t-storm
Member
Is anybody thinking rationally when they're literally stranded on the side of the road, vulnerable and relying on others to help?
However...
"inconvenient for me..."
"irritated me..."
Fail.
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My parents are very mad at me
- Thread starter Widdle Puppy
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However...
"inconvenient for me..."
"irritated me..."
Fail.
Hypemaster
Member
U did no wrong, gotta get them gains. You the head of the household now.
boredandlazy
Member
At least with that attitude you won't have that problem.
You don't offer to help if they need it and then complain it's inconvenient when they ask.
The Faceless Master
Member
always go along with your dad's crazy plan.
sometimes it actually works.
sometimes it actually works.
rootbeerafloat
Member
This is why I don't talk to my parents anymore. Or my kids.
Lol yeah OP, you don't want someone like this agreeing with you. You clearly fucked up.
How About No
Member
Bye
outunderthestars
Banned
Oh wow. I love when someone walks into a gaf dogpile thread and basically says "hold my beer".
valkillmore
Member
If his mom didn't go along with one of his dad's fucking nutty-ass ideas, OP may not even exist.
Nydius
Member
No, she was pretty justified in her reaction. She asked if you'd help, you said yes. Your dad called and asked for help and you were irritated and told him he was inconveniencing you. That makes your statement to your mother an outright lie. Doesn't matter what your reasoning is or how you try to spin it. Doesn't matter what you thought of your father's intentions. Doesn't matter what the end result of your help would have been or whether or not you and your dad have a bit of a rocky relationship when it comes to things like these (believe me when I say I understand that more than you may know as my late father was a type A personality perfectionist control freak).
All that matters is you said you'd help.
Help was asked for.
You pouted about being inconvenienced and being irritated.
She was properly justified in flipping her shit at you.
TheCochese
Banned
Quite a hole you digdug for yourself here.
Chairmanchuck
Member
Damn women, am I right?
Shin K Dash
Member
EDIT: actually, don't.
Widdle Puppy
Banned
eh, this is a dog pile thread but there is a lot of good advice in here and it has helped me see things better. people could perhaps spare the name calling and insults though... and that post saying my mom is having a tantrum is pretty bad and yes, I ignored what he said.
He did offer to help. It was inconvenient. Families where people don't talk to each other or aren't allowed to actually say their feelings are... families like this one. Where mom texts and says "I'm not speaking to you for the rest of the night". That's basically the same thing my 4 year old says when she's mad at me. "You're so mean, I'm gonna hide in my room and cry."
valkillmore
Member
Cook for them.
Shalashaska
Member
As someone raising a child and going through so much shit, help your parents out. They sacrificed a shit more for you than you'll ever know
DaBargainHunta
Member
With all due respect to the OP, I'm going to assume he's a very young teenager. The original post is hard to follow, and his reasoning - "he was inconvenienced" and "there's a better way to handle this situation" - doesn't make much sense to me, so I'm going to assume we're not getting the full story here.
Regardless, telling your pops his needs are an "inconvenience" to you was a very immature and inconsiderate move, and I can see why your mom is so upset. Assuming your home life is otherwise decent, think of how much they've sacrificed for you. When the time came for you to sacrifice for them, you acted like you were put off by that
Again, nothing personal, OP - just the way I see it based on how you described the situation.
Regardless, telling your pops his needs are an "inconvenience" to you was a very immature and inconsiderate move, and I can see why your mom is so upset. Assuming your home life is otherwise decent, think of how much they've sacrificed for you. When the time came for you to sacrifice for them, you acted like you were put off by that
Again, nothing personal, OP - just the way I see it based on how you described the situation.
The Faceless Master
Member
i'm gonna go to bed laughing.
dude really told his pops he was being inconvenienced.
what part of the game is that?
Ok this was funny.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Okay, to elaborate on my earlier point--
You felt irritated. That's okay. A lot of times, we feel irritated by requests stemming from friends and family. The point is, because of that relationship, we're supposed to suppress those feelings. I'm sure that, throughout your countless interactions with your parents, ideas, suggestions, or requests that you've made of them likely irritated them.
That's the thing: if your relationship with someone is close, you're going to piss each other off. If you never annoy someone, you're not actually close to them.
But you press forward.
The "bring him back or something, urgently and happily" line is even more bizarre. It sounds like you don't even want to interact with your father at all. Crazy plan or not, he was counting on you to step up; the point was, it didn't matter if the idea succeeded or not, but he wanted you on his team, only you opted out.
There was nothing wrong with feeling irritated. There was nothing wrong with saying, "hey, until Dad gets specifics nailed down, I'm going to be at the gym." But the moment that request was made of you, when you didn't have anything pressing going on (besides feeling inconvenienced), circumstances changed.
The fact that you feel bad is evidence that you knew you did something wrong. Basically, you're literally living up to your namesake.
Neverwinter27
Member
What's the point of getting stronger if you can't help or protect the people you love?
Or take them out for an expensive apology meal.
Or offer to pay for the repairs to the trailer. Do something though.
Also yes you probably do need to work on your communication skills.
dickroach
Member
seriously tho. I'd be shocked if the answer was over 18.
always crazy bacon
Banned
When I was a moody adolescent I'd pull shit like this if I didn't want to do some task for my parents. Complain the whole time about doing the task and if they said anything I'd respond defensively with "I'm doing it aren't I?". My end game was to get them fed up with me and just do it themselves. Thankfully I'm not 14 anymore.
You done goofed Piddle puppy.
You done goofed Piddle puppy.
valkillmore
Member
On behalf of his mom's? Lol her and his pops probably conspired for her to tell him that and are laughing about it. Parents be shifty.
Father that has taken care of me since birth and is asking me for an hour or 2 of my time, you are a inconvenience to me.
Critical Hit
Damn, that's deep. OP, you need to apologize ASAP.
Widdle Puppy
Banned
you both are right...
I don't know what to say
I feel mad and bad but I hate directing it at myself....
valkillmore
Member
The best take in here. Shit dude.
Subpar Spatula
Banned
he needed to change the tire then move it across the highway? so essentially it was busted but the first task was to fix the tire?
yeah, if i got a call saying that I'd be like, "call a tow truck, dummy" then hang up.
aint nobody got time for folks thinking they can fix things and want you there as support. na uh. never happening again.
yeah, if i got a call saying that I'd be like, "call a tow truck, dummy" then hang up.
aint nobody got time for folks thinking they can fix things and want you there as support. na uh. never happening again.
Dog Problems
Banned
And if there's any objections give them a gorilla press drop.
gutter_trash
Banned
gym-aholics are the worst
Dads come before gym
Dads come before gym
This should've been first post.
That's a lot of somethings or something.