My GF let a salesman into our home

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fuzzyreactor said:
dude you are trying to hard. didnt realize every post i made had to be literally factual 100%. Same girl i said a year cause it was easier than saying how many months. big whoop
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Well it does make it easier to backpedal if you know what you lied about.
 
Kinyou said:
:O
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Actually, I live in Pittsburgh soo....

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fuzzyreactor said:
dude you are trying to hard. didnt realize every post i made had to be literally factual 100%. Same girl i said a year cause it was easier than saying how many months. big whoop
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Dude, that's the point of honesty.
 
fuzzyreactor said:
So i just got back from the store to find my door wide open and a strange young man in my home. My gf was just about to write a check for some magazines before i stopped her and politely asked the young man to leave. He got a lil aggressive with me in tone before he left. he looked a little rough tbh and the way he was selling seemed kinda shady. I told my GF to not let ppl into our home when i am not home and we got into a big argument. So i need some help i guess

How do i shake the unsettling feeling that this guy wont return and do something unwanted? He has my address written down and i live in an apt in not the best area.

How do i deal with my GF? I am furious that she would not only let a stranger in )when she is alone) but also give him our address written down and begin to write a check with our banking info on it. I dont even know the guys name. The sad part is she didnt even want the magazines but was about to spend $55 on them just because she was afraid to say no. When i try to tell her that it is unacceptable she just makes up excuses.
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Had the same problem. I love my baby girl with all my heart, but there was an adjustment period for both of us when we started to live together. She doesn't have streetsmarts of any kind. Shit like leaving her credit card on the passenger seat of her car and crying foul when someone breaks into her car and steals it. She wasn't happy when I told her point blank not to keep shit like that laying around in her car but tough titty, them the breaks. She learned her lesson after that. I don't know about you guys, but it's a pretty well know thing that sometimes, not saying always, but sometimes a salesman or repair person will "case" a house they will later rob by attempting to go there on business.

Personally, if there's a repair person inbound we let the other know so that the other isn't caught off guard. We don't let random door-to-door salsemen in our place. As far as her buying shit...if it's her money and the bills are paid she can buy whatever shit she wants. I won't bitch at her for buying magazines, she won't bitch at me for buying Skyrim. Fair deal to me, lmao.

My suggestion: Be fucking real with her. Stand your ground like a man and let her know how YOU feel about the shit. My view is, if I'm trusting your with thousands upon thousands of dollars of my personal property then you gotta respect that and I'll respect your shit. Don't change if you're right. Inviting some random dude into your home as a female and you're alone is fucking dumb. Hell, I can handle myself and I only crack the door.

All the people saying nothing bad will happen are typically the people that live in the burbs and never had their shit ripped off.
 
Ha. Half of the arguments in this thread are grounded in semantics and/or construing things as you want to construe them.

I think it's pretty obvious that the OP has his girlfriend's best interests at heart and you can, considering the potential danger of the situation, forgive him for maybe being a bit irrational initally, but don't pull him up on shit like using the phrase "tell her".

She did something irresponsible; she should be reprimanded; she should be addressed as an adult. There is no evidence that the OP didn't address her as such.

Assumption Central up in here.
 
Mammoth Jones said:
Had the same problem. I love my baby girl with all my heart, but there was an adjustment period for both of us when we started to live together. She doesn't have streetsmarts of any kind. Shit like leaving her credit card on the passenger seat of her car and crying foul when someone breaks into her car and steals it. She wasn't happy when I told her point blank not to keep shit like that laying around in her car but tough titty, them the breaks. She learned her lesson after that. I don't know about you guys, but it's a pretty well know thing that sometimes, not saying always, but sometimes a salesman or repair person will "case" a house they will later rob by attempting to go there on business.

Personally, if there's a repair person inbound we let the other know so that the other isn't caught off guard. We don't let random door-to-door salsemen in our place. As far as her buying shit...if it's her money and the bills are paid she can buy whatever shit she wants. I won't bitch at her for buying magazines, she won't bitch at me for buying Skyrim. Fair deal to me, lmao.

My suggestion: Be fucking real with her. Stand your ground like a man and let her know how YOU feel about the shit. My view is, if I'm trusting your with thousands upon thousands of dollars of my personal property then you gotta respect that and I'll respect your shit. Don't change if you're right. Inviting some random dude into your home as a female and you're alone is fucking dumb. Hell, I can handle myself and I only crack the door.

All the people saying nothing bad will happen are typically the people that live in the burbs and never had their shit ripped off.
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Did you miss the rest of the thread?
 
Mammoth Jones said:
Had the same problem. I love my baby girl with all my heart, but there was an adjustment period for both of us when we started to live together. She doesn't have streetsmarts of any kind. Shit like leaving her credit card on the passenger seat of her car and crying foul when someone breaks into her car and steals it. She wasn't happy when I told her point blank not to keep shit like that laying around in her car but tough titty, them the breaks. She learned her lesson after that. I don't know about you guys, but it's a pretty well know thing that sometimes, not saying always, but sometimes a salesman or repair person will "case" a house they will later rob by attempting to go there on business.

Personally, if there's a repair person inbound we let the other know so that the other isn't caught off guard. We don't let random door-to-door salsemen in our place. As far as her buying shit...if it's her money and the bills are paid she can buy whatever shit she wants. I won't bitch at her for buying magazines, she won't bitch at me for buying Skyrim. Fair deal to me, lmao.

