people see it and maybe able to help.

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety problems for a long time and i've tried a number of things to deal with it some successful and others not so much. Anti-depressants, CBT, therapy and the like are a good start but it isn't an exact science and can involve a lot of waiting.

 

[Blam]

I'm not sure how linking him to a thread which is essentially dead will help him all that much. Nobody has posted there in nearly 2 months and the community that formed around that thread moved on.

Him venting here means at least a few people see it and maybe able to help.

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety problems for a long time and i've tried a number of things to deal with it some successful and others not so much. Anti-depressants, CBT, therapy and the like are a good start but it isn't an exact science and can involve a lot of waiting.

He can be invited to the active discord that was built after that thread died. If that's not allowed then just ask me on twitter.

 

[cereal_killerxx]

A personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Only thing that has ever worked.

 

[ChuyMasta]

I've always wondered why NeoGAF has so many depressed members, or is it just depressed people tend to join Video Game forums?

I acrually find videogames helpful with depresion waves.
But thats just me.

 

[Soltype]

A personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Only thing that has ever worked.

Same here, nothing else has worked for besides him.

 

[O.v.e.rlord]

Drink and working out

 

[Lionel Richie]

Get professional help. If that's not an option, find people you can talk about it and overall just keep your mind busy. Never lose focus and remember, a fucking lot of people you talk to struggled with it and they were able to deal with it. You'll be able too.

 

[javie3d]

zoloft

 

[LordOfChaos]

No more zero days

Ouch. Sounds like you're having a tough time max. That sucks. I've been there, so I kinda know what you're talking about. I've been in the ever circling vortex of self doubt, frustration, and loathing. It's no bueno. I know. If you don't mind lemme tell you a couple things. You can read em if you want, read em again later if you feel like it. But honestly man, if I spend all this time typing this out to you and you don't let it be a little tinder for your fire, well, you're just letting us both down. And you don't HAVE to do that. You don't HAVE to do anything. But you get to choose.

(Who am I? My name’s Ryan and I live in Canada. Just moved to a new city for a dream job that I got because of the rules below. I owe a lot of my success to people much cooler, kinder, more loving and greater than me. When I get the chance to maybe let a little bit of help out, it’s a way of thanking them. )

Rule numero uno - There are no more zero days. What's a zero day? A zero day is when you don't do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I'm not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that's not the point. The point I'm trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didnt' do anything all fucking day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero. You feel me? When you're in the super vortex of being bummed your pattern of behaviour is keeping the vortex goin, that's what you're used to. Turning into productivity ultimate master of the universe doesn't happen from the vortex. It happens from a massive string of CONSISTENT NON ZEROS. That's rule number one. Do not forget.

La deuxieme regle - yeah i learnt french. its a canadian thing. please excuse the lack of accent graves, but lemme get into rule number 2. BE GRATEFUL TO THE 3 YOU'S. Uh what? 3 me's? That sounds like mumbo jumbo bullshit. News flash, there are three you's homeslice. There's the past you, the present you, and the future you. If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself, and the 3 you's are the key. Be GRATEFUL to the past you for the positive things you've done. And do favours for the future you like you would for your best bro. Feeling like shit today? Stop a second, think of a good decision you made yesterday. Salad and tuna instead of Big Mac? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Was yesterday a nonzero day because you wrote 200 words (hey, that's all you could muster)? THANK YOU YOUNGER ME. Saved up some coin over time to buy that sweet thing you wanted? THANK YOU. Second part of the 3 me's is you gotta do your future self a favour, just like you would for your best fucking friend (no best friend? you do now. You got 2. It's future and past you). Tired as hell and can't get off reddit/videogames/interwebs? fuck you present self, this one's for future me, i'm gonna rock out p90x Ab Ripper X for 17 minutes. I'm doing this one for future me. Alarm clock goes off and bed is too comfy? fuck you present self, this one's for my best friend, the future me. I'm up and going for a 5 km run (or 25 meter run, it's gotta be non zero). MAKE SURE YOU THANK YOUR OLD SELF for rocking out at the end of every.single.thing. that makes your life better. The cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you) is key to building gratitude and productivity. Do not doubt me. Over time you should spread the gratitude to others who help you on your path.

Rule number 3- don't worry i'm gonna too long didnt' read this bad boy at the bottom (get a pencil and piece of paper to write it down. seriously. you physically need to scratch marks on paper) FORGIVE YOURSELF. I mean it. Maybe you got all the know-how, money, ability, strength and talent to do whatever is you wanna do. But lets say you still didn't do it. Now you're giving yourself shit for not doing what you need to, to be who you want to. Heads up champion, being dissapointed in yourself causes you to be less productive. Tried your best to have a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? so what. I forgive you previous self. I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best of my ability for future self. This one's for you future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.

Last rule. Rule number 4, is the easiest and its three words. exercise and books. that's it. Pretty standard advice but when you exercise daily you actually get smarter. when you exercise you get high from endorphins (thanks body). when you exercise you clear your mind. when you exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour. Exercise is a leg on a three legged stool. Feel me? As for books, almost every fucking thing we've all ever thought of, or felt, or gone through, or wanted, or wanted to know how to do, or whatever, has been figured out by someone else. Get some books max. Post to reddit about not caring about yourself? Good first step! (nonzero day, thanks younger me for typing it out) You know what else you could do? Read 7 habits of highly successful people. Read "emotional intelligence". Read "From good to great". Read “thinking fast and slow”. Read books that will help you understand. Read the bodyweight fitness reddit and incorporate it into your workouts. (how's them pullups coming?) Reading is the fucking warp whistle from Super Mario 3. It gets you to the next level that much faster.

