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My parents are very mad at me

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Rival

Gold Member
Screw em. Just cause they gave life to you they think you should help them? Hope you got a good pump in!
 
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FUME5

Member
This is one of those cases that doesn't matter if you were in the right, better for you to let things cool off tonight and apologise to both your parents tomorrow, best thing in the long run.

Also, seek professional help if you feel you are having mental issues that are interfering with your relationships.
 
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Shin K Dash

Member
notaskwid said:
though you gotta love the emotional blackmail.
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I mean... that's one way to view it.

conversely.

The mother could of just been really disappointed in her son who she expected to be a reliable help since she love's him and felt she could depend on him and didn't think something as frivolous as "the gym" would get in between that love...

but idk, maybe digdug2k is right and parents are just assholes.
 
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devonodev

Member
Subpar Spatula said:
he needed to change the tire then move it across the highway? so essentially it was busted but the first task was to fix the tire?

yeah, if i got a call saying that I'd be like, "call a tow truck, dummy" then hang up.

aint nobody got time for folks thinking they can fix things and want you there as support. na uh. never happening again.
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Gotta save money where you can. Some people try fix things on their own, some don't buy Spotify. Either way, he needed some support.
 
HellforLeather

HellforLeather

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
Anyways... I feel bad. I feel like her txt message was uncalled for and shaming me was not right, but I am also in the wrong here. I never said I wouldn't help nor did I want to imply that; his plan just seemed like a bad idea and that my own apathy curdled with my distrust of him handling these types of situations showed I can be pretty heartless. I don't want to try and run from this or spin my way out of it but I just feel confused by my actions and also hate the world for putting people in a position to rely on me since I feel no good.
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Dude, what?

You were a dick and she called you out on your shit.
 
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The Boom Camel

Member
OP, you definitely could have handled that better.That said,if your mom really hit you with the damaged our relationship line, that is right up there with you at the top of the who can treat family the worst tonight list.
 
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Fenderputty

Banned
RumbleHumble said:
I feel you, OP. Unless your parents love holding grudges, it'll probably blow over with time. While you weren't selfless, at the same time, getting a tow truck was probably the best bet for the situation and saves everyone involved some time.

But yeah, do apologize to them. It still wasn't the best way to go about it.
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The point of calling your son isn't to fucking save time lol

Even if it is, who cares. He probably shouldn't have left until he knew the situation too
 
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night814

Member
Luminaire said:
I figured you pissed on the carpet, but this seems worse.

You should apologize, ask how you can make it up.
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I was thinking something along these lines too. Your parents have helped you and they asked you to help them, gotta give back to those who have you life.
 
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LeleSocho

Banned
So essentially you didn't want to help your father because you wanted to go to the gym? I would be boiling with rage if i were your father, go apologize right now.
 
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valkillmore

Member
The Boom Camel said:
OP, you definitely could have handled that better.That said,if your mom really hit you with the damaged our relationship line, that is right up there with you at the top of the who can treat family the worst tonight list.
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Damaged, not destroyed. And she didn't say forever. He can repair it. She said in NO uncertain terms that OP was in dereliction of his responsibilities as a son and member of their family. He can make it good.
 
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Korey

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
My dad has a trailer which he was towing this evening. It broke down on the side of the road and he did not have the proper tools or parts to fix it there.

I get asked by my mom what I am doing and tell her that I am going to the gym. She says he may need help and I tell her that is cool, call me if you need me when I'm there.

A few moments later my dad calls me then as I am getting ready to go and tells me he needs me to get certain things from the garage and asks me to head over so we can change the tire on the trailer and then move it across the highway (something like this). It was a lot of information and I was confused by it. I was hesitant about his plan and was feeling irritated. I told him that his plan was inconvenient for me but I would help him and for him to hold on while I get dressed and head over. I admit I was irritated that his situation was interfering with my own but not because I didn't want to help him but because his plan seemed bizarre and like it wouldn't be the best or smartest way to handle the situation.

Anyways he proceeds to tell me never mind and that to put my mom on the phone and that he will handle it. He said he would call a pick up truck or something but that I should still stay on stand by. At that moment I felt bad and confused cause I realized I could have expressed my thoughts differently when expressing what I was thinking. He ended up waiting an hour and paying for a tow which I was a bit relieved to hear because it sounded like the logical decision

I get a txt later from my mom telling me she is furious that I told him he was inconveniencing me when he needed help and that I damaged our relationship and not to talk to her for the rest of the night. I felt bad and I am not trying to put a spin on this to justify my actions. I feel like she is overreacting but then again I could lack the faculty to really feel any of this properly. I have not been in the best or most positive mental state for a while now. I think my communication needs work and my reactions to how I am feeling.

Anyways... I feel bad. I feel like her txt message was uncalled for and shaming me was not right, but I am also in the wrong here. I never said I wouldn't help nor did I want to imply that; his plan just seemed like a bad idea and that my own apathy curdled with my distrust of him handling these types of situations showed I can be pretty heartless. I don't want to try and run from this or spin my way out of it but I just feel confused by my actions and also hate the world for putting people in a position to rely on me since I feel no good.
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Wow, your dad is super considerate for letting you off the hook after you made it clear that him being stranded was inconveniencing your trip to the gym.
 
