I'm assuming, for you to name someone you have already tried to be civil and they have been anything but. At that point what is the point of discourse between you and (them)? Also I had no idea Rotten Tomatoes had a forum.
They had a very active forum, in fact. It was more about movies but the video game section was a great community and some of my best friends TO THIS DAY were met there. There was a point when someone else bought Rotten Tomatoes, maybe IGN? And they made it harder to find the forums, most new users ended up just in comments sections for specific films/under critic reviews... then they got rid of that because of "toxic fandoms" attacking certain critics and then eventually they completely dissolved the forums as well. Some of those people ended up on other forums as a result, some even ended up here, heck this big goofball asshole who everyone didn't like named SolidChamp ended up on GAF and was one of the people who went REEEE at Evilore and demanded a perma ban so he could fly off to Reetardera. Wow, fuck that guy. Another guy I'm still friends with, Deadscreensky, posted here for a while but has been pretty absent as of recent, he's also from Rotten Tomatoes.
This isn't so much about people being civil with me in most cases, my main trouble with PoliGAF lately is the dominant voices have switched to the people we all knew were bad actors. I could just ignore them all, I guess, but the good posters barely post any more, the way the quality voices used to drown out the bad actors has reversed into the opposite to the point knobs like Dick Packer over here will claim
Schrödinger's cat
is having a meltdown when he's posting the same way he always is, it's just he's getting ganged up on in a way he never did before because he was one smart, rational voice in a sea of others and the bad actors were just a minority. Not to pat myself on the back but I don't feel me abandoning people like him will help things much but man this shit is upsetting, you know people riot when their stupid sports team loses, imagine caring that much about something that stupid and then transplant that to someone invested in politics and the trajectory of the entire country. The Patriots winning the super bowl doesn't mean they get to decide for the next 4 years how football is conducted but for some reason it upsets people far more than a creepy, senile pedophile who outright told us he'd do horrible bullshit to the country entering office.
I hear you on what you're saying, though, and I'm definitely going to re-assess how I deal with stuff. Getting worked up in a forum for video games isn't going to change anything, I've gotta focus on things that make me feel good and get rid of my stress so ignoring some of these people might be the best option. I was just watching a fun movie called Wolf of Snow Hollow and it's about a cop's nervous breakdown/combat with alcoholism in the face of terrible murders in his small town, what not being able to change events does to him, I feel a bit like him except I have even less control over this stuff.