That’s about it man. There’s so much more when it comes to how to turn nonzero days into hugely nonzero days, but that’s not your mission right now. Your mission is nonzero and forgiveness and favours. You got 36 essays due in 24 minutes and its impossible to pull off? Your past self let you down big time, but hey… I forgive you. Do as much as you can in those 24 minutes and then move on.

I hope I helped a little bit max. I could write about this forever, but I promised myself I would go do a 15 minute run while listening to A. Skillz Beats Working Vol. 3. Gotta jet. One last piece of advice though. Regardless of whether or not reading this for the first time helps make your day better, if you wake up tomorrow, and you can’t remember the 4 rules I just laid out, please, please. Read this again.

Have an awesome fucking day ☺

 

[EverydayBeast]

Embrace it

 

[Blam]

I've always wondered why NeoGAF has so many depressed members, or is it just depressed people tend to join Video Game forums?

It's because quite a lot of people use Games, as a way to escape.

 

[dagZ]

Thank you everyone who responded, I am going to read through every response, and try to get myself back on track.. It will be a long process, and I really want to.. because honestly feeling like this is horrible. I want to talk to someone about it, but I can't get myself to do that yet. This girl was everything, and I know that's the worst thing to do to yourself, is depend on someone else for your happiness. She was very toxic though, and turned everything around on me. Her Jealousy, was a big red flag. Pretty much friends who were girls were off limits. I barely could have social media, due to the fact that she always bitched about it, and would start fights. Very rude person, and I shouldn't want that in my life.

 

[Blam]

Thank you everyone who responded, I am going to read through every response, and try to get myself back on track.. It will be a long process, and I really want to.. because honestly feeling like this is horrible. I want to talk to someone about it, but I can't get myself to do that yet. This girl was everything, and I know that's the worst thing to do to yourself, is depend on someone else for your happiness. She was very toxic though, and turned everything around on me. Her Jealousy, was a big red flag. Pretty much friends who were girls were off limits. I barely could have social media, due to the fact that she always bitched about it, and would start fights. Very rude person, and I shouldn't want that in my life.

I hope you get through it OP. Do it for some of us who can't. I couldn't tell you how bad my life has become after having depression for who knows maybe 2 months? All because of one person, and they ruined my life.

If it gets really bad goto a therapist. It does help.

 

[kingwingin]

I just live with it while it slowly ruins my life.

Ever increasing debt, failing classes and destroying my health.

I wish i killed myself yeas ago

 

[dagZ]

Is it too shallow to think that I miss her so much because of how attractive she was, and that I dont know if I can get someone like her again?

 

[shpankey]

It's not shallow and is perfectly normal, but of course untrue.

 

[dagZ]

It's not shallow and is perfectly normal, but of course untrue.

I hope so, because right now, it's hitting me hard.

 

[shpankey]

Yeah, just know you are SO not alone with that and those feelings and I promise, they do eventually pass. Every person is different so it's not exact for everyone but as bad as it feels right now (believe me, BEEN THERE brother!!) you come out on the other side a better, stronger person.

I wish I knew words that would make things better immediately for you, as I am so sympathetic to your issue/s.

If you want someone to hang out w/ and chit/chat about it all, I'm available on Xbox Live and PSN and we can blow some crap up too. ;P

 

[///PATRIOT]

I hope you get through it OP. Do it for some of us who can't. I couldn't tell you how bad my life has become after having depression for who knows maybe 2 months? All because of one person, and they ruined my life.

If it gets really bad goto a therapist. It does help.

Are you clinically depressed? Did a physician told you that?

 

[dagZ]

Yeah, just know you are SO not alone with that and those feelings and I promise, they do eventually pass. Every person is different so it's not exact for everyone but as bad as it feels right now (believe me, BEEN THERE brother!!) you come out on the other side a better, stronger person.

I wish I knew words that would make things better immediately for you, as I am so sympathetic to your issue/s.

If you want someone to hang out w/ and chit/chat about it all, I'm available on Xbox Live and PSN and we can blow some crap up too. ;P

Yea i know, I went to my work holiday party, and I felt better. It showed me that a lot of people care about me, and I felt loved. They didn't know I broke up with my ex, so that shows that they just genuinely like me. Though, I couldn't shake the thought of her not being there, and I felt lonely even though there were many people around.

 

[Dee Dah Dave]

Walk at least 90 minutes every day.

 

[Insane Metal]

Avoid the internet and try finding things you enjoy and doing them.

 

[pretty done]

Avoid the internet and try finding things you enjoy and doing them.

The biggest problem comes when you realize there's nothing you enjoy

I dunno op, I'm just kinda going through life like a zombie hoping I get into a fatal car accident or something. I don't wanna kill myself but I don't enjoy living at all and the thought of 40+ more years of working 5 days a week just terrifies me.

 

[Insane Metal]

The biggest problem comes when you realize there's nothing you enjoy

I dunno op, I'm just kinda going through life like a zombie hoping I get into a fatal car accident or something. I don't wanna kill myself but I don't enjoy living at all and the thought of 40+ more years of working 5 days a week just terrifies me.

Jesus

I know that feeling.

I'm still taking my meds but slowly getting rid of them. This year was amazing. I started going to church again and found the woman of my life. Those two are everything to me. I hope you guys find yours too.

 

[Sosokrates]

Do exercise, keep your place very tidy, have cold showers
Do exercise, keep your place very tidy, have cold showers
Do exercise, keep your place very tidy, have cold showers.

And scream as loud as you can for 1 min everyday.

 

[Blam]

Are you clinically depressed? Did a physician told you that?

Yes I am. It's been a bitch to live with, but I am managing it day by day.