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[Nocebo]

Too bad 90% of women would say otherwise.

Are these women you speak of religious by any chance?

 

[Striker]

Porn is garbage. I hate the sight of another man's dick having a good time with a woman while I'm alone on a fucking couch eating a ham sandwich with no mayo.

 

[Staccat0]

This article doesnt sound right. i dont know.. it just feels like its made up or something.

yeah, read like bad fiction.
still, sucks for her. Hope they each find someone more compatible

My wife likes to watch porn with me. She doesn't like me watching porn secretively. I just stopped hiding my tracks and its all good. She'll partake on her own too from time to time. Our sex has only improved.

Thats not to say that everyone has to be okay with it. Especially when it impacts the intamate time they spend together. The guy was obviously an addict and not just enjoying the occasional jerk.

Again, sounded fake though

(for the record, I see some are tossing ladies who enjoy porn or masturbation into the slut pile. Not only is this sexist, but its also innacurate. My wife and I have both only really been with eachother so its not like we are "deviants" if you are that silly)

 

[Inanna]

I think what he really means to say is 'too old'

Huh?

 

[Inanna]

Maybe you haven't found the right kink he's into yet or he could just feel uncomfortable watching porn or mentioning it around you. Nothing wrong with that.

My husband gets grossed out by hardcore porn. If somebody is spitting or there are shots of taint and ass zits, he taps out.

He has no problem asking me to downloand and convert IFeelMyself videos though. He loves the natural looking girls being naughty.

Oh he's EXTREMELY kinky, we both are and extremely open with each other. He's even been teaching me british lingo for weird sexual activities. It's so funny and uhm informative! But I guess my guy is just a bit weird. I know my ex was a lot into it and I didn't mind it at all.

I admit I used to watch porn a bit when I was in my early teens, but I'm not into them anymore for some reason. I get bored easy.

Women just flat out don't want it as much as we do.

Generalisations!

 

[SLYspyda]

And you're a shining example of self control over the capslock button and your knee-jerk reactions. Get the fuck out of here with that shit.

Yeah, complain some more about me capitalizing two words I wanted to emphasize in my sentence.

Which is the knee-jerk reaction? Someone responding that "men can't help but watch porn" or someone who goes against such a general statement?

YOU get the fuck out of here with that shit.

 

[SLYspyda]

I mean I bet 99% of those women who are adamantly anti porn are thinking of other men as they masturbate or have sex with you, I bet they don't consider that cheating, but its the exact same thing.

Say what? I'm not sure if you are trying to insult me, or you're just making an amazingly false statement saying basically all women fantasize about other men when they are having sex.

 

[speculawyer]

Porn is garbage. I hate the sight of another man's dick having a good time with a woman while I'm alone on a fucking couch eating a ham sandwich with no mayo.

Buy some mayo (if that is what you like).

 

[Inanna]

Say what? I'm not sure if you are trying to insult me, or you're just making an amazingly false statement saying basically all women fantasize about other men when they are having sex.

I know I don't.

 

[Zhuk]

I feel sorry for the guy because the wife clearly fails to understand that most guys look at porn in some shape or form, but I do also feel that the guy went to far by trying to solicit sex online.

 

[Uncle]

Buy some mayo (if that is what you like).

He could just whip it up himself.

 

[SimpleDesign]

She shouldn't blame the porn sites, computer, internet or the hard working ladies of the evening for her failed marriage or place all the blame on him...

It is pretty fucked up that he was looking up porn while at his in-laws, who does that shit?

For the past few years, Joe had been constantly pressuring me for sex. If I objected, he would say, "But you're my wife," and continue. When I did consent, he'd treat me roughly and wouldn't stop, even after I'd protest and push him away. Then, when he began suffering from impotence, he blamed me.

Uh, isn't that rape?

 

[elektrikluv]

Yeah, complain some more about me capitalizing two words I wanted to emphasize in my sentence.

