BeautifulMemory
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Okcupid is not that bad. I already got a date!
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Bay Maximus
Banned
Boo this man! Boooooo!
RedAssedApe
Banned
Why you gotta tease us with this story? I've seen some pics of pornstars on these sites before. I always figured they were fake though.
JumpJeff84
Member
Just took a break from GAF. major life changes, new career, etc. But I did also get into a ton of hijinx regarding girls and dating, so I'll be sure to post my stories in the DATING-AGE thread and then watch as most people accuse me of making them up. Just like old times!
JumpJeff84
Member
She doesn't look like a typical pornstar. She's slim, VERY pretty, but has tiny breasts. Amazing ass, and kind of a nerdy look to her. Black horn-rimmed glasses and whatnot. Looking at her profile she just looks like a very pretty girl, but not a pornstar.
RedAssedApe
Banned
If we guess right will you confirm? LOL
JumpJeff84
Member
Hell na.
BeautifulMemory
Member
Well good to have you back and hope all is well now....with career and with a lady you are happy with
That nerdy glasses look is awesome to imagine tho
Biff
Member
Ooooohhhhh! I remember you! You were the guy who posted a 5 minute long read about some cabin adventure? With an orgy or something like that? Where nothing ever happened in the end and you were slammed with reply after reply about how narcissistic you are.
I don't remember the details but I do remember you going on and on about how smoking hot the main girl was.. A redhead I think? And then you posted her picture and forever lost hot-claiming credibilty. LOL, welcome back.
RedAssedApe
Banned
LOL...wut
if you're a girl, not getting a good reply rate on a dating site, you're doing something wrong
BeautifulMemory
Member
I have a friend who's gay, and he gets responses pretty consistently...from what he has told me the gay guys are just as pro-active as heteroguys. You will get hits, trust me. It will just be a matter of dealing with jerks and creeps and hoping to meet a decent guy
This is all you need to do. Make a profile with some regular pictures and talk about yourself. Look at the guys's profiles that look interesting to you, one of them will message you when he sees that you have visited the profile
This one girl seemed really keen and we set up a date over Easter. I thought rather than texting, I could add her and chat on FB. She said she doesn't have facebook, fair enough I guess, but then she said she used google+ last year but not anymore, the thing is...I had actually found her google+ and she was using it even today. I guess if she just didn't want to add me that's ok but going from chatty and into meeting me to being short and not really texting me and lying in the span of one day. Maybe she's just in a shit mood or something. I guess I've seen it before.
I tend to keep social networking out of the picture until much much later. Thats a bigger step than you're thinking. You're essentially giving someone instant access to your life.
i agree. i wouldnt want to add someone till the third-4rth date. conversly i'll add friends of friends or whatever after meeting them once at a party. but random people from online? could be wackos man
True though she is coming from another city for several days, alone, I'm meeting her on the weekend, a guy who she's never met. And she was the one that started it. I could be jack the ripper for all she knows. But I guess you're right, maybe I thought social networking isn't that big of a deal but to some they have everything on it.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
So I was messaging this girl back and forth for a bit and got her number. She uploaded some new pics though and it seems she was using MySpace angle tricks in the old ones. I really don't feel like pursuing this any farther, any tips on how to handle it?
BoobPhysics101
Banned
Friendzone her.
Stop messaging her?
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
But I feel bad about it lol. Think I will do just that lol.
Devolution
Member
I kind of get where you are coming from but if someone is going to deceitful in that manner, I really don't blame people who cut that person off. To me it's not even about being shallow, if they can't present themselves as who they are right off the bat, then what else are they lying to me about?
Continuing to hang out with someone who you arent all that attracted to is a waste of both of your time. Why bother? How far are you willing to take it? How long will you fake it?
Horse Detective
Why the long case?
I am going to try this.
Act like you ONLY want sex, no relationships, she may turn away.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
This has the potential to go terribly wrong though. I just stopped messaging her.