My suggestion: Be fucking real with her. Stand your ground like a man and let her know how YOU feel about the shit. My view is, if I'm trusting your with thousands upon thousands of dollars of my personal property then you gotta respect that and I'll respect your shit. Don't change if you're right. Inviting some random dude into your home as a female and you're alone is fucking dumb. Hell, I can handle myself and I only crack the door.

All the people saying nothing bad will happen are typically the people that live in the burbs and never had their shit ripped off.
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Yay! Someone decided to be just as offensive as the OP!

Too bad I have to go to bed now. Not before locking the door though, magazine salesmen are crafty fuckers.

mickcenary said:
She did something irresponsible; she should be reprimanded; she should be addressed as an adult. There is no evidence that the OP didn't address her as such.
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There's mountains of evidence that he didn't address her as such.

How does one reprimand her? Last time my GF told me to Reprimand her it was after we finished watching 'Secretary' with Maggie Gyllenhaal.
 
fuzzyreactor said:
So i just got back from the store to find my door wide open and a strange young man in my home. My gf was just about to write a check for some magazines before i stopped her and politely asked the young man to leave. He got a lil aggressive with me in tone before he left. he looked a little rough tbh and the way he was selling seemed kinda shady. I told my GF to not let ppl into our home when i am not home and we got into a big argument. So i need some help i guess

How do i shake the unsettling feeling that this guy wont return and do something unwanted? He has my address written down and i live in an apt in not the best area.

How do i deal with my GF? I am furious that she would not only let a stranger in )when she is alone) but also give him our address written down and begin to write a check with our banking info on it. I dont even know the guys name. The sad part is she didnt even want the magazines but was about to spend $55 on them just because she was afraid to say no. When i try to tell her that it is unacceptable she just makes up excuses.
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Shit he would of had your address, not like he wasn't already inside your damn apartment.
 
The only argument I'll offer is that I think it was a legitimate concern over the GF letting a stranger into the apartment, and then proceeding to offer a check despite feelings against it. It seems like the GF just can't say, "No." Maybe that's why she's with the OP. ;p j/k

Anyone who thinks it shouldn't be an issue, or that the OP is "living in fear/paranoia," is just ignorant about the world, outside of his sheltered bubble. The OP described it as an apartment, in a bad neighborhood. His concern shouldn't need further justification.

As for accusations of misogyny, controlling relationship, etc., I didn't get that vibe from the OP. But as the thread quickly grew, and the OP continued to defend himself, he offered more opinions, e.g., the whole 80% bit, and her spending his money. So, it seems there's more to it, than just concerns over his GF's safety, and I have no comment on that.
 
marrec said:
Yay! Someone decided to be just as offensive as the OP!

Too bad I have to go to bed now. Not before locking the door though, magazine salesmen are crafty fuckers.
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Whoa what? How the hell was that offensive?
 
fuzzyreactor said:
Yes, i used to be a real douche, am well endowed, used to smoke weed, got fired, quit another job, and dont like strangers in my house.

anything else gaf
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You forgot to say you moved cities. Gotta keep the story straight now. The old city was tapped as far as thread ideas went so you had to move, right?
 
marrec said:
How does one reprimand her? Last time my GF told me to Reprimand her it was after we finished watching 'Secretary' with Maggie Gyllenhaal.
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Okay. "Reprimand" is maybe a harsh word here (choosing yours words wisely IS tough), but she should be made aware that what she did was objectively not responsible and potentially dangerous. And of course, that can be done in the politest of polite manner.

You can't let shit like this slide. I don't see how anyone can argue with that (not accusing you of such).
 
marrec said:
Yay! Someone decided to be just as offensive as the OP!

Too bad I have to go to bed now. Not before locking the door though, magazine salesmen are crafty fuckers.
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You think salemen are bad. Horny crackheads are the worst!



marrec said:
There's mountains of evidence that he didn't address her as such.

How does one reprimand her? Last time my GF told me to Reprimand her it was after we finished watching 'Secretary' with Maggie Gyllenhaal.
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Agreed. I don't do "reprimand" I don't fucking own my woman and she don't work for me. I just talk. Calmly. And state where I'm coming from and what my concern is. Sometimes she completely sees it my way. Sometimes I completely see it her way. Sometimes we argue and meet in the middle.
 
Mammoth Jones said:
Agreed. I don't do "reprimand" I don't fucking own my woman and she don't work for me. I just talk. Calmly. And state where I'm coming from and what my concern is. Sometimes she completely sees it my way. Sometimes I completely see it her way. Sometimes we argue and meet in the middle.
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Hey don't you get all rational and agreeable with me.

;)
 
outunderthestars said:
I think the bigger problem is that you apparently treat your girlfriend like a 10 year old child instead of an equal.
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When she lets someone in and is about to write a check because she was afraid to say know her mental capacity is that of a ten year old child.
 
mickcenary said:
Okay. "Reprimand" is maybe a harsh word here (choosing yours words wisely IS tough), but she should be made aware that what she did was objectively not responsible and potentially dangerous. And of course, that can be done in the politest of polite manner.

You can't let shit like this slide. I don't see how anyone can argue with that (not accusing you of such).
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I mean, pretty much. But we're past the "polite" phase with each other. We are comfortable enough with each other to call each other out on our bullshit and not feel like we have to walk on glass w/ each other.

And holy shit....read the rest of the thread...GOD DAMN....

Go easy on me GAF...I didn't...I didn't know....LOL.
 
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