Which is the knee-jerk reaction? Someone responding that "men can't help but watch porn" or someone who goes against such a general statement?

YOU get the fuck out of here with that shit.

Chill out dude, you're obviously incapable of having a civil discussion without getting all heated about it. Obviously there are men out there that don't watch porn or like it (an ex boyfriend of mine fell into this category), but lets be honest, most men have watched it at some point and do enjoy it, and the point most people here are trying to make is that its wrong for a woman to condemn a man for it.

Say what? I'm not sure if you are trying to insult me, or you're just making an amazingly false statement saying basically all women fantasize about other men when they are having sex.

Why would I be trying to insult you? Do I know you? This is a perfect example of the 'knee jerk reaction' you're trying to deny.

I am trying to highlight the ludicrousness of your statement that watching porn is like having sex with another women. Because THINKING about someone else is whilst masturbating is the equivalent of watching porn, and I think most women, at some point in their lives whilst they were in a relationship, they have thought about another man when masturbating, whether a celebrity or whatever. Its NOT wrong or evil, and it most definitely is not the same as sleeping with another man, hence the absolute ignorance of your previous statement and the total hypocrisy of such women who condemn porn.

When I'm having sex with my boyfriend I think about the moment right there and then, so no I am not saying all women fantasize about other men during sex, because I myself don't. But I do watch porn sometimes, and to even suggest that's the same as sleeping with another man is just beyond wrong. Whether or not that is a view you personally hold doesn't matter, because you're defending it and giving it validity which it doesn't deserve.

 

[evil solrac v3.0]

this sounds like a bad life time movie. SLYspyda, you're not one of those that think masturbation is wrong do you?

 

[MickeyKnox]

 

[etiolate]

CAT FIGHT!

 

[agrajag]

What a prude.

 

[pnjtony]

Wow, this sounds right out of 1998. AOL accounts? Netscape browser?

If this happened today, adult bookmarks would just be brushed off as something put there by adware then deleted to the recycle bin.

Also putting an adult link as a joke on a work computer will get someone fired really quick these days.

This is either really old or really fake.

 

[carlosp]

Wow, this sounds right out of 1998. AOL accounts? Netscape browser?

If this happened today, adult bookmarks would just be brushed off as something put there by adware then deleted to the recycle bin.

Also putting an adult link as a joke on a work computer will get someone fired really quick these days.

This is either really old or really fake.

seems very old to me as well. From the time when porn was new to the internet. Besides every good browser has a private mode these days. No body would ever find out where you been.

 

[Ashour]

For min there I forgot I was on GAF but I agree this seems like an old story.

 

[jmdajr]

if he wasn't checking out porn, he was probably checking out other woman

big deal

 

[GodofWine]

This is either really old or really fake.

Yea, there is no more AOL porn...dial up..hell no..I need streaming porn...and the number of porn addicted men (and women) is now probably 10 times higher than the heyday of AOL and Netscape.

 

[AndrewG009]

The world is filled with uptight people that need to learn to deal with it.

+1

 

[SnakeswithLasers]

Say what? I'm not sure if you are trying to insult me, or you're just making an amazingly false statement saying basically all women fantasize about other men when they are having sex.

That's preposterous. We all know they fantasize about other women.

 

[Tyrone Slothrop]

i crack up at those kind of wives and girlfriends that find out their s/o is veiwing pr0n and react as if he has a meth habit. i was listening to dr. laura or some shitty radio show where the wife called about how her husband visited a porn site and she was told to leave with the kids. lol i hate people.

 

[needlesmcgirk]

I think that watching this stuff could be a show stopper for some women and not just because they are fantasizing/getting off from other women. I think that some women just find it disturbing and just think that its wrong to watch that type of stuff. I don't think we can judge them for that. Also I think that getting too involved in this stuff can cause some problems regardless of how the partner feels about it. Just depends on personality types I guess.

Of course I'm not sure that "taking your kids and getting out of the house" is the right action to take here. If I found out my wife had a gambling problem i wouldn't just leave her.