Do this actually. Sounds more fun.
David Incorporated Esq.
Member
I just now realized that the match % really doesn't mean much beyond basic compatibility and answering any of the match questions beyond deal-breakers is kind of a waste of time. I had several hundred questions answered then last night deleted all of my answers and redid the first thirty or forty where the big issues are answered. My matches list was about the same but some people had gone up or down a few percent.
Right now my match list is basically a "Are you a liberal non-theist, yes/no?"
I mean seriously, do I give a shit whether or not someone has smoked a cigarette in the last six months? Is that what I'm going to decide a match on?
Right now my match list is basically a "Are you a liberal non-theist, yes/no?"
I mean seriously, do I give a shit whether or not someone has smoked a cigarette in the last six months? Is that what I'm going to decide a match on?
ThisWreckage
Banned
It makes me wonder why people have to resort to online dating. If you live in a major city (or even a somewhat small city) dating should not be hard.
The Albatross
Member
Don't add people from OKC on Facebook until it's more serious... 3 or 4 dates. Because, defriending them after is awkward as hell.
Stop messaging her. Shit happens. Doesn't matter. It'll happen to you at some point as well. No big deal.
For the vast majority of people, it's not "resorting to" it's "preferring to."
It's a lot easier to find people who have similar likes as you, or a similar life style, and it saves a bunch of wasted time because you can usually figure out somebody's expectations before wasting time. I understand how people feel 'above' online dating, but it's stupid... It's like old people not trusting or using online banking, because "the bank is just down the street." We do everything online these days, find jobs, find houses, pay bills, go to college, buy your clothes, make friends, talk about videogames, find new stuff etc., makes as much sense to use it for dating.
While my GF and I did not meet online, I've dated girls from Match and OKC before and it was great. My biggest pet peeve with it, though, is when some idiot says "omg I cant believe im doing this," or "I shouldn't have to use online dating..." I want to go through my computer and just smack em. It's like, get over yourself.
Stop messaging her. Shit happens. Doesn't matter. It'll happen to you at some point as well. No big deal.
For the vast majority of people, it's not "resorting to" it's "preferring to."
It's a lot easier to find people who have similar likes as you, or a similar life style, and it saves a bunch of wasted time because you can usually figure out somebody's expectations before wasting time. I understand how people feel 'above' online dating, but it's stupid... It's like old people not trusting or using online banking, because "the bank is just down the street." We do everything online these days, find jobs, find houses, pay bills, go to college, buy your clothes, make friends, talk about videogames, find new stuff etc., makes as much sense to use it for dating.
While my GF and I did not meet online, I've dated girls from Match and OKC before and it was great. My biggest pet peeve with it, though, is when some idiot says "omg I cant believe im doing this," or "I shouldn't have to use online dating..." I want to go through my computer and just smack em. It's like, get over yourself.
ThisWreckage
Banned
How is this any different from real life dating?
Profound. (really)
EDIT: again, really!
I'd wager most people feel the only dating scene is "being out", and they don't really want to "be out", nor do they believe they can meet a girl that is "out".
We have to remember it's pretty steep barrier for most to overcome just walking up to some girl on the street, saying "I think you're attractive. Would you like to go on a date?" which is really all it takes. I'd prefer that, rather than an online dating site, though. There's just something about girls that telegraph they're looking for someone to date. I believe in "it just happening", that I can just walk up to a random girl if I want to date her, or that I'll meet some interesting girl through some social encounter in some way or another. There's just something about girls that aren't comfortable with just being single and finding someone interesting as it happens.
As we get older, that whole thing changes, though. I've learnt that dating when you're 30+ is a much more straight forward business, where you can be more direct with liking someone. Then being more direct about wanting to meet someone to date makes more sense, too.
