I haven't had sex in almost eleven years, but I'm actively looking for a relationship. Read this as me not having been with a girl at all, really, for that time. Just a couple of dates.
I fap every once in a while; maybe 2-3 times per week. I'd do it more, but I feel bad for doing it and with my OCD, I'm afraid of semen (heh). So, I need to shower for half an hour after doing it, and even then I don't feel fully clean until I shower again, even though I shower thoroughly.
What I'm noticing now, is that whenever I think about a woman or sex, or anything like that, which is happening a lot now since it's like I hit puberty again, I pre-cum. It drives me nuts because of my OCD, because I worry it'll leak through my pajama pants or pants and get on stuff.
I went on a date last week, and all we did was 'cuddle' and hold hands during a movie. She led me on. But, when I got out of the theatre, I noticed that I had two wet spots on my pants.