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My parents are very mad at me

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Fenderputty

Banned
Widdle Puppy said:
Should I offer to pay for the tow truck?
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I don't necessarily think so. It's a nice gesture, but they're mad you didn't put yourself out for them. So make them feel like that won't happen again.

The fake AAA card thing is cheesy (my mom would have loved it though), but something like that IMO would be better.

Is there something around the house they need taken care of. Do that for them
 
Laughing Banana

Laughing Banana

Weeping Pickle
It's not only once or twice that I too felt irritated by requests from families and friends, especially my parents, hahah.

But you just have to know how to suppress those feelings, OP. Unless they are crazy and evil people, always do your family members good.

Anyways, no need for all the drama really, just arrange something for your parents and go apologize to them in person. Families bicker all the time, but a good act like that will help lots.
 
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Widdle Puppy

Banned
sfedai0 said:
Do you not talk to your parents regularly? How about a heartfelt apology first? Im pretty sure they dont care about your money.
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No, I try to avoid talking to them as much as possible. I have my own personal issues I am trying to deal with and interacting with them puts me in a bad place.
 
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brau

Member
Family comes first in my book. Whenever a member need helps from me im right there. Do you have a good relationship with them?
 
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valkillmore

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
No, I try to avoid talking to them as much as possible. I have my own personal issues I am trying to deal with and interacting with them puts me in a bad place.
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Yeah you didn't handle this situation the beat way, but I'm sorry to hear that you don't have that comfort level with them.

Are you open to attempting to improve your relationship with them, beyond an apology and make-good for this lapse in judgement?
 
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ZeroD

Member
You should apologise. It's kinda obvious you are in the wrong here.

Your dad wanted you to give him a hand, I wouldn't be surprised if he was upset himself when you told him it was a hassle.

I have no idea about your relationship with your father but think about how many times you've inconvenienced them and they didn't say anything (unless they did and you have a bad relationship)

Parents aren't around forever. Cherish them if you can. I wish I could give my dad some help one more time.
 
Laughing Banana

Laughing Banana

Weeping Pickle
Widdle Puppy said:
No, I try to avoid talking to them as much as possible. I have my own personal issues I am trying to deal with and interacting with them puts me in a bad place.
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Well, you seem regretful of your actions in here so I think it's not that you have a terrible relationship with your parents or that you think they are bad people, right?

Sorry if that was a too personal of a question.

Nonetheless, I suggest you try to find professional help to aid your emotional state.
 
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orochi91

Member
Look your father right in the eye and offer a sincere apology.

Specifically lay out why you think you are wrong and why you are apologizing to him, so that he knows whether you "get" it or not.

You'll be forgiven; then go relay your apology to your mother, and you should be fine.

No need for fancy gifts or anything like that.

Keep it simple, and keep it sincere~~~
 
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Chairmanchuck

Member
C4Lukins said:
How old are you? The OP admitting to having certain emotional problems that they are trying to understand is part of the discussion. What good are you doing by attacking them in this way?
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30. Thanks for asking.

If he really has, I personally think it would be time to talk to them about it, so both sides can understand each other.
 
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Widdle Puppy

Banned
orochi91 said:
Look your father right in the eye and offer a sincere apology.

Specifically lay out why you think you are wrong and why you are apologizing to him, so that he knows whether you "get" it or not.

You'll be forgiven; then go relay your apology to your mother, and you should be fine.

No need for fancy gifts or anything like that.

Keep it simple, and keep it sincere~~~
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Doing this with an open heart would be the most terrifying thing in the world for me to do and incredibly painful. I can do it but I think I would build a mental barrier before doing it this way. Should I write a letter? I feel completely helpless right now...
 
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LionPride

Banned
You weren't being a quarter, or a half, or a sixtenth of an asshole

You were being one whole asshole

If I told my mom she was inconviencing me, my black ass would be six feet under

Where they do that shit at?
 
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brau

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
should I txt an initial apology first?
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I would say in person would be more appropriate.

Also expect him to not being as receptive since he might be upset about the whole thing. Just be sincere and honest in your apology. Making sure you ask how can you make it up to him.
 
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C4Lukins

Junior Member
Chairmanchuck said:
30. Thanks for asking.

If he really has, I personally think it would be time to talk to them about it, so both sides can understand each other.
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That is reasonable, and a much better way of communicating with the OP.

This is more complicated then someone being selfish, and the amount of ire thrown out at them from every direction is super irresponsible.
 
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hirokazu

Member
ZeroD said:
Your dad wanted you to give him a hand, I wouldn't be surprised if he was upset himself when you told him it was a hassle.
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Usually if your parents say "don't worry about it, I'll do this thing instead that takes a lot longer and leaves me stranded even longer" it's because they're upset that you think it's too much off a hassle for you to help.
 
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C4Lukins

Junior Member
Widdle Puppy said:
should I go downstairs and say sorry to my dad? I think he came upstairs to go to bed...
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Well I think you would be on the wrong floor for an apology:;

But yeah just have a conversation with them. Try and make it right. If there is love there then it will work itself out.