ThisWreckage
Banned
I mean, the dynamics are exactly the same. It's not like many women say, "No thanks!" in real life. In fact, many women are cagey and won't give a straight answer even if they like you. Men always have to put more work in when it comes to dating. Always. Even if you're good looking, funny, or rich you've still got to put work in. If you have none of those traits then consider finding a date a full time job.
The Albatross
Member
It's a pain and it can feel frustrating, but the thing is, you're never going to see these people ever in your life.
You have to send a personalized note. Just go to their profile, find something that they're into or like (OKC makes this easy because they ask some poignant, weird questions), and start a conversation. If you say like "Hey what's up" or "How's it going," you wont get areply even if you are an adonis (well, with many girls), but taking the time to write like a .. paragraph 3 - 4 sentences, and being goofy enough in it, you'll get a lot more responses.
Of course, still get a bunch of ignores if they just don't like you, or if they're not really looking to date (a lot of girls will register with no interest in really going out with anybody), but whatever, it's all in good fun. Each time somebody doesn't respond, it's chance to find someone better.
Surface of Me
I'm not an NPC. And neither are we.
Sometimes it can be hard to meet people.
ThisWreckage
Banned
Only if you're a workaholic. If you're in college or if you have any sort of hobbies then meeting people should not be hard.
Or if you prefer to play video games on Friday nights instead of being where it's at.
Even if you've got everything working for you, it can be hard to find your place.
ThisWreckage
Banned
If you live in a small town you're fucked. I'm 28 and relatively good looking, but all of the youth has made a mass exodus. So what this town is left with is very old people, families, and high schoolers. I've been single for a very long time as a result.
I use it as a way to supplement meeting people in real life. There are so many people that you may never get to meet because you aren't in the right place at the right time. Online dating helps bridge this gap, and this is how I use it. I try to get a phone number and set up a date as soon as possible.
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
I still prefer going out to meet people in bars, clubs etc, but you can easily get a lot of fluff info from girls and it can be equally as shit as being online
I like you use it supplemental. I live in a different city than I work in, and go to university in, so my time is split between 3 cities and I just don't have time to knuckle down and meet someone in real life unless I wait till the end of the month and I can unload!
I do like OKC, but at the minute it seems as if I'm doing something wrong. No one is replying yet alone looking at my profile when I send them a msg!
I do like my white girls, and I think sometimes it has something to do with it. I remember being on Match.com, it had a section about what race you'd like to hear from- and there you could make sure you're gunning at the right girl. But on OKC there's nothing like that (which is for the better)..I just feel sometimes my blackness is putting off chicks!
Slayer-33
Liverpool-2
That is the biggest draw to online dating.
I live in Boston and dating is very hard for me, but I don't have looks or personality.
Don't be so negative on yourself. Look, there's this guy that comes into my work. He's lanky, he has long hair BUT is going bald as well so it's one giant, long comb over. He wears tight shirts so you can see his nipples. He's an ugly mother fucker. First time I saw him he had a beautiful, cute brunette. Second time a few months later, a super hot blonde. The only reason he would have gotten them is confidence in him self. He [probably wouldn't give a FUCK what someone thought of his tight shirt or hair. And he's not the only one like that. If you hold your head up high and proud that'll radiate out to others and you will find someone. If you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect others too?
Mecha_Infantry
Banned
Am I old, or has the OKC April fools day joke been the Messages Admin button/login?!
wind_steaker
Member
I just discovered a girl on Plenty of Fish that commutes on the same train as me every morning, it's weird seeing someone you recognise. I've made small talk with her a couple of times on the train, but it'd be incredibly awkward if I contacted her on there wouldn't it? haha
Ah well at least I know she's single
Ah well at least I know she's single
I just discovered a girl on Plenty of Fish that commutes on the same train as me every morning, it's weird seeing someone you recognise. I've made small talk with her a couple of times on the train, but it'd be incredibly awkward if I contacted her on there wouldn't it? haha
Ah well at least I know she's single
Talk to her in the train with the information you learned off her profile.
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