 

[joelseph]

Louis CK : Masturbation
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XfkG_0hyIoc

 

[mediocreman]

So, she's frigid and withholds sex from her husband for years. Yet she is surprised when he tries to get it elsewhere?

 

[Hari Seldon]

Wow, this sounds right out of 1998. AOL accounts? Netscape browser?

If this happened today, adult bookmarks would just be brushed off as something put there by adware then deleted to the recycle bin.

Also putting an adult link as a joke on a work computer will get someone fired really quick these days.

This is either really old or really fake.

I was going to post this also. The internet is for porn. This concept is so old they made a musical about it!

 

[Fantasmo]

Dishonesty (going both ways) was the problem here, not porn.

Well, and insecurity.

Letting yourself go (past a certain threshold) and not reinvigorating sexuality does not go over well with most people these days. Breeds insecurity and contempt.

 

[charlequin]

I think that watching this stuff could be a show stopper for some women and not just because they are fantasizing/getting off from other women. I think that some women just find it disturbing and just think that its wrong to watch that type of stuff. I don't think we can judge them for that.

Sure we can. I can judge people for whatever the hell I want.

Or, rather, addressing the point more seriously: I can point to the problematic aspects of this position and point out that it's an essentially untenable position. I think it's fair to estimate that a majority of men, at least, are actively interested in looking at pornography or images of nude women sometimes. A stance that such behavior is "unacceptable" or a "show stopper" is going to lead to one of two cases: the breakup of otherwise workable relationships over this issue, or dishonesty, where one part of a relationship is looking at things in secret and hiding it from their disapproving partner. Neither one is really a desirable situation.

There are a variety of ways to compromise and forge honest, workable arrangements, but one partner's desire to control the other's private sexuality is fundamentally less reasonable than the other's desire to look at sexually stimulating images in private, so any such compromise has to start with the former accepting that she can't in fact control whether her partner does in fact look at pornography.

 

[stuminus3]

Men and women both think all kinds of retarded things about one another, but that doesn't make those things right, nor does it make it a good idea to encourage them to think those things more forcefully.

Marriage is not a straitjacket, a binding commitment of sacrifice in which people agree to repress themselves and suffer for one another; it's a partnership, where two people agree to help one another and share together. Sexually, you're not handing your own personal sexuality over to your spouse; you're sharing it with them, letting them in without actually giving up your own personal sway over it.

Masturbation is a normal, healthy part of married life. Committed couples still aren't going to be in perfect sync about when each one wants sex, nor should they expect to be purely dependent on the other for release. Masturbating alone is a way for people to stay in touch with their own personal sexuality, and looking at pornography (or reading stories, or concocting elaborate fantasies that you couldn't enact in real life) is a pretty normal part of that, for members of both genders.

Pornography isn't a purely, unambiguously good thing (there are all kinds of issues with how it's produced, how it shapes people's concepts of what's sexually expected and acceptable, and so on that are complex and don't have a clear "right" answer) but it is a very normal thing. Attempts to bar it or forbid someone from looking at it just leads to a communications breakdown -- the guy looks at it in secret and lies to his wife, which is a destructive pattern to get into. Much better to be open about it, accept that each half of the marriage is a sexual being in their own right and that masturbation isn't the same as sex.

This is good stuff.

 

[Flo_Evans]

I can't even imagine trying to hide my porn watching/masturbation from my wife. It would be like being married to your freaking mom! What grown man could deal with that?

 

[evilromero]

SHE SHOULD'VE PUT OUT

Bingo.

 

[Zero Hero]

Situations like this are funny to me.
A woman finds her SO jerking to porn and freaks out. Maybe even leaves him.

A man find his SO pleasuring herself to porn and wants to join in.

 

[Kagami]

To everyone freaking out over the password reset, the paragraph right before that clearly states it's a joint account. (Unless there's no such thing and she merely thought of her husband's account as shared.) But the text as written makes sense, anyway.