Maybe explain why you were put out in the first place. And if you feel you were wrong then apologize. If you feel you were right, explain that and hopefully they will understand.

At the end of the day it is not about being right or wrong. Simply having that discussion as long as it is done in a friendly way should bring you closer in the end.
 
Lord Panda

Lord Panda

The Sea is Always Right
Your parents sacrificed so much for you and you couldn't even spare your dad some of your time without being a little bitch about it. Yeah go apologise.
 
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Fenderputty

Banned
C4Lukins said:
Well I think you would be on the wrong floor for an apology:;

But yeah just have a conversation with them. Try and make it right. If there is love there then it will work itself out.

Maybe explain why you were put out in the first place. And if you feel you were wrong then apologize. If you feel you were right, explain that and hopefully they will understand.

At the end of the day it is not about being right or wrong. Simply having that discussion as long as it is done in a friendly way should bring you closer in the end.
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Explaining why you couldn't put yourself out for trivial reason seems like a great way to make amends with people who are upset you couldn't put yourself out for trivial reasons
 
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hateradio

The Most Dangerous Yes Man
Sounds like you were a flake to your parents. It'll be okay.

digdug2k said:
Your mom is crazy and having a temper tantrum. Welcome to women for the rest of your life.
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Widdle Puppy

Banned
Well I went downstairs and gave a tearful apology to my dad and he was very loving and understanding and said he forgives me. We hugged and he went to bed.

For some reason I always feel so humiliated, ashamed and embarrassed when I cry like this...
 
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brau

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
Well I went downstairs and gave a tearful apology to my dad and he was very loving and understanding and said he forgives me. We hugged and he went to bed.

For some reason I always feel so humiliated, ashamed and embarrassed when I cry like this...
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You did good OP. Glad you talked you talked to him. No reason to feel vulnerable at times like this. Shows you care. Next time just think that a few mins of your time will go a long way when someone asks for your help.
 
Laughing Banana

Laughing Banana

Weeping Pickle
Widdle Puppy said:
Well I went downstairs and gave a tearful apology to my dad and he was very loving and understanding and said he forgives me. We hugged and he went to bed.

For some reason I always feel so humiliated, ashamed and embarrassed when I cry like this...
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Nah, don't feel that way dude, there's nothing shameful about crying, especially on circumstances involving family members, it's all good. Don't listen to all that bollocks about men don't cry, it's stupid.

See I told you, your dad would appreciate it :)
 
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JABEE

Member
Laughing Banana said:
It's not only once or twice that I too felt irritated by requests from families and friends, especially my parents, hahah.

But you just have to know how to suppress those feelings, OP. Unless they are crazy and evil people, always do your family members good.

Anyways, no need for all the drama really, just arrange something for your parents and go apologize to them in person. Families bicker all the time, but a good act like that will help lots.
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Yep. And I think OP's Mom needs to grow up a little too.

OP should apologize for being a jerk about helping his father, but parents should be above this kind of pettiness

If your husband needing a tow is going to damage your relationship with your son, maybe it's time to think about things. Shutting people your children out and denying them love when you brought them into the world is immature when OP's only mistake was voicing his annoyance as he was planning to help his Father.
 
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GameAddict411

Member
You realize your "muscles" won't deflate if you skip the gym for few a hours or even a day to help your dad? Even if his solution was bizarre, he might have asked you so that he wouldn't spend $200+ on a tow truck. Apologize and tell them you will make up for it.
 
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Aaronrules380

Member
Widdle Puppy said:
Well I went downstairs and gave a tearful apology to my dad and he was very loving and understanding and said he forgives me. We hugged and he went to bed.

For some reason I always feel so humiliated, ashamed and embarrassed when I cry like this...
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You did the right thing. And there's no shame in crying, especially for something like this.
 
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Widdle Puppy

Banned
I got to say thank you very much to you all in here that told me to muster up the courage and to go apologize. This was good advice and I honestly wouldn't have seen this as the right thing to do. I have my own issues when it comes to stuff like this and I would have been lost without the help from the lot of you.
 
Lord Panda

Lord Panda

The Sea is Always Right
C4Lukins said:
What the hell do you know about his parents and what they sacrificed for him?
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Having a child is a huge commitment numbnuts.

Widdle Puppy said:
Well I went downstairs and gave a tearful apology to my dad and he was very loving and understanding and said he forgives me. We hugged and he went to bed.

For some reason I always feel so humiliated, ashamed and embarrassed when I cry like this...
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Good on you OP. Sorry for being harsh. You did the right thing instead of doubling down and burying your head in the sand like most people would do.
 
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Fenderputty

Banned
Widdle Puppy said:
Well I went downstairs and gave a tearful apology to my dad and he was very loving and understanding and said he forgives me. We hugged and he went to bed.

For some reason I always feel so humiliated, ashamed and embarrassed when I cry like this...
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Apologizing isn't easy. Take some pride in doing the right thing.
 
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