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notaskwid

Member
Shin K Dash said:
I mean... that's one way to view it.

conversely.

The mother could of just been really disappointed in her son who she expected to be a reliable help since she love's him and felt she could depend on him and didn't think something as frivolous as "the gym" would get in between that love...

but idk, maybe digdug2k is right and parents are just assholes.
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Nah, OP fucked up and he knows it. There's no need for the don't talk with until tomorrow bullshit.
 
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Fat4all

Banned
i do free graphic design work for my parents

if they were a normal client they'd own me a nice chunk o change

but it's like if you're the family member with a truck, you gotta try and make the effort to be there for them with what you've got
 
Rest

Rest

All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
You were kind of a jerk. Write them a nice apology letter and buy them a AAA membership that includes trailers and RVs.
 
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valkillmore

Member
Rest said:
You were kind of a jerk. Write them a nice apology letter and buy them a AAA membership that includes trailers and RVs.
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Lol your heart is in the right place, but doesn't a AAA membership reinforce the fact that OP indicated a request for help w his dad's trailer was an inconvenience?
 
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C4Lukins

Junior Member
I sort of feel for you OP.

Not that I know all details.

But the simple thing to do is for the parents is to call USAA or whatever their insurance company is and get a pro to come out and help.

Not to have you, go to the house, find tools that you are obviously unfamiliar with and unsure about. Find where your parents broke down, and count on your dad fixing it.

I defend you because I have relatives like this. They do things in the most complicated way, and you are just like call a professional, if you have insurance it is close to free. Why spend several hours doing this and fucking up everyone's days, when insurance probably covers it and it would take an hour instead of three? If your dads dick was so big that he could fix these sort of things, he probably would have had the tools on him.

Again with the limited info, I have no idea what the actual scenario is. But knowing my own parents and how they will choose the most ridiculous roundabout route at times to do it themselves, but it actually takes a couple more people, and sometimes a good 4 hours plus of all people involved suspending their lives when a simple call to your insurance company and a small fee will get it done in maybe an hour....

I feel your pain. I realize people have been harsh on you in this thread, but yeah it was inconvenient for you. It would have been faster for them to take care of the situation on their own. And even if you were a bit of a dick about it, cool family would discuss it with you, and not put you on a super guilt trip. I am on your side because I have been in a similar position.
 
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17 Seconds

Banned
Subpar Spatula said:
he needed to change the tire then move it across the highway? so essentially it was busted but the first task was to fix the tire?

yeah, if i got a call saying that I'd be like, "call a tow truck, dummy" then hang up.

aint nobody got time for folks thinking they can fix things and want you there as support. na uh. never happening again.
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you sound like a great person
 
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snickothemule

Member
changing a tyre is pretty easy op sorry it ruined your gains. Pretty fair that your mum is upset with you, she'll cool down maybe but for now you gotta eat your balls.

valkillmore said:
Lol your heart is in the right place, but doesn't a AAA membership reinforce the fact that OP indicated a request for help w his dad's trailer was an inconvenience?
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shhhh that's the plan bruh
 
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Ponn

Banned
You should probably try being there for them more. I would be mortified to leave my parents stranded on highway broke down when they are calling for help. It might also pay for you to start paying attention to what your father is doing and maybe learn some skills so you can get yourself out of bad situations instead of relying on having to call for a tow truck. Those are life experiences, things you learn from and pass on. I only wish I had more opportunities like that with my father.
 
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ThanksVision

Member
literally my entire life i've screamed "i need you!!" to my rents and they have always committed everything to help... couldn't imagine not doing the same on the rare the instances that they need me
 
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Aaronrules380

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
you both are right...

I don't know what to say

I feel mad and bad but I hate directing it at myself....
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I mean, nobody likes to admit they made a mistake or take the blame, but it's still important to do so if you want to mature and better yourself. You can take this situation and see it as an opportunity to grow as a person (and this will take hard work), or you can refuse to accept your part in this and risk making things worse
 
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Mister_Ruck

Member
You should think about how quickly your Dad would've been there to help you change a tire if it were you stranded on the side of the road. He wouldn't have said "sorry it's just an inconvenience right now" and left you there alone in the dark like you just did to him.
 
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hirokazu

Member
Your parents will get over it because they're your parents. But bro. Your dad is stranded on the highway and you're being inconvenienced? Because you've got to cancel your plans to go to the gym? If you were stranded they'd probably come straight away.

You gotta get your priorities straight. And you gotta apologise.

Okay, so you didn't like his plan. Tell him you'll get the tools and anything else that might be useful, but also suggest what you think he should do. Then go straight away with the tools anyway, just in case they're needed regardless of what he ends up doing.

SMH.
 
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LiK

Member
Why don't you go make up with your parents and apologize and explain to them the same thing you posted here?
 
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Mister_Ruck

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
Should I offer to pay for the tow truck?
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No dude, just tell them you're sorry and sound sincere when you say it. Offering to pay for the truck makes it seem like you're trying to buy your way back into your parent's good graces. I mean, I don't know them but I have to imagine they're more disappointed in you than they are upset about the money.
 
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