Nah dude you did the right thing here. Well done. Takes courage to admit you fucked up and apologize rather than double down.
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My parents are very mad at me
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Nah dude you did the right thing here. Well done. Takes courage to admit you fucked up and apologize rather than double down.
Awesome ending.
Really no reason this should have become such a big thing.
But happy ending.
Aaronrules380
Member
No problem. It's always hard to admit when you're wrong, but it's still worth doing. I hope you look at this incident going forward as a catalyst to improving yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, it's how we deal with the consequences that helps define us as a person
Glad it worked out OP.
Good job OP. Your father sounds like he loves you a lot. Make sure you relay this to your Mother as well.
Wonderful. You're a good son to do that.
Fenderputty
Banned
Then we wouldn't have great sitcoms like the goldbergs.
Laughing Banana
Weeping Pickle
Getting GAF to help is all and good but if you feel like your emotional state is something that a professional can help in improving, please do not hesitate to seek them out, yeah?
Anyways, good job, dude.
This is great advice.
This dogpiling going on here is shameful. Op has already stated he doesn't have that close of a relationship with his parents and smartasses keep coming in here calling him a bitch. He said he told them it would be a bit of an inconvience but he would still get there to help despite not really knowing what to do.
Be honest to your parents op. Let them know you were confused and didn't intend to make it seem like you were trying to blow them off.
Edit: good on you op. Hopefully you can workout whatever issues you have.
Be honest to your parents op. Let them know you were confused and didn't intend to make it seem like you were trying to blow them off.
Edit: good on you op. Hopefully you can workout whatever issues you have.
Aaronrules380
Member
yeah this is probably good advice. No shame in asking for help, and when you do so it's always better to seek a professional rather than the collective mass of the internet
I could understand if you had a flight or something major which couldn't be moved or that you had to do.
But you are complaining about missing going to the gym. You're annoyed you had to help your parents, who were in trouble, because you might be delayed going to the gym.
Edit:
Alright, let this be a learning lesson and move on.
But you are complaining about missing going to the gym. You're annoyed you had to help your parents, who were in trouble, because you might be delayed going to the gym.
Edit:
Alright, let this be a learning lesson and move on.
crazepharmacist
Member
Being outside of your car trying to move something on a highway sounds like a great way to get run over.
valkillmore
Member
GOOD MAN. I'm super happy you did that. Well done bro.
GameAddict411
Member
You did the right thing. Your dad would probably forget about it the next few days.
FinalStageBoss
Banned
Good on you for apologizing, you can't leave your dad hanging like that when all you got going is a gym session lol.
Squirrel Killer
Member
The last thing someone in need needs is someone else who doesn't have a full sense of the situation telling them that they don't need what they say they need. You should have gotten what he thought he needed and if it ended up not being needed then perhaps your effort would've helped that "history of not working well together" thing.
Use that as an impetus to do the right thing next time.
EDIT:
Good on you, man.
TheOctodad
Member
I died at this comment.
Three things.
1) Sounds like you have good parents. Seriously. As you get older you're going to realize more and more that your parents are human and it's confusing being a parent to a kid and teenager. They clearly love you and communicate with you pretty openely, be grateful for that.
2) You were an ass at first, but we all have our days. Don't beat yourself up over it too much. One of the best apologies is to learn from it and try to improve, not wallow in how awful you are - because you're not.
3) I think you should be commended for being willing to self-reflect and realize fairly quickly that you might be seeing things wrong. You took critique, owned it, and apologized. That's not always the case. That says something about who you are. Keep building in that. Way to go.
This sounds like a toxic relationship.
Take a look at this reddit:
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists
Aaronrules380
Member
I want to highlight this post as being really good advice
You did well.
It takes courage to apologize, and given your mental state (as you've described in this thread), I imagine it was even harder than it would be under normal circumstances.
+1
Laughing Banana
Weeping Pickle
Steeped in a Sea of Games
Member
Someone actually did what gaf told them to do. It's a Christmas miracle!
J.W. Stillwater
Member
Moral of the story: get AAA
Unknown One
Member
That ending shows that there is love in the family, so a good relationship, despite the misunderstanding. I wouldn't call that a bad relationship at all.
Jesus
OP, it sounds like your family could do with more conversations and socializing as you're all not the best at conveying things.
TheOctodad
Member
I think you're joking but. Is is awful advice.
It damages who you are (I will lie to those who love me the most for my convenience) and essentially reinforces mental models that elevate your needs and desires above those nearest to you. That's not the kind of person you want to become nor is it the kind of person anyone wants it be in a relationship with.
Additionally you will find yourself having to manage all of these little lies and it will bite you in the ass.
Oh, great. A Reddit where teens compare their tiny issues to fucking munchausen by proxy.
This is unhelpful.
dead souls
Member
Yep. AAA is invaluable.
chrisPjelly
Member
Good on you OP. You did the right thing, and I'm sure your parents appreciate the apology and understand your situation. I know Off Topic has a bad (good?) rep for dogpiling on people for making the most inane advice threads, but I'm sure 99% of them are exasperated by them doubling down on their pride instead of swallowing it. Thanks for actually parsing and committing to the life advice amidst the cheap shots we threw at you 
What the fuck?
Lord Panda
The Sea is Always Right
What this poster said.
Gordon Shumway
Banned
I see we're at the masturbation stage of the thread..
This thread has been a rollarcoaster of emotions.
Dat's what Dad's are for OP. You'll always be his baby no matter what age you get.
somehow I knew this thread would meet its sticky ending
I think you did the right thing OP. Getting a tow truck is the right move. At least it would be for me personally because I don't know anything about tools and get confused easily. I'm just saying that if I were in your shoes OP, I would have done the same thing because I'm really good at messing up when given a series of duties like your Dad told you.
Don't feel bad if you lacked the confidence to help him. Some of us are really awkward about stuff like that.
Don't feel bad if you lacked the confidence to help him. Some of us are really awkward about stuff like that.
That was a good, honest laugh.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Listen to Brené Brown's TED talk on the power of emotional vulnerability.
Seriously.
Monkeyball
Banned
Just say what I always used to say:
"I'm the product of your genes and your upbringing."
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"I'm the product of your genes and your upbringing."
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Rest
All these years later I still chuckle at what a fucking moron that guy is.
Yes and it also means his dad won't have to call him next time.